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Hi ladies. I hope you all had and are having a good day. Yesterday was a not so busy day with Jaimi. We had an afternoon playdate and then I had a ladies night of "crafting." Though I didn't do any project, just went for the company. Had a great time. Food yesterday.....hmmm. Why do I have such a hard time remembering from day to day? SF/FF latte, 2 protein shakes, 1/4 c wild/brown rice, a couple turkey swiss roll-ups that came back. I did manage to get 60 oz of water in. This morning Jaimi woke me up with a fever and a sore throat. When I finally got her to take some tylenol she went back to sleep for a couple of hours. The poor thing just sobbed that her throat hurt so bad. When I looked in her throat her tonsils are ginormous yet again. So, we went back to the doc this morning but the quick test came back not strep. They are sending it to culture for a couple of days because the quick test isn't always accurate I guess. For now it's just rest and tylenol. Poor little darling. Jeff took Nick to therapy today. He really is having some behavior problems. The doc thinks its because of Michael leaving so we will see. I was going to take him but Jeff preferred to take him over staying home with the dear little sick one. Imagine that. Hopefully we'll have some good news when he gets home. Karla, we will never be free of our addiction. You know that, but it's so easy to fall back. Same way that mentally ill people think they have control after being on their meds for awhile, or drug addicts think they can just take one hit. Why are we our own worst enemies? It's crazy. At crafting last night we were talking about a book called "Made to Crave." I thought of you while we were talking about it. It has to do with food addiction and that what we are really needing is a fulfilling relationship with God. You might try checking it out. It might make you feel better about the faith conversation we were having at the beginning of the week. After I finish my current book I'm going to download it. I also thought of you as on of my other friends there was telling about her problems similar to your female parts. She was so funny about it. She said when they did her last surgery they left a couple of staples in and so instead of having an inviting woman part (her words) she has a "snapping turtle." She is going to Denver in a couple of weeks for surgery and will have to spend 8 weeks on complete bed rest. She was so funny. Reminded me of you. Janet, you always have just the right thing to say. Love you! Have fun with the kiddos. I'm sure in a couple of days you will be ready for them to leave...you love your private world. But, enjoy it while it's here. As much pain we have all seen the last few months with loved ones being diagnosed with cancer, or car accidents, or all the other nutso things happening, we need to make that extra effort to enjoy the time we do have with each other. Candice, you are just becoming a musical sensation up there, aren't you? How much fun is that? Retirement has been so good for you. I love that. Karri, welcome back. I know how hard that first post is. It took a lot of strength to make it. Obviously I know because it took me a LONG time to find the courage to do it myself. However, this is our family and we all understand how horrible you must be feeling about your band. I don't think any of us can imagine the fear. I know it is a hard decision. Heck, I've been putting it off for well over a year. I am sure that I need to revise. I know that I need to be able to eat real solid protein and that I will never be healthy without it. But....it's so scary and frustrating and if you're anything like me you spend time thinking "I messed this up, why won't I mess that up." That's just our own little devil talking to us and trying to win the only way it knows how. We talked last night so I know you know my thoughts. I agree with Janet. I wouldn't go anywhere but to Wasa's doc for a revision. We do understand the fight and you are in the exact right place. We love you. We've missed you. Welcome back. I hope you will feel good about posting through your struggles here. No tough love from me. Just unconditional love and support. Hugs my friend. Welcome home! Okay...now off to find something soft for Jaimi to eat. Have a beautiful day ladies. When does Phyl get back? I really need to get some help for my memory. It sucks. My forgetter just keeps getting better though.

DO NOT cover your children!! They're all over 21 now, right?? They need to take responsibility for themselves. Get jobs that have coverage, etc. No one in school now?? Colleges have health insurance available for a reasonable price. Get a plan that will allow you to get the surgery that you need!! So... how was the LOST finale???? Gave up watching that several years ago when it just got too weird!! TOO FUNNY!!! Bailey's in his coffee!!! :sneaky::tongue2::tt1: :tt1:You should be able to get SF Irish Cream for his coffee, but maybe not at Starbucks. Their SF flavors are so limited considering the myriad of SF flavors that are out there! There is a SF white chocolate powder that is wonderful! I usually get that mixed with a little SF Raspberry or vanilla. So.... scale went up today... TOPS weigh in... I'm back a hair over 200 again and it's depressing!! Just farting around with the same 3-4 lbs for way too long!! Up, down, up, down, up, down!! Especially considering all the exercise and walking I've been doing. Have to revise what I'm eating! Apparently my body likes this weight! I weighed right around 200 for a lot of years. But I don't want to stay here!! Anyways, nothing to do with that... I'm feeling kind of depressed and weepy for no apparent reason! Go through this from time to time which feeds my theory that even after menopause we still experience some sort of "cycle". Then, since Earl skipped TOPS this morning, I went to the pet store on the way home. Not a good thing to do when I'm already depressed! But I'd never been inside their main store and it is truly beautiful! Big aquarium room, reptile room.. all beautifully decorated with soft lights and music! Would never seriously consider buying a dog there because their prices are too high. They had Chihuahuas and Toy Poodles. The poodles were so cute... 5 of them, all blond... but $795 and NO papers! Not registered. And that only includes puppy shots and exam. Shelters are way less than that and often include spay/neuter, all shots and pet exam. But... I spent about 1/2 hr browsing through their books on several small breeds... Yorkie, Shih Tzu, Maltese, etc. I really want a Yorkie mix. One book said that Yorkies make great therapy puppies... like to take to a nursing home or hospital, because everyone they meet is their BEST FRIEND!! That's the way Gigi is! Tracy will bring her over and she opens the door and lets go of Gigi's leash and she races across the room and dives into my lap! Love it! Oh... so you have another hour of Lost to watch. So you haven't seen the climax yet. Thought there would be comments on Face Book this morning but haven't seen any so far. Home before noon this morning and nothing else on the agenda for today! Just sat around all day yesterday. Can't do that again. Will maybe take a cruise around the neighborhood. And think I'll go do my routine at the gym, too. You probably all saw Karri's prom picture already, hope she doesn't mind, but I'm going to post it anyway. It's so cute and so funny!

I would love to get a revision. when the girls are off of my insurance and I could afford the 'full' coverage, I am going to check into it. Otherwise, when I get my band paid for, 4 years and 2 months, I will get a loan for revision. I need a fill also, but I also need to deal with the head hungries. I'm finding myself eating even when I'm not really hungry, just habit, even though it is good food. I'm going to do the 'almost' naked weigh this weekend and see exactly where I'm at. No more excuses. Feel like crap, sore throat, stuffy, ears hurt, plus a parent (same one as before) has called for a meeting with the principal, to have the principal make sure I pass their daughter in science. Hum, could it be that your daughter has 13 tardies/absences for my class? Could it be that your daughter rarely turns in work. I have already email the parent immediately when their is an assignment and when the child does not turn in the assignment, hey why teach, I'll just sit on the phone/computer all day and the kids can play! Oh well, I really don't care. If push comes to shove, I'll just give the kid a 'C' and everyone will be happy. If you don't want your child to be accountable, why should I. Going to go take a shower, making tator tot casserole in my new tiny individual casserole dishes I got for Christmas, portion control. TTFN

Well.. Friday is a go. 6am for pre-op, surgery at 8am. And she forgot anesthesia cost. !@#@#$^&$%@#! She said she begged them to let me not have to pay it up front, because they couldn't do same day yadda yadda, I'd have to make 2 trips down. So they are going to go ahead and bill me afterward for anesthesia time used. For the band, it was $500, but she said since this is going to be less time it will be cheaper. Whatever. So now we're up to $2,596 at most. I'm going to insist on free fills for at least 2 years! Called the hotel we stayed at last week to reserve a room, I asked the rate and she said "you have government rate on your account' and she never gave me an actual number. Last time I stayed, the doctor called in the room and paid for it. So I dunno what that means, it was $60 last time. Hopefully it's not anymore. We're going up Thursday night, getting the room, surgery Fri. Morning.. I said "And I will be able to go home the same day, right?" she said 'barring any complications'. Really, I don't know how I would have complications.. if I did fine in the normal surgery, revising the port surgery should be a piece of cake, right? Tell me right!!

Hi Haydee!! :wave: You're not gonna happen to be on this side of town at lunchtime tomorrow,are you? Josie and I are meeting for lunch if you can come!! Y'know...I was thinking about "weight goals" this morning on the way to work. I don't like setting a goal that says "I will weigh XXX by XXX date. Oh, for me that is just ASKING for failure!! I know my body well enough to know that it will lose the weight however it wants to lose the weight and on its OWN time scale. Even though I seem to be failing at these too , I prefer to set goals that are more within my control... "I will workout 45 mins per day, 5 days a week", or "I will keep my calories under 1000 for the rest of this month". Although I did kinda think I would/could be at goal by Christmas, I'm already starting to revise that and accept that it could be more like next summer!! OH WELL!! I AM GRATEFUL FOR THAT!!

Tracy- Yeah, well after I found out I have a leak, I don't resent him for not filling me enough anymore. And if Allergen is out of ports (god, I don't get that?!).. that's not his fault either. BUT.. to you and Michelle.. my mom even said "You self-paid, he has plenty of money, why doesn't HE pay the hospital". I haven't told her about the port cost now. This IS leaving a bad taste in my mouth. And my parents are paying for the revision surgery. Which, indebts me MORE to them. I didn't tell ya'll about this weekend. Saturday, I'm in bed, in pajamas, 10pm.. watching a movie (I was depressed that day, still in my funk).. Dad calls, said his a/c is out, they're playing poker, told me to go to wal-mart get them some fans. I'm just stunned.. so.. I said uh ok, hung up and sat there a minute. First off, I have HIGH ANXIETY going to stores. I will NOT go alone. Even for myself. DH had plans in his video game that night (Everquest, stupid hate that game), every sat night unless I give him advance notice, he has plans. So.. I try to beg him to go with me. He can't. So I'm panicy. I start to cry.. so I toughen up, called my mom.. and said nicely "You'll go with me right?". She says..and I quote "We've been doing an aweful lot for you lately, this is the least you can do".. so I just said "Wow.. that's nice" and hung up on her. And so you know-they DO know I have a problem going to stores. Then stopped taking their calls. Then cried some more as I had to put a bra on, get dressed, go to wal-mart (HIGH ANXIETY), get them fans, blah blah. So here I am, picturing this new surgery bill going up and up, and me becoming a slave to my parents for even longer. Sigh sigh sigh. I really am torn. I don't have the personality to say "Look, this isn't my fault, YOU pay for it", nicely or not. I don't know what to do. I think about the revision, and wonder if I should go to another doctor for revision.. but this doctor put it in, he knows my body heh.. I dunno, god my brain is so jumbled right now.. you would not want to be me right now! My last 'free fill' is october, but I wonder with all this mess, if they will at least give me more free fills.. maybe that's what I should ask for. But again, I don't know how to go about saying they owe me anything. I wish my psychiatrist visit were sooner, I really need someone to give me something for my anxiety. I've been having back tension (and pain), and migraines out the wazoo. I have to take double sleeping pills and migraine meds at night just to sleep. The other night it was so bad, I took my hair down and was massaging my scalp and almost vomiting from the pain when I passed out.. woke up the next day and I had made my hair a big mess.. more hair is falling out too, and I wonder if it's stress related as well. Thank you for listening to me rant, I have to get it out sometimes So

Good Morning, Violets.. We'll DH and I are back from the great adventure. 8 hours of driving for a 10 minute appointment would be the pits if we didn't go together. We had a great day talking in the car and then hitting the outlet mall on the way home. I got a new Columbia jacket for winter, DH did too, a new pair of Reeboks, a new sweater from Coldwater Creek (XL!!) and two pair of workout shorts. Also got a cute, cute Halloween outfit for Ethan. He'll be a little kangaroo. All in all, a very good day. I had .5cc put in so now have 2.5 in a 4cc band. DH has 3.5 in his 10CC. He had a little trouble with his pills last night, but I'm having no issues with things getting stuck. But I am having a hard time finishing my 1/2 cup of cottage cheese and blueberries this morning. We both gained last month, but the doc said that was to be expected on the cruise and he said we'll be fine this month. My blood pressure was good for the first time since surgery and the fill was the easiest ever. One poke and no pain at all. Our next fill is Nov. 19 after the next cruise. We've vowed to make this cruise a much more healthy one. My revised mini-goal now is -11# by Nov. 4. I'm on a mission!!! DD is coming over at noon and we're heading to Curves and then I'll hit the gym this afternoon for some biking. TracyK.. glad you had the attitude adjustment with the scale. We have put ours away and I told DH we are NOT weighing in til Sunday. We'll only weigh once a week. Sorry to hear about your infection!! Jennifur..I think I need to come there and slap some guys upside the head for you. I think I could get really good at this!! Pamela.. I'll be buying tickets for the Clay Aiken Christmas concert here in Michigan for DD for her Christmas present. We both LOVE him!! We're Claymates. This will be the 6th concert of his that I've gone to and each one has been amazing. What a voice, and what a personality! I'm off to do laundry and some cleaning. Everyone have a great day!! Patience, trust and WWJD!!

Well, there may be some who would raise issue with you being on LBT with being a bypass patient---but do you really go out all over LBT? Aren't you mostly here or in threads you are already known in? Some revisioners---especially those who have gone to the sleeve, and feel it is a superior choice as opposed to just another option they are using, trying to acheive the same thing we all are---try to belittle those who are still trying to use the band to acheive success. Others who have revised---still feel they are in the same struggle and have remained accepted. There are bandsters, who appear bipolar with their band!!! They love it---they hate it---and they want an audience along for the ride. They plan revision, then change their minds....it is attention mongering, and THAT is what annoys me, not wth kind of surgery they had!!! It is really no different than us all trying all different diets prior to WLS---Atkins, South Beach, WW----we just have to find our way, and it helps to have support. But what some see as "lack of support" or alienation due to them not being Banded anymore---I could care less what surgery THEY have, please don't belittle me for what I have---I don't do it to them. Those that had that attitude, yep I am not friendly with anymore. On the other hand, several I know have changed without a change in the level of our friendship. I cannot imagine you belittling anyone, especially us here---for continuing to work with our bands----so why would we see you any different for trying another tactic??? We know who you are----you are a smart a$$ with a band, and I am betting you will be a smart a$$ with a bypass!!! LOL. That is how we love you!!!! Quarter round is trim----like baseboard----it is almost triangular----fits between the wall and the floor, or along a door jam---to make it be "finished". Today is the anniversary of Rick's heart surgery! Sure am glad to still have him around. He woke up on his birthday the next day with his heart repaired! It has been a wild ride! Spoke with my grandson and oldest granddaughter last night. She is visiting in Louisiana. Was good to hear Connor. Rick heard something at work in relation to his DD, he was kinda depressed by it----not sure what it is, but he has to work through it, then we will talk it out. It might be something major (don't think so) or it might just be someone saw her getting inked again---which totally depresses him. She has skanky tattoos he thinks. They are actually very well done, very realistic---which just makes them ugly....not skanky!! LOL, she has a sea theme for some reason---she was raised in a desert! LOL, a starfish tramp stamp, across her lower back, with oceanic things surrounding it, but then she has a big pink toned octopus on her shoulder with tentacles coming down her back, and arm, and chest a few inches. He despises it! Could also just be he is more scared than ever that she is like her Mom!!! LOL, that would be really sad!His ex is so psycho, she has been calling my MIL, and acting all caring, then refers to her, to the mutual friend we have, as a snaggle toothed old hag. Makes me want to hurt her! She looks like a dried up old catchers mitt herself, it isn't like she is a pretty young thing anymore either! None of us are!!! But he was in a good mood soon after getting home. Kinsey come and stayed while Manda did laundry, and grocery shopped. She had her Papa in a good mood pretty quick. The little girl across the street come over with her Mom to play for a few minutes, she refers to Rick and I as "her" and tschopper Rick" sound it out---it is a 2 year old calling him Chopper Rick!!! She always tells her Mom she wants to go to "Hers" house!!! My house! She loves Kinsey! Well I am off to play some games, and relax so I can get to sleep earlier tonight!!! See y'all tomorrow!

Hi all!! Wow! I've learned my lesson. You take a few days off from the forum and geesh is there a lot to catch up on when you return!! No progress on my port flip. I got back to the office on Friday and called Dr. K's office to see how I should schedule this port revision. I asked marilyn if I could have it done under a local anthestic so I wouldn't have to go under. She didn't know, and Dr. K is out of the office until Tuesday, so I have to wait. I'll let you know what I find out! Thanks to all of you offering me a place to stay! How sweet! We'll have to see what the Dr. says. I am hoping I can do this in one day...:Banane43:

Mal, that means its working! Yay for you! Yes, eating less is a good thing! Hee hee! Shesha~ well, we'll all try and meet up when you stay a little longer.:think That is great that you are getting your fill the same day. It'll either hurt really bad (the needle) or you won't feel it at all. Hopefully, you won't feel it, or at least not remember it! Are you having the revision done in Parker or in the office?

Susan, don't know if you knew or not but she lost her internet and has been posting from her kids' house or the hospital but she hasn't been on at all since last weekend. :ohmy: That IS eerie! Stuff like that happens to me all the time. It always freaks me out a little. ~Kristen, I leave my hair down most of the time, or I pull the sides back to a clip. I will wear it in a pony tail or rolled up in a large clip sometimes but I can't leave it up too long or it stresses my head and I'll end up with a migraine. I've started wearing a braid more often tho. It doesn't seem stress my head as much. Probably b/c it's low on my head. My hair, when loose, is about where my bra strap sits, so kinda long and heavy. I don't eat popcorn. Not b/c I can't, (not sure), but b/c DH refuses to allow DD to eat it yet. Choking hazard. Sooo, I don't like to even have it in the house b/c I won't eat it while she's awake and after she's asleep, it's too late to eat anything. :tt2: Oh my gosh! Fanny! You look fabulous!! I love your taste in clothes but for me it scars the shit outta me! LOL! I don't know why but patterns scare me! I do have a skirt I love, the one that almost fell off at church last Sunday, but it's pretty rare for my closet. There are only a couple of things with patterns in there. I so admire women who can go for it and do it so well! Thank you for being an inspiration!! Great tip on the drink!! Ooohhhh, sounds good! Hope the revision goes well! Take care of yourself! Let us know how it goes! Damn! I hate when that happens! If I eat to close to bed, it sits in my throat! I have to wait AT LEAST 1/2 an hour before trying to lay down. If I MUST eat something, I'll try to wait nearly an hour before trying to go to bed. Don't have the reflux problem, just the sitting in the throat problem! I've still got lots to learn and bad habits to break. Not sure how to do it. I'm struggling with a couple of things. :sneaky: Is that what it is? Shit! I started on Depo in July, one month before my surgery last year. I thought it was surgery stuff. You know, the excess estrogen being released thing. UGH! Maybe it's a combo of the 2! UGH!!! God-forbid we get any extra vitamins! LOL!! ~Okay y'all! I hardly EVER drink anymore! I'm too paranoid about the extra calories! Yet, y'all lose well and I'm such a slow loser that it just freaks me out! I drank some wine the other night, from the open bottle in the fridge! Just a few sips! I was afraid to get a GLASS!!!!! I also worry about any drinking when I'm home alone with DD in case something happens and I've either gotta drive, be up with her during the night or whatever. Drinking and sleep go really well together for me! Okay, so I'm REALLY paranoid! LOL! Suggestions? Advice? Do you just not worry about the calories? I'm seriously asking! ~Got some okra in our veggie box this week. Have NO clue what to do with it! I've never had it before, that I know of! I got on food network's website and found a chicken and sausage gumbo that'll use most of it. Sounds yummy! Headed to the grocery store tomorrow to get what I need for it and some other dinners for the week. Going to use the rest of it in a okra/tomato dish I also found on their site too. Hope I like okra! ~Accidentally made a FABULOUS dinner tonight! Last night DD and I had a package of mini cheese ravioli. You know the fresh pasta in the plastic containers? Anyway, we had lots left-over, of course. All I do is spray some butter on it and sprinkle with parmesan cheese. Throw on some steamed broccoli once in awhile, if we have it. Yumm! Sooo, in order to use it and do something different, in a large pan I sauteed up a small yellow onion, 4 cloves of garlic, small zucchini, part of a red bell pepper, small japanese eggplant and an heirloom tomato, all chopped. Little olive oil, salt and pepper. The oil and the juice from the tomato helped make a little "sauce." Added the leftover ravioli to heat thru. Sprinkled a little parm cheese on top and OH MY!!! I actually stuffed myself a little b/c it was so damn good! Here I was just trying to change things up a little and get some veggies in and came out with this wonderful thing! I love it when that happens! ~I hope y'all have a great weekend! TTFN!

PJTP...:thumbup: there is a person on other threads that had a revision. I will call her the angry person. Since that revision she is sounding so hateful towards others. Her last few post has been very hateful. Last one was talking about the poster not losing very much. But she is pbing everything. Some one talked about starvation mode and the angry person said something to the effect of there is no proof that you go into starvation mode. She was angry because the woman doesn't like to excersize. If she doesn't want to that is her perogative. Don't belittle someone for not doing what is the smart thing. I just had to get it off my chest:cursing: I used to really like and respect this person. She is intelligent, (or so I thought) Her post was always to the point, but in a nice way. Not like lately.

lol...I am still here. You can never loose me LJM! lol... I was pissed off yesterday because of the revision talk at the PS already. And my port hurts like hell and he basically blew it off. I am better today...lol...I am kinda over it today I guess. I am going to my Bariatric surgeon in a few weeks, even though the PS told me not to. What did I miss while I was gone? Any new storms? lol...

I am glad it was quiet this weekend. I was out of town and it's too hard to catch up if you miss a few days. I can't wait to love to shop. It hasn't happened yet, and I am 56, but maybe after my revision surgery, I will need new clothes again. I can only hope that I don't still hate shopping if that happens.

I'm not understanding the need to take anything to PM instead of leaving public where it all started. This is a public site - correct? A group of people having had the same procedure (oh wait - not everyone has - make that having had, thinking about or having been revised from same procedure) talking to each other about whatever they want. Within said public site, this is a thread with the description of posting just to post which seems identical in meaning to the forum in which it belongs - in case anyone has forgotten here is the forum's description: Forum for general conversation, share interests, have a laugh or discuss anything not specifically related to banding or the LAP-BAND®. That's all I've witnessed here save the unprofessionalism of those (one in particular) supposedly moderating us. I will not take something to private that was brought out publicly - who are you to suggest I do otherwise- you have had no interaction with me ever - why start now. I am now embarrassed that I have sent more than 15 people here from my private life within the last 6 months due to their having or contemplating lap-band - no I did not do it through a link so as to get credit or have it logged somewhere. It was because I used to think this was an amazing place to come, get support, give support and enjoy a shared kinship w/ others across the country - world actually. You should be ashamed of yourself and the way this site has changed. Please inform your mod's that I am no f'ing follower - a friend - one that you will probably never have the joy of knowing - your loss!

I'm sadly dry this weekend - but if I must declare a drink - let's change it up: tequila sunrise but since you're on clears - cranberry or pomegranite juice instead of oj .........ok? I have to do liquids monday - not for band but having a revision to a failed root canal - thinking cream of mushroom soup!

Hang in there Froggi! Who'd you speak to? I'd speak to more than one representative. I got different answers from different people when I was trying to get my revision approved. I know it is an entire different situation though.

Hi! I think it sounded positive and he probably told you more about what he's thinking than he did with any of the others. He is confused as to what he wants to do but maybe after speaking with you, it will help him define it better for himself. Best wishes!! Revision? Are you okay? Hope you feel better soon! Congratulations!!! If you want it bad enough, you'll work to get back on track and get as much of that off as you can. I know you can do it!!!!! Sounds like it went well! And a thank you email is a great idea! Best wishes!!! Sorry you have to wait but good that you'll get to see your own doc. I'd rather wait too. Unless I just can't for some reason. Best wishes on getting those steroid lbs off! I know that's frustrating. We call it short-timer's disease here! LOL! You and DH are very smart. Money isn't everything, tho it does play a HUGE role! LOL! But yes, when it's a small step pay difference, being happier in your job is worth the pay "cut" that comes with it. So all of you are on my prayer list. Jobs, health, happiness, safety in travels, etc. Speaking of travel, Tap should be home tonight or tomorrow, right? Hope she had a good week and it wasn't too horrible for her. Beth, since I've been tracking my food again, I've been losing! I lost 1.6 this week, even with a couple of higher calorie days and no exercising. Still haven't got out for any walks. Yuck! Hope everyone has a great day! TTFN!