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@@CowgirlJane - certainly, if it was a friend razzing me for looking silly with baggy pants that's one thing. But it was the way he said it (with disgust and annoyance) and the volume he said it at (made sure plenty of other people would notice my sagging butt). Whether your customer dresses in sizes too large or too small for their body is not something one should comment on. Yes, I suppose I need to invest in a belt but I HATE belts the buckle digs in to my belly when I sit down. Any recommendations for a softer type of belt?? And indeed, it is a NSV I'm proud of! I want these big ol' pants to get TOO big so I no longer have to pay the premium plus sized cost and enjoy shopping in the normal section of the store! But at the same time, I don't think I deserve to be mocked while dealing with the awkward in-between.

Hi everyone! Haven't checked in for a while. I've taken the week off from work, and am enjoying some "me time." I think vacations at home are the best! Just wish the weather were a bit nicer. Can't get outside much because of the rain. I've come to realize that I definately need a fill. I know you guys have been telling this, but I'm pretty stubborn. I'm really not gaining (other than 2 lb fluctuations), which is amazing, but I know I'm eating too much. I did fairly well with exercise, though I needed more 40 min sessions. I think I'll keep my exercise goals the same for next month, and will schedule a fill within the next couple of weeks. I'm 37 today! Crazy! I'm so glad I decided to take care of my weight issue when I did. My mother was visiting this past weekend, and has been gaining steadily all her life. It's so hard for me watching her struggle with walking, going up stairs, and being in constant pain. She has major food issues and eats constantly - but denies she does. She is almost 57. She didn't support my surgery at first, but I think she has seen that it has been a positive thing. Maybe she will decide to do something for her health...... It's wonderful to hear of all the NSV's, and I love the positivity of this group!

Fantastic NSV! Fantastic Scale victory as well. You're rocking!

Mrs Husker; My sympathies to your family and his. Matt is with the Lord and his soul is shining from the heavens. God bless us all!! Hello Everyone, I was in North Carolina for a week and just returned. I had a FABULOUS time there. I will admit that I had some slip ups with my eating. Not that I ate a WHOLE LOT but I did eat things that I know I shouldn't have. Also, I only did one days worth of exercise and crunches. However, I can say that I did get in ALL my water and protein intake each day!! Now its back to reality and I have to get that scale moving in opposite direction. It felt good to hear people comment on weight loss. I did not think that I looked that different. I always had clear skin but I got plenty of comments on my face glowing. I had to tell people that I was not pregnant. I've missed you guys so so so so much. Although I had loads of fun, it felt weird not being able to log on an tell you guys. I'm happy to be back. I want to congratulate everyone on their NSV's :clap2: Lilnena and Demsvmejm - you guys rock. :rockon: Tammy and Thick: :wow2: You two are beautiful! What an awesome difference. OH Julie: I missed ya, girl!!!! LoriPA: Way to go on the Arthritis Walk!!! Well its time to get my butt back in gear. No more country cookin for a little while.

OH Juli - You look Marvelous! Tia - The picture of you and your daughter is precious, and I love the new do! I can really tell the difference in both of your faces. Congratulations on the NSV Kaelin's Gma! Stay strong and keep the faith everyone! We will all do this at our own pace. Our bodies (and minds) will want to revolt at various times. Working with our bands will be a learning process and will take time. I like the fact that I am losing slowly....I think it's way better for our health and skin and mental adjustment. I was talking to someone who had bypass and lost 100 lbs in 5 months......that is SO not healthy!

Thanks for the new thread. I'm excited to move my exercise ticker today! The scale isn't moving. But I've got a NSV! I'm wearing a size 24 today! I was in a 30 in January. Sure it's a bit snug, but it's on and I'm strutting. That's right.

I guess it's a NSV I kinda forgot my surgiversary. I'm 3 years post op and maintaining all of my 130 lb loss. (I do bounce up and down 4-5 lbs). Still tracking everything I eat, it keeps me in check. Walking 8 miles a day 6x a week. Completed a LBL earlier this year and getting ready for final skin removal on legs soon. Just hope those starting this journey know if I can do it ANYONE can. I stuck to my Dr's diet very strictly making all the changes lifestyle changes. I don't deprive myself now, but splurges are now occasional instead of daily. And I love that my sleeve still really restricts me. It's hard to feel guilty about 1 small piece of pizza and I'm so grateful that I'm totally satisfied after that one piece. Hopeful everyone is enjoying much success and while I don't post often, I'm always happy to help anyone in need. Feel free to reach out. I'm cheering you all on!!!! [emoji173]️[emoji173]️[emoji173]️[emoji173]️

Sorry I'm going to rant LOL I need to vent. I'm so glad I found this topic - the post weight loss treatment is REAL and it honestly is rough. I personally grapple with the idea that to society often makes me feel that I deserve less kindness when I inhabit a bigger body. I've lost a good amount of weight but in no means am I "small" and I'll never be "small", like "petit" because at the end of the day I am broad and a 6 foot tall female who often looks taller given my shoe choices. I find though that the more I slim out, the more "acceptable" society makes me feel for being a tall woman. I started this journey at 340 lbs, 6 feet, female, you best believe I come from feeling like an absolute monster but that's internalized self hatred from bullying. The only thing that should be is unhealthy, not undeserving. I'm at a place now where I look pretty average. I still have a deflated apron belly and loose cellulite on my thighs - I could stand to lose a couple more pounds and I plan to, however I now look pretty "normal". My clavicle, sternum and ribs are visible. I have a jaw line again. My upper arms are flabby but I usually cover them. My forearms and wrists are pretty slimmed out. You can feel my hip bones and see them ever so slightly from my deflated belly. The unique thing about me now is just that I am a tall girl. I was called a lot of names up until recent. I'm sure some people would still have some choice words for me lol but overall people are treating me much differently. I am in a place where I am seeing a lot of the same people I spent a lot of time with in a professional setting while I was 340 lbs. The same guys that used to talk to me about weight loss are asking me to hang out and trying to always catch a chat, but not about weight, just about me as a person and I absolutely hate it. Where was that decency a year ago? I find that as a 20 something year old female, the treatment from males has made a complete 180 turn. I'm not asking for their respect, but they're more likely and willing to give it to me with this new body. I have nightmares about men in my life (from family to flings) that I care about telling me they only like the parts of me that look thin but can't accept me because of my loose skin apron belly. This body bullshit is so engrained in my psyche, it gets deafening at times. I cannot have a healthy long term relationship because I'm constantly afraid of being rejected for being too big. I am working on it with a therapist but it still sucks. But yeah, people are just nicer and if they're not chatting me up or offering me free things or trying to invite me somewhere they're not gawking at me (which is a good baseline). I like that I feel I have more freedom with dating. I ditched the BBW apps and that was honestly an NSV for me because of all the fetishists on there, but I am still hurt by the folks who see me as a person now, and never did before all of this. Look, I know I made myself morbidly obese and I chose to get the surgery to fix my mistakes and learn a better way... but I struggle immensely with feeling like I deserve kindness given that most my life I was morbidly obese and bullied by everyone for it, friends, family, relationships etc. I know in reality it's a good thing to be treated better, but it does get to me that the shitty treatment exists in the first place. You can call me a snowflake or a p***y or whatever (scuse my French) but this is a real thing. Sorry rant oveerrr mic drop

Linkinchic its these "little" NSV's that are great you lost 12 lbs pre-op?? 20 more in the past month!!! my math says you've lost 32 lbs all together you are doing terrific!!! keep up the good job/work - while your weight goes down you are enbarking on a great new healthier, happier, longer life!!! keep up the great job/work continued luck and happiness kathy congrats

I’m also sorry to have offended you. I hope you don’t think that we don’t care or we roll our eyes (or in my case SMH) at every OP’s post, but perspective does come with experience. Like I said to the other gal, I hope you come back and participate because it’s truly a NSV to relate to this thread. Much love! ❤️

What a great NSV that formal was! I love Mardi Gras season and the balls are my very favorite part of it. Congrats on hitting Onederland!

i had to go to walmart and drag my sore knee through the store to replenish groceries after having to days of company my kids on sat and nephew and dh bro and wife and nephews family (they were unexpected) so needless to say i had to had stuff for the week and also i wanted to see how the knee would hold up 'cause i can't decide about work tomorrow don't think i can work all day 'cause the knee swells up about the size of a small melon when i am on it. but anyhow now to the neat part of the trip i saw 3 patients and one cousin that all commented on the weight i had lost YAY a NSV!!!1

a great nsv for you sunlight! Hope everyone had a great weekend, the weather was so nice for walking. I am wanting to eat soooo bad that i keep going outside to walk !

Congratulations and welcome Plain!! Most people that lose their appetite have it return in about two weeks. Some sooner, some later, but 2 weeks seems to be the reported average. Try to get in the protein you need so you want feel so tired. Stay with the post op diet, it helps. I haven't tried these test tube things everyone is talking about yet but I plan to. Sounds like a good source of protein. Hang in there. Lo2us, Congrats on the NSV, I have a feeling those pounds will start melting off soon. I can't wait to see you again. I have been pretty the last couple of weeks, and haven't been on here much. Got some catching up to do. Gotta go but HI to everybody and I'll post more later.

I usualy eat protein breakfast bar or shake in the morning. Sometimes I have runny oatmeal. Lunch is usually a tiny chefboyrdee beeferoni cup or cold cuts and cheese and maybe two crackers. Supper is a small portion of something my family is eating. Since we have a 3 year old, it's usually thin crust pizza, chicken nuggets, pasta, or chicken and veggies. NSV I got in the a regular size XL (not a women's size) pants and top today! It didn't look good, but I have NEVER had a misses XL on my body! I also got into a smaller size pants! Still not much progress on the scale, but I guess I really am losing inches. I was also able to run 4 miles at the gym today without slowing and I did 2 miles on the bike! That was a personal best for me. I started out before surgery hardly being able to get out of bed and go to the bathroom without feeling tired and sweating. It's amazing how much better I feel this far along!

yay i'm through clothes washed, house dusted, floors swept and mopped, yard mowed, flowers watered and toe broke( i stumped my toe on the door facing as i was going out the door ouch) lisa i had a NSV too i order a uniform in a size smaller than the old ones and it is too big!!! yay and you go girl in your sexy little rockies!!! glo i think i would swallow the chopped up pills instead of chewing them as long as they are little bitty pieces it should not be a problem TP how's the first day going' tjh how's thing going for you

I watched the Hamilton special last night. Since it was a beautiful fall day in central Kentucky I decided to take a road trip this afternoon to a state park and listened to my Hamilton CD all the way there and back, turned way up! This is an NSV because a year ago I could never have taken a spontaneous road trip like that!

I've learned some other abbreviations along the way. CW = current weight, SW = surgery weight, HW = highest weight, NSV = non-scale victories (like smaller clothes size). Hope this helps.

Hi Anne, You have done so many good things for yourself and are losing more than enough weight. Give yourself a break. You're doing great! As for your clueless friend... You teach people how to treat you. Teach her you won't allow people to speak to you that way. I have had this same issue with my mother. She thinks negative comments will motivate me. Now every time she says something stupid I call her on it. She doesn't even realize she's doing it half the time. Ugh! Brag about your victories. You have a lot to be proud of! In public is the worst. I was out to luch with the family once and spent half the time spitting my drool and slime into a toilet :biggrin: To some degree, though not as bad as you mention, it should take a while for things like tuna or well chewed chicken to go down. The guide my Dr told me is take small bites, chew really well, eat about 1 cup of food, don't eat for longer that 20 min. and it should take about 3 hours until you are hungry again. With more solid foods I take a few bites and then have to wait for a small burp before I can eat more. I can tell I'm full when I start to get discomfort and often I will hickup or my nose runs. Weird, huh? My NSV: I made it to water aerobics this morning! This is a big personal victory and I'm proud of myself.

Stranger - glad you are feeling better and super glad you logged fewer lbs! Welcome ting - your found a great thread. These guys have funny stories, and offer great support and inspiration! I seem to be playing tag with this silly cold, I had to skip yesterday's gym trip and I am sitting out today for rest. I may try tomorrow depending on how today goes. I had a cool NSV of sorts yesterday. I visited my PCP for a re-up on my cholesterol meds and something for this cough. Our Ins is a PPO, so he doesn't know a thing about my banding adventure. So, I finally told him about it. For some history, I know him - he is not just my doc. His wife helped found our local Habitat, she still helps me with fund raising, and I have worked with their daughter on a HFH project. Let's just say I was nervous. He was positively giddy! Can't wait to observe the whole process. Wanted to know why I chose LB over GBS. Apparently, I will be his first patient to go the LB route. And here I thought he was going to give me some big "don't do it" speech. That was a big relief.

Can you have SF popsicles? That helped me out with the "chewing" need...congratulations on your great progress, and the NSV (non-scale victory) of cutting your diabetic meds in half! WHooot! That's great! Hang in there, and get through it one hour at a time. You'll be SOOOOOOOOO glad you did, and you won't hardly remember the tough first month!

Today at work after sitting all morning I just felt the need to stretch. So I closed my office door at lunch and sat on the floor and stretched. And then I got up off the floor WITHOUT using anything to help pull myself up. Didn't grab the edge of my desk or the chair. I just got up. I'm almost down 50 lbs since 12/19 surgery and being able to move and walk more easily is just great. :-) Tara

wonderful nsv. I also had a hump neck for years. It would get so bad that my neck ached all the time. I am so happy for you to get rid of that. Mine started shrinking after a few months as well. keep up the good work.

Calt12 congrats on the first of many NSV's to come clothing is one of the best NSV's for many!!! I'm raising my hand high!!!! keep up the great job kathy congrats

199!!! Wheww….sitting here kinda in a daze ….you go into this hoping that it is the right thing to do…and pretty soon you are losing 10, 20, 30 pounds and you are saying…wow..it is like a dream. I sit here with tears in my eyes…I am below 200 pounds for the first time since 1984, when I was 19 years old. I made so many broken promises to myself…you know the ones…when I get x weight, I am really going to start getting serious about losing weight and you just keep raising the limit until you get up to 270 pounds and at 5’1…I was looking pretty bad. I can say in all honesty that things are starting to turn around! ffice:office" /><O:p></O:p> So here are all the good things that have happened since I got my miraculous band: <O:p></O:p> I lost 71 pounds so far in a little less than 6 months, as well as hitting that goal before my birthday, which is coming up this month. <O:p></O:p> I have lost 52 inches all over my body. <O:p></O:p> I now weigh less than my husband…now I am aiming to weigh less than my ex..I now know that is an achievable goal! I have 3 sizes and teetering on another. I feel better and my feet and ankles have stopped swelling. Although my feet are a little swollen today of course. My sleep apnea is now almost non-existent. <O:p></O:p> Too many NSV’s to clog up this thread with. <O:p></O:p> I am listening to my band and paying attention to it more and more and working on listening to my head less and less when it comes to eating and hunger at least. Gosh I could go on and on. <O:p></O:p> <O:p></O:p> Some negatives to balance out all this nauseating sweetness. <O:p></O:p> The hanging skin is downright ugly and a full body lift is in my future…no doubt. <O:p></O:p> I went from a 46D to a 45A..what the hell is up with that???<O:p></O:p> I still fight head-hunger everyday…I thought that after almost after 6 months..it would get easier…the battle continues. <O:p></O:p> <O:p></O:p> I want to say a big THANK YOU to everybody on this board who has given me wonderful advice and suggestions since I joined this forum. Ya’ll have made the journey so much easier for me, than it would have been alone. I also want to thank my band buddy, Kira(Bridget) for all her support and advice. I saved the best for last, I also want to give a big hug and thank you to my DDH for standing by me through all of this and being my rock. Ok now on to the next big milestone!!! J Onederland rocks!!!!!<O:p></O:p>