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My nutritionist said that if you "chew, chew, chew, chew, chew" you are pureeing the food in your mouth. I have a REALLY hard time chewing my food thoroughly, i have always wolfed down my food. I haven't had an issue, thank goodness! But I agree with the above poster, try beans, eggs, yogurt, soup, pudding. If you do like pudding, add some Genepro or any powdered protein, or make it with a protein shake to up it's protein. Good luck!

Sorry if this is hard to understand, I am in actual tears and I just don’t know what to do. I desperately need advice or comfort or just something from people who may understand what I am going through and maybe know why I am feeling this way. My mom and I had the bariatric sleeve surgery done 2 weeks ago and the experience with her that I have had has been mostly miserable and upsetting. I am extremely obese and have always had a very difficult time keeping the weight off. Long story short I went for a doctors visit and my doctor recommended that I get the bariatric sleeve to help me, since with certain medical issues such as PCOS it can be hard to lose the weight without help. My mother begged me to do it and said that she wanted me to be able to live past her and my dad, and then she went and said that she would do it with me. Now, to some this would seem like a thing of encouragement, and while I do believe that may be part of it, I truly do not believe that that is the true underlying reason. You see, my mom is an alcoholic (she is viciously mean when she is drunk), and I believe that she is very self-absorbed. Not in the way that she thinks she is the greatest thing to walk the planet, but in the way that she always needs to be the center of attention. We haven’t always had the best relationship, as she has said and done many things that have really hurt me, and every time that we have tried to talk about these issues (when she wasn’t drunk) she always has some excuse, or blames everything on her past trauma, or how she just wants to let loose and have fun. A spitting example is how she once told me when she was drunk that she was just wanting to let loose, since she lost some of her twenties -aka the party years- due to having me. Almost every hurtful thing and word that she has said has stuck with me for a long time, and when my family tried to go to family therapy, my mom decided to stop since the therapist “kept saying that everything was her fault.” Another key thing is that she is also overweight, but not nearly as big as me, and she has tried hundreds of diets and pills and has never stuck to any of them for very long. Anyway, I tell you all of this so that maybe you understand why I think she mostly wanted me to do the surgery since I am clearly at more of a health risk and part of her wouldn’t feel right doing it without me. This of course could all be in my head. So no, on to the real problem at hand. Ever since we have been released from the hospital she has not been doing well -I am a college student and came home for the recovery process but plan to move back to campus as soon as possible. At first it was just minor things that bugged me a little bit, such as every time a food commercial came on the television, she would moan about how the food looks so good and yadda yadda. This was minor, but it still bugged me since I too had gone through the surgery and did not need to hear her constant moaning about how good something looked on the tv. This coupled with the constants complaining about how much she was hurt, and how much she hates the blood thinner shots that we must give ourselves, slowly started to drive me up the walls. I HATE needles, but just recently I have been able to give blood and receive shots without crying, while she has literally been fine and delt with needles for years, but all the sudden she claims that she hates needles (which I mean who doesn’t, but come on). After I got annoyed enough, I watched her do the shot and saw that she had been doing it in a way other than the nurses had showed us, and when I tried to point it out to her, she waved me off and said that she was doing it the way that she was showed. Another thing with her complaining about her constant pain. The first night we got home, - 2 days post op- we both slept on the recliner couch. The next night she tried to sleep in bed, even though I had warned her against it. She tried for a few days, each day complaining about pain, while I suggested that she try sleeping on the couch again. I sleep on our recliner couch for nearly the two whole weeks that we have been home. I have finally been able to sleep in bed for the past two nights, and my pain is almost gone, while she claims to still have pretty bad pain. And guess where she has been sleeping the past few days. The couch. Now comes the parts that have really been getting to me. She has not been following the diet plan that our Doctor gave us. First it was her not drinking enough fluid, which I constantly had to tell her to do. Then, it was the incident that occurred a few days ago. Our doctor has us on full liquids right now, which consists of things like sugar free pudding, low-fat yogurt, chicken broth, and instant mashed potatoes. Well, a few days ago she went to the store with my brother, I cannot remember why I did not go, but I did not. When she came home, I went into the kitchen and saw a bag of open potato wedges and I instantly knew that she had some. So, I went and asked her, and she said that she did and that she made sure to chew them up well and that her stomach tolerated them just fine. Then I found the little foil covering of sour cream and knew that she had some of that as well. And while sure, potatoes mashed in your mouth is similar to mashed potatoes, the things that get me are: 1. They’re fried, which is an absolute no no as of right now, and 2. They aren’t on our list of approved foods so why even chance it. Anyway, I tried to move past that one and dropped it. Then tonight came. My mom made my dad and brother biscuits and gravy and eggs for dinner. I had some of the scrambled eggs because those have been approved by our doctor, and apparently, she had more than just eggs. Then, just a few moments ago, she came into the living room with a small bowl of chili. We are not supposed to be having chili for another day. And again, I understand that its only one day, but that fact that she cannot follow simple doctors’ orders has driven me mad. Now here’s the real kicker. Not only did she have the chili before she was technically allowed to; she put Fritos Scoops chips in it. Now I know for sure that we are NOT supposed to be having those. And then the smell of it and the anger drove me crazy, and I excused myself from the room, claiming that I had to go charge my phone. Well, after I did not return for a few minutes she came looking for me and knew I was upset. I told her I didn’t want to talk about it and that it didn’t matter -I said this because my opinions and feelings have never ever felt like they mattered to her, especially when we are in conflict. She came and sat down and kept pushing asking me why I was mad and said things like “so you’re mad because I had chili one day early?” and then she used the, “I have already lost weight” which I replied I wasn’t talking about her weight and that didn’t matter. She also said that it should not matter since she didn’t make me eat it. I then told her I didn’t want to talk about it now and she finally left. I know that I shouldn’t worry about it, and that I should just focus on myself, but it kind of feels undermining to me. She did not need this surgery as much as I did, but even still I feel like she doesn’t really care or understand how much effort this is. I honestly believe that she thinks she just going to get skinny and not have to do anything. She doesn’t exercise and clearly, she doesn’t have the willpower to not eat something if it looks or smells good, not to mention that fact that she never watched the hour long lecture the doctor wanted us to watch and just asked me what it was about and told me that she would watch it that night at work. Heck, she didn’t even know what the bariatric sleeve surgery really even was until a few days before the surgery when I mentioned that part of our stomach was going to be removed. I am just getting really upset at this point and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to have to lie to the doctor or listen to her lie to the doctor again -she has lied about her alcoholism, tobacco usage, and what she has been eating before the surgery- when we have our first post-op appointment. And I don’t even want to bring these things up to her, because she gets very combative when she gets defensive and is never able to see things past her own perspective. My dad says that it wasn’t me who needed her support in this, but that he thinks she needed mine, but at this point I don’t even know what to do. How am I supposed to support her when she cant even follow simple rules and restrain herself from eating things that she is not supposed to be eating? How am I supposed to look at that and make my own progress when she is making it seem like its fine to just go back to eating whatever I want whenever -which I know is not true. I know I have more willpower and restraint than she does; that fact has been made abundantly clear to me. I am just at a loss. I know her surgery is going to be pointless and she is going to complain when she plateaus or even gains the weight back. How do I keep myself from getting so upset over this? Am I just crazy? Am I acting selfishly? Please help. I am sure I did not include some of the information or things that have happened, but I know this has already been a lot to read.

You don’t have to purée solid food for the puréed stage. I’m with you about puréed meat. I’ve seen a lot of people making stuff like puréed chicken salad and I just can’t. But there are other foods with a puréed texture that you can eat in the puréed stage. Do you Ike yogurt, pudding, applesauce, refried beans, or puréed soups (black bean soup, butternut squash soup, etc.)? You can eat any of that in the puréed stage. The puréed stage isn’t that long (it was just a week for me), so you only need to find a few things you like. It probably wouldn’t hurt anything to just continue on liquids during the puréed stage, but by that time, you’re probably going to be so sick of protein shakes that you’ll be dying to eat something resembling real food.

I love blending frozen mangos and strawberries with greek yogurt the problem is it gives me sugar spike and makes me hungry. What other alternatives can use that doesn't have as many sugars. I don't like the texture of yogurt so it needs to be something frozen and with flavor Sent from my SM-G950U1 using BariatricPal mobile app

Have you spoken to your surgeon yet? I feel like what you're describing is normal. At 6 weeks they told me I'd be up to a cup of food. So 1 burger patty with sauce, 4-5 chicken strips, 7-8large shrimp. Right now I'm at 3 weeks and can eat 3 tbsp of chilli, 100ml of yogurt and 1/2 a cup of other foods. My nutritionist told me if I'm still hungry after eating 3/4 cup of protein I can add veggies and carbs Sent from my SM-G973W using BariatricPal mobile app

So good to hear your updates! Glad you’re managing work okay! Liquids was the worst. Once I started being able to eat, the heartburn got much better. Rarely is it an issue now. My doc sped along my food reintroductions since he said it was designed for people who had healing stomach lines, not for restriction. So now I’m at soft solids. So I pretty much eat anything soft, no breads pasta rice etc or processed foods. I’ll live here a while. Down 20lbs. I make a nice protein smoothie and then usually have one meal. No major hunger in between. If I snack, it’s something like yogurt.

My team also said no snacking except yogurt or cheese. I had yogurt every day. Bonus was they added to my protein intake. I also ate a small amount of fruit when I was closer to goal: watermelon, berries. My other occasional treat was a teaspoon of peanut butter. Maybe once or twice a month.

Post op day 11: Revn from Sleeve to DS. Bad glue reaction spread but I think it is thinking about turning a corner. Eating Greek yogurt (key lime chibani and oikos), lean shakes, blended soups like tomato, broccoli cheese and lentils. Still drinking pedialyte mixed with water. The reason is because I am finding it difficult to stay on top of my fluids at work so I want to make sure I don’t get dehydrated. That is an issue I need to take on next week. Next food stage cooking is mushy foods in a couple days. Liquids, I will miss ya but not that much! Onward.

I always had yogurt, cottage cheese or refried beans. If it was an on the go snack then I had a protein shake or cheese and lunch meat or tuna. That early out from surgery my snacks were aimed to get my protein in. I would also put PB powder or sugar free Hershey syrup in regular or high protein Fairlife milk.

My favorite snack is greek yogurt. So many different flavors! I usually have one for breakfast, but if I don't have it for breakfast, it usually ends up being my 4pm snack to hold me over if I'm having a late dinner.

I was also on soft foods. Looking back at my food log, I see that I was eating eggs, 1/4 c cottage cheese, yogurt, beans, cheese. Then I added 1- 2 oz of salmon, 2 oz calf liver, lentil soup. Then 2 oz chicken, 1/8 avacado, 2 oz ground beef, 2 oz cod,

I had someone tell me about this so I tried it. You take yogurt and a ranch seasoning packet and make a dip out of it instead of using sour cream. Well OMG this was great! Tastes as good as regular dip and you only put as much of the seasoning to taste as you like . Went fantastic with broccoli. And no guilt even better.

I had the sleeve done 4 years ago. Lost 115 pounds. Gained about 20 pounds over the last year. I ended up with severe GERD, hiatal hernia and gallstones that cause severe pain. 9/6 I had the surgeries to fix all that which includes the bypass. It's been an interesting month. The healing process is different. Food going down too fast will definitely be coming back up (vomiting). Anything not chewed will be coming back up. Premier protein is smooth enough to stay down. Soups like French onion, chicken noodle (minute the noodles) veggie soup. Salmon. 2 good Yogurt and high protein high fiber oatmeal. Stays down for me. It's a big adjustment. I know that this is just a phase that we go through. I can eat boiled eggs now too. Eat slowly-chew slowly-swallow slowly. Drink 60 ounces of water. Follow the doctors orders. You'll loose weight I've seen people successfully keep the weight off with both. They stick to the high protein/low carb and don't eat anything they did before ( that made them obese....like breads, maccoroni, rice, flour, sugar, fried foods). How are you all managing constipation? That's been interesting. Take care and give yourselves room to adjust. Things will get better. We make the best of the tool ( bypass) and it will work for us. Everything will workout for the greater good. We deserve healthy and happy lives and we embrace them daily.

Firstly, congratulations are your weight loss. So wonderful. Apologies to those who love them, but protein shakes & powders are awful. I just couldn’t tolerate them at all. But, if you eat a balanced diet & include protein in every meal, you shouldn’t need protein powders or shakes. Plus, you get lots of other necessary nutrients eating real food. I aim for 50g a day based on my weight. (Some guideline recommend 0.8/kg, others 1g & others recommend 1.2g if you’re older or very physically active.) I get in about 10g at breakfast, 10-15g at lunch, 15+g afternoon snack (yogurt), 15-20g for dinner. If it’s a low day, may be I missed a meal or snack, or wasn’t hungry, I’ll have a protein bar for a late supper or some chia pudding. My dietician suggested adding skin milk powder to my milk to boost my protein & calories. I find it makes the milk taste sweeter, which I don’t like, but it’s fine for when I make chia pudding. (I whisk a big heaped soup spoon of milk powder in a cup of milk.) You might like to try that too instead of protein powders. I did lose more than I intended when I was trying to find my sweet spot to successfully maintain. It doesn’t take much for me to lose or gain so I’m very routine with what & when I eat. My doctors have suggested I put on a couple of kgs, but as that’s likely to happen over the next year or so, I’d rather not put weight on now & more again later. Plus, I actually have quite a small frame (now all the weight is gone). I’m really happy with my weight & size as it is. Catwoman7 is right. Many of us who do manage to lose 100% of our weight can look almost ‘too thin’ at first (you get told this a lot by well meaning family & friends - grrrr) but everything does settle again in time. Adding a few good multi/whole grain carbs to your diet in maintenance helps a lot. I think as you, & others, get used to your new body shape & size, you start to really see yourself as who you are now & the change doesn’t seem as extreme.

Here is how I get my protein. Half the time breakfast is an egg with Turkey sausage or Nonfat yogurt. Lunch is usually grilled chicken breast or carved chicken/turkey and cheese slices on low fat triscuit crackers. Dinners always include lean proteins such as chicken, shrimp, turkey, lean steak. I prepare a lot of stir fry with these proteins and vegetables. Beef stew, turkey tacos, turkey meatballs, pulled chicken, roast chicken. I prepare homemade soups also. Chunk chicken or beef and barley. My go to snack is a homemade trail mix with 12 components, lots of nuts. I take one bariatricpal multi vitamin each morning. I get all my protein from natural food. I'm not consuming any protein bars or shakes now. They were great when I had the temporary, doctor mandated restrictive diet. I set my nutrition plan based on the documentation I got from the nutritionist. 5 servings vegetables per day 4 servings fruit per day 5 servings grains - rice, cereal, crackers bread tortillas 3 servings dairy - milk, yogurt, cheese 2 lean poultry, meat, eggs I have about 4 oz. of diluted grape or orange juice daily. The only other beverage I ever have is water. I have no deep fried foods, no carbonated beverages, teas, or coffee. Yogurt is the only food I have with added sugars. I also snack on fruit, vegetables, trail mix, and sugar free popsicles (Budget Saver Sugar Free Cherry Pineapple Monster Pops available at Walmart or HEB) are the best).

Right now I’m eating 600-800 calories a day most days. Varying the calories seems to help move things along for me when I get “stuck” with a stall. Breakfast is usually coffee with protein shake as creamer most days. Usually paired with cottage cheese and diced veggies (kimchi for probiotics and tomatoes usually, sometimes bell peppers). Sometimes I’ll have protein oatmeal or pack of instant grits with turkey sausage in it. Lunch is usually soup with unflavored protein powder mixed in and a wasa cracker, lunch meat a cheese stick and veggies, or leftovers from the night before. Dinner is usually either shrimp or a plant based burger with veggies. Once a week or so I might make a pizza out of extreme wellness tortilla or have a curry or something. Snacks are usually seaweed snacks, pretzels, or yogurt or a 90 calorie protein bar. Sometimes I’ll have apple slices with peanut butter or maybe animal crackers or almonds.

My surgeon told me not to worry too much at first but to really work at it once I was eating solid foods. I struggled with protein powders & shakes so found some high protein yogurts & could get in up to 30g if I sipped on a drink version throughout the day. I cut it with a small amount of 100% fruit no added sugar juice -about 50mls- as it was a little thick (also added silica & collagen). Some days I’d only eat meat for lunch & dinner to get my protein in especially in the first couple of months. I had an egg for breakfast most mornings. Remember eat your protein first then some vegetables if you can.

This has become one of my go-to easy meals -- sort of a Mexican chicken casserole (not pictured: fat-free plain Greek yogurt masquerading as sour cream):

I am also taking Probiotics daily in yogurt or liquid form. It really helps me not to be constipated as it help balance the friendly bacteria in your digestive system.

You can do the shakes for less if you belong to like a BJs or COSCO or Sam club. Or you can make your own worst case you can buy yogurt n put in a blender with some water or Fairlife milk. But you will be fine because all the money you would be spending on food at a grocery store on stuff for you to eat you will now have to use on your shakes n other stuff you need. I am on a budget and I spend less now then I did before surgery. I am only three months out. I have a Fairlife nutrition vanilla shake mixed into my three shots of espresso with 1 tbsp torani sf vanilla for breakfast every morning and lunch is like 3 oz of something n dinner is same . You eat so little after surgery that you will still have spent less then before even after the cost of the shakes. Trust the process it can be very overwhelming but you will thank yourself when it’s done . You are worth this. Oh check the local dollar tree they have premier protein shakes in Carmel and apple cinnamon oats now at $1 each. They are like $ 19.00 at bjs for 12. You could see if your store has them before they sell out.

Thanks for sharing this! I much prefer getting a plain low fat greek yogurt to the pre-mixed fruit ones (although the "dessert" ones are such good sweet treats) and haven't branched out much for add-ins.

Welcome to Club Diamox ( joking I hate the stuff, even if it is necessary) You could be retaining more fluids since you are off the diuretic so perhaps monitor your sodium & fluid intake to see if it makes any difference. Also constipation can mimic gain (physical weight from foods ingested vs physical weight of waste not excreted) so whatever will relieve that issue would be helpful to see the scale move again. When it comes to probiotics the strain/species of bacteria maybe just as important as the delivery style. https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/probiotics-may-ease-constipation-201408217377 https://www.bustle.com/p/the-3-best-probiotics-for-constipation-17940859 From my personal experience I fare better if my probiotics come from foods like yogurt (Lactobacillus Acidophilus, et al.) and especially kimchi (Bifidobacterium bifidum, et al.) vs the widely available gummies that were just Bacillus Coagulans https://wildbrine.com/types-of-probiotics/ Also I believe it is very important to consult with your physician about which stains/species to take/avoid and safe amounts because some have been known to build resistance to certain antibiotics https://www.google.com/amp/s/theconversation.com/amp/kombucha-kimchi-and-yogurt-how-fermented-foods-could-be-harmful-to-your-health-126131 Good Luck ♥️

Ok, so that yogurt did not do it for me and im still kinda hungry. Soooo next up: a trusty salad: 264 calories.

Afternoon snack: strawberry yogurt cup with 1/2 fl oz of pumpkin seeds: 142 calories Plus, (not shown) 1/2 an almond biscotti: 55 calories

Bypass here but from what I understand liquids and sliders foods (yogurt, soups, protein shakes) go through fast as in 15-20 minutes. Water I think goes thru immediately since I can drink 8 oz. of water in less that 5 minutes. Solid foods for me I am guessing around 45-60 minutes just based on when I feel full and when I can eat again. I am curious if anyone has the factual info. since I am just guessing based on how I feel and what I have read.