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Hi all!! I'm set to be Sleeved on June 21st. This may be TMI, but I'm kind of a sex addict. And my biggest thing is I like it a lil kinky and rough. My question is, how long after being sleeved is it safe to jump back into to sack???

great to meat you, kiss. I also have PCOS and can't wait to kick it. I have allready started having more normal cycles after only losing 25 pounds. That may be TMI for most everyone but us PCOSers understand the significance. Just bear with us!!LOL You will find lots of great support here!! Welcome!

Great to see everyone doing good. I'm 14 days out and totally pain free. I haven't lost a pound in 3 days though and it's a little discouraging, I know this should not be a weight loss time it should be a "healing" time but at less than 1000 calories a day and 30 min a day on the treadmill I'd like to be loosing a little. On the other hand I'm able to do things I haven't been able to do in a year or more. I buttoned my under the belly pants in place YEAA!! And I peed through my fly, Super YEAAA!!! Sorry if this is TMI but I'm damn proud of myself. Aside from the lack of weight loss I am still shrinking the belly is down 2 inches in the 3 days that I haven't lost any weight " not sure about the physics behind that".:tongue2:

Hi everyone this may be TMI but I'm sure someone else has experienced it and can help me. I was sleeved on 10/31/16. 8 days postop now! As of today I've experienced the urge to poop. It has caused me so much pain and I'm kind of scared to push. Is there anything you guys can recommend from your experience. I've heard that Metamucil Works has anybody tried it? I am so frustrated at this point can someone help with recommendations please! I spoke to my doctor he also recommended Metamucil. I'm on liquids until the 15th. Sent from my SM-N910T using the BariatricPal App

green i havent been here also jenn girl i need toning as well and a boob job. my arms will not tone up grrrrrrrrrrrr ive been drinking lemon water and omg WARNING TMI. filling up toliet smh

i too feel ignored and feel no one reads my post. i read everyones post shoot i started the thread. but sometimes it do get overwelming, sorry if i ignored any post here it is not my intent. suepeeps thank you so much that was well said and i forgive myself because normally i would have an appitiezer a margarita main course and dessert. i only had a dish which was under 500cal. but i had pinkberry 4 ozs with some toppings and than the macho taco. you are right tomorrow is another day. but man i saved money becaue my pinkberry the first time was 1.50 and the second time 1.19 im proud of myself for that oh and i got diarria tmi lol

For Denise since she asked.. might be TMI for most of you.... I went through meno when I was obese. The fat apparently kept most symptoms at bay - i didn't get vaginal dryness until after I lost weight, in fact I had the opposite problem of too much moisture. I only had maybe 1-2 hotflashes EVER but of course i have sleep issues etc so who knows what is meno related and what isn't. I wasn't having sex (my EX gave up on sex sometime around 2006-2008 timeframe) so didn't notice it until last year - first when horseback riding and my exposed parts got tender in a way they never had before and then later when I resumed having sex. At first it was okay, then got a bit sore afterwards (no bleeding or anything) even using a gel. I started on premarin but didn't like it. Then I intermittantly used a bio-identical (a small amount a few times a week) but I am unclear how or if it is helping. I recently switched formulations to a different bioidentical that I insert 3 times a week now and apply a progesterin cream to my body somewhere to help with the sleep issues. My doctor says my vaginal tissue is very healthy, but I find it gets annoyingly dry still. Not to be too graphic, but the lubricant needs to be re-applied during and since I was never like that before I find it disconcerting. One advantage of an older lover is that he familiar with it - no big deal to him but it bothers me that my body simply does not respond the way it should! What really bothers me is that once moist/wet it drys out immediately... I cannot make sense of that... almost like it absorbs the lubricant or something. Anyway, I sometimes long for my 30s which was by far the peak of my physical sexual enjoyment. I think NOW is the peak of my "mental" sexual enjoyment as I seriously feel great for days after... the whole afterglow of endorphins I guess. Sadly, I missed out on most of my 40s due to my EX giving up on sex. So that is probably TMI...LOL

Hey Bi's!~~ The vet just left after checking out Mo... she did NOT have to give him an enema... just removed some "matter" & said it was a good consistency... yeah, this is probably TMI, huh... well, anyway... we'll see how he does, but he should be over the worst... so TERRY -- I think it's safe to read my posts again (altho not this one, obviously). But I have nothing else really to say!! I've been so all-consumed by Mo's "habits"... I'm inching closer back to my siggy weight... 3.8 lbs to go, then I can start posting it again... I've just been really controlled w/my eating this week... using that ol' willpower... it sux, let me tell you!! But I think I told you about the "trick" I've been using... if I'm hungry, I make myself eat MEAT... I can eat only a bit 'til my band kicks in, so I think that's helping. If I eat anything soft at all, I can go on & on & on... so MEAT. Whatever. I just want to get to -100 and then to my original goal of -120, which will take me to 197lbs!! THEN... I will re-evaluate. But I want to hit that dang-blasted original goal first!!! By the end of the year!!! So at this moment, -37.8 to go. Not impossible!!! Make it a good one, Vi's!!

Kat, I got that catalog in the mail today too!! Some of the stuff in there is funny! It made me realize that I need new glasses when I couldn't read what the t shirts said!! I know this is tmi, but I took a poop so big I bet I lost 30 pounds!!! No wonder I have been feeling uncomfortable!! I am home from work and walgreens, but seeing Pamela's post reminded me I didn't get the oatmeal that they had on sale!! I have a great and easy oatmeal cookie recipe that tastes like candy almost. If you want it holler!! I hope Tracyk cleaned all day! If you are done, will you come up to my house? I will even take you to dinner for your effort!!! I think I am going to take a bit of a nap, talk to you guys soon!!

Denise, your DD and Dimitri will be in my prayers, and have been added to the Azted First United Methodist Church's prayer chain. My Kinsey was a preemie....I know the fear, and the worries you are facing. They do miracles! I mentioned awhile back a little girl I took care of for many years is heading into her Senior year of high school, and just received a soccer scholarship---and she was 1 pound and 7 ounces at birth!!! She was one of the original babies they tested the surfactant in her lungs. She has no known problems from her low birth weight! She did have some issues with the roof of her mouth not stretching out as she grew, since she was being tube fed, but as soon as they got her sucking----it fixed itself---and she is a beauty!!! Keep the faith, and we will keep praying!!! As for the FUPA thing------yep I had it too! My PS lipo'd the pubic mound, and did tighten and lift the skin. He said that is not always possible without pre treatment of laser hair removal. There is no muscle in the pubic mound so once it gets fatty it stays that way---areas reduce better if there is a fit muscle beneath them to help burn fat. Following my chemo, not lots of hair grew back, so it made it simple for him to remove some excess skin, following the lipo and lift the mons as he did the TT. He said he seldom does a TT without at least trying to address the mons---or results will be as you say----strange looking. As for the fatty upper torso----bandsters will have more issue with that than others, because lipo has to be carefully done around the port and tubing. I can feel all my ribs, but my left side is either going to be fuller or is still much more swollen than the right. The left is where the muscle repair was though. I don't think my Dr. billed my insurance any differently for the mons lift to be honest....as I too doubt that would have been covered. Not to get into the TMI category----but the lift is AMAZING!!!! Suffice it to say WOW!!! Haydee, I know we discussed the situation with Juan in the car---but did you say he would or would not do counceling? And I was wondering how his Mom is taking this. Are you still working with her through it all at the event place? Pamela---fingers crossed for the IRB.......we will send not just you PURPLE POWER but them as well so they know what to do!!! Enjoy your friends!!! I am still very close friends with my oldest childhood friend Sharon. We have been friends since 3rd grade!!! She has moved to Texas--outside Dallas, so we don't see a lot of one another. She is totally all about her DH's family. She doesn't even see much of her folks, or her friends. Disappointing---but it is what it is! Tracy, the new pics are great, you look wonderful! I am like your sister, I hate tight things! TracyK, what are you and Macy going to do today while you "recover"? Michelle----let the fun begin, summer has struck!!! Terry---so are any of your beads going to be compatible??? LOL! Jane---how ya feeling? Emotionally? Physically? Today, I wanted to mow, but something was going on last night, and seems to still be...from about 4 this morning, we had cops looking in yards with spotlights---I know it was happening, because Rick got called out, so I was home alone!!! They are still cruising the alley---so Kinsey and I are staying in, until we head to town, we are meeting my folks for lunch. Will check in with you girls later!!! Kat

Ooh, the sloshing reminds me... the kids come back Monday and I will then face the teacher's perennial conundrum.....do we drink all the Water we want, knowing that breaks for the bathroom are rare and not often coming, or do we not drink much all day and then try to get in a ton of water after school? Hmmmm..... I try to find a compromise and never pass a bathroom without using it! Sorry if this is TMI for some, but teachers will understand.... Nancy

What are u guys doing to pass gas, I think Ive only passed a handful of times and burped only once. Im walking too so Idk. I'll definitely try the latest dance rave- the "jiggle" haha. Thanks for the info.... The gas x strips have really helped me today. The dissolve on your tongue. Also, I mixed 2 oz of 100% apple juice (unsweetened) with 2 oz of Water and it made me go #2....and that really helped with gas, too. Sorry if that's TMI but I felt like it might be helpful to someone. So it sounds like our post op diets are as different as the pre-op diets. I can only have the clear liquid diet for 2 weeks. I can add skim milk on day 3 (tomorrow) but I hate milk....but I'm going to try it because they said it's very important to get 32 oz of skim milk and 32 oz of other fluids. So we shall see how it goes.

My incisions are itchy as heck! Although I'm impressed how tiny the actual incisions are, the skin around them hates me. How are you guys treating yours? I use hibiclens in the shower and air dry. I wasn't putting anything on them but yesterday found putting a tiny bit of triple antibiotic with pain relief (similar to neosporin) helps with the dry itchy feeling. The one closest to my breasts looks the worse. I think it rubs against my bra and maybe there is more moisture up there?!? Any tips? I go braless at home to avoid irritating that one incision. Tmi?

Did you mean to say, "happy dump day" Is it giving you any stomach aches? I was on Exxolax for a few weeks and I could not take the pain then Dr switched me to Miralax which is very gentle but very very slow since Sunday that I started it I was nearly able to go today twice but very little and I really have to push (sorry tmi) I am hoping to find something better.

So today I am 5 weeks out. I have lost 42 lbs. Had a week stall when TOM came to visit but all is well now. Some of the NSV's I have encountered: Going from a size 18 to a size 12 pants and XXL shirts to L. All of my clothes are way too big now except for the ones I held on to and thank goodness I did. Not getting out of breath to do anything.... and I do mean anything. My boyfriend putting his arms around my waist and being able to grab his elbows with his hands...and commenting on it. Ex-boyfriends seeing me and telling me how great I look. I have a ton but I have saved the best for last........ And sex is so worth it now!!!! Ok, ok. I know TMI .... but it is so true.lol I hope everyone else is doing great as well!

Im glad you are doing well. The poop thing is not tmi bc for us its very important. I write my BMs on a calender so I don't get constipated as I sm still taking some pain meds (surg. 9/16). I have lost 30 lbs and only 12 was before my surgery. I am happy for those that are doing well. I feel almost 100% normal.

The first day after I had a lot of drainage. Now 4 days later I don't have very much but tmi its still has bloody discharge

Well it’s been a while hasn’t it?! I believe an insanely long blog entry is in order!! I want to first say that due to you, my dear VST people, nothing that has happened has been a surprise, and that has been really, really nice I had my sleeve surgery on Wed., May 22nd. My “call time” was 1 pm, and my surgery was scheduled for 2:45. I believe I was #3 on my surgeon’s docket for the day. My parents, my husband and I arrived and were all ushered into pre-op, where I was asked to go behind a curtain and put on a hospital gown. I was so interested in the conversation my parents and husband were having that I rushed, and when I popped out from behind the curtain, the nurse said “No honey, you’ve got it on backward”. Lol. I was wearing it like a robe. So I had to switch it. Then I climbed into bed and my family sat in front of me in chairs – felt like I had an audience. The nurse was extremely nice – she got me all covered up and warm under the blankets and this special inflatable thing that blew warm air on me. I also got the leg-squeezy things and some fab socks with nonskid rubber on the bottom. Another nurse came by and started an IV – I asked what was in it and she said it was basically Gatorade without sugar. I’m guessing there was no color or flavor either. Then I heard some commotion and found out that my surgeon was running ahead of schedule so they’d be taking me early (!) The anesthesiologist came over. This was the first time I’d met him, and let me tell you, he was so adorable I would have gone anywhere with him! But alas, he only wanted to take me to the OR…. lol. Before we left, he put something in my IV that made me goofy – I remember looking at my family and saying “ooh that was fast” and then someone putting the shower cap type thing on my head & I had to help because I have long hair. I remember being wheeled into the OR, and once in there they had me scooch onto a different table. I think. That could well have been after – it’s one of those weird disconnected memories. Anyways, I do know that my surgeon was there and they started introducing all the support team “this is John, and you know Dr. Z, and here’s Vern “ and I was chuckling to myself like you guys really think I care at this point who’s who? I think they were chuckling too – I just remember that there was happy banter and/or joking as they went about prepping me, and it was a good feeling all around to have happy people around me. Next thing I knew someone was calling my name, and I surfaced VERY reluctantly from a deep sleep. Once I let them know I was awake they left me alone, and I could drift in and out all I wanted. At times I had pain in my upper belly and felt a little nauseous. What’s interesting is that it is such a distant memory now it hardly seemed like anything as far as the pain goes. I was aware of another patient in the recovery room – a large man who was moaning a lot. In my drugged out mind, this made me feel the need to do some moaning of my own just so I wouldn’t be forgotten. LOL. No logic there, just instinct. Someone was apparently standing behind me monitoring my machines, because pretty soon they said it was time to go and my bed started moving. We went in the elevator and pretty soon I saw my family come into view as I was wheeled past them to my room. I felt very concerned with making sure they knew I was just fine, so I was saying hi and trying to smile. But boy I was still pretty high! Once in my room, I began to experience some more pain. I must say it is nearly impossible to assign a number to pain. I think I’m a people pleaser, and I was like “oh it’s not so bad, a 4? Maybe?” But it was a bit worse than that. My mom said she could tell I was in pain because she could see my blood pressure going up. The nurse gave me morphine in my IV, and within a few minutes I felt no pain, but I did feel the nausea. I salivated a lot, but I breathed through it without heaving, thank goodness. In retrospect, the pain must have been gas and the nausea was from the morphine. I drifted in and out for a few hours, then in the evening I got the nurse to disconnect me from everything but the IV, so I could walk and go to the restroom. From that time on, I honestly had no real pain. I used gas x strips every 3 hours, burped a little, didn’t toot at all I felt the tiniest bit of the gas in my neck, but even that came and went quickly. They never had to put the oxygen thing back in my nose because my oxygen levels stayed good (yay for me for quitting smoking!!!) My hospital stay was uneventful. The tray they brought the next day was silly – I asked if there was any protein in any of it, and when I was told no, I thought why waste the time & tummy space? I ate some to prove no problems, and then was released to go so I could start working on protein My surgeon came by and said everything went really well. I have one incision in my belly button and two more "punctures" high up on my left side. These are smaller than a grain of rice and I'm sure will be undetectable once healed. I'm still completely amazed at this surgeon's skill -- to think that 85% of my stomach was removed and no one will ever be able to see a scar -- blows my mind. He said I was good to go if I wanted. Once unhooked from the IV, I admit I didn’t feel nearly as perky as I had when I was hooked up to it. But they let me walk out on my own and I did not have to do the wheel chair ride. The next 2-3 days were all about sleeping. I tried my darndest to get fluid & protein in, but I felt pretty nauseas. Had the super-saliva production thing going on a couple of times where I thought I would start heaving, but I never did, thank goodness. My sweet husband would run to bring me a paper towel to spit the saliva into (I mean I was producing tremendous amounts of saliva when I got nauseas! sorry if TMI) and then he would rub my back and say sweet things to me while I took deep breaths and let it pass. Nausea sucks. But! By day 3 it was ALL gone. Ever since then all I can say is that the vague soreness in my tummy has gotten MUCH better every day, and the tiredness is slowly getting better. Day 4 after surgery I went on a very short trip to Target and was amazed to stop and think about the surgery I’d just had and that I was out walking around. After about 10 minutes though, I was headed to the lawn furniture department for a lil break I have a desk job, and I took just short of 2 weeks off work – I honestly can’t imagine taking more than that with how normal I feel. Yes, I am pretty damn tired right now, but c’mon, I was tired all the time before surgery! It’s just going to get better and better. Today is the last day of ‘full liquids’. Tomorrow I get pureed! Hooraaaaay! Been daydreaming about cottage cheese lol. The liquid diet has begun to go literally right through me. Yes I get hungry but nothing like presurgery. Once I drink a few sips off a protein drink, I am satisfied. However, within half an hour, it is coming out tha other end if you know what I mean. TMI I know, but I’m here to tell it like it is So I’m hoping that pureed foods will be just what I need to set things right in that department. I had my first poo maybe 3 or 4 days post op and it was normal, if a bit small. I was very happy not to have the severe constipation some folks have immediately post op. I know it could still happen, but at least I’ll be a little further out from surgery. Last I checked, I had lost 20 lbs since the start of pre-op, and about 10 lbs since surgery (about a lb per day). HOWEVER – and here’s something really fun --- my husband accidentally kicked my scale into the wall in the dark and it shattered into a million pieces. I had left it out in the middle of the floor – my bad So... I haven’t weighed in days! I’ve ordered a new fancy scale on Amazon, and I think it will be kinda neat to just wait until it arrives. I know I’m losing weight. But for some reason, my immediate focus is not the weight loss, it’s just about doing what I should be doing. I really feel like I made the right decision for me, and honestly, it has been a good experience so far. looking forward to feeling better and better and better! ONWARD!

I was gonna say that she has shared "TMI" but it brought a smile to my face! LOL!!! Naughty Chinamama!

An Update: I've been getting 3 meals eaten--yogurt in the morning. Usually cottage cheese or chopped moist chicken at lunch. then eggs or sometimes baked fish for dinner. Fluids aren't wonderful--usually 48 oz, still working up to 64oz. I'm feeling hungry but not traditional hunger--I get uncomfortable pains that rise up from my stomach, especially in the mornings--that seems to be a hunger cue. I also get gas pain/bubbles that rise up into my chest while I'm eating. Doesn't seem to matter how small a spoonful I'm eating. I hope that eases soon b/c its painful. On a TMI note, I haven't had a BM since Thursday. However I don't feel uncomfortable or have any pain. I feel very good otherwise. Took at 1 mile walk Friday and 1.8 mile walk at the beach yesterday! How are you other March 13-ers doing?

Liss, that list is so like mine. I can now go shopping and walk around without feeling like I need a break or a nap afterwards....Ditto, even better I actually enjoy when I do go clothes shopping, rather than just choosing what would cover me that didnt look like a mu-mu I fit into my bathtub- again it now seems huge....how awesome is that, i slip all over mine now...so bizarre I can shop in pretty much any store of my choosing ...Yep, including designer brands (of course I am still a cheapskate and buy designers from outlets or the US lol) Professionally, I have had a promotion. I would never have even applied pre-surgery. ... well you do need more money to pay for all the new clothes and activities I can sleep comfortably in a bed- I didn't sleep in a bed for years- slept in a recliner cause of back discomfort and breathing issues. I can come away for work or on holiday and sleep in the bed- not have to ensure there was a couch so I could sleep sitting up. I am no longer invisible. Pre-surgery people would "accidentally" run into me all the time like they couldn't see me. Honestly can't remember the last time it happened- certainly not since the surgery. ...Its funny how you mention the "invisible" things and people running into you....I so relate to that. I said that on my video and so many people (lifetime skinny people) could not understand it. I thought maybe it was just me that experienced that stuff I am more flexible and feel strong for the first time in my adult memory.....Super Liss!!!!! I am, for the first time in years, considering the possibility of a relationship. I had written this off in my own head I think and didn't realise I had done it. I can wear heels again.....super sexy legs..wait to summer, those men will be circiling you. I can slide down a slide with my 8 year old nephew.....And dont forget the swing sets..lol I can go on rides at theme parks etc without worrying they'll bounce me for being over the weight limit ....Add adventure activties here, apparently I am a thrill seeker now I can fly... Without an extension belt....and sit in the seat and not touch anyone on either side I have so much more energy!! Amen sista Feeling sexy, weird feeling for me, but I feel curvy (atleast clothed...the plastics surgery will fix the unclothed part lol) Looking forward to summer...I may even try a bikini (post plastics)...not sure the world or I am even ready for that TMI...sex is better *embarassed look*...if I was in a relationship I would so be taking more advantage of that lol I have more respect for myself, i expect more from myself and for myself.

I had surgery on the 4th and started my cycle a couple days ago and oh my I don't know what this surgery did but I am menstruating so heavily. Did anyone experience this after surgery? Sorry TMI but this is kinda scary.

This is definitely tmi, but was/is anyone else kinda scared to poop? Lol.

Welcome to all the new people!! :-) I am so outta touch lately!! I plan to be there on the 24th :-) I miss everyone. I am reading up every couple of days but just no energy to comment................ Donna would be so proud I am getting in my 9 hours of sleep every night. Going to bed by 9pm and up by 6am to head out...........Much better than my old 12am in bed and up by 7am.............I am starting to like going to bed early!! So let the weight fall off me now!! :-) Ok about 8 baby spoons of lentils and cheese and totally full..........I guess the sausages won't go down tonight. Problem is my stomach growls really loud all day but when I sit down to eat not much goes down..........I don't think I am still hungry but the growling is embarrassing. I am thinking protien shake or a protien shots too.................. Ok TMI I know but all this protien causes some digetive problems as in I can't go............even drinking 80 ounces of water and still can't go..............need to buy some benefiber...........Oh did I mention I am burned out on salad right now...........I don't like salad right now.........shocking...........I have this thing with protien that is the only thing that sounds good lately............I am weird I know...........!! Oh getting ready to head to bed!! Got my girl here with me and I want to chill with her before I go to bed at .........ah 9pm!! LOL ...........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Ash... did u get the link to the binder? Have a lovely boring time at orientation... but atleast it is super exciting be a step ahead!!!! wooo hooo... i was beside myself! And welcome to the board! OMG Nicolie and I did ZUMBA.. and yes we lasted. after 10 mins i contemplated leaving, lmfao... we hung in and had a blast. I need better shoes that dont stick to the floor so much. I also need a shot of tequila cuz i only have rythm when i am drinking, seriously! Nicolie weighed in this am at kp and has done great! I am proud of her. Now if i could just go boo boo maybe i would weigh less. lmao. I am taking Iron for anemia and im having potty issues. lol. tmi???