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I have seen a lot of pre-op diets and this one seems very restrictive. I am ok eating only veggies or something along those lines, but I don't think I have that option. I wonder if I understand the diet correctly. I was told to come pick up my pre-op diet, and it was boxes of little packets--no instructions. I counted them and divided by 14 days. That was 3 packets a day of 130 calories each.....so I guess it isn't even 500 calories a day. I think it is a bit worse because of the timing (TMI--sorry) around my cycle. I am dropping a ton of pre-period Water weight and that always makes me feel weak. I wonder if I could take some potassium or something. I usually eat a high-potassium food around this time of the month and it really helps with the weakness and dizziness. Did anyone else have a diet that didn't allow anything except 3 packets of pudding or shake mix a day? The more I think about it the more I am beginning to wonder if I am doing this right. Oh--the chicken was boiled breast with no skin and the asparagus was with no butter. I knew I was screwing up and didn't want to go too far.

I read vsg can help because the pressure on the internal organs is relieved. One mo out, I noticed just the opposite. I don't need any muscles to urinate. Any one else experience this reversal.?

I'm 7 months post-op and only 5 lbs from goal...and I literally feel like crap. I'm moody and depressed ALL the time and it's really starting to affect my marriage. I don't think my husband can stand me anymore. I knew losing weight wasn't going to make everything perfect but I feel like I went in the opposite direction all together! Yes I love my new body and I feel great physically, but emotionally I'm a wreck!! Anyone else?? I know exercise is good and I go to my gym as regularly as I can but this feeling is draining....Also, and I don't mean to get too 'tmi' here but I have absolutely no 'interest' if you know what I mean...I should love showing off the new 'me' to my husband...but I hardly want him to talk to me, let alone touch me...UGH, I need advice.

Well, this may be TMI but as a man ill finally be able to look down and actually see my you know what! Yippie lol. Also, I know I'm looking forward to saying bye bye to those additional meds I won't need once the weight makes its way off :-) Scheduled to be sleeved week of October 18th. [ATTACH]18335[/ATTACH]

I was just about to ask if anyone is taking anything for constipation/regularity? I took a small dose of milk of magnesia and have sipped a little smooth move tea. Last night I resorted to an enema because I needed the relief (tmi). Just wondering if at this early stage there are things we take to maintain regularity?

Sherrie, sorry for tmi, but what am I expecting for a bowel movement? I'm day 3 today. Should I start taking stool soften ears just to be safe?

I had an upper ugi done with the barium swollow.... It was TERRIBLE! Lol the stuff they make u drink.... It's terrible... It actually made me so sick, I was probably turning green after they were done! It's such a thick chalk like drink it was even hard getting it up, that's how thick it was! I know TMI but if they don't require it for u them your lucky!

Nope but love the term :phantom pooo:! Could it be constipation? Is your poo more solid than it was before surgery? That may cause your symptoms. I'm just about a year out. Right after surgery I only went #2 every 4-5 days, then was very constipated for a couple of months (rock-hard poo), then got ridiculously gassy for a few months until I practically eliminated breads, and am now back to normal both with regularity and consistency. Sorry if this is TMI.

I started this process once 10 years ago and lost so much weight during the pre op period that I didn't go through with it. I am great at diets, my problem has always been maintenance. This time my pre prep was extensive. Also I'm in my mind 60s and losing weight, even on 1200 calories a day had become impossibly slow and tedious. I've lost 23 pounds and I am already able to walk over a mile and at the risk of TMI, I have already lost enough abdominal weight to stop peeing in my pants. My husband and I are majorities. And other that my current preference for soft food and the fact that eating g out costs half as much it really hasn't effected our social life. The refrigerator is another story as the main cook learns not to cook meals for four when Nell two people eat more than 3 oz of food. The first 10 weeks are restrictive but so far I've put it into perspective. Keep in touch.

Errrrrrm..... TMI!:speechles

And now, I'd like to vent and complain! I know I tell other people to take it easy, stalls happen, loss is different for everyone, blah blah blah. But right now, I'm pretty frustrated, so I could use some support of my own. I am down forty pounds since surgery. That's great. I know it is. It's an average of 3.33 pounds a week, which is better than a typical diet. But I'm frustrated. VERY frustrated! I've been stalled for twelve days now. I keep gaining and losing the same two pounds over and over again. I put the scale away last week hoping to see the numbers change but nope - after a week I was up four tenths of a pound. I'm between monthly cycles - this is usually the only time of the month that I do lose, and instead I'm stalled. If my cycle affects me like usual, I can expect to be up 1-3 pounds next week and then stalled again. The first month out I lost 18 pounds. The second month I lost 8 pounds. Now I'm two days from twelve weeks out and I've lost 14 pounds this month. I suppose the good news is that I lost more in month three than month two. I'm still pretty aggravated with the slow loss. Slow loss would be A-OK (or at least less gripe-worthy) if it was accompanied by skin that wasn't sagging, but unfortunately, my skin is sagging horribly. I expected bad things from the stomach, since I've had twins. The stomach was bad to begin with. But my breasts? Already? And my thighs? And my butt even droops! I can lift up part of my butt and jiggle it like a saggy breast. Yes, that's probably TMI. I don't care, I'm complaining! Maybe I wouldn't be as frustrated if I wasn't so incredibly close to 199 pounds. For whatever reason, that's this huge success to me - to be out of the 200s again. Anyway, I just wanted to complain. I know nobody has advice because there's no good answer. Since I still hate eating (I never thought I'd be so unhappy to never be hungry, but eating is still a total chore for me) I'm backtracking to full liquids for three days. I hope that will kick start the weight loss again. Anything to change it up, right? So, thanks for giving me a place to gripe. Once I lose a few pounds I'll be cheery again, I promise. And yes, plastic surgery is in my future, but I'll battle that saggy skin with weight lifting and squats in the meantime to do my part to help it along. I expected some sag, but really - these 70 year old breasts are not improving my grumpy disposition. Hope everyone else is having a better time of it than me! ~Cheri

i have been off of caffeen for 8 months now, i don't drink any soda, there have been no changes at all in the last 3 week...(except drinking more). this also may be tmi, but when i need to pass gas...GOOD LORD...does that sent my head into overdrive!! OUCH..

I've had this problem both before and after surgery...(tmi?) What works the best for me with no cramping, etc. is Philip's Milk of Magnesia. Its not the best taste in the world, but if you pretend its like a shot its fine. Hope that helps.

This may be TMI but how long was it before you all had your first bowel movement? I just want to make sure I'm not getting backed up or if it's normal for the first couple of days or so? Thanks.

I'm in the same boat, I had my surgery around the same time as you, though I only got down to 196 from 398, none of my stuff fit & I had to buy new clothes for the summer. I have so much loose skin on my belly, upper thighs, skin hanging off the sides if my knees & my arms, also turkey neck. A year n a half ago I started a new relationship, I'm embarrassed to get naked in front of him ( sorry if it's TMI) & since I moved I. with him I've gained 46lbs, & our sex life has come to a stand still. I've talked to him about it & he says it's not me he has a health issue that makes it uncomfortable, no to mention we both suffer from chronic pain, I want to believe him, but before I gained the extra weight it wasn't an issue, the more upset I get, the more I eat, just need some advice on jump starting my weight loss & need to know if anyone else has theses issues, we're not spring chickens, lol he's 60 & I just turned 55, any help would be appreciated Sent from my SM-G920P using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm a Bandster!! :biggrin2: Surgery was 3 hours, w/ hernia repair. The first night in the hospital, had my own Morphine button! At home I slept for the next three days, thanks to the Percocet! The pain now feels like puncture wounds. I mean surface pain, except the port feels deeper. Wish I could bend over and tie my shoes . I still have the GAS, enough to clear a room :laugh:. I know TMI, but so far I've only had some left shoulder discomfort. I need to walk more because it's getting worse. The clear liquids made me very weak, and sick. Lack of sugar, according to the surgeon. Once I had my first protein shake on day 7, I started feeling better. Today is day 10 and I'm getting stronger everyday. Shannon, sorry about the longer recovery time and scar. This is my third laparoscopic type surgery, so I now have 12 scars. I'm a human pin cushion! That's not going to stop me from wearing a bikini once I'm at goal! :thumbup: Good luck to All!!

Green Tealael I have an FYI/TMI question. Does T Effluvium have to do with head hair only or all Bodily Hair? The later sounds pretty scary,not sure I am going to feel Gung Ho the whole way.

Hi everyone👋🏻 6weeks post op now and started my second period since the surgery yesterday(sorry if tmi!!). Im just so thankful my period has returned after years of issues with it and PCOS! But since it started i have massive chocolate cravings!! Theres a sugar free chocolate that someone recommended for me and i tried one little square of it and it agreed with me so well im close to binging on the rest of it🥴 Just let it melt in my mouth. But obviously i dont want that happening! The chocolate cravings have literally only come on as my period started😭 Any tips or advice to manage these cravings?

okay excuse me if this is TMI but...... I've had my first poops yesterday and today and they are almost like diarhea(spelling), did anyone else experience this?

Does anyone have the same problem/issue as me? First, sorry for TMI, but please read and answer if you can help......Since starting all the protein intake, extremely low carbs, low fat, etc etc, I have noticed that BMs are not the normal easy-going thing. It's more like pebbles or clumps, and not every day. I know not every day BMs is normal with our "new" diet, but what about the fact that it's kinda hard, need to strain, and small amount? I thought about maybe trying to get in a lot more fiber but I don't know how to do that or if it would just bind me up more? Or maybe I should just start taking stool softeners? But can you take those forever? Not sure what to do, so I thought I'd turn to my shrinking violet banded friends. Can anyone help? Thanks! Bandedme 4/5/07 262/227/155

Good morning Violets....... boy oh boy do I have a story to tell........ yesterday you may remember that I was very hungry all day at work, my egg drop soup did not hold me. I went to the store after work to pick up some odds and ends.. cottage cheese, sour cream, eggs, grated cheese... etc... I was set to have refried beans for dinner....... so I combined in a bowl, refried beans, sour cream, taco sauce, grated cheese...... metled in the microwave til down right soupy....... I added to much sour cream so I wasn't all that happy with the taste but I did manage to eat about half of it...... but to get the nasty taste out of my mouth I watered down some SF pudding with calorie countdown milk and ONE tablespoon of peanut butter icecream....... I stirred till a chocolatey soup and ate....... THE PAIN, THE PAIN, THE PAIN :target: ......... to much, to fast, to rich, My little Billy the Bad Ass Band (Kat ref) Knocked me FLAT on my BACK FOR the ENTIRE NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! I ate at 5:00 p.m. and by 9:00 p.m. I had the WORST (TMI) "squirts" and it still didn't relieve the pain...... I didn't feel like PB'ng because everything I ate was a soupy consistancy.. but it was like my entire "inards" were full to the seems..... finally at 9:30 p.m. I took some of my pain meds and by 11:00 it had relieved somewhat........ DBF was telling me that I shouldn't do that to myself....... (I wanted to throw something at him) LIKE I DON"T KNOW THIS FACT! and he thought I was funny laying there moaning then I got the hiccups..... Maybe I can't do beans.... I am better today except I am STICKING TO SOUP! HOURS and HOURS of Pain.............. Nothing like a little fear to keep me on the straight and narrow.

Thanks for all the great info... some of it maybe TMI LOL but that is ok. Patricia, welcome - we are great motivators here in one way or another, we all have good days and bad... but if you can tell they all seem to be good at the moment:D TrackKS - I lost a post this am congrats on he loss, you are awesome as always. So I went on the interview, and as always would be a perfect job, it starts at crapy pay but they provide all the training and I would get to go to construction sites to test concrete and stuff. different place every day. How exciting. But I don't want to get my hopes up so I don't get disappointed, but it would be great!

Tracy I am so happy for you!!! Somewhere, deep inside it hurt him, and he knew it was the right thing to do, I am sure much of it was from a financial standpoint, but the way I see it, not all of it was, or he would have signed and got out, not humiliated himself by taking the time to read it twice. I am not just playing Devil's advocate here, I am thinking that with that bit of a decency buried deep in there, that you can and have been nourishing the love in your son--so he did not have 1 good parent vs. 1 evil, you both had good---his was just buried, and it took him a looooooooong time to find it---and I am eternally grateful he did. This way when your son gets older and asks questions, you can be honest with him, and tell him it was something his birth Father knew was right, but it hurt him severely to do it, and your son will not feel like a cast off, who meant nothing. I also think it was a GOOD thing the gf did not show up, he may have done an about face! We have all discussed how it is easier to be mad for a man than to hurt, he may have tried to Show her! It all worked out the way it was supposed to, the best way possible for your little guy, and I could not be happier for you---I TRULY believe as emotional as it was, it is best the way it ended. Congratulations to you and the NEW Daddy!!! Stomach feels some better, now it is simply nerves. I think it was a bug of some sort, riding and moving did nothing but make me hurt worse! I was so bloated, I could not bend over!!!! And while I know this will be TMI---I smelled so bad, I could not even stand myself!!!! TracyK, Kinsey gets the same way some days it is non stop I want, and I need. To the point, that often when I would sit down she would say "I need to potty" I would tell her "Of course you do, I sat down!" To where now she will even tell you after telling me she needs a drink or whatever, she will say "course I do!" Made me feel so ashamed, I am working hard not to say it!!! Rick has me all upset......he pointed out to me, that chances are, the only way I will be allowed to fly into DC is if they don't have issue with me under the name of Kathleen. Other wise I will flag up when I attempt to fly, especially into there. I am seriously thinking of legally changing my name and hyphenating it, with my maiden name, just because of this. Surely that would take a HUGE chance of it being duplicated down. I WILL be taking care of this one way or another this winter! I refuse to not be allowed to go meet you guys, because some woman died in Tennessee!!! It isn't funny, but it makes me laugh it is so dumb!!! Well, I have to get off here, and get ready to go....I am a nervous wreck! I don't know why....I won't know anything---they will give me drugs, numb me up and poke me a few times....oh kinda like a fill without the drugs, and without restriction!!!! Don't worry about me, I never know how I am going to react to the drugs they give me. Sometimes I cannot function, and am out and sleeping like a baby for hours---other times they overdo it I think and I am wired shortly thereafter!!! If I sleep with this one, I will check in as soon as I check back into the living!!! Sure helps to know all of you will be there with me today!!! Hugs and love to all! Kat

Morning gals another day.... (sigh) I'm up drinking coffee, I found 2lbs, but also realized i have not gone to the bathroom in 4 days... sorry, TMI, but it really messes me up and I feel horribly bloated. Judy, how amazing, and you guys look FAB! Have fun today, I bet he can't wait to see you too Jane - I was thinking that too, that ship looks Massive Tracyk- Nice, at least it was there so hopefully tomorrow you can caim it!

Good morning all you lovely Violets.. It's another beautiful day in the neighborhood.. I'm setting out clothes for a garage sale and boy does it feel good to price those puppies and say... I'm never going to wear them again!! They are all good quality clothes.. some never even worn so I hope I get some good prices on them cause I need the money for clothes shopping. It's a vicious circle, isn't it!!! For those considering liposuction.. as Terry says.. be VERY careful. There is a new procedure out now that is an injection rather than a suction. It dissolves the fat cells. My daughter was telling me about it. Her DH is a Physician's assistant and one of the people he graduated with does the procedure. I might even consider it when I get to goal. But at my age, who the heck cares if I have an apron as long as I can fit into regular sized clothes! Not like I'm going to be wearing a bikini ever in my life. At least not out in public. Might be nice for the backyard pool.. Yes, I watched Big Medicine last night. The lady sure didn't get a lot of support from her bf, did she?? But glad they showed the surgery.... DH kept saying.. that was us.. that was us!! Lunasa.. glad the meds are kickingin for you. It will take at least 6 weeks before the full effect is felt. But sounds like they are making a difference already. TracyK.. I take a water pill once a week. It really makes a difference for me. Plus I take a laxative every 3 or 4 days. The fiber sure works to keep things soft, but I guess I need that extra "push". I know, I know TMI!!! Back to sorting and pricing those big clothes. Everyone have a great day and remember to follow those bandster rules. Though I don't know why coffee is banned for some!! DH has had it since day one after his surgery with no problems.