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I have plenty of spicy foods, and enjoy the occasional alcoholic drink. No problems with either, and nobody ever said that I couldn't have them. I have heard good things about your doc from other bandits, but as I am in Australia, have no personal experience of him to share with you. I would ignore the sales pitch and go with the lapband. It is the safest, least likely to cause short or long-term complications, has great success, is safe, and is REVERSIBLE. It sounds like that has been recommended as a good option for you, and at the end of the day, you still have the option of the other surgery in the rare chance that you might need it. Once you start with a gastric sleeve, there's no going back for a lapband later. Follow your heart, and good luck in your journey.
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I drank alcohol and ate spicy foods my entire banding experience and lost over 100 lbs..I am proof you do not have to give up these two things. Go with your heart!
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I just went on a beach vacation last week and I'm 3 months out, honestly I enjoyed myself. I drank alcohol, took it nice and slow...1 drink lasted a while. I ate whatever I wanted, a bite this or that, and shared a lot of meals with my husband or kids. Enjoy yourself!!! You've been through alot in the past weeks!!!
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Elise I am 26yrs old and prior to my surgery I would go out to clubs often, 2 of my friends are club promoters so I go with them to help them out and also being with them you meet alot of people so those are our possible new customers when we open new night clubs. These guys know I have had the procedure done and they are very supportive of my decision of my new life so now when I go out to the clubs I walk around meeting new possible customers yeah i'll have a drink in my hand.... but its a non-alcoholic but hey the other person doesn't know that i'll ask the bartender for Water over ice with a wedge of lime or orange or a cherry or pinneaple so it looks like th real deal. Now that I have lost 40plus pounds girls are more easily approachable and honestly I have gotten more customers/possible customers for my guys. Dating its gotten easier.. I have no idea why im still my self Going out to dinner... its easy depending on the restaurants but many restaurants will help you out with just small sides. Like last night I went to the movies and went to dennys after I had 1 scrambled egg with a small side of mashed potatoes with a side of salsa... Everything is possible you just need to use your imagination a little, that's what I do.
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Good to hear that you're heading in the right direction, relationship wise. Many, many years ago I fell hard for a guy who could of been twins with your Mr. Alcoholic loser. I moved on, and while it was hard, I eventually met my husband and have never had to think twice about his choices, actions or reliability. I can't say that about my ex ! I guarantee you my ex is probably dead, spent time in jail or lives a rocky, difficult life. I dont wish the man bad karma at all, but strong feelings cant hold an unstable, rocky , unhappy "relationship" together. Im glad you got out too, before it was too late. Good luck to you !!
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BellaBloom, you ask "Why am I still here?" You're the one who has the answer. You're the one who has to do the work. Pen and paper, two columns: What makes this relationship worthwhile? What makes it not worthwhile? Sit down, keep your entries very brief and specific (e.g., his breath stinks; I can't understand slurred speech; he falls over, et al.). When you run out of things to write, put the pad down and pick it up any time later as new things come to mind. In the end, see which column is longer. You begin by implying that you've been here before, but not with an alcoholic. Here's something I discovered. If you care to roll it around in your mind, you may find that it has meaning for you, too: I don't believe in the practice of human sacrifice, especially if I'm the one to be sacrificed. You say you like his company. An alcoholic is not company. The non-alcoholic in the pair finds that she either (a) drinks more than she ordinarily does or would for lack of someone to talk to and for a false sense of company, or doesn't drink in order to be caretaker/chauffeur to the drinker. Neither makes for a fun evening. I know this because, long ago, I had a quasi-relationship of the type. A man who worked in another city for my company came in every few weeks for a few days. I'd see him once during each trip, which was fine, but the time together was crummy. It took me a while to figure it out. [sorry about the yellow face. It should be lower case "b" in parentheses, but it automatically turns into the yellow blob. So does "b)."] You like his company, yet he's boring and shows no interest in you? Ask yourself how that works. At the same time he shows no interest, he professes love and desire. For him this relationship is about sex. Stay there if it's what you want, but if so, be aware that you can't complain. If convenient sex isn't what you want, leave. If you have a history of sticking with dead-end guys, therapy. Above all, SOMETIMES ALONE IS BETTER. Laurie
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You're headed in the right direction--however, as the ex-wife of an alcoholic, be aware that you can slip into another situation like this rather easily. I would suggest some sort of counseling, maybe even an al-anon group. It takes real work to root out the issues that allow us to get sucked into an addict's life--and there are all kinds of addicts.
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So I'm not overreacting that this is crazy? I mean, it's a queen size bed!!! How can he fall on me and almost crack my skull like that!! So not all alcoholics can barely walk when they drink? I've never been around one before.Ever heard the term "Falling down drunk?" Yeah. My mom was an alcoholic. She used to hurt herself all the time because she was too drunk to walk. Luckily, she never hurt any of us. Physically at least. Almost killed us a couple times driving, too.
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Whats the earliest you can drink alcohol?
cheryl2586 replied to melanndoll's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I was also told no carbonation but my question is this: is drinking alcohol worth risking something happening to your band just two weeks post op? Your doctor gives you instructions for a reason and this is why people end up getting their bands removed because they don't follow instructions. I am sure if you ask your surgeon he is not going to say yes go right ahead. -
Everyone have a Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful for this community you and I are part of. I avoid food-holidays like a recovering alcoholic avoids Octoberfest so today on Thanksgiving I'll be hiking in the forest with loved ones who share and support my vision for wellness. After the hike we will grill a wild salmon and vegetables outdoors. I'll give great thanks for an active, healthy life, pain-free at goal-weight after years being opiate-addicted for chronic back and knee pain with morbid obesity. Who needs a Big Meal? Not me! Life IS my Big Meal! As you sit down to whatever Big Meal awaits you today give some thought to this question.... What is the metaphorical Big Meal in your life? What grand table are you being invited and challenged to join by your Weight Loss Surgery journey? Maybe it is to live a longer, healthier life to enjoy friends and family. Maybe it is to inspire others who suffer morbid obesity to believe they can be healthy again or to teach your kids to have a healthier relationship with food from the beginning of their lives. Whatever your Big Meal is, consider if the meal you will sit down to later today moves you closer to that vision or further away. Whether you choose to eat carefully or splurge later today do it mindfully, consciously and with compassion for yourself. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!
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10lbs in 21 days... 30 to go
James Marusek replied to Cali_Angel's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
It sounds like you are getting enough exercise. In my case I made one change prior to surgery that caused me to lose some weight. I knew that after surgery I had to give up carbonated beverages and caffeine. I had a 6 diet coke habit so I decided to go cold turkey. It was hard because after 50 years of drinking cokes I was addicted. I suffered severe headaches for a week by withdrawal syndrome from the lack of caffeine. But because of that one change I lost 20 pounds. I suspect that it has to do with the carbonation. I feel that the microscopic bubbles exploding in my stomach expanded my stomach microscopically which enlarged my stomach over time and caused me to gain weight. Stop the bubbles and some weight is shed. Now that I am 29 months post-op from RNY surgery, I might offer a couple other suggestions. When you eat, concentrate on eating Protein foods. Go easy on the carbs and almost complete restrict yourself from processed sugars. Use only artificial sweeteners (such as Splenda, and sugar alcohols), non-nutritive natural sweeteners (such as Stevia) and the sugars found in fruits and milk. To curb your hunger use fats. -
Stupid Question Alert! Why Remove 80% Of Stomach, Why Not 65%
SunnyCox replied to DanaInNewOrleans's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I rarely cook at home even though I know I should do it more often. lunch is often provided at my job, and I have meetings, family and friends to go out most evenings of the week. I have had no problems adjusting. I bring shakes with me to work and eat more solid foods when I am with others. Drinking with meals isn't a big issue. Order Water and no one will notice if you drink it. I will often have one or two small sips with my dinner. It helps things go down easily. If you are talking about drinking alcohol, I don't have much advice. I've never been a big drinker. About being sick after eating too much - I've never had an episode where I run to the bathroom. You can tell when you are eating too much, but it does come on a lot faster than it did pre-sleeve. When you feel it, it can often be too late. For me, it doesn't require a trip to the bathroom. I just know that I am going to be uncomfortably full for a while, and I don't like that feeling which causes me to avoid overeating. Most of the time, I just wait it out. This may be a little gross, but I have stuck my finger down my throat on a couple of occasions because I had too much. I didn't want to be miserable, so I got it over with quickly instead of waiting for it to pass. I've never vomited that I wasn't the one controlling it. I hear people getting what they call 'the slimies,' but this hasn't happened to me. -
Band Friendly Alcoholic Beverages.
Carolinegee posted a topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
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I can identify with some of the transfer additions but not to something bad so much. I sure enjoy shopping more now. I still have to go to the big and tall section but now I can look around and complain because everything is too big as I have gotten to the lower end of their ranges. Also I have become addicted to weighing. I drive my wife crazy with it as I weigh almost everytime I walk pass the scale. It can be 2 to 3 times a day. But for me it is better than looking for something to eat and it keeps me motivated or spurred on if it moves up. Some would argue the scale addition is unhealthy but better than going for alcohol or something to me.
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As a recovered bulimic, this issue was one of the first things my therapist brought up with me when I was going down the road for this surgery. She works with patients a lot to recover from destructive addictions including eating disorders, drugs and alcoholism. She told me, in her professional opinion with over thirty years in the business, that an addictive person does not stop being addictive. Where you can make great strides, however, is to find another way to channel your addictions. She told me of a woman, a recovered alcoholic, who will stay up night and day making quilts. It keeps her hands and mind busy so she doesn't drink, and gives her the benefit of having completed something. For most, not all, overweight people, eating is a way of coping with life's issues. We turn to food in time of crisis, in time of joy, in time of boredom, etc....that is our addiction. By having this surgery, you are physically limiting your access to that comfort. If you don't find a way to get that comfort, you will turn to *something*, and not always a productive or healthy something. It's why you see many RNY patients become alcoholics. It's the "next way" to deal. And for me personally, to say, "oh I'll just become addicted to exercise!!" WILL NOT WORK. It may work nicely for a few, but I doubt it. I know this, I will never be addicted to exercise. I have to force myself to exercise...I don't enjoy it and it brings me no comfort..... So what, might you ask, have I substituted? Unclear. It's an issue I still struggle with and I find now, over two years out, the band *might* have made my food obsessions worse, not better. Now that I can't have certains foods, I yearn for them..... It's a sticky road. It's why I've said here, on these boards, over and over....NO ONE should go down the road to bariatric surgery without the help of a trained therapist. There are a LOT of issues that come up on the road to weightloss. All of us are fighting our own set of demons. It's having tools in your toolbox to fend them off that is the dividing line between those that are successful and those that fall prey, again, to the demons. Just my opinions, don't have to be yours......:eek:
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Drinking before getting Lap Band?
bosscookie posted a topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I was wondering if anyone out there knew if that affects if you can get the Lap Band, I like to drink, by all means I'm not an alcoholic. I do enjoy drinking beer. I'm just concerned about not being able to get the lap band because of drinking.... thanks everyone -
dumping syndrome usually involves symptoms such as heart palpitations, dizziness, chills, cramps, diarrhea, and/or nausea (and you won't necessarily have ALL of these symptoms). I've heard it can last quite awhile - sometimes a couple of hours. Sugar alcohols (artificial sweeteners whose names end in -itol) can also cause gastric distress in some people (such as cramping and diarrhea), but I would think that might take a little longer after ingestion
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@@LipstickLady the drama actually started with them when I asked them if they would mind not playing bean bags right next to my husband's car. Granted I understand a bean bag probably won't do any damage, but there's normally alcohol involved and people falling into a car could cause damage. The immediate response was like a child "we aren't touching it so no we aren't moving". From then on it's been horrible. Tonight we actually had their kids ringing our doorbell. City cops say there's nothing they can do unless they physically touch us. It's more than a little absurd. The adults don't know what being an adult means and I can't really blame the kids because they just don't have a prayer. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed they're actually gone in a week.
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I have a different mindset it seems
jandseakin replied to cindymaried's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I also like the idea of feeling like I'm not on a "diet", and can occasionally eat comfort foods. I can have a few bites of potato salad or a hot dog, for example, things I would never have allowed myself when I was on a diet before. And I don't feel deprived, or fearful, knowing my sleeve will help keep me in check. But I also know I am an "addict" and one bite of sweets, crackers or chips, will make me want more and more. I have decided that for me, those things are like booze to an alcoholic. So I choose to never eat candy, cookies, cake, chips, pastries, etc. again. I don't trust myself. Everyone is different in how they handle foods, especially "trigger foods", and which ones they can control and which they can't. For me I'm happy with healthy foods most of the time, an occasional few bites of a higher calorie treat, and living without those things that used to make me binge. If you can lose weight with portion control, and are eating healthy most of the time, more power to you! Good luck. -
I'm just going to say normally I am a sarcastic b***h, but the other day I saw a stupid Hallmark commercial and cried. Like with actual liquid coming out of my eye. WTF. Hormones from my fat? Really ???? Ima go from being a fluffy mofo to a damn alcoholic if this continues.... Not really. Dont flip.
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Hi Mary, Don't lose faith - we didn't gain all the weight all at once, it took a long time to get on us, so be patient and pat yourself on the back for losing 30 pounds!! I would second the comments that you need to make sure you are getting enough calories - if not your body will go into starvation mode and hold onto weight...What is your fill history?? So here the answer to the question you asked!! (I'm 51): Breakfast: yogurt with nuts (that gets me 30+ grams of protein) (I really stay away from liquid Protein like shakes because they don't leave me feeling full like food does) Lunch: a salad w/dressing or 2 slices of turkey, or a hamburger patty (no bread), or a can of tuna with 1 T of mayo Dinner: Beef, pork or chicken breast (usually can only eat 1/2), 1 cup of salad with dressing. When I snack I will have nuts, chips, fruit, but at my current fill level I'm so restricted I seem to be eating my meals for 1-1.5 hours! I take 2-4 bites, get the feeling of being so full, I have to stop for 15 min. before I can eat more. I "cheat" with chocolate, chips, alcohol and carnitas (pork) tacos ! Again, I'm so restricted that even if I do "cheat" it's a very small amount. I exercise 5 days a week on average - on cardio days I do 30-50 min. on strength days I do the machines for 20 min. then cardio for 20 min. Hang in there :w00t:- NSV's and giving yourself credit for what you've accomplished can help put things in perspective. All the best,
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I waited a month and have no problem with anything non carbonated...but my Dr didn't say no alcohol... It's just a matter of useless calories.
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so I know that you can have like a glass of wine a day, basically just keeping it down to a minimum, but, just wondering how soon do you think it's safe to have a glass of wine (for example). I got banded on the 13th. I should call my doc but, just thought I should ask you guys!
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Everyone have a Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful for this community you and I are part of. I avoid food-holidays like a recovering alcoholic avoids Octoberfest so today on Thanksgiving I'll be hiking in the forest with loved ones who share and support my vision for wellness. After the hike we will grill a wild salmon and vegetables outdoors. I'll give great thanks for an active, healthy life, pain-free at goal-weight after years being opiate-addicted for chronic back and knee pain with morbid obesity. Who needs a Big Meal? Not me! Life IS my Big Meal! As you sit down to whatever Big Meal awaits you today give some thought to this question.... What is the metaphorical Big Meal in your life? What grand table are you being invited and challenged to join by your Weight Loss Surgery journey? Maybe it is to live a longer, healthier life to enjoy friends and family. Maybe it is to inspire others who suffer morbid obesity to believe they can be healthy again or to teach your kids to have a healthier relationship with food from the beginning of their lives. Whatever your Big Meal is, consider if the meal you will sit down to later today moves you closer to that vision or further away. Whether you choose to eat carefully or splurge later today do it mindfully, consciously and with compassion for yourself. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!
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I hear you. It has been so hard fo rme lately. I ate on of those big reese's cups yesterday, but luckily it was at the same time I was developing the stomach flu so now I don't think I want chocolate for while. If you are really, really addicted, then you need to be like the alcoholic. Have none. Not the diet chocolate or the power bars or anything else. It is a slipperly slope that you can't afford to go down.
