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I'm 6 weeks out. Have had that happen twice. Think it was just a combination of too much too fast since in those 2 instances I've had that stuff before and was fine

Hi, Matt. I had surgery about 13 months ago. I am male, 5'8" and weighed 150 at my highest. When I had my initial consultation with the surgeon, I was 137 and had a BMI of about 35.5. I had all the same questions as you have. I thought I was not overweight enough for surgery, even though I had yo-yo dieted for most of my adult life and was never able to keep weight off long-term. I was honestly a little embarrassed to be thinking about surgery compared to some of the other people I met who had 200+ pounds to lose. The only reason I was approved with a 35.5 BMI is because I had co-morbidities (sleep apnea, high BP, pre-diabetes.) RnY seemed really drastic and I couldn't imagine never eating the foods I loved again. Maybe if I just tried to diet one more time.... Fast-forward 13 months. I'm down to 140 pounds and a BMI of 21. Having the surgery was the best decision of my life, and my only regret is that I didn't do it years earlier. (I was 59 at the time of my surgery.) I feel wonderful and have so much energy. I'm off my BP and cholesterol meds, my sleep apnea is gone, and no more pre-diabetes. I can eat anything I want, but in much smaller amounts. However, my cravings for unhealthy foods--especially sugar--have disappeared. I won't lie to you: the first several months are really hard and you'll wonder what the hell you have done. By the maintenance phase, however, it becomes pretty easy when your life returns to a new normal. Good luck, and keep us posted!

I'm 14 months out, and although I can eat anything I want, my tummy still reminds me of volume. I find that the things I used to love eating a LOT of - like stir fry veggies, just don't sit so well any more. I can eat out anywhere (except now!) or fix any kind of food, and in that sense, things are back to normal. But volume is definitely not the same - THANKFULLY! I am presently enduring 2 weeks of home isolation due to COVID-19 symptoms, which are resolving without any problems, but I admit that there has been heightened anxiety/stress during all this. I am utterly dismayed to find myself resorting to food for comfort - I thought I had that one licked, but it has raised its ugly head, and I have gained 5 pounds! I have been too tired to exercise, so I have been a couch potato/food addict for nearly 2 weeks, and now I am paying the price. But.... I am now back on track with starting some exercise again, tracking my food, intermittent fasting, and working on my emotional issues. It feels MUCH BETTER to be in control of the food, rather than the food being in control of me. I need to hold this thought and remember that the long term reward greatly outweighs the short term gratification.

@Nicholas203 Hi Nicholas, sorry to hear you’re having such a terrible time of it right now. I’m just a little past 4 weeks post right now and I can no longer eat what I was eating 2-3 weeks post op. The meal the size of one egg fills me up now. So many things are making me sick with the feeling of dumping syndrome. I don’t have all the symptoms you’ve noted. I have no appetite. I do throw up quite a bit after trying new foods or eating too fast or too much. Dizziness and vomiting and dehydration may be signs of low blood pressure caused by your new stomach. I wish I had more of an answer for you. I know the Veterans here will have more experience to provide. I really hope you feel better soon and get the medical attention you maybe need. Hope it gets better for you very soon!

Hi there! I know this topic is very old but I understand where the op is coming from. I had my lapband put in back in 2006 and it's made my life much worse. It was a panic decision on my part, plain and simple. When I was a teenager I weighed 450 lbs and was constantly depressed. I lost over 150 lbs over 2 years due to dropping soda, fast food and alcohol all while maintaining a very physical job. Even though at 300 lbs I was still obese I felt amazing. We eventually moved and as a coping mechanism for stress I lost myself in alcohol and Warcraft and saw my weight climb all the way back to 375 in less than a year. I freaked out and scheduled a consultation. I was paying cash so there was no delay and no psychology exam. 2 weeks after consultation I had my lapband and the nightmare started. For 6 months every adjustment was free so they would help over the phone if I was having trouble. After the six months it became 200$ per visit and suddenly they couldn't help over the phone. I would go days without being able to eat or drink because I was unable to cover the fee for an adjustment. What I didn't realize about the surgery was that it still relied on personal responsibility. Not eating or drinking things that would irritate or cause swelling etc. I finally decided to have it loosened as far as it could be and my life has been moderately better since. Through diet and exercise I've gotten down to 210 lbs and kept it there for almost 10 years now. At 6'2" that's a healthy weight regardless of misleading bmi. I even just recently had the full body lift about a year ago and I'm really comfortable with myself for the first time in my life. The lapband still stops me from eating or drinking occasionally but I've learned to live with it. It's a reminder to not make rash decisions out of fear. Good luck to everyone or anyone who reads this. Some people love the lapband and I'm very happy they found something that works for them. Others are going to struggle with it like I did. I love you all and I hope everyone can find a balance.

Sitting at my home computer this morning typing an email to my sales staff, trying to keep them motivated during these very trying and challenging times, I realized I was giving them the advice I need to hear myself. Its been two years since I started this journey and 506 days since my RNY surgery. I'm down 125 pounds and life is flippin fantastic! I have been losing and gaining the same five pounds for five months but I'm ok with that, having a couple of glasses of red wine in the evening is most likely the cause coupled with a lack of any real exercise program - I am active, just not working out - but my life is filled with happiness right now. Fast forward to this morning and it hit me, I'm motivating others but not myself. Today that changes! I laced up my running shoes and started day one of C25K. Running a 5k without stopping has always been a bucket list item and now I am going to do it!

WOW!!!!!!! You did it so fast too!! Our starting stats are very similar. Hope I can follow in your footsteps someday!!!

I understand that you may think things were working against you. My original surgery was scheduled for 1/14. It got delayed for almost two months. At one point I thought too it wasn’t meant to be. At the very end tho it went super fast. I found out I was approved for my surgery on 3/2 the day before I was scheduled to have it 3/3 and I did my all liquid diet in hopes I would have it. it was that close. So I get it. here I am on the other side and so happy my life and my body are transforming! Good luck and don’t give up on this experience! ❤️

Grace,It's good to see your post. One thing you have to remember is that we who are older and I am 73 will not lose as fast as those who are younger and a bit more active. Other things that affect weight loss are the medications that you are on and a lower metbolism. I had my surgery about a week before you and I have only lost 15 lbs. While it is frustrating I am okay with that and will be patient. It is a process. I do I'm eating between 6 and 700 calories a day which is where my doctors want me to be. I make sure that I get the prescribed amount of protein as well as fluids. My stomach definitely tells me when it's full and that's when I stop.So that is the advantage of your tool.Although you and your sister are both losing weight right now here's what's going to be different for you. You have a lifelong tool now a smaller stomach that's gonna help you maintain proper portions to lose your weight and to maintain your ideal weight. We have all experienced the ups and downs of weight loss and weight gain because the body tries to throw everything at us to regaining that weight (Hunger changing metabolism at cetera) And that's what your sister may go through again and you won't if you follow The rules. The surgery Lowers your setpoint For your body weight. Hang in there and try not to get too discouraged. And stay safe through the corona virus.

Okay everyone BIG UPDATE. I took the advice here on this forum and some more that I searched around for how people were breaking their stalls. I firstly did an intermittent fast for 24 hours. I drank water had some tea (and prayed because PHEW your boy was HUNGRY LOL) and then I cut out all my snacking habits and increased my time between meals from every two hours to every four hours. I have lost 8 pounds since then. I started to interchange my workouts to include sometimes just a walk instead of weights and running. Thank you all and I hope this helps somebody else too💙

Hello, Sorry for ur current situation. I had my Band for 11 yrs. When I got it I weighed 215 pounds at 5’2. Went down to 123 pounds. Kept the weight off for all those yrs. I only had it filled once right after surgery n it was enough for me cuz I too had all the same problems/symptoms ur having. I just tolerate everything cuz I ❤️‘d more how I looked due to weight coming off fast n it was well worth the suffering at that time. To lessen the pain restriction/overall discomfort I just gave up on all the food that caused the restriction n instead learned to take smaller bites, sips n overall smaller food/liquid portions. It would take me an hour or so to eat a meal n when I ate out with friends/family I just ordered the kids meal, side orders or a small appetizers so this way I b done eating b4 them. I also lots of times ran to the restroom to throw up 🤢 n always made sure there was a trash can near by or carried a bag/container in my car for if I needed to vomit. This behavior of mine was frustrating/annoying but AGAIN I didn’t care. Unfortunately I ended up becoming anemic n put on iron n hated it. I also indulged on all the bad sugary foods n didn’t care/worry cuz I was still loosing weight n cuz it was the only food I too didn’t have problems with n it was better than no calorie consumption. I got my band removed in May of 2018 due to continuous complications with my port due to a tummy tuck n very very HAPPY to have had it removed. If I wouldn’t have had a TT then I probably wouldn’t have had it removed. But, it’s true why things/circumstances happen for a reason n looking back I’m glad it was removed. Anyhow, I hope my sharing helped a little n whatever u decide to do with ur current situation make sure u choose wisely n do the right thing when it comes to ur overall health. God bless🙏🏽😊

Had my revision on Feb 3, 2020. Noticed that the weight isn’t coming off as fast and easy as it did the first time. Any thoughts?

You have to use Pictures before and after= You head is not letting you see it! Stay on course and then wham clothes sizes drop really fast when it kicks in

Going WLS Male on this one! All of us who are male are dumb ass stupid including myself! We are genetically HEAR ME ROAR! so my view is this is your journey you did this for yourself Not him! He wants to kill himself stay clear, You are no position with your journey to carry his weight! He will either get his head out of his ass like myself! Or he will be like my best buddy Barron! - he is currently in a Urn at age 53 So focus on yourself he is going to see the results and when you are able you can give some support but it will take something other then you to wake him up! For me it was a trip thru the Cardiac Ward laying there wondering if i would ever see my kids again. He is a food addict like all of us, I would eat fast food 5 times a week, drink like a fish and eat like a animal. I know where he is at. Enjoy your journey - This is for you! Do not get frustrated Do not get on his case about it - he will push back all males do! Just do your thing and slowly he will see you changing, you being happy and maybe wake up!

I'm Canadian actually, and will probably be in Japan until I retire. Just work-wise I know I'm in a much more secure position here than I could ever have back home (I've got tenure at a university here). I did leave Japan after my first five years here, as, at that time, I knew that if I ever wanted a shot of being in a real relationship and/or having kids, that was the time to do it (I've known a lot of other women who also left in their late 20s/early 30s for exactly the same reason). But that didn't work out for me either (in 2 different countries) and eventually I came to accept that maybe I was meant to be single forever and not have kids, no matter where I was (which is why I returned to Japan). I've never been the kind of person who needs to be with others (happy introvert over here!) so never felt the need to chase people to date because I was lonely or needed sex. Maybe it's just bad luck on my part, but I never really met someone who I really hit it off with (I mean, who were single to begin with😉), so I've always felt happier on my own than the other way around (who needs the stress of a lot of bad or mediocre dates?). But, I'm still an optimist and who knows what will happen in the future. FWIW, I'm kind of with AJ here - I think travel to other places/countries opens up a lot of possibilities, and you are able to find likeminded-people more easily. I recently came back from a trip to several African countries where I got a lot of compliments from the local men (who prefer curvier women, even though the local women are quite beautiful (but thin)). I know quite a few people who using online dating apps to hook up with (or just meet) people when they travel. That said, years before apps were even a thing, one of my friends from school got talking to a guy on a bus when she was in Thailand, by the time they got off the bus they decided to spend the rest of their time together for the remainder of their trip, by the end of the trip she flew back to Europe with him and they eventually got married and had kids. It really happened that fast, and they are still together 20+ years later. So, you never know what could happen. However, to counter AJ a little bit - he's financially well-off and travels to countries where women are not, and where they often have to depend on men to take care of them (whether they want them to or not). That's fine if that's what both parties want, I'm not judging in any way. But I'm in the opposite camp. I have some financial stability and can take care of myself - I'm not looking for a man who can do that for me, but who can complement my life (and I his). And to be with someone who is attracted to, and wants to be with a successful, confident woman who knows what she wants, and is not the weak/dependent person in the pair (to be clear, I don't want either person to be weak or dependent). Here's a final thought too, about what happens when you lose weight, and are successful in keeping it off. I remember reading somewhere (I'll have to find it) that it's not just the person who loses weight who has to deal with their own body image, but people who knew them too. If people around you know/knew you as obese, they may always see you through that "filter", despite the fact that it's been years of more since you were that way. That may make it more difficult to find someone within your own circle of friends, family, and acquaintances, since they may refer to you that way for a long time, even to people who didn't know you at that weight. I know, for example, in my own family, my parents often refer to one our former neighbours (who is a cop), as, "you know, the one who weighed 350 pounds and lost 200 pounds, you remember her?" How do people ever overcome that stigma of obesity? I don't know.

*Caution, Kind of a long read* Hi everyone, I had a my surgery in December 2019 and even before surgery my boyfriend of almost 5 years was very against me having surgery. His question is always "what am I going to gain from you having this surgery?" and he doesn't seem to care at all that losing weight is what is best for me. At my highest weight I was about 10 pounds shy of reaching 300 pounds and he always was very against me getting over 300 pounds and he constantly told me that if I worked out and ate right I could easily lose the weight I wanted to lose on my own (though it is very hard to lose almost 100 pounds on your own with support, i couldn't imagine doing it with the little to no support he was offering). He has horrible eating habits himself, soda, fast food 3-5 times weekly, and no exercise but lucky for him he has always been skinny and has a fairly good metabolism and never has to worry about his weight. I went back and forth for years over having surgery and my mom had gastric bypass in 2016 and lost about 200 pounds and is doing amazing and he swears up and down that I did this surgery just because she kept telling me to (which is entirely untrue) and that if I didn't listen to everything my mom said then I would have been able to lose the weight on my own and now he just thinks I took the easy way out. Which, a bit of back story, I was very very sick after my surgery and in a lot of pain and I could not get fluids or food down well for the first 2 months post op and I was so weak I could hardly get out of bed and if I did I would feel faint and practically pass out in the shower, on the toilet, etc. He saw me go through all of this until they found out I had a stricture and they had to go in and dilate it and now I feel amazing, but still after watching me go through all of this he still thinks that I was weak and took the easy way out. Now he thinks that at 3 months post op and 65 pounds down from my highest weight and still another 60 pounds away from my goal that I am getting far too skinny and that I need to stop right now at the weight that I am at or else he will no longer find me attractive. I don't think he seems to understand that I can not simply just stop losing weight and that I had this surgery in the first place to lose a significant amount of weight because I was morbidly obese. I have been overweight almost my whole life and all I have ever wanted was just to be a normal goal, have boys like me, make friends, have confidence, and be able to shop in a normal store and not have to desperately search for cute clothes which rarely existed in the plus sized section. Now I have a boy that I love and would hate to lose but he is making it seem like I made this super selfish decision to change MY BODY without his consent and that now I should feel guilty for potentially flushing out 4 year long relationship down the drain and wasting his time. I just don't know what to do now, he said not to call him until I can explain to him how me losing weight and getting "skinny" is going to benefit him in any way. I'm just saying, I did this surgery for me, I deserve to be happy and feel good about myself too. I don't give a single damn about being skinny, I just want to be happy and healthy and at almost 300 pounds I was so far from that that it's not even funny. I just need his support and I don't think i'll ever get it.

*Caution, Kind of a long read* Hi everyone, I had a my surgery in December 2019 and even before surgery my boyfriend of almost 5 years was very against me having surgery. His question is always "what am I going to gain from you having this surgery?" and he doesn't seem to care at all that losing weight is what is best for me. At my highest weight I was about 10 pounds shy of reaching 300 pounds and he always was very against me getting over 300 pounds and he constantly told me that if I worked out and ate right I could easily lose the weight I wanted to lose on my own (though it is very hard to lose almost 100 pounds on your own with support, i couldn't imagine doing it with the little to no support he was offering). He has horrible eating habits himself, soda, fast food 3-5 times weekly, and no exercise but lucky for him he has always been skinny and has a fairly good metabolism and never has to worry about his weight. I went back and forth for years over having surgery and my mom had gastric bypass in 2016 and lost about 200 pounds and is doing amazing and he swears up and down that I did this surgery just because she kept telling me to (which is entirely untrue) and that if I didn't listen to everything my mom said then I would have been able to lose the weight on my own and now he just thinks I took the easy way out. Which, a bit of back story, I was very very sick after my surgery and in a lot of pain and I could not get fluids or food down well for the first 2 months post op and I was so weak I could hardly get out of bed and if I did I would feel faint and practically pass out in the shower, on the toilet, etc. He saw me go through all of this until they found out I had a stricture and they had to go in and dilate it and now I feel amazing, but still after watching me go through all of this he still thinks that I was weak and took the easy way out. Now he thinks that at 3 months post op and 65 pounds down from my highest weight and still another 60 pounds away from my goal that I am getting far too skinny and that I need to stop right now at the weight that I am at or else he will no longer find me attractive. I don't think he seems to understand that I can not simply just stop losing weight and that I had this surgery in the first place to lose a significant amount of weight because I was morbidly obese. I have been overweight almost my whole life and all I have ever wanted was just to be a normal goal, have boys like me, make friends, have confidence, and be able to shop in a normal store and not have to desperately search for cute clothes which rarely existed in the plus sized section. Now I have a boy that I love and would hate to lose but he is making it seem like I made this super selfish decision to change MY BODY without his consent and that now I should feel guilty for potentially flushing out 4 year long relationship down the drain and wasting his time. I just don't know what to do now, he said not to call him until I can explain to him how me losing weight and getting "skinny" is going to benefit him in any way. I'm just saying, I did this surgery for me, I deserve to be happy and feel good about myself too. I don't give a single damn about being skinny, I just want to be happy and healthy and at almost 300 pounds I was so far from that that it's not even funny. I just need his support and I don't think i'll ever get it.

fast heart rate and nausea sounds like the start of dumping?

@Dawn Hanaphy Mine is scrambled eggs - well one egg - with just a pinch shredded mozzarella and cheddar cheeses. It’s the only food that does not give me the fast heart rate and nausea 10-15 after eating. Thank Goodness we have found that one food that each sustains us right now. ❤️

My, oh my...how the posts above describe my journey! Dear hubby has lovingly (but, a tad frustrated) pointed out that I’m still taking too large of bites and eating too quickly...I seem to start out focussed, prepared, but drift—and well, there I go, mindless eating. Mindless eating was okay pre WLS (actually, it was NOT okay at all, but.) but I find there’s no margin of error (for me) now. Even a few too large, or too fast, bites creates that full in the throat, nauseated, clammy feeling....and then I feel wiped out for a good while. Because hubs has always been tall and naturally thin, he’s puzzled at my slow learning. He’ll say something like “Darlin, you know this happens every time...you have to slow down, be mindful, tiny bites until your body is ready to accept”. This is his normal, but obviously easier said than done por moi. We are learning, we just didn’t expect it would be this. Lol. Celebrate our self transformations! Baby steps...We will come through this. Love, hugs and hang in there!

Hello everyone. I hope that everyone is doing ok during this time. So I am almost 6 weeks post op RNY. Before surgery, the main thing I drank was soda. Other than that, I would make sweet tea. Like extremely sweet tea. Like 2 + cups of sugar per gallon of sweet tea. Same thing with koolaid. fast forward to now. Of course all of those things are completely off limits and honestly I’m not even sad about this. I decided to make a change and my drinks was one of the biggest parts of the change that I new I had to make. My question is that I am getting a little bored with just the water, crystal lite, and Gatorade zero. I have never in my life used any kind of artificial sweetener. So my question is, if I make a pitcher of tea, how much stevia should I use in that pitcher? Or is there something else that would taste better than the stevia? I refuse to have any sugar in drinks. That was my downfall before and I’m not even going down that road but was wondering if I could substitute. Thanks for any advice!

As long as it's temporary. How often do you weigh yourself? --- You could also try intermittent fasting to get weight loss going again. No guarantee here as well, of course.

Perfect! Then I’m happy. I’m down another pound this morning so that’s good. My surgeon actually told me weightloss will be just as fast with the revision. He may be basing that off the ridiculous success I had with my sleeve because they were NOT expecting me to lose more than 100% of my excess body weight. I looked and felt incredible. Too bad I couldn’t keep it off. Oh well. I am bound and determined to do it right this time!! I won’t get another do-over.

Except not all good is happening. My mom works in a doctors office, but in the county that I live in the average age is 48. Most people here are older and the doctors offices aren't allowing anyone 65 or older in the offices and I live in the California foothills. People retire here. Meaning there is a large population of 65 and older so there aren't many people going to the doctors offices and a lot of people are being laid off. My mom had 4 patients yesterday. FOUR. She's worried she's going to lose her job because yesterday they laid off 14 people and warned that more layoffs were coming. The only reason I'm not worried about my own job is because it's a Fortune 500 Company and a fourth of our staff took leave because they told us we could if we didn't feel safe. I'm currently considering it, but am waiting to hear back if my doctor will approve leave for me. My sister's fiancee is on leave because he's a cook at a restaurant that decided to temporarily shut its doors until the pandemic dies down a bit. And right now my sister is the only one working because she's working at a fast food place as a shift manager. So while yes, there are some good things going on, there are more bad things imo. At the rate things are going we're likely headed to another recession if not another Great Depression.

1. First of all, don't let their opinions make you falter. Yes, some people DO fail. However, most of the time that can be traced back to them getting back into bad eating habits... i.e fast food, drinking soda again, eating cake, cookies, ice cream, and massive amounts of bread and pasta. And statistically ANY surgery can cause nerve damage not just weight loss surgery. It depends a lot on your own body, how many other prior surgeries you've had, if you have nerve disorders like different types of neuralgia, Fibromyalgia, etc. 2. I read up on statistics when deciding on my surgery and Gastric Bypass has a 0.14% chance of mortality in the operating room (essentially 1 in every 1000 people), 1% in the first 30 days and 6% in five years. However, you have to think about the fact that many of us have been overweight for a very long time and it takes a toll on our bodies which is likely the reason for the 6%. Some people just waited too long to do anything about it. Avoid NSAIDS like the plague though because once you have Gastric Bypass that causes massive bleeding and you'll land yourself in the hospital. No ibuprofen or asprin for you! (though you likely already know this lol) And I TOTALLY understand the facial pain! I have TN (trigeminal neuralgia) and it was misdiagnosed for YEARS which means it didn't get the proper treatment and led to it getting worse and worse until I was in constant pain for MONTHS! I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't talk because of the sheer amount of pain I was in and I would cry myself dry. I was exhausted, in agony, miserable and desperate to find an end to the pain. I would literally go to work and cry while I worked. I had brain surgery in 2017 and it had a similar mortality rate to the GB surgery and had some other rare complications and even some common ones. I was at peace with whatever happened. If I was one of the rare 1 in 1000 that died then it'd be an end to the pain, if I was one of the other 999 people then I had a 95% chance that the surgery would work for me and a 5% chance that it'd do nothing to help me. Even then, I knew it was just a temporary solution since TN has no cure. And it did work. For two years. The pain came back last year, but the surgery is amazing in the fact that it's kept the most debilitating type 1 pain away. I have atypical TN (which is apparently rare) and have had both type 1 and type 2 pain. I had the surgery because the type 1 pain is like being stabbed repeatedly in the face with a scalding hot poker where it twists and twists and twists and then repeats. When I have flares I only suffer from the type 2 pains now and hope that the type 1 never comes back! Also, I haven't had a flare since August! I hope that everything goes well for you in your surgery and I hope they can eventually figure out what's causing your other health issues so that you can get the necessary treatment without those issues getting worse. I wish you the best!