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*Caution, Kind of a long read* Hi everyone, I had a my surgery in December 2019 and even before surgery my boyfriend of almost 5 years was very against me having surgery. His question is always "what am I going to gain from you having this surgery?" and he doesn't seem to care at all that losing weight is what is best for me. At my highest weight I was about 10 pounds shy of reaching 300 pounds and he always was very against me getting over 300 pounds and he constantly told me that if I worked out and ate right I could easily lose the weight I wanted to lose on my own (though it is very hard to lose almost 100 pounds on your own with support, i couldn't imagine doing it with the little to no support he was offering). He has horrible eating habits himself, soda, fast food 3-5 times weekly, and no exercise but lucky for him he has always been skinny and has a fairly good metabolism and never has to worry about his weight. I went back and forth for years over having surgery and my mom had gastric bypass in 2016 and lost about 200 pounds and is doing amazing and he swears up and down that I did this surgery just because she kept telling me to (which is entirely untrue) and that if I didn't listen to everything my mom said then I would have been able to lose the weight on my own and now he just thinks I took the easy way out. Which, a bit of back story, I was very very sick after my surgery and in a lot of pain and I could not get fluids or food down well for the first 2 months post op and I was so weak I could hardly get out of bed and if I did I would feel faint and practically pass out in the shower, on the toilet, etc. He saw me go through all of this until they found out I had a stricture and they had to go in and dilate it and now I feel amazing, but still after watching me go through all of this he still thinks that I was weak and took the easy way out. Now he thinks that at 3 months post op and 65 pounds down from my highest weight and still another 60 pounds away from my goal that I am getting far too skinny and that I need to stop right now at the weight that I am at or else he will no longer find me attractive. I don't think he seems to understand that I can not simply just stop losing weight and that I had this surgery in the first place to lose a significant amount of weight because I was morbidly obese. I have been overweight almost my whole life and all I have ever wanted was just to be a normal goal, have boys like me, make friends, have confidence, and be able to shop in a normal store and not have to desperately search for cute clothes which rarely existed in the plus sized section. Now I have a boy that I love and would hate to lose but he is making it seem like I made this super selfish decision to change MY BODY without his consent and that now I should feel guilty for potentially flushing out 4 year long relationship down the drain and wasting his time. I just don't know what to do now, he said not to call him until I can explain to him how me losing weight and getting "skinny" is going to benefit him in any way. I'm just saying, I did this surgery for me, I deserve to be happy and feel good about myself too. I don't give a single damn about being skinny, I just want to be happy and healthy and at almost 300 pounds I was so far from that that it's not even funny. I just need his support and I don't think i'll ever get it.

When I first got my surgery I was in so much pain that I was not able to weigh in as often as I did before surgery, which was daily. Then I went to every 1 or 2 weeks. With this ridiculous COVID-19 I am back to daily, mainly because before all of this craziness started I was told by my nurse that I will probably have to have revision surgery because my weight-loss should have slowed down by now. I told her that I do not ever, ever, ever, again want to do any surgery, EVER again. I don't regret the surgery but, surgery again, no thank you. I had somewhat of a nightmare of a surgery story. So, right before the craziness I tried to up my calories a bit more and I think that I was successful in actually being able to maintain my weight for almost a month. Which sadly, I had NEVER been able to accomplish before so yeah, Yay! me, anyhow I am back at daily due to the fact of all the worry that I have been overcome with because of this horrible virus, I have had no appetite, therefore not eating, therefore losing an unhealthy amount of weight in far too short of an amount of time. Side note: Yes! people it is a lie that you will feel no hunger once you have had a weight-loss surgery, perhaps it depends on the style of surgery, I don't know. I am back at protein shakes, dare I say (bwwaahahaa) journaling my food intake and weighing myself daily.

@IAmGrace I’m not an expert at this but from what I’ve gathered is that people who weighed more prior to surgery lose more at first. Now I don’t know for sure but. My start weight on 10/7/19 was 256.6. Surgery date of 3/3/20 I was 230. Today I 215.8. I’ve noticed people 300+ seem to have more weight loss at first. I’m not sure what your weight was / is, but it’s working! I’m down 15 pounds in 4 weeks! It took me 5 months to lose 26. I don’t lose weight every day, it’s more like every 3 to 4 days a drop a pound. But I’ll take it! Also I got into a pair of pants yestersay I haven’t been able to wear since 2017. Whoop whoop!! We Just keep doing the right thing and it will pay off for all of us!

@Dawn Hanaphy Mine is scrambled eggs - well one egg - with just a pinch shredded mozzarella and cheddar cheeses. It’s the only food that does not give me the fast heart rate and nausea 10-15 after eating. Thank Goodness we have found that one food that each sustains us right now. ❤️

I had robotic gastric bypass on 3/11/20. Went in at 8am, 10:30am surgery, all was great! I walked, walked, walked and thought I had this. Then, close to noon on the 12th, nausea came on and I could not imagine holding anything down. It was like my stomach was in my throat and was not about to let anything by. They increased anti nausea IV meds and by evening I was over it. I stayed the 2nd night to be safe. They sent me home with Zofran every 8 hours, Promethazine liquid yuck syrup every 6 hours, Gabapentin liquid every 8 hours. Even now, 2.5 weeks out, I still get quite nauseated if I don’t take anti nausea meds. Getting better....but not there yet.

I had my surgery on 3/19. I went in at 7:30 AM, I had extensive adhesions so my surgery was twice as long if not longer than expected. I was discharged the following day at noon.

Hey gang, I started having some relatively sharp/stabbing pinch like pain in my stomach... more to the left of my stomach under/below my rib cage Yesterday. I had my surgery December 16th 2019 and haven’t had this pain since a couple of weeks after surgery... do you think I should worry? Maybe I picked up my 35 pound daughter too much? Or ate too much ? I’m freaking out but I’m too scared to go get it checked because of covid! Thanks for your help/feedback! Neda

So happy to be alive and on the road to being well and fit. Happy anniversary to all my fellow March 2019 sleevers! To everyone else! Let's keep it moving!!!

It's not Covid 19 because I'm a chronic asthmatic. It'd be in my lungs and my lungs are fine. I was told even before my surgery that I had an increased risk due to the malabsorptive nature of the surgery. I even have someone in my nutrition support group that had the same surgery and suffered chronic issues with his vitamin levels to where not only was he hospitalized, but he ended up eventually having to have his intestines re-connected because of it. That's part of the reason I'm so mad at myself, because I KNOW better!

Hi over 65. Hope you are well and safe. I’ve been eating super clean. Lost a few lbs since I began to WFO. It’s been 2 weeks. I was schedule for surgery 4/9 which of course has been cancelled. I only have a 2 day preop diet before surgery and figure I should lose 8 to 10 more lbs on my on before surgery in the summer. Glad you’re working on eating healthier.

Congrats! You look great! TE (telegen effluvium) is part of severe calorie restriction and quick weight loss. Mine is finally growing back. I'm 2+ years out. I eat all low fat proteins on the planet except soy for the most part. And most of my protein is animal based rather than plant based, although I do eat 1+ lbs of veg per day and there is some amount of protein in those plants. The ones I love: eggs/egg whites 2% cottage cheese non fat Greek yogurt Premier Protein in coffee = proffee lattes Fairlife Core Power Chocolate blended with ice and nonfat Greek yogurt to make a milkshake tuna in pouch (water packed) salmon in pouch (water packed) sardines in water Boar's Head Turkeys + Lacey Swiss roll-ups/wraps Oscar Meyer Naturals Ham tuna salad made with pouch tuna + cottage cheese + hb egg + green onion + dijon + vlasic dill relish salmon shrimp basa fillets chicken breasts turkey cutlets ground turkey ground chicken pork loin/tenders lean beef 90/10 ground beef ribeye steak trimmed of visible fat turkey pepperoni turkey sausage venison all cuts lamb lean cuts reduced fat cheeses fresh mozzarella nuts/seeds/nut butters nonfat Fairlife milk nonfat buttermilk low fat sour cream

I'm also about 6 weeks out! I was sleeved on Feb. 10. I was cleared for all foods after 40 days. The guidance I got was to try to introduce foods one at a time, so I can tell if I can tolerate them. So far I have not had any trouble. I use MyFitnessPal to track; my goal is at least 60 gs of protein per day. Some days I'm great, some days I struggle a bit, so I am adjusting my meals to make sure I comfortably hit 60 or more. Here is a couple of my immediate past days: Tues: egg fried with cooking spray with leftover spinach on top, 2 turkey sausage links; mid-morning: protein drink (20g protein); lunch: 2 oz. tuna with mayo made with olive oil and 1/2 serving high protein cheese snacks; Mid afternoon Chicken Bone Broth; Dinner: 1 and a half ground beef meatballs; with diced tomatoes and 1 tbl. grated parmesian and 1/2 cup spaghetti squash. After dinner snack: handful of mixed nuts and a sugar free hot choc. Wed: Breakfast: Iconic protein powder with 2 oz. Premier protein drink added; mid-morning: hard boiled egg; Lunch: 2 slices deli turkey with 2 tbl. reduced fat cheddar and 1/4 of Granny Smith Apple used to make roll ups; mid afternoon: 1/2 serving of high protein cheese snacks and about 10 green grapes; Dinner: 1 link Italian Turkey Sausage cooked in diced tomatoes, spinach and cauliflower crumbles (about 1/4 cup of sauce) and 1/2 c. left over spaghetti squash; after dinner: handful of nuts and a sugar free popsicle. What I am not eating: pasta, bread, potatoes, rice. I also have not added in butter or oils, I am cooking without them mostly. I have made some soups and tried to punch up the protein; I made some split pea soup in the slow cooker and added some protein powder to punch it up. I also was eating a lot of fish, but we have not been to the grocery store in the last few days so I don't have any fresh fish right now, and I just don't care for frozen fish. I did pick up some frozen shrimp last time I was there and will make a shrimp salad one of these days. One of the nutritionists at my facility told me protein, protein, protein. She also said to be successful long term you need to find protein rich foods that you LIKE and that fit in your lifestyle, otherwise you will feel deprived/burdened and that is when you are likely to fill up on the wrong things. Hope this helps a bit!

Here I go again My Favorit post So lets just say MATH THIS AND MAKE IT FACTUAL So you are lossing about 20 pounds a month. March 3-26 So In 3 months you will lose about 60 In Six months 120 in one year 240 in 10 years 2400 STOP WEIGHING YOURSELF ALL THE TIME! This is a journey to get healthy not a sprint to lose weight. Enjoy it and yes you are doing well

I think you're doing well! I also revised from sleeve to bypass a week before you did, and I've only lost 10 pounds in three weeks. But I'm not worried. I feel good (except for the constipation (!)), have a lot of energy, and can see the difference in my face, my collarbones (they've magically re-appeared!), and the way my clothes fit. Next week will time for my monthly measurements, so I'm sure I'll see a lot of progress there too. As for food, I can also eat about 1/2 cup of food, but unless it's a puree or liquid (like soup), I'm trying to make it less than that in one serving. I've been on soft foods for the past week, so I'm much more conscious of what I'm eating and how it will affect me. So far, so good - no issues with anything I've tried.

I think 16 pounds is great for three weeks! I've only lost 10 since my surgery on the same day, but I'm not worried about it. I was looking at my weight loss averages from when I had the sleeve 3 years ago and I averaged between 7-15 pounds per month (I was about the same weight you were at starting weight). That, combined with my pre-op weight loss (22 pounds), meant that by November (10 months out) I had lost 100 pounds. I still wasn't at goal weight then, but I was happy with my progress. Of course, after that, I derailed, but that's another story. Remember, you probably didn't gain 100+ pounds in 6 months, you are unlikely to lose that much in the same amount of time. Some people do, but they are either male (tend to lose weight faster), or started at a higher weight, or are genetically pre-disposed to lose weight faster than others.

Hi all, Just checking in. I'm slowly pushing along. I'm down to 194 and wearing size 12 pants and med/leg tops. The weigh is slowly coming off but at least the scale is moving. I've been working from home the last month which I haven't been getting my usual excercise in. I miss the stairs at work. I've been cooped up in my house it seems like forever. I have asthma really bad and cannot risk getting sick. Hope every one is doing great. Stay safe, stay well. 5'4" HW 297 VSG 7/31/19 SW 266 CW 194 1st GW 170 FGW 135 "With God all things are possible" Matthew 19:26 Sent from my [samsung Galaxy] using BariatricPal mobile app 3rd

I think this can be a slippery slope. Too many people think of themselves as "failures" because they don't manage to reach and/or maintain a normal BMI but "only" a BMI of maybe 27 or 28 and are therefore not happy with what they've accomplished. They only focus on "these last 10 lbs" and make themselves miserable, sometimes almost completely ignoring (or so it seems) the fact that they've maybe lost over 100 lbs. They cry a river over the fact that they "gained 15 lbs back" despite having lost 150 lbs and now maintain a weight loss of 135 lbs, again feeling like failures. It makes me sad how people sometimes sabotage themselves this way. And yes, I believe that this is some kind of self-sabotage, too - they're self-sabotaging in regards to "being happy".

This is an interesting question, because I thought I'd finished losing weight after 19 months. However, I recently had to do another liver-shrinking diet in anticipation of another operation (subsequently cancelled). I had to diet for 5 days and lost 4 lbs. I ate about 600-800 calories a day. I was surprised that I could manage this and it made me think I could use this again in the future....I could lose weight for 5 days, then just carry on maintaining my weight the rest of the time. Hmmmm….could work!

OP for more than 10 years ago - now all of a sudden, my stomach/intestine "rumbles and roars" - so I can't attend any meetings without attracting unwanted attention I expected this shortly after the OP - but hasn't done that before. have anyone experience this, and know what to do in order to quiet down the stomach? (I haven't made a shift in my diet or anything similar)

I had surgery 10 years ago...so things and protein drinks may have changed. I could not tolerate the protein drinks. I get so ill from anything with any kind of sugar substitute. I sill have to read labels like crazy because flavored yogurts, and any "diet" sweets will make me very very sick. Read labels and see what is in there and try different protein drinks.

I had my sleeve done in Feb 2017, but after the first year where I lost 100 pounds, I regained about 60. I tried doing pouch resets but they didn't last. I could eat a full plate of food, not as much as I once did (because let's be honest, I probably could eat 2 plates of food), but certainly a lot more than anyone who had had the sleeve should have been able to eat - the restriction was really not there for me. So just over 3 weeks ago I had a revision to RNY (long-limbed). My surgeon and I discussed the possibilities and this was his recommendation based on his experience as a surgeon: People who re-sleeved had the lowest amount of weight loss after a revision People who had a mini gastric bypass (which basically keeps the sleeve but adds a long-limbed bypass - usually about 100-150cm) do great in terms of weight loss, but at least 10% will suffer from GERD afterwards, which will require another surgery People who revised from sleeve to a standard RNY (which is a short-limbed bypass) didn't lose as much weight overall with that procedure People who revised from sleeve to a standard RNY but with a long-limbed bypass did the best with weight-loss and without the complications of developing GERD. So I went with this option (not only because of this, but because of other gastro-intestinal issues I have). In any event, I would talk to your surgeon about what you want to achieve and what is the best option for you, your sleeve, and what your own particular health needs are.

Just posted this a week ago, You can blow past your doctors guess and reach any healthy weight. Mix up your calorie intake One day go 1000 next go 500. Also Fasting works do a 10 hour fast then eat healthy then go to bed and fast another 8 while sleeping, You have to trick your body back into burning instead of storing. Its rather easy to do- For me the fasting broke it loose again.

I know when i got the band my body stopped losing at 143. I am 5'2" and my SW was 232#. There i stayed for 7+ years. Until i had to get her out 3 years ago in 2017. Over the last few years, i put back 30#. I decided to do a revision and got sleeved 8/28/19. SW 173.5, today 129. My weight loss is slowing and currently only losing about a pound a month. Your body will definitely decide on where it wants to be. But, you have to be doing everything you can to make sure you are doing your part. Continue to portion out your food and exercise. You will benefit greatly from logging in and weighting/portioning what you eat. Exercising in a different way will help also. If you simply cut back your cal to 1000 per day and up your exercise... you will start to lose again.

I absolutely understand the disappointment und frustration all of you must feel. I also think it's important to talk about this and no, maybe coming across "a bit selfish" doesn't matter. Come across as "selfish" as you like. Whenever the disappointment and frustration hits and you're all like "F*ck this damn virus!!", maybe you could remember some things: - your surgery is postponed, not cancelled. - you wouldn't want to be in a hospital now or in a few weeks down the road if you can help it. - ICU capacity is limited and every surgery has the potential to bring on the need for being on the ICU. You don't want to need a bed on the ICU during the next weeks because there might be none available the moment you need it. - you don't want to be in immediate recovery from abdominal surgery as long as COVID-19 runs rampant. My revision is 4 weeks ago now, the fixing of a hernia only a week and I'm asking myself if my immune system is already as competent as it usually is - not a fun thing to ask yourself these days. When feeling all of this completely understandable frustration and disappointment maybe try to remember that WLS is always abdominal surgery including general anesthesia with lots of complications being possible and not a quick and unproblematic surgery so many patient's recovery is really easy from. I'm absolutely sure that all people on this thread are completely aware of the things I wrote above. However, it can be hard to remember when disappointment and frustration hits. Hang in there! Your surgery is postponed, not cancelled.

Soo. I started my weight loss journey over 10 years ago. I am 5'2" I had surgery and was, if I remember correctly about 320 pounds. (and I had lost weight before surgery..) I was 54 years old. I lost over 100 pounds. I got down to 180 pounds. I could never get lower than that. But my doctors were pleased and so was I. Over 10 years I managed to gain weight and this past July, got mad at myself when I realized I weighed 220 !!!! I told myself that I needed to reverse the trend, and get back to a healthier weight. My initial goal was to lose 10 pounds in a year. Well, I lost 10 pounds in 4 months and then lost another 12 in the last 4 months, and for the first time in about 6 years am just under that 200 pound weight at 198. ( I will claim those last 2 pounds ! ) I refuse to do any drastic dieting, just "going back to my sleeve eating." More protein, less carbs, more vegetables. occasional treats. Cut out the popcorn and chips which are my slider foods.... and although I really cannot exercise with my other physical issues, I am moving more and feeling better. I would be happy to be in the mid 190's for this coming July - but focusing more on making sure I don't backslide again.... I am posting because .... well, how do you explain to anyone that you have already lost over 140 pounds and gained back 40, and now have lost 20... 10 years later and it's all connected ? And at my age, no one really notices.... although I did go buy new jeans/slacks for work because darn it, I didn't keep the smaller clothing !!! Anyone else as far out as I am ? Having issues ? Getting back on track this late in the game ?