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Why did you pick such a high goal weight? Your BMI is STILL overweight!
momof3_angels replied to Creekimp13's topic in Rants & Raves
So very true! I don't know why people are so worried when people are doing things to better their health! Even before WLS... I found things that "worked" better than others. For example, I struggled with major/severe exhaustion because of my then undiagnosed sleep apnea/ insomnia - so I was so tired I went to bed at 8 pm most nights (also was a very early riser). During that time, I found that I couldn't lose weight if I ate after 4 pm. OMG... the HORROR... I wasn't eating for the last 4 hours of my evening?!!! Yet several of my friends stayed up until 10/11 and didn't eat past 6/7pm. So, what is the difference?! I mean, I ate plenty throughout the day... just not at the END of the day. And drinking calories. If I had one bad nutrition habit, that was it. So I would do my best to avoid calorie filled drinks during any weight loss plan I had. And more importantly... I found I could NEVER lose weight and often gained if I drank any alcohol. Even just half a glass of wine. So I would go to a party and do my best not to drink alcohol. My friends were losing it because I didn't want to get drunk with them. They couldn't handle if I didn't drink anything or just had half a glass of wine. I actually had to ditch some friends that I used to love hanging out with because they couldn't handle that I wasn't willing to give in and drink with them every single time we got together. And exercise? Well... I hate most exercise lol. But I love my long walks. People think I am crazy because my go to walk is 6 miles and takes 1 hour and 45 minutes and they just don't get it. But I enjoy it. It is hardly a workout for me, but I feel great afterwards. But somehow it is wrong for me to take my long walks. People are crazy the way they react to others. -
Ron, Certainly, no sane person agrees with the militant idiology....most Muslims will say they are harming their religion. As I also lived in an Islamic Country for a time.....I can tell you, most non-muslims are truly in the dark as to "what" are the muslim fundamentals. In the quran itself...which is sacred and considered God's word....it says: La iqraha fee deen....meaning there is no complusion in religion! Religion is a matter of the heart....it cannot be instilled by any sword. Muslims throughout its very begining have had non-muslims living within the community. They were protected and given all the rights like any other citizen. However, they were told not to engage in alcohol publicly (within the confines of their home was their sanctuary) They had to pay the taxes and would be subject to the laws like everyone else. Jewish scholars have all agreed that they lived "unpersecuted" under the Islamic caliphahs.....while their counterparts in Europe were suffering tremenous indignities. The religion does not preach aggression, only a defensive position if threatened. Now....certainly one can argue this point in today's current atmosphere. I am not an idiot....just trying to make sense of things like everyone else, but not wanting to buy into the daily propaganda being feed to us on "Fox" news! On that note....I listen and go online daily to BBC (British Broadcasting) and CNN International. I suggest others try doing that....it will expand your horizons. Militant or Radical groups from any genre are always dangerous and should not have a place in civil society. Religiously, there are radical Islamists, Christians, Jewish, Seiks and I'm sure others but they never represent their religion correctly....only a narrow, warped version that seems to give them the permission to forgo rationalism. (let alone all the nationalists, separatists and ethnic extremists) However, it is always wise to see what was the environment to seed such thoughts...and is there anything that could be done to relieve or calm down the pressure so that these people will not continue to find recruits into the madness! There is a lot of ugly injustice in the world.......that translates into some angry, misguided and very dangerous situations. Just my little 2 cents.....Diane
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Oh yeah Smokin!! HAHAHA Sometimes though, not such a great thing...work xmas party tonight consisted of many people plied with alcohol and feeling free to say how great I looked, which was cool, it is nice to be complimented....and then I get one guy come up and say before even saying hello, so are you married yet?? In front of 5 other people, and I am totally not interested in him and WTF!!!??? I turned tail and got out of there quick smart! Then laughed about it all the way home!! :wink2:
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Hi everyone, Just stopping in to wish everyone a happy anniversary. Although I didn't reach my ulitimate goal as of yet, I, as of yesterday(which is actually my 2 yr anniv), weigh less than I can EVER remember weighing...and that was in grade school and I was under 5'!!!! I have more exciting news. I have met the man that I have waited for all my long life. We are engaged and will be married Feb 14th, 2010. His last name is Valentine I had totally given up on finding the right man for me after marrying the wrong ones 4X(alcoholics) and was devoting myself to my career and family....it is true, when you stop looking, there they are! Anyway, again, happy anniversary to one and all!
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Weight Gained Since Having Gastric Sleeve Surgery
Kindle replied to sleeve 4 me's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
No, binge eating doesn't just hit after a few years. And yes, indulging in that behavior is our fault. Sure, there are biochemical components that perpetuate the behavior, just like smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol or any other behavior that becomes obsessive like gambling, cleaning or shopping. But it IS a complex behavior that involves choices and active participation on our part to occur. Obesity is a mental illness and mental health professionals are needed to help us change our behaviors. No surgery will cure us and it's unfortunate that so many people try to shift the focus from the mental aspect to the physical and try to say it's "not my fault". It's not the size of our stomachs that made us fat, it's the behaviors.....including binge eating. With appropriate support and professional intervention, our behaviors can be changed. In the meantime, be accountable for your actions and stop being the victim of your choices. -
@crankymagpie that’s so good to hear! Congrats, you are on your way. As for me, I feel like I’m nesting... picking up a few things for post-surgery, (but not too much!) I’ve found my Bariatric Advantage chewable multi’s to be pretty gross, but we’ll see how it goes when I cannot eat! My pre-op diet is pretty low maintenance. I have a protein shake in the morning, fish or chicken with greens for lunch and dinner. No coffee or alcohol. I’ve lost two lbs. lol I’m looking forward to getting this over with with the support of my Mom, who will be staying with me and my two sons during this process. Nervous but excited! I’m happy to hear how supportive your partner has been. 😊 Your protein and liquids numbers are good, plus exercise- keep it up!
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I brought it up to my doc on my 2nd post op visit because of the holiday season and he cleared me on alcohol in moderation as well as caffeine. I have a few shots worth every other weekend or so, but i did talk to him about it first. My suggestion would be to talk to your doc first. My surgery was on 10/23.
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My surgery is scheduled for October 17, 2018 and I am currently on a liver reduction diet and I've cheated several times, and drank alcohol once, and taken aspirin and ibuprofen. Are they gonna know? And will they still do the surgery? I'm worried[emoji45] Sent from my VS988 using BariatricPal mobile app
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I went for my post op (8 days) last Friday and was concerned about the look of my incisions too. I had taken off the icky, bloody strips off of the outer ones and replaced them with some band-aid butterfly things. BAD idea. 2 days later I went down to my Mom's armed with supplies and had to say "help me Mommy! Fix it" I was in such pain and the darn strips were giving me some sort of reaction and it HURT. The strips took the skin off so now I have raw spots on either side of the incisions. One even blistered! Gads. So I asked the Dr. about it the next day and he said the healing looked fine and that he preferred no bandaids and that at this point nothing was going to come open anyway. I will have to trust him. He also said not to use alcohol but a vaseline type or baby oil to take off the strips. Sat. I was so uncomfortable around my port incision that still had the strips on it (that were gross from the Neosporin) that I took them off too. It feels so much better now. I think the strips were pulling and I was getting a rope-y feeling along the cut. Still looks a bit gruesome, but feels much better.
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Hello Everyone Its been a long time. I got an email alert that there was some new post. Im in the same boat as some of the others. At this point I have gained back about 40 lbs of the 110 lost. Im happy that I havent gained it all back but still very ashamed of the weight I have gained. I cant believe that I was given such an amazing opportunity and now Im throwing it all away. I cant blame the band for any of the weight gain. My band does the job it is suppose to. The problem is with me. I eat and throw up on a constant basis or just eat stuff that I know I shouldnt, not to mention the alcohol consumption. I didnt know that after all of this time that our band could still slip Nimblebean Im sorry to hear this has happened to you and wish you the best of luck. Maybe we all can start supporting each other like we use to do in the good old days when we were just starting on this adventure and had the motivation and desire to make it work.
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I have one scheduled for the end of October at Playa Mujeres north of Cancun. I plan to spend time walking an hour or so as well and limit my food intake to high protein foods like sushi, lean beef and fish. The alcohol I am going to have to limit as well. No mixed drinks with fruits and syrups, sticking to bourbon or scotch...3 to 4 a day max.
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Just putting it out there, so 'dirty' little secrets may see the light of day!
Proud2BMe replied to Madam Reverie's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
I also drink diet soda, mainly diet dr. pepper, diet coke and coke zero. Popcorn is a huge temptation. The last time I went to the movies I ate half of a large bag of popcorn. Then I was upset with myself so I told myself to throw it away and not take it home. I took it home and devoured the remaining half a couple hours later. I had a very small glass of egg nog last night. I also ate one white chocolate and macadamia nut cookie. I drink alcohol far more frequently now than I did before the surgery. My metabolism has changed after surgery and I can tolerate it better now. -
Just putting it out there, so 'dirty' little secrets may see the light of day!
PdxMan replied to Madam Reverie's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
I know not everyone who gets WLS is addicted to food, but as my last comment on this thread: I totally understand what you are saying Madam, but I know, in a group of alcoholics, the person who walks in with a bottle of vodka is going to be popular and the person who says, "Hey, maybe we should put that away" is going to be demonized. I'm OK with that. If my message resonates with one person, that is all that matters. To those who find me high-minded, I apologize. My comments are not related to you. But there are those out here in the forum who truly struggle with food issues and sabotaging their efforts. I wish everyone well on their own journey with VSG. God bless. -
Just putting it out there, so 'dirty' little secrets may see the light of day!
7 Bites_Jen replied to Madam Reverie's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Oh yeah! Alcohol!! LOL I drink hard cider, wine, beer ... I get tipsy a lot quicker though, and I learned the hard way that it's a lot easier to overindulge ... -
So i went out with friends last night. Amazing time. I have had alcohol in the past wine makes me a little tipsy, beer just makes me full... Last night we had a cream type wine and some shots before we went to the bar. OMG I didn't know if I was going to be able to walk down the stairs to the car! I'm such a light weight now. It was a fun tipsy feeling and once I was at the bar I switched to water. Danced for 2 hours and had a blast! One of my friends said I looked like a cute little barbie doll last night. haha made my night!
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Just putting it out there, so 'dirty' little secrets may see the light of day!
Madam Reverie replied to Madam Reverie's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Maybe it's your turn of phrase... "Just like I wouldn't advise an alcoholic to just have a shot on a rare occasion, IMO, this is a dangerous thread." Maybe it's your overlooking this statement: "There'll be no 'Hail Mary's' or 'Our Fathers' and flagellation will NOT and should not be forthcoming" and coming forth with a statement of this nature: "Bottom line folks, I don't want to see any of y'all crying 6 months from now that the scale isn't moving, yet these same behaviors are continuing. If someone is struggling with weight loss 6 months from now, I'm going to point them to this thread.' I understand the genuine motive behind your post - and it is laudable. However, due to the primary reason this thread was composed, I found your well-intentioned post ill-placed. If people have chosen to not delve too deeply into 'why' they have chosen to consume something and 'how' it made them feel afterwards - that is their prerogative. The core tenet still remains, that it's a place where there is no judgement - rightly or wrongly - for the occasional strays they have. There is comfort in knowing you're not alone in your struggles - it is what makes us human, after all. That, I believe, is objectivity... -
January 2013 Bandsters!
Steelerfan1115 replied to Mimi1980's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Sorry guys I have been out of touch. I am busy at work since I hae gone back. I am one month post op today. I can start regular food next Friday. However, I have not lost weight since the surgery. My first fill is on the 22nd. Anyone else having the same problem? I haven't been cleared to exercise yet. Also, has anyone had any wine or alcohol yet? I am craving wine. -
January 2013 Bandsters!
Steelerfan1115 replied to Mimi1980's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Catlady what a great birthday present. I do have to do an all liquid clear diet. I am dreading that. But I was talking to my surgeon and he said they recommend no alcohol for 3 months however wine is like Water he said. It goes down easy. So I was thankful for that. However, I am nervous I have my pre-op on monday I have gained 30 pounds since my six months even though I am still on a 1300 carlorie diet. I had to go off my meds so we will see yikes. One of my biggest concerns is how to answer all the questions about my weight loss. -
Happy birthday. I’m one of those who lost a lot of their taste & desire for alcohol after surgery. I went from a large glass or two every night to a regular glass once a month & sometimes I don’t finish the glass. Sure there are times I may drink more frequently or if it’s a long evening I might sip on a second glass but they’re rare. I say I go for quality rather than quantity now. So I drink champagne, quality gin, wine or whisky - well that’s my justification for spending a lot on a single glass - tee hee! I guess it just comes down to what you enjoy & can manage.
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Today marks 8 weeks since surgery for me. For the most part I'm feeling good, down about 30lbs since surgery and 50 overall. I'm still having some fatigue especially in the mornings it's a struggle to get moving. I don't get bloodwork done to check my vitamin levels until August so I guess I'll have to wait and see if anything needs to be adjusted. I'm finding I can eat most things without issue. The restriction seems like it's kicked up a notch the past two weeks or so. I've vomited a few times just because the last bite was one too many and it comes back up. I had a rough day following the 4th of July. On the actual day I did pretty well eating and staying hydrated but I was chasing after my son and on my feet for a large portion of the day so that night I totally crashed and even the next day felt like I was hungover despite no alcohol. I think maybe I just wasn't hydrated enough for how active I was plus being outside. I'm hoping to start incorporating some more exercise but I'm definitely lacking energy and motivation in that department. I'm still super pleased with the surgery thus far and happy with how things are progressing.
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Skinny/lipgloss Hello, I was banded June 7 and had all the thoughts you are having. I started the official process in February 07, however prior to that I thought about it, researched it and on and on. Once I went to the first orientation meeting in February, I was so excited. But as the band date got closer, I had thoughts; what if something happens, how can I give up the foods for ever or eat so little, can I have alcohol, why don't I just go back to weight watchers ( for 100th time), etc. but then I realized I really needed this and I could do it. I have had a couple glasses of wine at a time a week out from surgery, just sipped! Someone asked me yesterday if I was hungry or how could I give all that up? It is easier once you have made the committment!!! You will do GREAT!!!
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Lunasa, thats great news. You must be so excited about the surgery, I know I am. Im interested in hearing about you having been given shakes, soups etc for your pre-op diet, my surgeon only wants me to cut down on sugar, carbs and alcohol for at least 2 weeks beforehand. But I suppose each surgeon is different. I would nearly prefer to have been given shakes etc as it takes the choice out of having to eat. Im sure you will be fine just keep thinking that the pre-op diet will make the whole procedure easier on your body and also kick start your body into losing weight even before you have surgery. Thanks for the tip on the April thread, Im new to this and any advice is appreciated. In relation to OA, I found it great to be honest. I, like you, was very scared and embarassed when I first went but I decided to give it a try. The meeting I attended only had on average about 4 people there each week and we were all such an amazing support to each other. It stopped being about losing weight and started me focusing on taking things one day at a time and handing each day over to God. Dont get me wrong Im not the most religious person, and to be honest the whole God thing freaked me out at first but it doesnt even have to be God. It just has to be a Higher Power. It follows the same 12 steps that AA follow except the word alcohol is changed to food. The meeting I used to go to was about a 1/2 hour drive and it was becoming harder each week for me to go. A couple of the other girls stopped going and just before Christmas the meeting wound up. But I have often thought about setting a meeting up closer to home. They have a great website www.oa.org you should check it out. It is definitly something that will always stay with me and something that some day I would love to go back to. Anyway, thanks for the advice about the April thread and keep in touch. Brenners x
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Would You Have Weight Loss Surgery Again?
Kivtuar replied to Alex Brecher's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
Luckysmomma - Be patient, give it time. You'll be able to eat whatever you want soon enough. I am almost 5 months out and I can eat whatever I want. I haven't tried alcohol yet, but I haven't been a big drinker since I turned 25 or so. I've always been jealous of those tiny girls that can be happy with a slice of pizza or half a hamburger when I had to have half a pizza (or more!) and burger, fries and still be looking around for something else to snack on. Instead of going out and being sad that you cant eat, go out and be happy you have more time to talk without having to finish the bite or you can be generous and let someone else have the last bite because you are full. It's kind of like stopping smoking.. suddenly it's like you gained an extra hand because it's no longer having to always hold the cigarette. You don't always know what to do with that hand, but eventually you get used to having two hands again. You'll get used to the amount of food you can eat and space it out accordingly. I voted "other" in the poll. I'm not where I want to be right now, so it is hard to be fully behind it. I had no complications, my first 4 months were fast losing, even this last month I've lost weight faster than I've ever lost it before...it's just not as fast as I want it to be. I look at my hands or my legs and they seem smaller. I look at pictures and I'm still HUGE. Maybe I should have gone with the bypass or one of the other more extreme surgeries.. I think right now I'm just looking over all the other fences and deciding their pastures are greener though. I think overall it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I could not have lost (and kept it off) the weight by myself. I feel healthier than I've felt in a very long time. hair grows back, scars fade and loose skin is the reason Spandex was created. -
My husband no longer wants to have sex with me. TMI ALERT!!
BillyTheBear replied to nameunknown's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Sorry your husband seems so negative lately regarding your success with weight loss and just in general. Commenting on your last post I will say I can relate to your husband, as a man. . . I have a sarcastic sense of humor with my wife altho I would never let it get to the point to where she walked out. We kinda feed off each others sense of humors and sometimes mine comes off as assholish but really that's just my personality and she knows that. If I push it too far tho I generally tell her I am sorry and we make up. Are you perhaps over-analyzing everything now sense the intimacy of your relationship has become what you feel flawed to him? I know when my wife lost weight I can honestly admit I felt like I was going to lose her, at the same time I didn't attack her and just praised her for her efforts and hard work. . . but I can somehow relate with how he may be feeling deep within the sarcasm. As suggested perhaps some good ol fashion therapy is what you both need. You both need to lay out your feelings on the table and see what direction you both want to take your relationship. The last thing you want is to change for anyone but yourself. . . you only live once, make it as happy of a life as YOU can. . ya know? I wish you the best in all of this, and hope if it was meant to be. . that your marriage also heals over time and you both become one with the new you! As far as drinking goes, that's a bit of a personal opinion thing. . no one can tell you to stop drinking if it's something you enjoy, at the same time most of us can say when stressed it may lead to more obsessive drinking, and maybe he sees that you're stressed right now and perhaps feels you're turning to alcohol because of it? Once again, I wish you the best. . . if you need a man's perspective on anything or wish to ask me any question feel free to shoot me a message. I've been through a lot with my wife and if anything it has made us the incredibly strong union we are today. . very happy and blessed with two beautiful children! -
Hi everyone, I am new to this group. I have been meaning to post something and it seems like everytime I start one of my kids needs me. So here I go... I am getting my surgery tomorrow. I think it is finally hitting home. Today is the last day of drinking diet coke...possibly eating white bread, sticky rice, some pasta etc... I am not looking foward to the liquid stage. I have stocked up on everything recommended, hopefully I can keep myself satisfied. It is really hard to try to lose weight right before this. Thankfully my doctor only recommended I lose five pounds. I compare this part of it to asking an alcoholic to quit drinking for a few weeks before going to rehab! :heh: I am very excited that I am doing this for myself and my family. I am looking forward to being an active mom who is a good example for her kids!!! Kristen
