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people treating you different
ShoppGirl replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
Okay, Hotwing&aprayer and Arabesque got my attention and I have been thinking about whether I carry myself differently at different weights. I don’t think I really do. Anyways, this Is what came to mind. Has anyone ever seen the fat suit experiment that Tyra banks did years ago? I am not able to find it anywhere in video form but I just read a review of it to refresh my memory. They sent her out to the store, on the bus and on three blind dates in her suit. People as you probably expect were horrible to her. In An article speaking about it Tyra said "It was one of the most heartbreaking days of my life." Noting that people "snickered" and "laughed" when she walked down the street, Banks admitted, "I had no idea it was that blatant." I know it’s not a perfect design but it’s about the closest we’re probably ever going to get to seeing how differently people treat us based on weight alone. After watching something like that I was convinced that the problem does lie with society and with certain people to a large degree and not in large part with the obese person or how they carry themselves. I’m sure that we do carry ourselves at least a little differently when heavy vs thin but I doubt that putting on a suit could change someones Confidence overnight yet everything seemed to change in the way People approached Tyra the second she put on that suit. Thoughts? -
people treating you different
Arabesque replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I didn’t really have any negative experiences when I was overweight at least not ones I was aware of. I agree with @HotWing&APrayer. Often our confidence decreases & anxiety/self consciousness increases with our weight. Then any negative experiences crush us further. I was only at my obese weight for about 5 years so body dysmorphia probably helped me because though I knew I was obese I only saw myself as overweight which was ok in my mind. Though I know I also was more aware of not doing overt things that others may judge as ‘no wonder she‘s fat’. With my weight loss I’m certainly more confident which has made me more chatty with shop assistants, service providers, random strangers, etc. (Yep, I’m the one holding up the line chatting to the check out person or the stranger who starts talking to you the shoes you’re trying on.) It does make most of my experiences more positive. It’s either my weight loss or I’m turning into my mother & grandmother 😱😆. Have noticed more negative experiences for getting older like old person stereotypes & being ignored over younger people which annoys me A LOT. Not afraid to say about it something. The girl who presumed I was a grandmother got an earful!! LOL. I may be 57 but I don’t even look like I’m close to that ( & very grateful for that). -
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Fat Acceptance Movement - how do you feel?
You Are My Sunshine replied to needtorecover's topic in Rants & Raves
Other people have articulated very well. I think there are different parts of the "fat movement" that get balled up into the acceptance piece. I like that there are more bigger bodies out there doing "regular things" like yoga, cooking, running, kayaking, dancing, living... and it's not as shocking as it may have been years before. I think that's important, especially for those people whose body is happier at a larger weight. Not everyone wants surgery or wants to starve themselves to a calorie deficit to be "thinner" when they feel good at the weight they are at. And some of them are at 200+ pounds. I think that's important to recognize. I'm not sure any human, unless super tall can be truly "healthy" at 400 pounds, though. But they shouldn't be barred or shunned from life because they are that weight. But, they should not be lied to by a doctor. I'll be honest, though, sometimes I question the amount of medical complications blamed on obesity as a whole just because it's easier to assign blame to. I've been relatively healthy as a bigger girl (especially when I was younger). I'm still able to do cartwheels at almost 50 and close to 300 pounds. I can understand how some people are happy with more padding - or don't care. But my weight is catching up to me, and I want more freedom in my own body. -
Has your relationship changed?
ms.sss replied to sweetsmith78's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
weight loss didn't change my relationship per se, but it did change me, which did affect my relationship (among other things) for the better: i'm more confident, less tired, less annoyed, more patient. sex? also for the better (see reasons above, ha!) but i'll also add: im more limber/bendy lol. -
Starting my ESG journey!
RoyalAdpi replied to Milena81's topic in Endoscopic Sleeve Gastroplasty Forum
Hello, I am scheduled for ESG on Monday and I'm getting nervous. I previously had VSG about 8 years ago and have regained about half of what I lost....I am on the lower end of the BMI, but have hashimotos and PCOS so its impossible for me to loose weight. This is the only thing that has worked. I already eat super low carb and my diet isn't the problem. I belelive it's from my stomach stretching out. Anyways, I am so nervous for the two weeks of the liquid diet and feeling hungry through that time. Did you guys experience hunger? I'll get shaky and a little hypoglycemic so I'm dreading this part. It gives me comfort to read your experiences and am thankful to have this platform to ask questions on! Any tips would be greatly appreciated! -
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When can I eat pizza toppings or cauliflower pizza again?
liveaboard15 replied to aussiedoodlelover94's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
might help if you posted some more information or at least update your profile to add your surgery date, weight, height ect... i am 6 months out and i can eat pizza if i wanted to without issue tho tons of carbs so i dont lol. At work we make pizza and i sometimes eat the toppings that fall off lol. Been doing that since around 4 months post op but your surgeon knows best. -
people treating you different
HotWing&APrayer replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I don't think that we can attribute it 100% to other people. If we think about it, the way we felt about ourselves at a higher weight compared to a lower one. The way we carried ourselves and the body language we showed. Do you think it was always welcoming? Did I look like the girl who wanted to be talked to? Probably not. I was depressed, and not confident and my self-image in my head was totally not the same as it was when I was smaller. I know for a fact that shows and can be off-putting to some. In no way does that excuse people from being arseholes, disrespectful or rude. But I always think back to a friend who said when you don't want to be bothered at work "walk fast and look worried." LOL. If that can keep people at bay, I am sure that my depressed, overthinking look will keep people away. -
Has your relationship changed?
ShoppGirl replied to sweetsmith78's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
Mine hasn’t changed, really. I am not sure if this is because we just had a pretty good foundation where we have learned through counseling and many years together to talk through things or if it is because I was thin when my husband met me and I have lost a big chunk of the weight several times over the years so it’s not really that much of a shock. -
Laparoscopic Bariatric Surgery After Abdominoplasty
HotWing&APrayer posted a topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Hi Friends, New here…I am wondering if anyone has had experience with having any laparoscopic surgeries after getting a tummy tuck. I had an abdominoplasty in 2013 after having a child and losing weight and having a lot of extra skin. Now almost 10 years later I am looking into having a gastric sleeve done. Looking for anyone with experience. Was it harder for the surgeon due to scar tissue or things moved around? Thanks in advance. -
people treating you different
summerseeker replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I don't really post on social media or talk about my surgery and weight loss. To be honest very few people know how well I have done these last 11 months. In the UK we tend not to poke our noses into others business. It's seen to be quite rude. I went out with my husband to the local service men's club. Everyone in there knew the fat me but failed to figure out who the thinner person was with my husband. All evening I felt like I was in the Exorcist movie. Heads were definitely turning in my direction, seriously, their necks must have been aching. I don't know if it was because they realised who I was or thought my 70-year-old hubby was flaunting a mistress. It did make me chuckle, it's a long time since I was the subject of local gossip. On the bus and trains, people sit next to me now and I don't know if that's a bonus or a pain. I do like to travel alone. On an aeroplane this summer, I never had the 'oh no look' when I approached the empty seat next to them. -
people treating you different
ShoppGirl replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
If you ever want to test this firsthand as a female just walk around a store for a while at your goal weight. Especially one with a majority of male workers like a home improvement store. it’s crazy how much more help you get. Like they go out of their way to offer help. It’s kinda crazy. -
people treating you different
ShoppGirl replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I have gone up and down in my weight soooo many times throughout my life and people absolutely treat me differently. I have pointed it out to my husband who didn’t believe me at first but now he notices it too. I notice it from both men and women. People are more helpful and likely to strike up a small talk type conversation when I am closer to a normal BMI. Having said that, I am a little on the shy side and have been told by more than one person they misinterpreted that as my being a b**** in the very beginning. Oddly enough this has only happened when I was at my skinniest. My take is that people tend to think that I am nicer or more approachable as long as I’m not too thin and hot but if i’m a little too heavy I am not even worth their time for some reason. Basically society tends to prefer me barely “normal” to just slightly “overweight” from my experience. What I absolutely hate is when it is someone that I have known for a long time that treats me differently because of my size and this absolutely has happened to me a few times. Thankfully not by any close friends but by people at like bowling league and stuff like that. I have gone from practically invincible for years to someone they all of a sudden want to talk to every week. I just want to scream from the rooftops that I am the same exact person I have always been and sorta want to tell them they are not worth my time because that’s what their actions have been telling me for so long. Of course I don’t say anything. I just hope that by me being nice to them now that they learn not to judge the next person. It can be frustrating and I definitely do vent to my husband about it sometimes but I know people truly don’t do it on purpose so I try to let it go. -
Yes, I do. And no, it will not. We didn't become obese by eating fruit and it absolutely will not prevent weight loss. Learning to break these types of "diet mentality" habits and thoughts is really critical to long term success. Its really important to not approach WLS as just another "diet" where you have to determine good/bad foods, foods that are safe vs off limits, etc. But rather learning to eat WELL to nourish your body for long term health & wellness, which includes ALL foods (assuming you can tolerate them, of course).
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people treating you different
Muffinman1119 replied to KimA-GA's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
About a decade ago, I started to lose weight on my own and lost 195 lbs (using phentermine, and diet and exercise). However, I gained about 115 lbs of that back. When I was lower in weight, I did notice people would treat me differently (particularly in the dating scene). Now, with the sleeve, I'm not noticing it too much in regard to being treat differently, just comments from co-workers, family, and friends. I do think people look at you differently though, I don't really know how they couldn't. -
Has your relationship changed?
SuziDavis replied to sweetsmith78's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
My husband, who has never really had a weight issue, keeps worrying that I could look for someone better... Yet, he paid cash for my surgery. 🤔 It gets frustrated to be accused of something that has never even crossed my mind, as I have always thought he could do much better in the looks department, especially after I gained weight the last 5 or so years. -
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Fleur De Lys Abdominoplasty
ColtenFernandez replied to Keira Fae's topic in Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery
You’ve done an amazing job! I’m proud of you!! You know, I work as a fitness coach at the gym, and it brings me so much pleasure to see how people lose weight daily. That’s what I call pure happiness! I hope you’re doing well. It’s been a long time since your last reply, so I’d be grateful if you kept us updated on your progress. Your main goal is still the same: never stop. Btw, I know that some surgeons perform coolsculpting newburgh. As far as I know, they can lift if a person has lost a lot of weight. I’ll be happy if that is helpful to you. Anyway, keep us updated! -
did you notice people treating you different after loosing weight ? good, bad, crazy?? family? coworkers? acquaintances? i have lost 100 lbs but just kinda proportionally shrunk a little, not huge transformation yet. (skin is starting to be a little jiggly instead of tight on my fat and a slight reduction to my many chins) so haven’t experienced a big difference, yet! what have you experienced?
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Has your relationship changed?
KimA-GA replied to sweetsmith78's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
i am pre op and if you had asked me two months ago, i would have told you that there was only a little chance my relationship would survive post op… but my husband finally is making some changes to himself to “come along” on my journey (mostly in how we interact to honor the changes I have made) .. and now i have hope I won’t be single sometime next year! i guess relationships and weight loss have one big thing in common; it takes a lot of hard work that can often emotionally hurt to get through to the good -
Oh, it's such a battle isn't it?! I also tolerate carbs very well and it's the thorn in my side too. I have made an agreement with myself that I can have a carby snack every day - usually in the evening when the children have gone to bed. I'll have a salted caramel nut bar or a small bowl of baked crisps (chips). You've lost over 10lbs a month on average... that's pretty good going. Maybe you're already at the weight you're meant to be? Are you still tracking protein and calories?
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You know what’s happening. You said it yourself - eating more junk food & old habits sneaking back. It’s the battle we all face & always will to some extent. The surgery only changes our body not our brain sadly. All because you can tolerate those foods doesn’t mean you should eat them. But you have to make the decision as to whether you’ll eat them, how often you’ll eat them & how much of them you’ll eat. Finding a balance of our eating & weight & being able to live the life we want is something we have to discover for ourselves. It’s why many accept being a little heavier than they originally wanted as it’s less restrictive, more sustainable & allows them more flexibility to enjoy their life with family & friends. And that’s okay. Unfortunately, yes, exercising will increase your appetite as your body seeks to replace the calories you’ve burnt being active. If you’re more active you can eat more calories but less than you burn if you want to keep losing. Also exercising only contributes to around 10% of the weight you want to lose. So if you want to lose 20lbs, exercise will contribute to the loss of about 2 of those pounds. Of course, lots of other benefits to being active. I think you know what you need to do if you want to lose more weight. Start by making one change today. Then in a week or so make another. It’s easier to manage & accept going one step at a time. All the best.
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That great to read. We are all here to support eachother. Continue on your journey to being a healthy you. The weight loss is a bonus!!
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I think the things you read may be referring to type 1 diabetes? For type 1, your body produces little to no insulin instead of too much. Because there's no insulin there to signal your body to take up the sugar, your body instead starts to breaks down muscle and fat for energy, which would lead to sudden, unexplained weight loss. While type 1 is a remote possibility, it's a lot more likely your doctor is concerned about type 2. Type 1 used to be called juvenile onset diabetes because that's normally when it's discovered. It can also start in adults, but not very often. Type 2 used to be called adult onset, because that was historically when it would be seen. Now with obesity at epidemic proportions, even children sometimes get type 2.
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Hummmm. I gotta do more research. I swear I just read that it causes weight LOSS which didn’t make sense at all since so many people have WLS because of diabetes and he was ordering the test for ME.
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I wanted to make an exercise suggestion - c25k
SpartanMaker replied to Tufflaw's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Glad you both found something that's working for you! The data is pretty clear that WLS patients that partake in at least 200 minutes a week of moderate to strenuous physical activity are significantly more likely to maintain their weight loss. Not everyone will be able to tolerate running for one reason or another due to impact on joints, but there are lots of other activities that will work as well. -
Oh how nice it would be if diabetes made you lose weight! People with diabetes don't respond correctly to insulin. The main job of insulin is to signal your cells to take up the sugar in your blood to use as fuel. Because that process isn't working like it should, people with diabetes have excess sugar in their blood. That excess blood sugar has to go somewhere. Where it goes is that your body converts it into fat and stores it. There's a reason why type 2 diabetes is strongly correlated with obesity. Being overweight can lead to insulin resistance on a cellular level, which can lead to more weight gain, which makes your body unable to as efficiently process the insulin, which can lead to more weight gain, and so on. Now just like any other potential hormonal imbalance, being diabetic does not make you gain weight. It just means that all other things being equal, it's more likely. To gain weight, you still have to eat more than you burn, regardless of any hormone issues.
