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Am I A Success or Failure?
lwilliams65 replied to NotANewbie's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I'm sorry you are struggling with an alcohol problem sweetie but you shouldn't have to hide who you are for fear of judgement. If "we" judge you than you shouldn't take advice from us anyways. I understand being embarrassed or feeling like you failed but YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Consuming that much alcohol that often is very dangerous. Part of the reason we all get surgery is because we want to be healthy. It's not worth it love to get surgery and lose all that weight if you are just going to pick up something else that's just as dangerous. I think if you went to therapy it would really help you, quite frankly I think the whole world needs therapy lol. But the reason I say therapy is because maybe there is an underlying issue that you aren't even aware of. I'm going to school to be a drug and alcohol counselor so I'm actually learning about all this. If you ever need to talk you can private message me and I WILL NOT judge you. Sometimes people don't even know what's bothering them or drawing them to have an addiction until they start talking to someone they can trust and then it all spills out. -
Am I A Success or Failure?
Shawn Morrison replied to NotANewbie's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Find a good support system. I couldn't have ever given up my own drug and alcohol addictions without my wife's strong influence. That also means not hiding your issue. That is exactly what your addiction wants you to do, hide it. That way no one can say "HEY STOP" because they don't know. Talk to people about it, tell everyone that you know is a safe and supportive person about your problem and enlist them to help you with it. This is a very real fight and you team an army not just yourself. Good luck it can be fixed. -
Am I A Success or Failure?
HatheryOnHerWay replied to NotANewbie's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I think a lot of us with weight problems have addictive personalities. If it's not food we go to for comfort, it's something else. Sometimes it can be healthy like drugs or alcohol, and sometimes people are able to transfer to a healthy addiction like exercise. I definitely think you should speak with an addiction therapist that can help you figure things out. I think we can all relate to how you're feeling. -
Am I A Success or Failure?
Healthiernewme replied to NotANewbie's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Like people keep saying ... this surgery is not on your head. We all have problems we deal with. Now that you don't have food to fall back on, you are focusing on something else. Now is the time to get some help to work thru why you have turned to alcohol. Sure, everyone here can offer advice, but what you need to do is put in the work and go get the help you need. I pray that you look for and find help. Get to the root of the problem. -
I find that I can eat anything in TINY bites. I had half a slice of ice cream cake when my daughter turned 18. I found that cake and ice cream go down so easily that I have to make a conscious decision to only have a little. I do go out to restaurants. Sometimes I just order an appetizer for my meal and still have leftovers. As for alcohol, I have no clue since I'm not a drinker. I never really acquired a taste for alcohol. Just remember, everything in moderation.
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You can have anything in moderation if that is what works best for you. I am still losing (close to goal).and have cake occasionally - a very small slice for birthdays weddings etc. Same goes for ice-cream but its easy to eat a lot of so its a trap ... I go out to eat frequently and I usually just order an entree or appetiser or a Soup that is mainly Protein. Waste of money though as I never even finish half. I like to order platters with my partner that we both share so people who dont know I have had surgery dont pick up on the fact I have eaten next to nothing. And alcohol is different for everyone but for me its the same as before except I sober up quicker and the hangovers are terrible! I drink a lot less these days but when I do I like to go a bit crazy.
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I just took the shame out of this choice!
ainsworth1 commented on SqueakyWheel&Ethyl's blog entry in Squeaky Wheel & Ethyl's Blog
Oh my word amazing words!! And so true. I stopped telling people after some huge negativity!! I was weak.. Cheating.. all I need is willpower!! And a good gym! Ha if only my eating habits were that easily controlled!! I was looking into amphetamine based appetite suppressants (with the risk of all the major side effects) and I was like "Rachel what are you doing?!!"" I encountered one person yesterday ( I told my 3 closest friends here) I felt I had to as we eat out so much and knew they would be suspicious. 2 of my friends said how brave I was.. Very encouraging. The other one said not one single word & tried to change the subject!! I am still shocked & upset by this. We sleevers are brave and committed to giving up something we had a relationship with all our lives! We have made a decision to break an unhealthy habit which would eventually give us heart disease... Diabetes.. High blood pressure etc! How can this be the easy way out?!! It's not. I was also a daily consumer of alcohol (2 glasses every night!!) I am not missing this & I have never gone 4 weeks without! So I agree whole heartily that we are very very brave & it's not the cheats way out!! -
Just wondering after my weight loss period can I eat cake on my wedding day? Can I have ice cream every once in a while? Do any of you guys go out to eat? What does alcohol do to you?
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May Challenge-May Flowers
corona518 replied to lisaholland73's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Name, real or screen~ Lindsay Goal weight for May 31st~ 207 Weight on May 1st~ 214.8 Age~ 30 (31 on May 18g Dietary goal for May~ vacation and 4 birthdays including my own so keep to moderation on alcohol! Exercise goal for May~ 3x per week Personal goal for May~ get more sleep Date banded~ 13 oct 2012 Total weight loss since banding/pre op diet~ appx 58.5 lbs Favorite Springtime Flower daffodil -
I haven't posted on this site in so long, nor have I been active on the boards, and it's not only because of finals, papers, projects, and my thesis, but because I feel guilty. I haven't worked out in over a month. My diet? Completely out the window. I've eaten pasta a few times and potatoes. I got stuck with a giant box of left over candy from a school project and ate a lot of it. The scale went up to 231, but now it's back down to 224. I'm not taking my supplements like I should and I still haven't gotten my blood work done because I haven't been home. My hair loss is still going on but it's not that bad. No one can even notice and some days I can't either. Recently, I went out drinking, and let's say getting used to the lower body weight and the fact that liquid goes right through your stomach is a nightmare for consuming way too much alcohol and having nothing to throw up. So I learned my lesson the hard way. I shouldn't even be drinking anyway, but I'm young and graduation is around the corner. I just need to limit myself to one or two drinks. I've been so blessed to be able to have this surgery and I feel like I'm wasting it. I'm so busy with school work, but once it's all over, next week my butt is getting back to the gym and this time it will be for good because my home gym is so much better than my school's gym. I'm more comfortable there! I really wanted to hit that 50 pound loss for graduation on the 20th this month, but it might be possible the week before graduation to lose a few pounds to get close. I also have my 55 mile bike ride with my dad, and I think it's going to really test me because I'm out of shape again. (Heh, maybe I've never been in shape) but we're taking our time and spreading it out over two days. So that's what's been going on in my life. I hope everyone is doing well.
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Never got a list to avoid except for carbonated beverages (for good) and alcohol (a year). Basically was told that high fatty food and overly sugary foods may cause some nausea. So far, both have caused me to be a bit queasy, but nothing terrible. I did have a problem with eggs right after surgery which is common. But that has since gone away. I pretty much can eat what ever I want, but smaller quantities.
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Tips to fight off craving and over eating needed
Globetrotter replied to Zen's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I cannot keep any snacks in the house, not even semi-responsible ones like peanut butter or cheese I also cannot keep cash lying around or change because I will find myself - almost against my will - using cash and change at work for the vending machine Until I get a few years at goal/maintenance under my belt I guess I am still like the fragile alcoholic who can't be around any reminders at first ... -
Losing will power fast
dfdscott replied to dfdscott's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Thanks everyone I appreciate the support more than you'll know. My wife noticed my bad mood and asked so I told her I felt like a recovering alcoholic babysitting friends at a bar supping a water. She understood and cuddled so doing a bit better now. I ate about a teaspoon of creamy peanut butter and that seemed to stop the cravings -
All Dr. Garcia's Sleeved Patients, Please Give Your Weightloss Amounts And Timeframes.....thanks!
muffintop replied to Diamondeyed's topic in Mexico & Self-Pay Weight Loss Surgery
Six months was just yesterday. Started out 220, now 153. It's 68 lbs down. I can eat just about anything except salmon. I do also have alcohol which slows my weightloss. I do miss my taste buds but am glad of my decision! And when I say eat anything, I mean like two or three bites, excellent restriction! -
Old Habits Die Hard...
MsVictorious1020 replied to MsVictorious1020's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Hello! And Amen. That's exactly my point! If you want to sabotage yourself...fine! But don't come on a "support" forum telling others what they can get away with bc you decided to do what you wanted. After all we are all food addicts of some sorts and this is a disease. Most of the battle is mental. I equate this to a drug/alcohol addiction support group. If one of the substance abuse patients said openly in a group I used and I'm fine so you should too they would be kicked straight out! So cheating stages or instructions shouldn't be encouraged here either. And that doesn't make me holier than thou. That makes me self aware of my challenges and addiction. It means I'm committed to my recovery and lifelong battle with this horrible disease. -
The thought of eating fast food makes me sick.
Cazzy replied to WrenBird's topic in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums
I totally agree Lee, losing the amount of weight we did required a massive amount of self denial and re-adjustment to eating. I do understand that fast food has become such an issue that its almost up there addiction wise to drugs/alcohol/cigs etc. I am in maintenance mode so i do allow myself the odd moment of home cooked treats like a fruit cake, or home baked oat Cookies but i control the calories and the ingredients, it is mainly made only with wholewheat flour, there is no fat added or extra sugar so i dont feel food like this is addictive or harmful, i make any recipe i cook as healthy as possible, it seems to work for me and taste much better than anything i can buy in the shops. -
January 2013 Post Op
ready2smile replied to ready2smile's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
You started out lower than me Marla. I've noticed I have to fight for each oz and it's getting harder and harder. I worry I will stop losing, but I'm not giving up. I was on vacation for 4 days, didn't track and I know I didn't get in half my protein or water, but I can tell that even though I drank alcohol, (which wasn't a good idea) I ate less food, smaller portions, and made healthier choices than I did last year there. That's my NSV and now i'm back to tracking and exercising, upping my protein and water. -
I'm almost 15 months out and had 85% of mine removed. The only way to stop physically craving those bad foods is to detox. Just like with drugs or alcohol. You have to rebalance your blood sugar by eliminating all those foods that either contain sugar or transform into sugar. That is really a big factor in why we lose hunger in the beginning, not just that our stomachs have been severely reduced inside. The mental issue is a different story. We have a doctor who comes to our monthly support group who is the most knowledgable person on the subject of weight I have ever met. He told us how researchers have used functional MRI brain scans to show how some foods, even just the smell or thought of them, lights up the same neuro-pathways as heroin does in an addict. That's astounding! I always knew food was addictive, now fortunately there is scientific proof! Obesity is an addiction and in my opinion, you will have far greater success if you treat it like one. The psychological aspect is so important! http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/04/04/food.drug.addiction.same.to.brain/index.html
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Jealous! I'm 4 weeks out and my surgeon's instructions say no alcohol for a year...maybe next summer!
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Old Habits Die Hard...
No game replied to MsVictorious1020's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
We are all of us fat, super fat I might add. How did we get here? Because we became powerless over food and our addiction to it. I will say I followed my doctors orders. But I am not surprised when I see someone come here looking for an "enabler". As an alcoholic will look for another drink or a drug addict will look for another fix even if it can mean the chance of death. A food addict will look for a way to get a meal. Some do better than others. But I know all of us go into it wanting to do better. I will not judge I will listen, understand and try to guide. If the person truly does not want what I have to offer, then at least I tried. I will then move on to the next person that does. I know it can get frustrating, there are times when I just want to tell someone "ok you know best, go ahead and eat that pizza at one week out" But really I have my own recovery to deal with and I can't help save someone who's not ready to save themselves. -
3 years out, need too loose some again......but how?
bookleen replied to johan22's topic in Post-op Diets and Questions
Hi tdriver, Welcome back. I am almost in the same position as you....only a little worse. I never got all the way to goal and then gained approx 7 lbs during the last 18 months. I have 20 lbs to lose, and hope to do this for Christmas 2013. I am hoping to tidy up my act and follow the rules properly and hopefully that will do the trick. I am hoping not to go back to the liquid phase but rather drop some careless habits, e.g. cut out alcohol, never drink within an hour of eating, and take a protein drink every day. My diet is otherwise healthy and I am hoping these small changes will make a difference. I will give these a try for 1 month to see. Best of luck with what you decide to do. Bookleen -
According to your DOS, you are about 2.5 months post op. How does the carbonation in the beer feel to your sleeve? Does it go down ok or do you get tight in the chest? I had my first post op white wine at month 6. today I can enjoy a long island, but only one. i have a drink about every 2-3 weeks when out with my brother or friends. As long as you are following the alcohol guideline of your doctor and it is not causing you pain, then kudos for you, especially if you are in part of the country where it is sizzling hot today. Not here in Seattle though. 50 f and drizzly. It was actually cold outside yesterday and I had to wear a heavy coat!
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Dating and letting them know you had surgery
CharmingTortoise replied to TapSnap's topic in Singles Forum
I guess I think of the surgery as a huge change in my life. Something that I'm sharing with family and close friends. I can't imagine not telling someone that I'm dating. When to tell them, I'm not really sure. I do wonder though if the guys she was dating were really shallow and were worried that she was going to gain weight or if it would just be too much baggage to deal with? There's a whole game show called baggage about the junk we we carry from our past. We've all got it, when you bring it up is always a huge question. When do you tell them that you have a mental illness? When do you tell them that you've got an alcoholic mother? When do you tell them that you've been divorced or have children? I think it's really all a matter of your own preferences. Tell your friend to keep trying. A respectful and worthy man who will appreciate her is out there! -
food addiction is probably similar to other addictions like drugs or alcohol, etc. Look at the 12 steps in those programs. 1) I admit I am powerless over my eating and that my life has become unmanageable. 2) I came to believe that only a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity 3) Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understood Him. When you truly embrace each step, you open yourself up to change -- you are willing to change. Step 2 says you can't do it alone, you need help from a higher power. Step 3 says you accept that you need help and are willing to get it. It seems to me that you need to fix the emotional/ mental problem not just the physical. I've been to 12 step meetings and they really helped me get rid of my addiction. Being around people who have the same issues and are getting better makes all the difference in the world. If you're truly ready to start a new chapter, you must be willing to go to any lengths to stay "sober." But don't try to do it alone.
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I just threw a napkin at my husband :(
serenity1959 replied to No game's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Maybe you can explain that to him, for many of us, the wrong foods are an addiction. And one of the hardest things about problems with food is that we can't just not eat. With cigarettes, alcohol, cocaine, what you do is completely eliminate the substance. We cannot do that.
