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I just got home from the hospital due to constipation 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m sorry TMI but I mentally exhausted this is harder then I thought it would be. I just need some people to chat with about maybe the same state of mind. 🥺

I had to get 5 lbs off in 5days for the last weigh in. I drank lots of water, but also took water pills once or twice a day so I wouldnt retain that water. Might be a lil tmi but I am not a regular person I dont have a bm for 3 or 4 days, so I took laxatives once a day for four days to insure I went at least once. I lost the weight I needed to.

I am down about 33 lbs. My diet changed today to include regular foods as tolerated. My soft diet included chicken and tuna so I pushed that to turkey and well ground beef and even pork. So far I hadn't consumed anything that I wasn't already eating. I think my cravings for sodas has increased, however I am better tolerating being around normal folks while they are eating. I really wish I could go to the restroom (probably drop some weight if I weren't so stopped up). TMI? Hesitant to take something that isn't gentle. I don't know exactly how much protein and oz I am getting. I just eat low/no carb and highest protein I can. Doc probably wouldn't like that but I hate all shakes. I have yet to try unjury, but my package of it came today so we'll see.

I told my doctor at my 3 month visit that I was feeling like something was getting stuck and I'd sometimes have food come back up,,not vomit (sorry tmi). I also had trouble with swallowing,,which I have myasthenia gravis which causes muscle weakness and swallowing is a big issue for myasthenics so we thought it was due to that. I saw my neurologist and they changed up my meds. But I just kept feeling the same feelings so I told them (bariatric doc) that I was still having the swallowing issues,,feeling like something was stuck and sometimes food coming up..I even thought it was just normal that maybe I was overeating or eating too fast which I do sometimes,,not on purpose. So they ordered an upper gi,,I just heard the results today and they said there was a stricture,,a slight tightening at the opening of the stomach and doc wanted to do an EGD. I'm sure he wants to see everything up close and personal and decide if I need the balloon treatment,,which is the next step. This is not related to me leak..I've had a swallowing problem for several years due to mg but this seperate issue just over the past few months. Sorry,,I'm so not good at explaining things.lol

sorry TMI-- I had diarrhea yesterday and I don't think it's related to what I ate. I am thinking it was a virus. That made me wonder what happens post surgery if we get a virus like the flu. Do we still vomit? There's not much in my pouch at any given time so I guess it would only be a little? Maybe that benefits us that we wouldn't get as dehydrated as fast? Has anyone been ill post surgery? How was it different?

My very best post-op moment is being able to relax.....totally relax......and enjoy nekkid time in a way I haven't in years. No concerns or fears over where her hands may go.....I was proud of every bit of it. I've never been proud of that state before......now.....I am very relaxed and no fears exist. TMI ? Possible.....but who has time for PC bullshyt in their post-op lives. It'a all about getting on with the LIVING. LIVE peoples......I beg you.

Melolo-I completely agree that a discussion would have been much more mature-I acted before I took time to think about how I felt. If I thought what I did was completely justified I wouldn't have asked how everyone here felt about it! I have been contemplating having my husband read this entire thread. I know if I were to ask him about the magazine (by the way it was just one) he would automatically apologize and not think about how he really feels about it. He rarely disagrees with me to my face, we never get mad or argue with each other. Neither one of us likes confrontation-so I thought if he reads the thread he will see some people agree with me and some with him. We are a great team and have a wonderful life. We come from really different places. I have had a lot of life experience and he has had very little, so I know at times I can be very hard (think tough love). He does by the way point out when I treat him like a child, and reminds me to back off. With other men I've been with I have NEVER had a problem with them going to strip clubs, adult movies, magazines. When I first met my husband I didn't mind that stuff either, then my husband did something no one has ever done. He made me let him in, he made me trust him, love him and depend on him. And that makes me feel really vulnerable. I think he is the most amazing person in the world and the first person to ever really love and care about me. And the first person I have ever depended on. I think this is the first time in my life I have felt like I could say no. In past relationships I felt like the guys "needed" strip clubs, movies, magazines and other stuff because I was so worthless/unattractive. Now because my hubby makes me feel like I am worthy of his love, I think it makes me feel really vulnerable. I HATE FEELING VULNERABLE. Those feeling of inferiority came back when I saw the magazine. Its also funny that every single close friend (that knows us both) has confessed to doing the same thing with their husbands. For example: busted adult DVDs, a piece left on each step in the house, playboy magazines tossed in the fire, smashed up home movies (okay he deserved that one, it was with an ex). I don't know if it is who my friends are or where we live, but these are some beautiful, confident, freaky in the bedroom (tmi) kind of women, that all reacted the same way as me. I'm not saying I was right-I'm just saying I'm really glad to have people here to tell me how they feel. I always value both sides to every story. Thanks!

I know what you mean I have a big scar I had surgery 14 yrs ago appendix removal. Back then they didn't do the little tiny one so I have a pretty big scar I had 16 staples. So you would imagine besides gall bladder, hernia removal, ovary cist and I have one in my back. A little upper of my crack..lol ( sorry tmi) and now the sleeve. When ever I lose the weight.. definitely no bikini for ke cause of the scars..lol

I have been banded for just over a year, but didn't feel real restriction until about 9 months (and 6 fills) into it. Then due to needing an upper GI with barium for my Crohn's disease, I needed an unfill (boo!) and have just now gotten back to my previous fill level. Hope this isn't TMI, but I usually do not have a period because of my birth control of choice. However, I have recently changed and this week got my period for the first month in about 2 years, and holy moly did my band seem to get tight. QUESTION: Is this coincidental or all in my head?? Anyone else experience a tightening of the band during TOM?

First cycle since surgery. Why are my period cramps soooooo bad... ? like the worst I’ve ever had...

I need exercises for specific problem areas. 1. My bat wings (upper arms) 2. My inner thighs and 3. A fat roll under my butt! I do some cardio but mostly walking. I've tried to target these areas but to no avail. I've looked up so many online…What exercises do you guys do to help with these areas? Of course I really didn't have these flabby problems until I lost 120 pounds. The extra skin under my butt chafes sometimes and it's a pain. (Tmi I know). I don't think insurance will cover for these areas. I do know that my insurance will take care of my extra skin on my belly. Any exercise suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!

Hi Machelle I was wondering did you go to school at College Hill and graduate from AHS around 1980? Trying not to put TMI in this post. I think I may know you if you did and you are the Machelle that I remember. I graduated AHS in 1979. M:confused:

Hello all. I was just wondering if any one else has this issue and if there is any thing to do about it? So when I work out I wind up getting sick, like I get super nauseous and light headed and if I don't curl up in a ball and go to sleep I throw up (TMI I?m sorry). I seem okay (don?t need to lie down but still not feeling great) when I just do cardio. When I work on strength training it gets worse and when I do any ab works outs just forget it I am in bed the next few hours. I thought it might be low blood sugar or something so I have tried eating before and after work out plus testing my sugar levels but they were fine (no I am not diabetic and have been tested for that) I also have great blood pressure so I don?t think it is that. My only guess is that I am getting over heated but I don?t see how my abs would affect that. HELP I want to work out but it is hard to motivate your self to do something that you know is going to make you sick.

I drink body fortress starwberry whey Protein. I get it from walmart. I also like EAS ready mixed shakes they have smooth taste and bot brands are low in carbs and u dont get the gritty taste. the BMs come when you get more on solids. your body has to adjust to surgery, swelling etc. TMI but i got really loose bowels about a week or so after surgery with little to no warning. Once I started eating it went back to normal for me.

Anyone in here after Post Op go from diarrhea (sorry, TMI)to going regular? I think I found out what my problem was but just going to get checked out to be sure... Sent from my moto g(6) play using BariatricPal mobile app

How low are we talking about here guys? Would you all mind to share some of your levels? Mine came back today as 3.1 (normal is 3.5-5.1). It is interesting to me though that I have had almost ALL the symptoms listed below, even down to the eye twitching thing. Just as an FYI and wondering if anything can be connected.....my biliruben and globulin levels were elevated. We were originally thinking I might be anemic b/c of some (TMI alert) rectal bleeding. I'm thinking now that the dizziness, etc is from potassium level though. Would welcome any thoughts though.

HI! I am responding to this because I was just at the DR. 20 minutes ago for the same thing!. I was WAY constipated ( I am 3 1/2 weeks PO) and it was AWFUL. I drink my 64 oz of water and my Dr. told me to take 25-35 g of fiber a day ie. Metimuci or Citracil, take 1 and 1/2 tbs daily of Miralax AS WELL AS a dose of Senakot. I thought that was alot!!! But she said that is ok and I should have BM every day because the longer it sits the water is sucked out of the stool and you get more constipated. Sorry TMI but thats what she said.

Love the name Happy! I'm not bulimic, but I am seeing a therapist for food and other issues. Having been dirt poor as a child, I've always struggled with the need to have LOTS of food in the house, even if it goes bad before it gets eaten. I also had a sibling who ate all of the "treats" that we did get as kids as soon as they came home, so I learned that treat foods must be eaten immediately if I wanted any of them. My main issue was sweets and the sleeve has made them disgusting to me, except chocolate. I had to get rid of the halloween candy I bought this year because it kept tempting me and I ate about six of them the day after I bought them. Then I promptly had potty issues (TMI, sorry). I'm pretty happy that I'm lactose intolerant now, because that means I won't eat ice cream. The results aren't worth it for me. Between hitting this board constantly and talking to my therapist, I'm moving away from the food issues to something that I consider a healthier attitude. If I'm angry, I go walk on the treadmill, or take a walk outside. At one time anger would have meant I'd go buy a package of cannolli and eat it before I got home, or a quart of Ben & Jerry's that I didn't share with anyone but me, myself and I. Is it any wonder I was big enough for 3 people before? I am consciously trying to create a crossove addiction to exercise. I like the endorphins I get from walking, biking, or using the elliptical! And, exercise is not bad for you if done properly. I wish all of us luck in dealing with our head issues.

I'm guessing the fact that you would share this pretty much ensures no one here is surprised by it. Seriously. TMI threshold...

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. That must have been devastating for you. I cant relate to losing a child but im no stranger to loss. Im 28 y/o and already had to deal with more loss and disasters then most people see in their entire life. My father died in a car accident before i was born, my grandmother of a stroke (drank herself to it) when i was 12, my uncle at 13 (heart attack), my other uncle at 14 (hypothermia), at 16 my step father lost all but 3 of his fingers in a work accident and i had to help my mom take care of him, I started taking care of my mom at age 22 when she was in a car accident that left her unable to work and her husband divorced her because he didn't want to take care of her (yep, after she quit her job to take care of him from his accident), At 23 my mom had a heart attack requiring surgery(lived). At 24 my husbands grandfather passed away from brain cancer, and that same week i found out my mom had breast cancer. She had double mastectomy with one side getting infected and opening up (about the size of my fist) and a 6 month recovery. This caused her to be unable to have chemo or radiation. After she healed she started the journey of reconstruction but unfortunately after the expanders were put in she developed MRSA in one side and then a week later the other side (both had to be taken out and she was hospitalized). Then she developed it again in her hand and shoulder (hospitalized again). She went home with IV antibiotics (that i cared for). She progressively got more sick and on my 25th birthday she was hospitalized with a rare condition called steven johnsons syndrome (severe allergic reaction that causes the body to burn from the inside out).She was hospitalized again (sad thing is i cant remember why now) and missed the baby shower for my first(only) child. I had a complicated childbirth (emergency c-section) with a complicated recovery (pre-eclamsia AFTER). When my son was 5mo my mom had another heart attack requiring surgery (a rare reaction from the sjs that caused the original stent to be overgrown with tissue). My Uncle passed away soon after. My mom remained pretty healthy after that but i progressively got sicker. My aunt passed away (drugs and alcohol caused her liver to fail). I lost my job (the department was dissolved) a month after i bought my first home (thankfully got a new job right away). A year long journey led my doctors to discovering I have a severe immune deficiency. I ended up getting sick for about 2 months that was finally diagnosed by my immunologist as pertussis. A week later (Jan) my mom was hospitalized with pneumonia (she came home with oxygen). Unfortunately after that (and many tests) it was discovered her breast cancer had come back and metastasized to her lymph nodes and pleura (lining of lungs). Its stage 4 and terminal. Theres no cure but she started chemo with the thought to prolong her life . She was hospitalized again with pneumonia that required multiple chest tube placements. She resumed her chemo which she did pretty well on with symptom reactions but bad on with others (her potassium and anemia levls kept dropping causing her to be extremely lethargic). last month her WBC droped really low and she got sick. When i checked her O2 and saw it was really low i insisted on bringing her to the ER (she's stubborn and hates going). They said it was good because 6-12 more hours and she would have been septic. They admitted her again but her o2 wouldn't stabilize. I get a call at work the next day and im told there transferring her to ICU and intubating her. She was intubated (and essentially in a coma) for 2 weeks She had strep pneumonia, strep in her urine, influenza, and fungal empyema . On 4th of july they released her to come home and she has been weak ever since. I have been her caring for her but she isn't getting better. She still cant stand from the toilet, cant care for herself, she barely eats, and she keeps getting a cough. She has lost 70lbs since Jan. Yesterday we had the follow up oncologist appointment and he told us because of her condition it wouldn't be wise to re-start chemo. He said that if they did she had an extremely high chance of catching another illness and dieing. Without chemo she has less than 6 months to live (he said with her condition now its more like a few months). so were in a crossroads of what to do. Risk chemo (which she was pretty much like a zombie on most days) and hope she doesn't catch anything (extremely hard with me having an immune deficiency and always getting sick) OR let the cancer kill her. Im struggling with the thought that i will be 28 y/o without any parents. My mom is my best friend and the thought of losing her kills me. I keep thinking about how close she is to my 2 y/o son and how he's going to grow up and not remember her or how significant she was in his life. And she will never know any other children i have. She has taught my son SO much, i just cant imagine her not being there to teach my future children. OMG im so sorry for spilling my life story. I know this is probably more then anyone wanted to know, but as its 4am and im unable to sleep its really helpful to get it all out of my head. Sorry for the TMI but thank you for the place to get it out. Snowkitten, you have a lot on your plate right now. Sometimes it helps, just being able to tell someone, even strangers. There are a lot of wonderful, caring people here and you will make friends and be able to share the anguish you are going through. I am truly sad about your dear Mother. I am proud of your decision to have WLS so that you can live a good life for your 2 year old son. He needs you around for a long time. (((Big HUG)))

OK, my #1 fear about having getting sleeved is pain. I have never had surgery, never had kids, never even gotten stitches!! I've never broken a bone! I find menstrual cramps debilitating!! I have a really tough job where I sometimes have to work with terminally ill people, and I lost my mom when I was a teenager, and I am a TIGER when it comes to dealing with emotional pain, but I am so scared about the hurting. And I know myself, I am going to be ALL OVER those pain meds- luckily, I can take two-four weeks off from work so my main priorities will be getting Water, Protein, and walks in. ANd I can do all of those things doped up on Vicodin! But my question for you is, have you had any other procedures? What was the pain like, specifially? Was it gas or incision? Can you feel your stomach inside your body hurting? TMI?

I'm not getting banded until January. But, I just had a stomach virus which brought up the question what if I had already been banded? There was alot of vommiting involved (sorry for TMI) and it really scared me to think about what happens with the band in place. Would it dislodge the band? Cause choking? Has anyone had experience with this? Honestly, I can't remember the last time I was sick like this, so I don't expect it to be a frequent issue, just curious and trying to answer all the questions pre-surgery. Thanks, Stephanie

Thanks for the input gals. I've done more research and have decided to just have it out altogether to avoid the possibility of having it out later. I've always struggleds with constipation (TMI!) anyway so hopefully the loose stools won't be a problem...lol

Ive been on my 10 day pre op diet and yesterday and today have had diarhea... it looks bright yellow. I am wondering if my system is cleaning itself out or what, I know it sounds weird but I am starting to over analyze everything as I have surgery on Monday (self pay Mexico).

Hey oakbay, it's Frustr8, how are you doing now? I have had I think 13 endoscopies, first one my ENT did transnasaly, we kind of b tricked my insurance on that. See I had a pretty severe pre-aurical cyst, right in front of my right ear opening, this kooky anomaly runs in my family through my daddy. His never gave him a moment's trouble, both my daughter and I had flare-ups where it would get infected, gather into a boil type thing and then skin would break, and pus would come out. I know TMI, too much info but there is a reason I'm relating this. My daughter had to have her one, we both had pinholes on both ears,only one flared, but she was only 5 years old.c Mine I kept longer, clear into late adulthood, okay at this time July of 2014, I had a pretty bad flare. United Healthcare which I had at this time,regarded such cyst removal, even if I had a chance to develop septicemnia as purely cosmetic, just a vanity surgery. But they would cover an Endoscopy happily. So offically that's what it was billed as. The next one was done June 2015. as a follow-up to acute pancreatitis. And the last in my home town was done December 2017 as part of my pre- surgical testing with different specialities. I. am told I had another one during my RNY surgery,by Dr Needleman , guess he wanted to make sure I had not changed anatomically from the previous one, I must have passed because I did get my surgery, those were my EGDs, subsequent to bypass surgery , the duodenum can no longer be visualized. So from then on they are technically EGJ, the surgical endoscopies look now at your jejunem. So the rest of them started October 12, 2018, a month and week after my RNY. Attempts are made each time to stretch and dilate the opening, my pouch was so inflamed and had 3 ulcers present next to the opening which was shrunk to a tiny pinhole opening. First 2 were 2 weeks apart, and then at slightly longer intervals, but on November 28th I was so inflamed still and the 5 ulcers on the back wall of the small intestine looked much worse, although I had been taking Carafate every 6 hours around the clock since October 12. And I ended up with a PICC line, being fed for 12 hours daily through my vein in the upper left arm, my testing showed I was malnourished and protein- anemic , although I had been trying hard to do things correctly I was vomiting more than digesting food and using the nutrients. And I had this PICC intracath for 3 months. The month after it was terminated I lost 30 pounds, that made up for what I missed losing while on the TPN. So each time they tried it seemed to snap back shut. On the last one, April 12th , she put in her notes she felt she had stretched it enough that good could pass through, my diet would not have to be liquid or pureed, okay maybe that day things were fine but I have lost meals 4 of the last 6 days, if there is any joy there it is that I vomit so quickly there is no nasty odor to what comes up. And when I awaken in the morning I am still nauseous until maybe 10 AM, then I can start drinking fluids 2- 3 oz every 15 minutes, Good thing I am retired ,I could not do this and work at Wally World. And I still have pain, the pouch , the last little bit of my sternum and 2-3 iches below, usually feels like a clenched fist, and right subcostal pain which is my, pesky jejunal ulceration. I was told last clinic visit May 1st, we will do one more endoscopy, tenatively scheduled June to Early July, they believe the pouch has decreased in redness, but the 5 nasty evil intestinal ulcers remain. At that time ( I think 8 to 5 odds) more surgical intervention of another kind is done. But,i have lost 140 pounds from my highest weight,84 or 95 pounds since my September surgery, gone from a 28-30 W to a 20, ready to drop into an 18, where clothes selections improve dramatically. So that is Lovely Lovely Lovely but a heck of a way to get there!