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First, gotta ask: what does “fish toshing” mean? I quickly googled it and couldn’t find a suitable answer… Second: re: getting back to basics…agree with most up there about figuring out how many cals you are taking in (log, if you aren’t already) and cut a couple hundred cals from that. Skipping the wine will likely achieve this, but if you are not keen on doing that, cut the cals from somewhere else. I will say you still look fab to me, even with the extra 25lbs….but I get how YOU want to think that about yourself…so if you want to drop a few lbs, cutting your cals is the obvious first step. (and drink lots of water, get a good night’s sleep and save the wine or desserts for special occasions or maybe just Tuesdays, lol) Other “tricks” of the trade if you like “rules”: dont eat past 7 (and/or before noon)…naturally reduces daily intake. Wait at 30 mins as soon as you get the urge to eat/snack something…you may change your mind. If you still want it after 30 mins, then by all means, go for it. May not be your cup of tea, but you can try. I’ll also echo what catwoman mentioned about slower weight loss being at “normal” BMI. It may get discouraging, but so long as you are at a calorie deficit (barring any medical or genetic issues) you will lose weight. Good luck! ❤️

I’m trying to get rid of most clothes as they get too big. I’ve always had “fat clothes” and “thinner clothes”, but now I don’t want to accept the notion of gaining weight again. A few things that I really like - I may get altered to a smaller size.

I had surgery in my 50s and wish I'd done it earlier so I wouldn't have spent most of my life morbidly obese. gallbladder - as someone else said, some people have gallbladder issues and need it removed even if they DON'T have weight loss surgery - and I honestly don't know how many people who've had WLS end up needing their gall bladders removed. Some - but I don't think it's a majority. Years ago many surgeons used to take people's gallbladders out as part of the WLS, but they don't do that anymore because a lot of patients never end up having gallbladder issues.

As far as being hungry. I'm not. I'm never hungry but I am thankful there are a few things I am able to eat just for the nutrition. I'm still eating a little tuna but since the bacon flavor has returned I'm really pleased to have it. I eat bacon and lettuce sandwiches on whole wheat bread with no condiments. Tomatoes still taste off and I loved them like crazy before. I eat a few mashed potatoes, the Bob Evans kind you get in the store prepared. Green beans taste good. The wife fixes them with a little butter and onions and cooks them a long time. Most raw fruits and veggies taste OK. Again, I am never hungry. I haven't been hungry since Feb. 15, the date of my surgery. I used to drink at least 5 20 ounce bottles of water a day. It's all I ever drank. It doesn't taste bad now but did in the beginning. I struggle to get the 64 ounces of fluid but I'm trying. The taste aversion happens to almost everyone. It's the one thing they're not very forthcoming about before surgery. That's why they stress protien. They don't tell you, "Every bite of meat you put in your mouth after surgery is going to be disgusting." Instead, the dieticians stress protien. So, get it any way you can until your tastes come back. Enjoy having no hunger. The taste aversion aids weight loss so just eat for nutrition purposes and enjoy the weight loss.

It's been 3 weeks since my bypass surgery. I was told I had to have bypass surgery due to Severe Acid Reflux. I also had a high BMI of 44, Sleep Apnea, Severe Asthma, Severe Incontinence, High Blood Pressure, when dieting used several medicines and weight loss programs would loose 15 lbs at most and gain more back. At first I said would not do it again due to throwing everything up that I drank or ate. Not been able to eat or drink much of anything. I lied though it is worth it all. I am hungry and then when I eat I get full very quickly. I am holding on to the fact I am hoping I loose the weight that they say I will which they think 80 to 100 lbs. I am hoping it is the later of the two. I can say positively my asthma is so much better, my Sleep Apnea is better not using machine and not snoring, my Incontinence is a ton better so far. So yes do it, medically I say do it. Just to lose weight no. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hmmm....I don't know. "Earlier" is a relative term. I'm 56 and had surgery 7 months ago. Yes, I wish I had it earlier than that. I think I would have been ready in my early 40's. At 23, honestly, I would not have been ready to make the long-term changes that are required if the surgery is going to be successful. At 23, I was struggling with my weight but not to the extent that it would eventually become. Plus, I was not ready to accept that the long-term health consequences would indeed catch up with me. How long have you been in preparation for surgery? If you are not involved in a thorough program that provides education and preparation for what life after surgery will be like, you may want to consider delaying your surgery. If you've taken your time with preparation and feel fully ready, then you're just experiencing nervousness like most of us did prior to surgery. Good luck in your decision.

Had surgery on June first just got back into regular food I’m managing between 500-700 calories per day, I work a physically demanding job outside and 2 things I’ve stalled in weight loss I have zero energy all I want to do is sleep Side note everything makes me want to throw up from water to veggies

I totally would have done this surgery in my 20’s had it existed. The gallbladder, can cause issues regardless of if you have surgery or not. I had mine removed when I was 27 & at my highest weight, that thing is evil. I had to be admitted to hospital twice just to control the pain before surgery was finally done to remove it.

It may sound vain to people that are not in our situation. I can’t wait for you to experience the joy of just loosing weight my dear

I've had tremendous success with my RNY at 43 with a BMI in the 80s. I would do it again in a heartbeat. At 43 I could look at my future and know it was going to be painful and short. I had to weigh that future against the possible outcomes of WLS: losing weight, doing things, living the dream... to dying on the table, severe life changing complications. I've known people at both extremes and in between. For me, then, it was a no brainer. But, 20 years earlier? When my future was looking good. Weight was a problem, but I could still go and enjoy life, do things, go places. I'm not convinced rolling the dice at 23 would have made sense for me. I could easily have lost what I had. Again, I knew people that did. Odds are it wouldn't happen to me. But, the odds have messed with me before, I almost died from a tonsillectomy when I was 4. So, I'd have to think about it hard. Good luck, Tek

My last appointment is in October and just was seeing if there was anyone else out there have there last appointment coming up.

I absolutely wish I had done this surgery when I was younger. For me the weight gain was medication induced and I was not overweight at 23 but at 28 or 30…I wish I had done it then. You can get the weight off BEFORE it has a chance to take a huge Toll on your joints and wreak havoc on the rest of your body. And Huge bonus is your skin is more likely to bounce back on its own. If you are truly ready to make the commitments to change at this point In your life I say go for it.

I WISH I had done this surgery when I was 23! I was probably about the same size as you at that age (just turned 30) with no health issues either. I've always struggled with my weight and have gone up and down with diets too many times to count. Nothing stuck for me. I realized this year that I needed to do something to make it stick before I developed any major health issues related to my weight (my BP was elevated and had fatty liver but everything else was ok). If you are confident that you can do it on your own and be able to stick with it then the surgery may not be for you! I know that, for a long time, I was confident I would do it on my own but I just couldn't. I think you know yourself best! Trust your gut! The surgery did come with pain and major life changes but it is 1000% the best thing I've done for myself. All this to say, trust yourself to make the right choice for you! This site really helped me when I was making the decision!

I know what you mean when you say it's nice to fit into clothes that are not leggings, as that is pretty much all I wear these days. Wearing nice clothes is probably at the top of my list of things I want to do once I lose this weight...even if it sounds vain! Glad you're recovering well.

Hello everyone, I'm 23, don't have any co-morbidities, and scheduled for surgery July 28. Blood pressure 122/78, lab work is good, endoscopy/cardiology etc were good. My BMI is 40.16 as of this morning. Thus, I barely qualified for the surgery. I'm currently on my preop liquid diet , day 6, down 8-10 lbs. As I've been on the liquid diet, I've started to have doubts. No one but my partner and sister know I'm doing this surgery, my parents do not know. I just wonder if the change I'm making to my body at such a young age is worth it and if should just try to lose weight by myself. I have done it before. Some of the side effects some people experience that I've read: GERD/gallbladder removal etc, seem daunting since I have always been/felt very healthy, have had no major surgeries, I don't even have allergies, nor do I smoke or drink. Introducing such a change to my body feels very scary. However, the opportunity to finally become who I want to be within the span of 1-2 years is promising. I don't want to pass this opportunity up but I'm scared of complications. All this being said, would any of you have done this surgery when you were 23? Thank you,

Gosh, yes! My surgery is on 4th September and while am really excited the thought of not being able to eat properly or enjoy food with family & friends does give mixed emotions. I know that even if I lose weight on yet another diet, it will only be a matter of time before I pile it on and then some. Need a long long term solution - and deep down I know this is the right course of action for me. Look forward to hearing how you get on next month! All the best x

I always have a hard time getting rid of clothes - so yea, I get it! I think it took a year before I was ready to part with mine - and by then they were ridiculously big. I did keep a couple of items to remind me of where I came from. For the rest, I first gave a couple of my obese friends dibs on them - I felt better giving them to someone I knew. The rest I eventually donated to a thrift shop, but it took awhile (as it always seems to with me!). I went from a woman's 4x to a large (sometimes medium, depending on the brand). I hope I'll never, ever be in a 4x again! I do have some things that are XL in my closet in case I gain a few pounds, but I don't want anything bigger than that around. Having to buy new clothes if I gain more than a few pounds is an incentive NOT to gain more than a few lbs! (and hopefully, I won't even gain a "few" lbs!)

There is something therapeutic about getting rid of all of your big clothes... this is a new life and you're not going back. But, I get it- if you're like me, this is a lifelong roller coaster of gaining and losing and gaining more, etc., so we don't want to get our hopes up. I took it a bit slow about getting rid of stuff. First I threw out (or donated) the big clothes that I didn't really like and kept some things that were my favorites. Over time, as my sizes changed, I periodically purged the largest stuff, keeping a buffer size or two. Even after losing 100 lbs., I still have some things I need to get rid of. As I type this, maybe I need to go through my closet again. I'm not going back! There is a ton of XXL stuff in there that I will never wear again.

Sorry to say, but no skin care product is going to keep you from hanging skin after massive weight loss. Genetics, amount of time spent overweight, and amount of weight to lose are all factors. If you are young, have good skin elasticity, and haven’t been overweight very long you may not need PS. If you’re older, have poor skin elasticity, were significantly overweight, or overweight for many years you will likely have loose skin. I had my sleeve surgery at 49, was overweight for most of my adult life. After losing 140 lbs I had lots of loose skin. I had a tummy tuck, breast lift & augmentation, and arm lift in January. I’m planning on a thigh lift next year. I’m so glad I had these surgeries, but even if I hadn’t would still be glad to have lost all the weight.

Straight up!!! Unless someone tells me I can't eat the comparable amount to a shake in nutrients of cottage cheese on this diet (the carb/fat content is lower than the shakes and the protein is equal ---Good Culture lowfat cottage cheese---) I'm starting this tomorrow. Got almost no help from the dietician. I was also told to keep my diet to 1000 calories a day, which is normally not a problem for me, but with super low carbs and fat it is. I have been at around 800-900 cals on this diet and lost one lb this past week. I will stop eating any cottage cheese or egg white 3 days before the surgery, but my preferred choices seem to be healthier than my dietician's! I so hear you on the non-dairy, and I like dairy! My brother is vegan, so I could perhaps give you suggestions if you like; DM me. This is for post-surgery: I love a pureed red lentil soup with lemon and herbs, and you could incorporate protein powder and broth, for example. I've also been doing Brodo bone broth. It has more protein and helps with hunger. Mine is a major university bariatric center as well and they seem stuck in 1985 with respect to diet! Prior to the VSG project, when I thought I could "eat less and exercise more" (ha ha) I was put on an 1100-1200 calorie diet (high protein, low fat, low carb) for months and months and didn't lose weight. It was not that hard to implement, as I already pretty much ate that way. I measured and weighed every single pea I ate. Their dietician told me I could eat up to 1800 calories a day without gaining weight, so I'd lose weight at 1600. I told her that I'm not even losing at 1100! (I laughed, but inside my own head because that was such a load of hooey) She shrugged and had no idea why (she clearly thought I was lying to her, which I was not- again, infantilizing when I needed actual help.) . So: disappointing, but not that surprising. And now, Im losing a single lb in a week on this horrible preop diet. Does it still de-fat your liver if you don't lose weight? I'm following every dietary restriction I was given except that the diet comes from pre-packaged shakes. I'm making my own now with Isopure, low fat/low carb nut milk and a LOT less artificial sweetness or none at all—had a great espresso one today. And yet: the weight is not coming off me. But this is why I'm having this surgery. Makes me worry I'll not lose any weight at all afterward, but my surgeon thinks I will. I do not have cravings for anything except really any real food when I'm hungry. Now Im stomach-growling hungry for huge parts of the day, exhausted, peeing constantly, and not losing any weight. This sucks. I'm saying this because I know there are other just like me out there, and I'm saying, "Guys, it's really ok to not be positive and cheerful all the time. Truth is really healthy." I'll also add that if this diet makes you pissed off and tired and unable to work properly, that seems normal to me. And I don't think it means that you won't be committed to your health or your diet afterward. I also don't think adults need training wheels or to be lied to about numbers to incorporate that most people cheat. I'd prefer to be told the actual truth about what is medically necessary and why.

I was allowed cream soups as well. So originally , I stocked up on a bunch of “sipping Bone broths” they had them in all different flavors like a chicken, rosemary and lemon , Chinese 5 spice or something like that. I also bought miso broth to switch it up a bit . I did end up getting tired of those and so I reached out to my nutritionist and tried to get a better idea on if it had to be clear liquids or as long as it’s liquid then it’s fine and threw out a few examples for approval . She pretty much said it’s fine , as long as it’s liquid and as long as you “LOSE WEIGHT” just like that in caps lol . From that point on, I puréed my own vegetable soups and lentil soup , I bought different Tomato soups , a butternut squash and sweet potato soup. It was a game changer at that point so i would definitely find out more info as you get closer to see how strict the liquid diet for you will be .I know you mainly sound like you want soups to make at home but if interested here are a few other suggestions ! I bought sugar free popsicles the different colorful flavored ones lol AND the SF fudge pops! Those came in super handy when I was craving chocolate (which I NEVER do). I also got sugar free apple sauce , SF chocolate/vanilla puddings , SF Jello and oatmeal, non fat low sugar yogurt with honey and cinnamon . Of course , I bought all kind of premier protein shakes to test out my favorite flavors. I found these premeir protein clear drinks , quest (cookies N cream) protein shake soooo good!!! Then for water alternatives because trust me, you WILL get tired of water when it’s the only thing you can drink… I bought a bunch of different flavored crystal light packets such as a peach mango green tea and lemon Iced tea and they even had a large packets for pitchers and I got that in strawberry watermelon . I hope this helps!!!

I would really love to hear some success stories of people who had a revision from the slave to the mini gastric or gastric bypass and had success. Personally, I am totally willing to go through a revision and all that comes with it but not for a 30 pound weight loss and I’m getting a lot of mixed information. What’s your success story? Would you share some pictures of your revision starting weight self and where you’re at now? I could really use some encouragement because I’m not sure if I should believe all the surgeons I’ve been talking to!

I am now 5 months from surgery. I've had horrible food aversions but some of that is easing. I can now eat bacon again. Before, it was disgusting. The same can be said of a few other foods. I'd love to be able to tolerate chicken but it's still off the menu. I am taking tasteless GENEPRO twice a day, 60 grams to keep my protien up and it is giving me some strength back. Also, I've switched to a 1 a day bariatric vitamin. Weight loss as of now is 118 pounds and my goal is 210 pounds. Hope this encourages some who are struggling. Stick with it.

I actually weighed MORE the first week after surgery than I did before the surgery! They give you A LOT of fluids in your IV to keep you hydrated and this often shows up as pounds gained. But the weight DID start to come off eventually, don't lose heart!

Thanks so much for your responses and kind words. It is really helpful to hear your first hand experiences! It's reassuring to hear malabsorption issues are not so common with the sleeve and that whilst post operation depression is common it usually passes fairly quickly. We also spoke in depth tonight with our friend who had the sleeve operation in March, and this has helped a lot too. My wife has a consultation with a surgeon from Healthier Weight tomorrow. I think we are very close to deciding the Sleeve is the right thing to do but we'll also see a psychiatrist and make sure my wife and I are prepared as best we can be for this major change.