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URGENT ?????????? Sorry, this is gross. Ok, I was banded on the 6th. Yesterday I went pee and there was a little blood well, Today, I went poop a few times and when I was done and wiped there was dark blood on the T.P. and brighter red blood in the potty. Not just a little, the water is pure red. I called and they said it could just be a hemroid(sp) I had one a couple years ago. But, The poop was not hard at all. They said I can go to the E.R. or go to west and make an appointment. We think that is too much blood for just a hemroid. and I am having pain and cramping in my tummy and below my belly-button. I know, I am really sorry, this is gross and TMI, but, I need to know if I need to go to the E.R. or not. I don't want to go if I do not have too. but, I worry about the amount. I seem to be losing quite a bit of blood. Any Advice would be great. Thank you so much. Ps. Way to go Special.

Kari You are too funny dating by the time you get back :lol: The only thing that's going to happen by the time you get back is you will be a brand new woman after getting a little sunshine and vit D... Phyl - I LOVE THE OCEAN.... Tmi - funny DH didn't want the neighbors to see you foaming at the mouth:lol: Jackie GF - It's ok to have cake - (just not every day:tongue2:) You haven't been feeling well and I can see if I were sick - I might not make the best food choices either - but heck what do you think regular people do - they gain 2 lbs too every now and then - the difference is then they stop the gain - and that's what you are doing too - (see you are normal too) Plus I think it's very easy for us to test our weight loss - Oh I have been doing so good in my eating that this little candy won't hurt - or the grazing we do - oh I only had 3 chips - but you only counted the 1st 3 - not all that followed the rest of the day.. Soul searching is good - getting a hold of yourself is good - belittling yourself isn't - all that does is cause more guilt/shame which in turrn will cause you just to say "F" it - i have screwed up - so might as well keep on eating - That's what we have been doing our entire lives - This is what we have to put an end to... NOT MORE GUILT/SHAME TRIPS - Say OK I "F'd" up - That wasn't too smart and I AM A SMART STRONG WOMAN - I CONTROL FOOD IT DOES NOT CONTROL ME.. FOR TODAY - I WILL DO MY VERY BEST - AND IF I FAULTER - I WILL GET UP BRUSH MYSELF OFF AND START OVER.. I WILL DO THIS OVER AND OVER AGAIN - UNTIL I SUCCEED.

No, I won't come to MI to clean your pantry!! :cheers2: I am a pool gal, too, and don't like to swim in the ocean at all! Too big and scarey and I don't like the waves. Wonder of wonders... my computer logged on to the other neighbor's network now that our satellite neighbors are gone for a while. It won't last long.. bandwith gets too crowded and it's impossible in the mornings and evenings. But right now it's nice and warm and sunny outside and everyone is out and about.. probably at the pool!! Ate the other chicken thigh for lunch and did it again even though I chewed long and ate slow this time! This time it almost came up and (TMI ALERT)... some slime came up. First time ever for that to happen to me and I thought DH was going to croak. He totally freaked out. We were sitting out on the patio. Fortunately I had some paper towels in my hand. But I quickly needed more and he was too busy going on about how disgusting that was and cleaning up some "drool" that was on the patio mat!! Then he wanted me to go inside!! I guess he didn't want me to freak out the neighbors! It was kind of funny, actually, and I felt a whole lot better after that! Well, better do my Scrabble turns before i lose the connection again!

I've found TOM is responsible for most of my PB experiences. It starts a couple days before TOM...it's frustrating, but the up side is it's like an early warning system that TOM will arrive soon. I was chatting with a band friend the other day and was frustrated because I had been having trouble with PB the last couple days and the scale was stuck, it was such a DUH moment, as it came out of my mouth I figured it out. Aside form that, a little hot water bofore eating and things go down quite well. Sorry for the TMI to all you guys out there, but it's a fact of life for us gal-banders Sue

Lynn, So exciting about your TT on the 19th -- this week, huh!!! SO cool! Drkel, My hairline didn't move with my mons lift. Most of the skin came out of the sides, incorporated in with a triangle incision into my medial thigh lift. The rest cam out of the top, but I guess they cut out the part with the hair and kept the part from my stomach because my hairline is rally identical to the pre-surgical placement. Or, it would be if I weren't a fan of the brazilian wax! TMI? Haha.

Hi all, Anyone have any ideas to rescue a libido that's been killed off by anti-depressants? This is a problem I've been dealing with for quite a long time, but I thought I'd bring it up to my new "cyber friends" (I was banded 11/2/07 and doing well with that). A little history: I have been playing musical medications for depression for about 7 years, and being sexually dysfunctional the vast majority of that time. The combination of drugs I am on right now (Lexapro, Seroquel, Wellbutrin) has the depression largely at bay, but the complete lack of sex drive is so pronounced that I wouldn't care if I ever had sex again. I love my husband with all my heart and we don't have marital problems. I feel so badly for him that I could cry. He's pretty good about it most of the time, but I know it bothers him a great deal - and who could blame him? He's only 35 (I'm 37) and in a very low-sex marriage. I try to "take care of him" as often as I can, but don't feel like doing that either. But I DO try to make the effort. It's like I can be turned on in my head, but the connection between my brain and my "privates" is disconnected. Hopefully this was not TMI for anyone. If anyone has suggestions or (God willing) SOLUTIONS, I would love to hear them. Thanks in advance, Robin

Ok gals I went into family court. with my mom's super charged crystals - 1 necklace and 1 bracelet. black cord mini skirt, black sweater, tights and shoes... I must admit... looked pretty darn good for what it's worth. X-wife had bypass surgery about 6 months before me and she still weighs about 200lbs... she is shorter than I am but her face is very round and she did look good compared to what she use to be... but I was expecting her to be much smaller at a year out. anyhoo... I got to go first... I just went on and on. He came over (my company) he thought i was on the phone on purpose...employment guy called when i was in there and gave me details of my salary and start date Feb 25th - and pay structure. I said no... and you know how long I've been waiting on this job... I brought up medical, daycare, that I'm willing to work with him but really I have not said a word when I was 3 months without and already taking $80 a month less because they are giving me what they can required by law. I was strong, confident... and I think everyone was completely shocked at that. We have been in and out of court for 13 years and never have i stood up for myself like today! He said after we talked this morning he was not going to bring up childcare but it was in his petition... I told him I would not have if he would have told me that... I think my words about that were "I can't afford more than $80 a week for childcare, and I am not getting full amount of child support, so how is he going to be able to pay more than $40 a week?" I was nuts but so strong. Then he came over and we had the best make up sex ever.. LOL I know TMI... so today was not as bad as I thought it was going to be... I never ever have stood up for myself like that... and for that I THANK MY VIOLET SISTERS FOR GIVING ME THE STRENGTH AND COURAGE OVER THE LAST YEAR TO FINALLY BELEIVE IN MYSELF!!! WITHOUT YOU ALL... I WOULD HAVE JUST BEEN IN THERE BEING BACKED INTO A CORNER... INSTEAD... I TOOK MY PURPLE POWER AND KICKED ASS!!!! Oh and the judge told him that "you know when your lawsuit is settled you will be back in here and taking care of the children as they are entitled to that".... OMG... This is my year!!!

Dammit, I psyched myself up, starved myself on liquids, took a laxative(sorry TMI), got up at the crack of dawn, dragged my 78 yr old grandma and mother with me, made it to the hospital, checked in all to be told my surgery had beeen CANCELED:eek::tt1::cursing:!!!!!!!! My doctors patient coordinator calls me on my cell to say " Im sorry Ms M but Dr Jacob's wife had the BABY YESTERDAY! 2 weeks early !" I love babies and they are a blessing but DAMMIT:mad: why didnt someone call me last night or the crack of dawn today!?? My doctor has my email address, cell and home phone numbers but no call until 9:32am this morning(surgery was at 10am). I mean I totally understand things happen but when his wife went into labor why didnt he leave a message for his people to call his patients?? I am so pissed! So what did I do?? I went to a dinner with my family and ate like a starved pig!:wub: Now I feel terrible for eating like I did.:wub: BTW new date FEB 20

We used pull and pray. I know is it not a method of birth control but worked for us. The one time I said don't pull out and let's see what happens well i was pregnant! Sorry if TMI but that was what we did!

Yep I stayed home - I went to Walgreens got cards for grandkids and little gifts some Fiber cookie - and laxatives since I was out you know out TMI subject - Iron my red pants and now just here on the computer - doesn't looke like I will be long - no one here - and and just want to veg Yep had my shot and my tummy felt a little icky after lunch - my squash didn't taste good and had just a 3oz can of tuna... I need to make sure and take my vitimans tonite - Tomorrow is weigh in day and i feel FAT- really needed that exercise - but it's not good to exercise when you don't feel good... I don't think I am getting enough calories - I can't eat much - had to eat the tuna really slow - and I just a 1 of the 2 fiber cookie and not really hungry anymore. Well, gotta see who else has posted - Phyl thanks for permission not to exercise... Will ck back later... How;s your Aunt?? You guy have been in my prayers.

Alyssa and Crystal! I'm have the same date as both of you guys. I have two full weeks of Opti-fast. I'm only on day 3... I'm not nervous yet, just excited about all of the positive changes coming! I lost 5.5 lbs in 2 days. I've spent the whole time in the bathroom! <sorry, tmi> I've finished all my dr appts and am now just waiting for the big day! Cindy

Good Morning Gang Well the computer was on cuz my Ipod was charging last nite - So thought I would get an early start - OMG am I addicted or what... One the TMI my theory is that cuz we don't eat alot we don't have to poop as much - so every few days is fine with me - I take dulolax when I have the need and it work - but even then - there's not much cuz we aren't eating much.. I guess I could be a nurse - I can talk about gross stuff and eat too - it doesn't bother me. Steph - On the lamp issue - I don't know if it really works - I have just read about it - It's not a problem for me cuz sun shines 350 days a year here.- they aren't sun lamp (which are for indoor tanning) but a lamp that gives off light as bright as the sun - light therapy - May be just increase your vit D... Well off to finish my coffee and watch the news - gott jump in the shower in a few - will ck back when I get to work..

OK, CeCe, being a nurse I have to put a disclaimer on this and say that this is what we give patients in the hospital with that problem, and this is what I gave my BFF when she had her GBP and got impacted, and IT WORKS WELL!! Since I am not a doctor I can not prescribe. That being said, you have to make your own decision on what to take. So... this is a very easy mixture that is not bad tasting and usually works well. We mix about 4oz of very WARM prune juice and 8oz of MOM liquid. Something about this mixture really works. Please note that the prune juice has to be very warm (don't burn your tongue, not hot) And, I would never give this to anyone unless they are VERY constipated.... Sorry guys...just the nurse in me....and I don't even see that as TMI. Us nurses are so jaded to these type conversations. LOL, we really do sit and and talk about BM's and Blood while we eat. I am a program director for a huge Nursing Convention we put on every year here and all the directors meet at different restraunts around the area every month to plan out what we are going to do. I don't remember the exact gist of the conversation but it had to do with blood gushing. I just happened to look up at the table next to us and the ppl there were staring at us with gaping mouths and turning green. OMG, we didn't even think anything about it. :wink2::eek:

Frustated and Janet- I am with you on the maintenance issue. I also don't have a clue on how to maintain weight. I had actually gone down to 181 and now am back up again to 185. Partly because I am so constipated ( sorry TMI :biggrin:), today I took 5 MOM tablets and still nothing. I don't know what to do. Have tried Benefiber too and nothing. I might have to ask my dr. for a prescription. But anyways no way I am getting an unfill., I can see how that would lead to big time weight re-gain. Boy, this is all such a great learning experience!

Misty, I am so sorry you are having such troubles! Don't worry about the TMI, as there is much worse on here and all that is fine, too! That's why we're here! I'm coming across your question a few days later and hope you have resolved your issues, but if not, please call your general doc or pharmacist for advice. They may want you to be seen. No matter what, I don't think you should be in this much discomfort for so long, so let them figure out how to help you. Let us know how you come along.

I am 4 months post-op and the last 2 days have been agony for me. I have had the worst gas I have ever experienced. I've also had diarrhea for the last 24 hours. I've used Gas-X strips, taken Gas-X tabs and taken some Immodium. Tonight I took a hot bath and have been using the heating pad. I made myself take my DD to the park because I know walking helps get the gas out. NOTHING is helping! The last time I had this much discomfort I was in the hospital having a baby! These gas pains have been so bad they've felt like labor! Until now I haven't had any gas issues at all, other than right after banding. Is gas this severe common? It's nuts, I can HEAR and FEEL the gas in my belly. What else should I do? HELP!

I am 4 months post-op and the last 2 days have been agony for me. I have had the worst gas I have ever experienced. I've also had diarrhea for the last 24 hours. I've used Gas-X strips, taken Gas-X tabs and taken some Immodium. Tonight I took a hot bath and have been using the heating pad. I made myself take my DD to the park because I know walking helps get the gas out. NOTHING is helping! The last time I had this much discomfort I was in the hospital having a baby! These gas pains have been so bad they've felt like labor! Until now I haven't had any gas issues at all, other than right after banding. Is gas this severe common? It's nuts, I can HEAR and FEEL the gas in my belly. What else should I do? HELP!

FWIW... I have PCOS. Periods come whenever they feel like it. Last couple of years, I have been passing lots of tissue (not just clots). (sorry if TMI). Doctor finally did some further tests and discovered that I had hyperplasia. That was after I had been bleeding for 2 months STRAIGHT and getting heavier by the day! Had a D&C done on 12/10/07. At the point where I went in for surgery, I was going through a pad every 2 hours! Talk about thinking you are going to bleed to death!!! Took a week after surgery to stop bleeding. Haven't had a period yet. Not PG either. I am HOPING that if I can get approval for LB, it will help straighten my body out! This is so frustrating. I don't have kids either, but want them so badly. To know that LB has helped you is encouraging for me though! TFS.

Phyll, I have seen that some are getting down. I want to say something encouraging to them, but after the last couple of weeks I seem to be spending all my encouragement on me. To the rest of you....from where I sit, just 2 months out, your progress looks great! Maybe it is discouraging to you...I understand that...but you are ALL truly an inspiration. Looking at your progress and your plateaus makes me feel like I KNOW I CAN DO THIS!! You are...and that gives me power. For those who have lost all their weight and are maintaining a couple years out, that's great...but so far from where I am that I can't find the encouragement there. You all are my yardstick. I went to bath and body works over Christmas and bought a new scent from their aromatherapy line. When I am feeling discouraged I take a shower and rub it all over me. It's called Black current vanilla and part of the sensuality line. It is glorious and makes me feel like I am WONDERFUL! It is amazing what a scent can do. I bought some hand lotion too and keep it at my desk for those times when I need a pick me up and can't hop in the shower. Keep an eye on the prize guys...you are so close to victory. How powerful and strong you all are to have taken your lives back from the evil that food had become! Revel in that. Now....I have a question for you veterans that may be TMI!!!! ALERT! ALERT!!! TMI TO FOLLOW! STOP READING NOW IF YOU DON'T WANT TMI!!!! Okay...When I was walking yesterday....all of a sudden I was passing gas right and left....honestly with every 5th step I was fluffing. Is it just me? I'm blaming it on the exercise. I hope it has a cause because had I been in public I would have been definitely humiliated! It lessened and then quit after about an hour of not walking. If this is going to be a recurring problem I am definitely going to have to find a private place for all exercise. Any insight???? Okay TMI ALERT HAS EXPIRED!! YOU ARE FREE TO CONTINUE READING. This was a test of the TMI broadcast system. Thank you for your patience. Have a great Saturday guys. I'm going to go walk again while the baby is sleeping!

I am SO happy it's the weekend! I'm here for confessionals and personals and to share my NSV... Personals first: SweetHot: YOU GO GIRL! If it's not too personal to ask, how far does your dunlap fall? Yeast infections are NO GOOD! My tummy is just now starting to hang, but I'm also still over 200 lbs. By the time I'm down to 170, I'm sure it'll just be a lump of soft flesh. Good luck with the loss! I'd be motivated, too! B'man: Keep your chin up. I know I asked before, but have you ever thought about anti-depressants? The're not a permanent solution, but girl, they could help to bouy your spirits during this tough time. I'm sorry your Gramma is tripping. We love you. Just keep in touch periodically. *hugs* Jill: I know all about daycare woes! You poor thing! Does your city have a county agency you can call for licensed child care referrals? Does your job have any kind of Employee Assistance Center/Program (EAC or EAP)? If so, call them and see if they can't help. If not, I can call my company for you to see if I can't get some direction. Bless your heart. And give your tummy a love rub for me! SO excited about our 2nd band baby! I assure you, if you eat sensibly, the baby will continue to grow even if you're losing weight. I lost a TON of weight when I was pregnant! I had huge fibroid tumors (14cm and 16cm) while I was pregnant! I could barely eat. Still managed to give birth to an 8lb 4oz healthy, bouncing baby boy! :thumbup: Nikki: How's our first band baby doing, you sexy mama? It's summer for you, right? How's the weather? How far along are you? You crack me up talking about your wobblies. Give yourself a love rub for me, too! Sending positive energy to you and that baby! Steph: What are you doing with your time these days? Are you doing any skiing this year at all? I remember how much you enjoyed it last year. You have company this weekend, I think. Did you get all your cleaning done? Wish you could come over and help with MY cleaning! My house is okay, but my room is a friggin disaster area! I have clothes. everywhere. *sigh* I just need to stop bullshitting and get busy! ...maybe later. VaB: How did the job interviews go? *fingers crossed* How's the exercising coming along? I haven't exercised a single day all year long. Well, not since I got back from FL. I have been sooooo tired! Well, today I am determined to get up onto that elliptical for an hour - even if I have to break it into 4 sessions of 15 minutes each. I'm so close to crossing the continental divide, I am ready and willing to WORK for it! :tt1: How's the man situation? Meeting any new cuties at all? Did I tell y'all I joined some online dating sites? *giggling* I DID! No luck yet... Claudia: So you moved to Chicago? I'm confused, I'm sorry. I can't remember if you were moving or visiting. And do you have a job there yet? If you are in Chicago, how are you finding the weather? Chicago is one of my favorite cities! I'm a huge Bear fan, too! I live across the lake in SW Michigan, about a 2 hour drive. Next time I'm headed that way, I'll let you know. Maybe we can meet up for a cup of coffee or something. :tt2: So I'm hoping to fill yall in without writing a novel. I have a raging case of PMS. Well, it's either PMS or I'm pregnant, too. And I swear to y'all I'm praying for PMS. It hasn't been this bad in months. I'm irritable, bloated, my nipples are really tender, I've got a headache, and I've got some (TMI) discharge that is making me itch. It's not yeast. If there's no motion in the ocean by 2/15, I'll be getting a HPT. Again, I am praying for my p'rot to fall. Until then, I'm struggling to keep my mood swings under control. I took measurements today! I have lost a total of 55.875" since 12/1/2006 (when I started my pre-op diet). I measure neck, bust, ribs, waist, hips, arms (2), thighs (2) and calves (2). I have lost 9.75" from my hips alone! Can you believe that? Almost 10 inches! And I've taken off 7.5" from each thigh. My thighs are under 30" around for the first time in 15 years, I bet. It's just amazing. AMAZING! I'm determined to be under 200 by 1 March. To help me with my loss I gave up sugar and alcohol for Lent. I think part of my headache and moodiness is from sugar withdrawal. So while I was taking measurements and changing clothes, DS was in my living room scribbling on the arm of my sofa with a permanent marker. OMG! I completely lost my mind! I spanked him and threw him in his room. I scrubbed and scrubbed and scrubbed - the marker came out of the sofa. I thought the couch was ruined. Anyhow, he's still in his room. This happened about 2 hours ago. I can't even deal with him now. I feel like BAD MOMMY, but I need a break. Not much else to report. About to get on my elliptical for a while to work off some of this frustration and weight! BIG LOVE! Nat

Karri - Ya broc coming back up - was awful - I must be a little swollen cuz for lunch all I could eat was my fish today - yesteday at fish & veggies (spinach - which is a slider food - Learned that termonigly at that meeting - foods that slide right through the band) - I don't think a day or 2 of not enough protein is going to make you lose your hair - alot of people say its the meds that they use to put us to sleep and the trama of surgery that causes it - but my gf went on medifast and lost tons of hair. I agree with you about being too tight - even now I think I should have passed on a fill period - cuz I really don't think I am getting all my calories in - i think yesterday it was about 760 - but cuz of my fish for lunch & dinner I did get 70 grms of protein and 3 bottles of water plus my coffee about 60 oz of water.. Jackie - OMG $147 on candles - I have done it too - we had a wife of one of our agents selling candles - they can get expensive - but they weren't suppose to burn black smoke and they do - so I quit buying them - I like Village candles - blackberry pie or something like that - I like STRONG smells I hate it when I buy a candle and you can't even smell it burning.. On the TMI subject - I don't get cramps or anything - I eat veggies 99.9% of the time for lunch and dinner - fish & veggies - they are the staple of my diet really wanted to go out for lunch today and splurge - but didn't so tommorrow when I go to Montclair shopping I will have a treat - I better eat those ice chips so the swelling goes down so I can eat... Until you feel better I would rest - rest & chicken soup and you will feel good by Monday... Well, back to work - talk to you all later xoxox J

OK, this is too funny. It's so timely that we've been talking about PS 'cause I have a story from yesterday (if there's any guys our there, sorry, I know this is TMI) I had my mammo yesterday. The tech opend my gown, took one look at me and said "just a minute, I'll be right back" She left the room, came back in and asked "have you lost alot of weight?" I smiled and said ya, but I knew where she was headed. She said, "I have you down as needing the large size film, but the small will do just fine." How depressing!!! LOL Though I would not trade it back for the weight, I sure do miss my boobs (DH does too)! LOL Oh well, you can't have your cake and eat it too! But I guess you can have your boobs and eat cake!!! Thank God for padded Bras!!! A very "deflated" Sue

Thank you all for your support. It means so much to me. I think I am just feeling run down because I can't get over this crud!! I made myself get up and get the whole house cleaned top to bottom today and then I went and cleaned my car before going to he doc. I have brochitus (sp?) and I am now on another new antibiotic. Still don't feel real well but I think I sweat my fever out today while I was cleaning. Now I am really tired. Just got home and going to take a long hot shower and then into comfy clothes and back to bed. Janet- the question about the potty. Sorry TMI- I just talked to doc about that because I am going 5-6 days in between and then I am getting such terrible stomach ache and have to take milk of mag or mag citrate to get things moving. I am supposed to increase fiber intake and start using my benefiber every day again. I really have no excuse for not using it anyway because I have plenty of it I just forget. Aunt flo causes problems in this area also for a week and a half two weeks before she arrives. Peaches- I took your advise and while I waited for the pharmacy to fill my script I went to a soy candle outlet we have locally from a candle factory in town. Got out of there about an hour after going in and had $147.00 worth of candles!! I couldn't believe it!! LOL That is ok though because it was buy one and get one free so I actually have almost $300 worth of candles. MMMMM they smell soooooo good!! Hows that for doing something nice for myself. LOL Ok I better get. I'm getting woozy from the cough syrup. Better go shower and hit the bed. Hey I like this stuff though. Not hacking constantly.

Brookie...I'm with you. I can't believe how awesome I feel three days out. Like you I had some pretty wicked gas. It's finally starting to find it's way outta me. Also got some diarrea (sorry if TMI) yesterday but it's actually helping me relieve the gas pain. And yes, god bless Gas X!! Walking is also a MUST!! For all you other Double V's about to be banded, remember walking is the best medicine!! I've learned quickly that my mantra for the next few weeks is going to be: WALK-SIP-REST-REPEAT!! Oh...and don't even bother getting on the scale after surgery. You are too full of gas and fluids!! Good luck to all of you who are coming up......BANDLAND KICKS ASS!!