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hiya homecare:smile: being honest i am not too bad and as i said before my only worry is he cant do the surgery for some reason..that would just be disastrous:sad: been on the pre op since week past thursday no alcohol and trying to stay on low fat low sugar foods,had a treat last night though .....had a pizza:tongue_smilie: yeh my partner and son are coming over with me for moral support so just hope it all goes to plan. roll on thursday will probably catch up with you in the hotel the night before the big op? got an email from Frederik about the taxi etc and he will visit my room at 2100hrs approx to collect the cash and give me some more info. lets just think posititve!

Hi Freckles and mmm Thanks for your support girls - it is much appreciated and its nice to know we all care about each other on this journey. I started my low fat diet on Tuesday. I was going to follow the BOSPA diet that Tropical Lagoon did but I thought it was a bit restrictive for me to follow without cheating. I have just been watching the fat content in the food I have been eating and have had smaller portions. I also didn't have an alcoholic drink (vodka and coke is my tipple) until Friday - big achievement for me - not that I'm an alcoholic just yet mind you:wink2: I got weighed on Friday and I had lost 5 pounds already, so it seems to be working:thumbup: You just go and enjoy your holiday Freckles, have a final blow out, there is very little if no fat in most alcoholic drinks so don't worry. Anyway you have plenty of time to diet when you get back. Have your x-rays arrived by snail mail yet? A week tomorrow and I will be off to Belgium - blood pressure permitting:mellow:. Aww bless you mmm I am excitied too but I'm also very nervous. When I get back it wont be long for you, February 13th isn't it? Then it will be my turn to get excited for you :-) Freckles, when my husband is away at work I don't have much of a life either. I only go out on a Friday night with my friends. Nothing special we just have a chin wag and binge drink - lol. I suppose that will all have to stop after the 27th:ohmy:. Well must go another carrot stick is waiting - yeh right:lol: T x Hope Gillian, bigsister and wishfull are doing ok - sending my best wishes girls xxx

GOOD ALMOST AFTERNOON LADIES !!! I have been up since 7 a.m. (well the smoke alarm went off at 5 a.m. need new batteries i guess as there was no fire ) I have read the paper - done 3 loads of wash - cleaned my room, closet and bathroom (hairspay on mirrors - counter tops -floors ugh- but gotta look cute)- Ironed - (done all between 7 - 11) Then got online - answered Phyl's email - then had a message from someone named ellen about the band - then Cheryl about the flabby skin issues for us older ppl and all that took 1 hour I finally made it here... Peaches - I like catfish the most - it is less fishy than salmon - don't get me wrong I like fishy (or should I say strong foods - I like lamb too) and it's soft - I bake it with evoo salt pepper and garlic - or top it with Parmesan cheese - or salsa. I love it I eat it most nights... Sounds like you had a lot of fun - what a great DH :thumbup: and you had a special weekend - I give you a pass for the alcohol :biggrin: cuz for us who drink - special occasion are drinking occasions :biggrin: and you don't do it every day - but now that you are back - watch those calories and hopefully you got some exercise (hint hint) that will help too :tt1: Nic - anyone can help you here - just post your questions and you will most likely get 4 or 5 responses from us lucky #7's - as Karri said WE ARE THE BEST THREAD on this website - we have had like 9000 post - but we have had 138,000 people viewing our thread - what's that tell you Ok gang - I am alive and well - but I need to do some Target & Walgreen shopping and may be hit Home Depot (a new one open down the street and we even have signal lights now - i am really getting up town) So will ck back later ----:tt2::tt2::tt2::tt2:

Cathy first take a deep breathe. Take a few more. Now list out all the things you can control. If you can control them, how do you do that? Next look at all the things you can't control. Those things you need to let go. OK so let's get started. Take the house sale first. Can you control it? No. Can you take some positive steps to do all you can do about selling the house? yes. OK now list out what you can do. Work the list. Go to the next item, etc. Take it from a control freak - you can only control so much. The rest you have to let go. It sounds like your plate is very full right now. Remember you can be of no help to anyone if you don't take care of yourself. It's sounds selfish sometimes, but you need to take care of YOU. After that, the children. However, there you can only do so much. Now about those M&Ms ...... They are your substitute for not being in control. I know that one too. Each of us has our "M&M" that help us get through the rough times. Each of us struggles with that. We all need to find something else to give us comfort when we are not in control. For some they turn to exercise. Others alcohol. Others shopping. Find something that allows you to take deep breaths (time) so the "need" diminishes and we can go back to positive actions. I say all of this for my own sake as well. I go crazy when things are not in my control and always in the past turned to food. I haven't found the perfect substitute as yet, but I'm working on it. When all else fails I go to bed. SOmetimes going to bed early prevents me from snacking. We're here for you. Let us know how we all can help.

My Dr strongly reccomended a glass or two of wine a day. He said to hell with empty calories red wine is very good for your stomach, digestive tract, and many other things. He also said I could drink other kinds of alcohol once in a while if I wanted.

oooh...BMAN!! DO TELL!!! Who was the lucky guy? Let me ask you...since you and I seem to be the partiers in the group (along w/Nat)....do you eat when you drink?? I'm having a hard time w/that b/c I don't want to get too drunk so I tend to eat when I'm drinking alcohol to soak up the alcohol, which I know a) alcohol is bad to begin with but then eating and drinking w/in an hour of each other is bad too, so I'm a BAAAAAD Bandster lately!! Guess I'm getting what I deserve...no weight loss! :-(

Yea to Laura on the surgery plans....and Heather, my sincerest condolences.... Liquor I believe stays pretty good....at least real alcohol, like whiskey, vodka etc....wines, syrupy stuff that stuff doesn't seem to keep...I cleaned out our liquor cabinets a few weeks ago...moral of the story, buy big halg gallon/liters of booze when you are young....we have bought some of these on our cruises/trips and we do not drink that much anymore, not like in our 20's-30's....still trying to get the nerve to open some Bailey's that is unopened but in cabinet for a while....it would be really sad if Bailey's made me meet my demise....

Hang on to it Tracy, I'll call you from the rally to discuss your options!!! Off to lunch...wish me luck. nice lady, but I don't handle alcoholics and their drama too well.....

I'm alive!! So throughout the night I had about 8 shots of baileys & Midori (melon liquor) I was expecting to be way more effected then I was? I think it's a fairly soft alcohol ... So my cheap date idea didn't pan out hahaha .... I can't drink vodka & sprite (carbonation) I don't like beer & wine ... I'll see how I feel the next few days and try another kind of shot next time. You aren't supposed to drink because of stomach mucus still repairing itself (not sure what that does) ... So I'll just see how I feel the next few days before I venture out again - thanks for caring! x

When I asked my doctor about alcohol, he said, "I'd wait 2 or 3 weeks". I am over 3 weeks out and haven't had any wine yet, but I hope to for 4th of July. While I am not a lush, the past few weeks sure have made me recognize how much eating and drinking plays a role in social events. Because I chose not to tell anybody about this surgery, I pretty much have isolated myself for the past couple of weeks. I can not wait to rejoin the world where I can sip on a glass of wine and dine with my friends again! (In moderation) Cheers!

Hey all - need some advice from me fellow nearly-theres: I have not lost any weight since Christmas and have possibly even gained 3 lbs. Now it is true that I have been struggling with bad foods, there have been doughnuts, snickers, and alcohol (oh my), but even with all that, my calories almost never top 12-1500. Even on the day when I have had a doughnut my calories are at 1200, with carbs no greater than 50. I have a lot of people, friends and strangers, comment on my exercise habits. They are all like, "wow, you work out a LOT". Which got me to thinking, yeah, you know, I DO work out a lot. So, WTF, where are the results? Five days a week I work out, and I do all the stuff you are supposed to do - change it up, cardio, don't let my body get used to a routine, Water, blahblahblah. I run over a mile a day now, do yoga twice a week, dance tango twice a week, lift weights, strength training, eat high Protein... How could my 5'3" body "want" to be at 170 pounds?? How?!! =(

At my last NUT class, the gal talked about avoiding sugar alcohols, they're found in gum, among other things. She said that they can cause the same issues as eating something that has too much sugar...upset stomach, vomiting, etc. Here's a link to an article about them... http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_articles.asp?id=948 This could be why your pouch feels too full after gum..

Hi! I am being selfish with my time again... I saw the doc for my check up. I've lost 17.5 pounds in the past 6 weeks! I'm down to 236, and my surgeon is very proud of me! He said that for a LB patient, I've done extremely well! My goal is to be under 200 by December 14. That's 37 pounds away! He was reluctant to give me another adjustment, but I talked him into another tweak. He doesn't want me in the "red zone" - where I'm too tight that I can't eat anything but soft foods and junk. I know that eating well and exercising is the way to go. Steph- so good to see you! When you're ready to get back to basics, you'll resume your weight loss efforts! I'm so glad to hear that you're happy with yourself right now! that rocks. Elle - if you look at the tickers on the site, you'll see various losses from the group. Our success comes from doing our part. That means exercising and eating sensibly. We splurge on alcohol, desserts and snacks, but we'd all admit that our weight drops when we leave those things alone. No, the success rate for LB patients didn't deter me. Good luck with your decision! B'man - posting pics tonight. I know there's more I wanted to reply to, I just need to get DS taken care of. We are going for a walk (hopefully another hour) and then I'll be back. It took the doc 2 tries before he found my port. I have needle anxieties! He said I have 9.5cc's in my band and it holds about 11cc's. So I am hoping to be at my "sweet spot" now. I go back December 13 for my 1 year check up. It's taken me 60+ pounds but I finally feel like I'm losing weight! *laugh* My scale is in the storage closet for now, and I won't see it again until my b'day. (over 2 weeks away) I'm hoping to be 224 by then. It's 12 pounds... *laugh* I totally feel like I can do that! 12 pounds in 20 days. Uh huh... K. I did 2 hours of cardio last night. I was in a ZONE! I'm going to take DS for a walk now, and hopefully do another hour on the elliptical when I get home. Later kids! Nat

Brandi - have a good weekend! Try to relax and remember you'll get through the worst of it and be back to normal before too long. I ate horribly last night! I broke all my rules! I ate chips, cookie, more chips and popcorn. I was over 1300 calories. I felt like a binge eater - I know WAY less then I normally would. But I knew I was tight and as far as my meals went I did fine, well under 900 cal. but then I was at the track meet and dd had nacho/cheese - I ate half of them, then she had cookies so I ate one of them, then she had chips so I ate half of her bag, she looked at me and said mom stop it you're gonna make yourself sick. I said the bad thing about it is this stuff just melts in the band and doesn't bother me at all. So I get home and I start rummaging through the cupboards, I ended up eating a little bag of fritos and some popcorn. I feel like an alcoholic who just fell off the wagon! I know in the past I couldve ate 3000 calories easily and 1300 isn't as bad as I'm feeling right now but it just makes me so mad that I just get a fill, I want the scale to move and then I pull this crap. Sorry for the vent... have a nice weekend - I'm off to walk the dreadmill.

Well Beth, I hope for you a good weigh in tomorrow. Hope poor kitty gets to feeling better soon. You won't believe what I done tonight for the very first time since being banded. I lost it. I got really nervous, with this health stuff and why I just don't quit worrying is beyond me, then our son who is almost 19 has really been a handful lately and I won't even go into that but I just spazzed out. I started eating everything I could get my hands on. I even popped open a coke for the first time in 5 months. I have been like a drug addict or alcoholic that falls off the wagon. I'm sure I didn't do too much damage but that just shows that even though I'm losing weight, mentally I'm no better with weight control than I was before. I guess we all falter at one time or another and tonight was my night. Oh lord, I've got to do better tomorrow. Hope everyone is having a good week. Talk to all soon,

Thanks for the laugh, Laura. I needed it today. Honestly I have been having the same problem but haven't spoken to a gyno yet. I was kind of hoping it would resolve itself over time and I could spare myself that discussion, lol. I am happy that you are getting your revision soon. I appreciate everyones condolences. It is nice just to be able to write it out and get responses . . . I am too sensitive on the subject to talk about it but writing works well. Speaking of alcohol, it may have been more than two years since I have drank anything but I still have a liquor cabinet (although I wasn't shy about yummy virgin margaritas during pregnancy). I wonder if that stuff is any good anymore, lol.

"Let's get excited"? Sorry, that's just not me. I'm quite serene. I'm the calm in the eye of the storm. My wife is more worked up about this than I am. I didn't even sweat when I started teaching my daughter how to drive a few weeks ago. I saw the surgical coordinator today and we confirmed my June 5th date and arrival time. He told me that despite the paperwork I'd been given by the hospital's nutritionist, my doctor only requires a day and a half of liquid diet before the surgery, so I'll get to have a Sunday brunch as my food funeral. No alcohol though He hold me I can have a drink tonight if I want, but that's it. He made it clear that the doctor expects my post-op regimen to be two weeks of liquids, two weeks of puree and two weeks of soft foods. I'm prepared for that, I guess. As for vitamins, he gave me a few samples of Bariatric Fusion Pink Lemonade Stick Packs, then I ordered a box of 60 from Amazon when I got home. I'll also have to grind up my regular pills (Lipitor, etc.) and add the powder to that as well. If the taste is horrible I'll add half a stick of Wyler's Lemonade Singles to Go. I also learned that my doctor recommends being off work for 4 to 6 weeks after surgery. I'm glad I've got a very good disability policy through my company.

Good Evening Gang... Candice - LOL O'doul's - when pple try to give me a water down drink when I am drinking - i tell them put more alcohol in it - I am one of those drinkers who think they can drink all nite - cuz I use to - but again back then I had help from those things called diet pills - could drink all night and not get falling down drunk - I know you all don't think I'm as much of a drinker - not on a daily basis - but like when I go out - I can drink too much.. But I'm a fun drunk ;0) Love the $$$ saved by making ice that's cute... Hopefully pple will help you clean up - I know when my gf has a party pple are always helping clean up.. Karla - Yes you will be set free from letting go of all that junk that you are never going to have time to do... We have the same problem here in CA with # of kids in a class - I'm sure glad I don't have any kids in school.. Hugs you will survive So are you going to take a yoga class ?? Good for you... Well not much to report - back from the gym - boot camp tonite - then started my dinner - a one pot wonder - I didn't eat veggies last night so I have to get them in tonite. Tried to teach Bella to walk on a leash - but it's freaking hot - car said 119 at 6:30... Its the hottest it's been all summer - I can usualy go out at this time of nite and be ok not sweat - but tonite - hell no - we will practice more later.. Steph - How are you doing... How's Michael - is everyone ready for school to start - how's the house cleaning going Phyl - will be glad when you have regular internet - we sure do miss you.. Denise we haven't heard from you in AGES..

OMG LOST MY FREAKING POST !!!! Again shorter version Candice - I bet you $100 bucks - stay with me for 2 weeks you would lose 10 lbs !!!! The doors open... Any Time - Phyl - I think we have had the pj conversation before - it's not allowed :0) Hugs on the family medical issues... That's scary - I have 2 freinds who are in the hosptial - one stomach bleeding - the other an alcoholic (rich one) who won't quit drinking - liver issue again.. Maybe Earl is not smoking - I think it's cuz of the new car - he's watching the pennies.. You didn't have a car payment before and now you do.. So he's watching every penny... Candice - Ya sis wrote letter bitching again - not getting bank statements - she should have to co-sign every check I write (ya right) she never said to me she wasn't getting bank statements - I called the bank back in Sept - hopefully they will get a trustee - and this house being sold and I'm done - just want my $$$ for the headache I have had - and yes I have had all the headaches while she sits on her butt and writes letters... Phyl - Earl doesn't want a dog - cuz he has a cat... Get yourself a dog... He will have a whole bunch of aunts this summer :0)

Published on SelfGrowth.com (http://www.selfgrowth.com) Does it really matter why? By Stephen Hosaflook On Tuesday, July 13, 2010 - 14:03 As a recovering obese person I’m starting to question all this examining, digging, and analyzing of WHY people are obese. That there’s some deep dark secret we’re hiding that causes our obesity. Jillian Michaels of The Biggest Loser, and now her own show, Losing it with Jillian, is a big proponent of digging into people’s sordid pasts and trying to find that deep dark secret. I love Jillian, The Biggest Loser, and Losing it with Jillian. She cares and I understand what she’s trying to do. But how is understanding why, if there is a why, going to help us at that critical moment when we’re faced with that piece of apple pie a-la-mode? When it comes right down to it, we’re still going to have to make the choice. Do I eat this or not? And if I do, is it because my dad ignored me all those years ago? Or was it my mom and dad’s divorce when I was 6 years old that’s going to cause me to eat this pie and ice cream right now? What we do right now, at that critical moment of temptation, has nothing to do with what happened a hour ago, yesterday, or 20 years ago. I just don’t agree with that. Don’t get me wrong. I feel for people who’ve had horrible pasts. Do our problems weigh on us? Sure they do. We all carry tremendous burdens and hurts from the past and possibly even yesterday. People can dredge up all kinds of painful events from our past. And it might even help diagnose something. But how long are we going to use those past events as excuses for overeating or being obese? This has made me wonder how Jillian would handle me. Okay, I’ll bite for just a moment here and make public three of my own past and current troubles. Could these three things be the reasons why I’m a recovering obese person? Let’s see…here I go, #1…When I was 10 years old and in the fourth grade, it was mandatory for all fourth graders to take swimming lessons at the local High School. We had 30 kids in our class. Mrs. Gilligan was the teacher. For twelve weeks we boarded a bus every Wednesday and went to the pool to learn how to swim. At the end of the program, I was the only one in the class who didn’t learn how to swim. I was afraid of going in water over my head. Well, believe me, I was the butt of some unbelievable hazing from my classmates. Even Mrs. Gilligan let the whole class know how disappointed she was in me. That’s pretty traumatic for a ten year old, don’t you think? But I don’t think about that anymore. Well, until just now. #2…My brother was an alcoholic and passed away about a year and a half ago. To this day I harbor tremendous guilt about not doing enough to stop this tragedy… maybe not being tough enough. I enabled him, to keep the peace in the house. I thought him seeing me change would give him the will to change. It didn’t. Why didn’t I do more? This is very stressful but it’s just another thing I have to live with, and I think about it a lot. #3…Currently I'm the caregiver for my elderly ill parents. It's my role now and I fully accept it. This was the single most important reason for me retiring this past March. I put in my thirty plus years and the timing was right. I need to be home as much as possible now. But at times it feels like I'm trapped. I still do things but traveling is out of the question now. I can't go on a golf vacation like I used to, let alone be away overnight anymore. I love my mom and dad more than anything in this world...it's not their fault. Sometimes it seems unfair though. See, I'm looked at as being the "Rock" of my family. I'm the oldest and I'm expected to do everything, say all the right things, and be responsible for anything and everything. I'm never allowed say no and I can’t defend myself when people think I make a wrong or unpopular decision. Even though I’ve willingly accepted this as my responsibility and wouldn’t change it for the world, it’s still very stressful at times. Now that’s a lot of baggage, but no more and probably a lot less than some other folks have. But okay, I said it. You made me say it Jillian! You wanted to drag some baggage out of me so you can say… “Now we know why you’re fat Steve. Now we can fix you.” Sorry, I disagree. I think I’ve got this one figured out though. And no analyzing needs to be done. See, what it all boils down to is this... no matter how many horrible and traumatic events I haul out of my past or current life, I can't use any of those things as an excuse to over eat right now. As tough as those things are some days, as much of a weight as they can be on my shoulders...I cannot use them to say something like this... "It's just too much for me today and I can't handle it! Everybody laughed at me when I was 10 years old and afraid of the water. I just didn’t do enough to help my brother. I'm all alone here with no help… so I'm going to sit down, relax, and reward myself with a big bowl of ice cream because I deserve it!" When I’m sitting there staring at that bowl of ice cream or that piece of apple pie with a big scoop of vanilla ice cream on it, am I thinking about those three things? No, I’m thinking how good that stuff looks and whether I should dive into it or not. Will thinking about my baggage make me start eating it or give me the strength to throw it away? No, because I’m not thinking about my baggage at that moment. I’m just thinking about what’s sitting there in front of me. Now, if I CHOOSE to, I can use all of those things as excuses. But all I’ve really done is cooked up in my own mind a reason to justify my binge eating. See how easy it is to do? So why do I want to think about why? It’s tough enough to say no to that garbage in the first place. In my humble opinion, we all do what we really want to do. Past or current experiences can’t make us do anything. Cruel and uncaring people from a day ago or 30 years ago can’t make us do anything. We make our own choices right now and we do exactly what we want to do right now. It doesn’t matter why we choose to do it…we just choose to do it. How decisive are we? Are we committed or are we just involved. “Want to be decisive? Start by deciding to live. Getting dead is mandatory, living is a conscious choice.” Now, both of those things are decisive, but only one is mandatory. Do we decide to give up...or do we decide to fight? I found that particular quote while I was looking for one I could use to explain the commitment needed to achieve our weight loss and maintenance goals. This is a pretty cool one too about a chicken and a pig and breakfast. Here it is... “The chicken was involved in creating your breakfast; the pig was committed.” That raises a couple of questions...Are we committed to our goals? Or just involved with them? And what excuses are we using to stop us? I heard a new one today… “My food addiction is an inherited family behavior.” Are you kidding me? When is this madness going to stop? Face it, we're all here because we want to lose weight and keep it off. Knowing what we want and how we think we can achieve it is having a strategic vision. That’s helpful, even necessary, but not enough for success. We can have a vision without commitment; that’s called a dream. Not even involvement is enough to make dreams come true… we have to be committed. We have to be willing to do whatever it takes. We have to be willing to commit our soul to this task. The problem with this sometimes is not everyone will understand or appreciate our focus. There will be those who "try" to give us an out. Or those who'll even be jealous of our commitment to success. Some may even fear we're leaving them behind so they'll lay a guilt trip on us. These are things we can use as excuses too. This is upsetting for many of us because we really do want to succeed. If you're like me, you'll even want to take those family members and friends by the hand and say to them... "Come with me, we'll all be successful together." They may not be ready yet, but that shouldn't stop us. We can't let that stop us! Whatever it is you like to use as an excuse, break free from that. I battle using my guilt and anger as excuses. And when I do, I have to make a conscious choice...am I really committed or am I just involved? Am I willing to be the pig and commit all? Will I risk being called a name or two, or allow a guilt trip to be laid on me in order to get what I really want? Or will I just be an involved excuse making chicken? Author's Bio 53 year old retired school custodian 4 time loser of 100 pounds or more Author of soon to be published book... LION UNLEASHED: A Journey of Weight Lost and Courage Found Fulltime caregiver for elderly ill parents Owner of weightloss and maintenance website... http://www.lionunleashed.com I'm not a doctor, nutritionist, dietician, certified physical trainer, or psychologist. I'm an average Joe. I've battled weight issues my whole life and I just want to help save at least one other person's life, like someone helped save mine. All I can offer is my personal lifelong experiences and my personal plan of taking off the weight and trying to keep it off. There are many ways to get from point A to point B. My way is just one in a thousand. The important thing is to find YOUR way and stick to it. My site and my book are dedicated to helping all my obese brothers and sisters who battle weight loss and maintenance issues every single day. Together we can do it. Source URL: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/does-it-really-matter-why

Ladies, if you buy only one appliance this year, I have the one you need...a steam mop!!! ShopKo had them for half off so I splurged and got one. OMG, my floors feel so good!!!! Just make sure you buy extra pads, because when you are part way done, you are going to want to change. It even takes caked on hairspray off the bathroom floor. Now understand I probably haven't mopped my floor since January. But it is fabulous!!! Little homework tonight, yeah!! Found out an old neighbor of mine has been moved to a constrant care facility and the family never told me. I found out she has been in the facility 1 1/2 blocks away from my house. So I stopped by and visited. Unfortunately she has dementia, but remembered who I was. Got me mixed up with my girls once in awhile. But I am so glad to know she is near by. I use to go over every week and give her shots, have coffee, and do any chores that she couldn't do. With last year being such a wreck I lost touch...my fault. Now maybe I can take her out for coffee once in awhile or have her over. I'll have to check with the family before hand thought. Hope you all have a good evening. Janet, what work out is tonight? Phyl, enjoy your visit. Candice, hopefully you found alcohol!!!

Good Evening Gang.. Linda you are too nice - I'm called the Simon Cowell of LBT ;0) Welcome MSampson - Congrats on your 79 lbs gone !!! Yep dear it's all about eating healthy - that the key - diets don't work - that's so very true !!! You have to eat healthy and exercise.. As Linda said - being too tight cause us to eat sliders that are usually higher in calories. Go back to the basic = Google the 5 day pouch test - it's liquids like for 2 days then soft for a day or 2 then back to regular - I haven't ever done it - but a few pple have - For the 1st year - I kept a food/exercise diary (I counted calories 800-1200 daily and varied them)- I weighed and measured my foods (for the first few month) I still pull out the scale for somethings even today. Always eat your protein 1st - then veggies - then starch if you do have any room Make sure you eat low fat - limit starches - and mostly sugar free.. I still eat off dessert plate and use small spoon and fork.. Get out and walk - start slow then every couple of weeks increase your speed and distants - I lost the majority of my weight my walking on the treadmill - lost the last 30 by weight training and treadmill. I still weight train and now am into classes at the gym - boot camp - yoga - pilos - for the last couple of weeks I have been to the gym 5-6 days.. Yep I have my food demons - I will be physically full - but my brain wants more food - Sugar is my heroin - I eat mostly sugar free - but every now and then I want a reeses peanutbutter cups - - well in the past I would buy a bag of candy and eat it all in one night - now - I buy 1 candy bar and no more.. I don't keep foods in my house that I can't say no to - why that's self sabotage.. We are food addicts... You wouldn't leave a bottle of booze on the counter if you were an alcoholic.. I eat the same way I did when I 1st got my band - I am not dieting - I eat healthy food - I eat tons of fish (known for being the fish queen) I eat veggies every meal and I will save my starches for nights when my will power is the lowest.. I eat an ice cream almost every night - it's a sugar free fudgescile or sf pudding I budget my calories to compensate for when I am the hungriest (night) I'm attaching a sample menu.. You can do this - you just have to make up your mind that you want to get healthy (our brains are where are real problems w/food lies not our stomachs) You deserve a healthy life - you deserve to take care of you - You need to love yourself - and that doesn't mean killing your self w/food cuz that's how you love yourself - we all have been there - food is our comfort - it's our love - it's our reward for taking care of everyone else.. So Pull up the bootstraps - the past is the past - can't change it - but you do have control over what you put in you mouth - So starting right now - get rid of the junk in the house (throw it away - or give it to your local shelter) sit down make a menu - shop for the foods on that menu - count calories read the labels - get out and walk - and when you want to eat get on lbt post - go clean out a drawer - get up and distract yourself - And I bet you in 1 week you will come back and tell us the scales are moving in the right direction.. Sample Menu.doc

Guilty ! Lol that's me, just trying to get as much information as possible as I think of things. It's really not that big of a deal for me, I'm 99% of the time the DD and prefer to drink water because of the high calorie content of alcohol and it always puts me up a couple of pounds. The only time I would actually miss it would be on a vacation.

Honestly ( and I don't think this particularly applies to the OP's husband as he obviously has addiction issues himself), I wonder how so many of us can consider our problem with food an addiction type of problem, yet fail to recognize that part of any addiction recovery is the acknowledgement of how our addiction has damaged and hurt the quality of life of those we love. This can come in the form of not being able to do the things we enjoy to robbing the people we love of a person who was once fun and vivacious or at least not as obsessive about food nor living a lie of shame. I don't think it should surprise anyone, male or female, that if we were a certian person when we met them and then ceased to even resemble that person, emotionally and physically to expect their feelings for us to remain the same no matter what. We have a responsibility here, as we did this to ourselves and to fail to take responsibility for that fact whether a relationship survives this transformation or not is to fail to take the opportunity for growth and a failure to bury for good one of the excuses we gave ourselves in the first place. It is patentedly unfair to cry "Unfair!" about this. People love to say "But what about the vows?!". Well, aren't the vows valuable both ways? Nobody says that in the case of alcoholism or sex addiction or drug abuse or even anorexia. Why would it apply only for overeating/food addiction? I think part of keeping our own vows is keeping ourselves as someone who they can be attracted to and someone who CARES about themselves. I think every person here who is doing something about their weight is making a very lovable statement about themselves. But I wonder how many have actually apologized to their spouses for letting themselves get that way in the first place?

As a girl, pre-surgery, there was a time when I could polish off a large thick crust, extra cheese, super supreme pizza from Piggy Pies. It was NOT my finest hour. Also, have you ever lived with or had an alcoholic in your family, who hid booze? My grandfather had unopened pints of booze hidden everywhere in his house. Is it staged? Or not? I can't answer that--I'm not a producer. But I do believe this happens in real life--even if the show is a dramatization. You're entitled to your opinion. I actually love this doc. So to each his or her own. (side note: it IS interesting that I don't remember ever talking to you before and you come in and comment here suddenly out of the blue -- you don't have any stats posted beyond your low low post and like count. LOL. So why not take a minute and go fill out your profile and signature ticker so we can get to know you better?)