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I will consider all those things except I cannot have prune juice because I get a JP drain for a week. He said it could be mistaken for blood if there should be a problem. lmao this is TMI but I also made sure I was stocked up on Baby Wipes... Sounds like I might need them.

Sorry for the TMI!!! Can you have dumping Syndrome with out all the symptoms? For example just having the obvious (diarrhea). AND LOTS AND LOTS OF non-painful intestinal movement? No cramping no sweating nothing... Anything I drink I immediately after 10 mins have to go. Any helps is much appreciated

Hello, everyone! I also had my surgery on Monday the 14th. I was released from the hospital Tues afternoon and I'm feeling pretty good. Is everyone on a sugarfree clear liquid diet? The program I am in lets us have one bottle isopure zero card rtd protien supplement a day. I've been drinking a lot of fluids and haven't had much pain or any vomiting. I have had diarrhea since Weds so I have to go to the lab and give them a stool sample tomorrow. Sorry if TMI.

Hi guys, my surgery is scheduled for 2nd November and I'm currently on a 2 week pre op diet and I'm also finding it really difficult! I'm allowed 4 pints of semi skimmed milk per day, but I can substitute one pint of milk with one slim fast shake. I'm on day 3 and I'm so hungry! Plus (sorry if tmi) every time I drink my milk I urgently need the bathroom So my body feels completely empty! 11 days to go, and I'm going to stay strong and get it done, especially after reading PorkChopExpress post. Encouraging Sent from my SM-G900F using the BariatricPal App

I'm gonna have to agree with what just about everyone else has said. Your hubby was being more than a little bit of an ass. Seems to me like he's trying to drive you away, maybe because he doesn't have the balls to end the relationship himself. No offense meant, but it was clearly warned in the title that the thread was sex related. If you couldn't handle the very real possibility of some details that you think are TMI, you shouldn't have come in.

Day 10: Following my dietician's advice, I progressed to stage II foods which are liquid pureed Soups, yogurt, Protein drinks, etc. I welcomed the change with opened arms -- truly enjoy having squash Soup (Campbells Gardennay brand). I was worried about hair loss and malnutrition. I am able to supplement my diet with powdered Vitamins, add some Udo's 3-6-9 oil for my noggin, and liquid Floradix for Iron supplementation. I also finally got some BeneProtein powder which is awesome. My weight went up about three pounds at the end of week one, but then dropped again back to the original loss. So I am still at a 13 lb loss after a little over a week. I was dehydrated after having the runs from the antibiotics (sorry TMI) and also OMG you girls out there, you KNOW what antibiotics do to a woman!!! Needless to say it's been almost two weeks since my husband and I were close. NOT fun! My port spot barely hurts now. I can feel the port right under the skin. I feel like the BORG! I am going to the gym tomorrow after I drop dd off for kindergarten. I haven't been there in MONTHS. Look forward to getting back on the xtrainer machine. I have to admit I am struggling. I am so incredibly hungry as I no longer have restriction. I think yesterday in addition to broth I had about four half-cup servings of the soup. At 110 calories per cup that adds up. Plus the yogurt I had was 2%, need to read labels now..it rang in at 120 calories per half cup. I haven't had my post-op appointment yet --- a week late --- since I had no childcare last week, and there's no way I could let my three year old run around while I was drinking rocket fuel! My post-op appt is on Thursday, then I _still_ have to wait to have my first fill. I purchased a BODYBUGG off of ebay this weekend and it should arrive this week. I can't wait to use it! I've also thrown out the Nutella.

Well, I'm sure all newbie post op gastric patients will appreciate and approve this message...Had a bowel movement today on Day 4! HAHA Never thought I'd be so happy to see the plumbing still works at the moment. LOL!

I was trying to talk myself into "just a bite" of steak. Last night and today have been really hard. TMI but Aunt Flow is coming to town So the cravings have set in and I have NO energy at all!!!! And I have a birthday party to go to Saturday! I'm stepping out when it comes time for the cake. Less than 2 weeks and we'll be sleeved. For whatever reason though I am making myself sick worrying that I'll wake up with no sleeve. I've been doing great on my diet but in the back of my head I'm just thinking "What if 2 weeks isn't enough?" Anyone else having this fear or am I letting my anxiety take control?

Greetings this may be tmi but I need help. Sleeved on 2/5 sent home 2/6. Seemed ok but then I couldn't keep anything down. Pain meds made me nauseous and anti nauseous meds barely helped. Stopped taking pain meds. Lots of saliva and was coughing phlegm. Called dock 2/7 got another med that helps keep liquids down but it makes me dizzy for a bit when I take it. At least stuff is staying down. I haven't pooped in 5 days and I'm getting worried. Any advice? Going in today to see Doc. Thank you all for your input.

Hello all!! I have been a member of this site since April of 2012, when I got banded. I just popped in here this weekend for support but felt the need to really introduce myself Some of this is a repeat so please bare with me as I'm now on a computer and not a phone (I was on the road for 3 days) Prior to being banded, I spent about 2 years debating on the procedure with one year doing counseling and dieting while getting prepared - I lost 20 pounds in the time prior to the actual surgery. My surgery went good, and only few people knew I got it done. My Mom & Sister were my big supporters and my Dad still has no idea what I did. (He believes that God gave us our body and we should NOT tinker with things like this or you are considered "weak") I am stubborn by nature, a bit hard headed too But I got the surgery done and followed my plan for about 2 months. I lost 40 pounds and since then, have gained a lot of self confidence - but still have more work to do. I will admit, that I botched my surgery even after building up so much "power" to BELIEVE I would not fall off my plan. Well, I was laid off of work right after my surgery, like a day later. I'm a single parent and have also battled sever depression all of my life...only having it get worse after my surgery. I have maintained my weight loss, continue to exercise and watch what I eat. I come here to be more of a lesson to others. FOLLOW THE PLAN!!! For the most part, I have beat myself up endlessly. I blame no one but myself for NOT sticking to my plan - NOBODY. I will also admit that I have been embarrassed about it but, I am working through that. I did not go to support classes because I was so focused on finding WORK, plus I didn't want to go back to the hospital that just laid me off . So basically, I got my band....and proceeded to move on in life as best I could. I was facing foreclosure on my house...trying to keep my son stress free...and keep myself on an even level while being without a job. Last year, I received TMI therapy...basically got my brain "shocked" to help cure my depression and by the Grace of God...it has helped me tremendously!! I no longer consider myself a depressed person (yay!!!) so now I am really back to focusing on my physical health. In the past 2 years, I went from starting out strong to falling off the wagon quickly. I ate and drank the same things I always had, thinking "If I puke like they say I will, then I'll never do it again!!" Well...everything went down fine, with no issues. I have visited my surgeon one time since the surgery to get one fill done. My surgeon is not too fond of me because I was not able to pay my bill and it went into collections. Being wildly embarrassed by that alone, I just didn't even think too much about the band because it's hard to face someone who isn't fond of you, who you couldn't pay (although I have made monthly payments consistently since I did find work 6 months after my surgery.) I have continued to go to my regular doctor who has been a great help. My blood levels are great, and I am no longer diabetic! WOO HOO!! I also no longer have high blood pressure. But about 9 months or so ago, I began to have problems. I would eat and then the bites I would take, felt like they were getting "stuck" but at the time, I attributed it to heart burn and told myself to chill out on the crap food. A few months went by and I was fine - kind of off and on again. I went to my regular doctor to monitor me and she thought perhaps it injured my esophagus (she knows I got banded). I then found a HUGE lump in my stomach and got a scan of that and was told it was just a fatty "mass" but not life threatening. Then this past 2 months or so, things got worse. Now, if I do not chew my food and swallow too soon...it feels like I'm swallowing a golf ball! The pain stops me in my tracks and I just pray that it goes down and I could literally feel it pass through when it did. However, over the weekend (and this began last week) I actually started to vomit. Over the weekend, I realized that instead of sitting at the table wishing food would go down (with a look of "oh crap" on my face and people wondering what is wrong...), I have learned that I can just go to the bathroom, lean over and heave and poof, up comes the bite that was not going down. Yeah...that's not good. I decided a couple of weeks ago that perhaps the band is now working as it should...? And I know it sounds so stupid but, I figured the band is now ticked off and showing me a lesson. So back to soft foods I went OR chewing the bejesus out of food until it's MUSH and taking teeny bites, and it will go down. I won't lie, a part of me also felt that if anything, I would lose more weight this way. But now, since I am vomiting at times, I came here for support because again, I have not been in contact with my surgeon - or ANYONE who has been banded!! I wanted to get others' idea on things and everyone has been GREAT (except for one person) but the advice I got was enough to get my behind on the phone and stop being embarrassed and ask for help! I will go in this Wednesday the 21st to do a swallow test to see what is going on, and they will refer me to a new surgeon. Many may ask why I waited so long to address this, well again, I know I am the one to blame for this, and it is quite embarrassing and I'm not one to want to get beat up over it because I can do that all by myself!! I got a new job and didn't want to take time off for doctor visits (and NO, I'm not making excuses...it just is what it is...) I was embarrassed that I fell off the wagon...embarrassed that I am not now "skinny" as I thought I would be (but still quite proud of what I've lost and kept off!) Through this ordeal, a best friend of mine committed suicide, another very close friend passed away from breast cancer, and I myself, am having to worry about a breast concern too (so is my Mom and we are both getting scans again in a couple of weeks), plus my Mom has been very very very ill but is now getting better. All of that in addition to other things not listed, really just took my mind off my band...until now when it has reached a level of being scared. Thank you all for accepting me into this community!! If I can say ONE thing to those who are getting banded or have just gotten banded...please please PLEASE, stay on the plan that your surgeon gives you!! It really is not worth feeling like I feel (when I'm eating)!!! My family is a group of eaters. We Celebrate EVERYTHING with food. But you have to have a STRONG support system, and this is something I have now learned. So get the support, and be well all!!! *Smoochies*!!

hey all, i'm 5 days post op and i have 2 questions, 1 how long until everyone was able to bend over regularly? i've been trying so hard to take it easy. i have alot of trouble bending over to get my pants and (tmi) wiping when going to the bathroom, getting dressed etc. 2 i'm also having a hard time of getting my liquids in, i've averaged about 30-40oz a day which is not enough according to my dr. but i just feel overstuffed, about to pop, even drinking this amount, will this go away? thanks!

The green veggies my surgeon had me eating before the surgery had me empty. I was running to the 🚽 with only diarrhea and boy was it gross(TMI Sorry). I’m worried about not going gonna call the office after tomorrow. I was told to give it a week. In the past not going would make me gain. Of course I’m still on only liquids and one protein shake a day. That could have lots to do with it also.

OH....MY....GOODNESS!!! Very interesting article indeed! I've noticed this to be true for myself..watching tv, not hungry or snacky then the commercials start and I'm suddenly ravenous. Take a bite of something really decadent and throw furtive glances about, thinking, "where can I be all alone with this?" or actually feel...dare I say it....aroused?? TMI I know!...but how can food elicit such responses?? My mind acts very inappropriately at times...

Gas has continued to give me trouble for the last couple of days. I'm home now and last night was a somewhat peaceful night. The key is to stay on track with pain meds. I've been adding a Tylenol to the pain pill to help it last longer and it seems to be doing the trick. Walking has helped with the gas stuck in my abdomen, however, it has slowly come out on its own..sorry if tmi lol any bit of relief is a win in my book. I'm staying hydrated. Seems to be doing good, just still tired. Started back taking my vitamins today as well as getting some protein in. Protein was too much at first when I got home..it made me dry heave pretty bad. But can now tolerate it. Hoping for continued progress!!

I have surgery scheduled for Friday August 3rd WOOHOO but I have a question and I know my husband is going to ask me lol my husband is an over the road truck driver and I see him 2-3 times a month. How long do u have to wait after surgery before having sex? I'm sorry if it's a TMI question but no one ever asks or talks about it. Thanks Everyone

I started off the day well, but as it's moved into evening, I'm feeling stiff and achey -- and a little tearful too. My husband has had to work all day, so with the exception of hot-and-cold teenage son, I've been alone, and lonely. I definitely developed a low-grade fever, but I'm sweating now, so that's on the way out. But I was really worried there for a minute! And whenever I bend over (like on the toilet tmi), I can feel the band, or the port, or something, sort of moving around in there. Also, my son attempted to amuse me with funny stories on the internet, and I laughed a couple of times so hard I was worried I slipped my band! I have a pillow to hold for coughs and laughs, but still.....just taking my own inventory way way too much today! Have had no problem ingesting Water, broth, tea, and popsicles. Burping a bit, but nothing serious (I don't think). I'm amazed by the people who are already working out in their second week! By the end of the day, I can barely get to the bathroom, stiff, achey, swollen. Thought I would share and maybe accept a pat or two on the head.

I was on my period when I had surgery also.when the surgeon came round to speak to me before surgery I informed him sheepishly that I had my period and that It was pretty heavy (tmi) He told me to keep my pants and pad on for surgery even though the nurses would tell me to take them off. I explained to the nurses what the surgeon said and all was fine. ( I didn't have a catheter but made sure I went to the toilet straight before surgery). Ask your surgeon when he comes to see you before surgery, I'm sure he will be fine with you keeping your pants on, just be sure to pack loose fitting ones so that they can easily roll them down and back up again if required (over your tummy) Xxxx

Sorry- this may be TMI!!!! i had my surgery on January 9th and I was on my period! During my experience, having my period was horrible. The nurse that prepped me for surgery, told me i couldnt wear my undies with my pads. They made be go into surgery just in my gown, that was embarrassing because they had to put in a catheter so when I woke up and in my hospital room, the first thing I asked was if I still had it in! I got upset because I had to walk up and down the halls with my catheter and my gown on only and the whole time I was worried about leaving drippings in the hallway or having blood leak through to the back of my gown! And then when one of the nurses had to take out my catheter I was embarrassed because the nurse had to deal with taking out the cath that possibly was covered in blood. But all the nurses reassured me that it was their job and they didn't mind about that because they were used to it. The nurses help with making sure their patients feel comfortable. I hope you aren't on it too like I was. But if so, then the nurses will help you deal with it during surgery and even after for recovery. Good luck on your future surgery!!

for me and my bf we had sex about a month after surgery due to that i was on bedrest and was told to me really careful what i do, but even now a year after surgery ive notice because ive lost alot of weight the port is more closer to the surface of the skin and can easily be felt so if he has me laying down ( sorry if tmi) i have to have more cushing under me jus so that it doesnt get really sore, but he works with me and always make sure im comfatable and im okay, plus hes always kissing me where my scar is and tell me its a beauitful choice i made

Hey, @@Aleathia! Glad to year from you!!!!! Happy sleeving! LOL, so we each lost 6 lbs post-op! Top incision open, is that okay with doctors? Weeping, or really open? I'm doing good! I'm -45 as of yesterday, around 2.25 months out. Thanks for asking! I feel wonderful, like I never had surgery. Still sticking to the plan, now cleared for any kind of food I want. Unfortunately/fortunately, I can eat anything with little repercussion, so IDK if that's good or bad long-term for keeping weight off. I'm tracking EVERYTHING in MFP, and really quickly was able to get up to 900-1200 calories a day. I'm trying to keep it back at 1000 calories a day because my loss slowed at 1200 a day. I do 40-60 carbs a day, and if I'm at the 60 range, weight loss slows. Grrr. I'm hitting the Water goals and 100 grams of Protein goals a day no problem, but I'm still averaging 1-2 Protein shakes a day to do it. What else. . . I went from a 22 LB to squeezing almost into a 16 at LB, LOL. I'm still a solid 18 in any other store's pants since they don't usually have the spandex component. Went from a 40c to 38c, quickly nearing 36c. Sucks to lose the girls first. Not cute without a bra on to hoist them up. Pleasantly surprised at the skin -- not bad! Considering I do almost no exercise and was flabby to begin with, I think I'll do well once I get working out and doing weights and more resistance work. I've dabbled a little over the holiday with beer and white wine. I now can stomach both -- tried earlier and it hurt me. I'm not dying to drink, but it's nice to know I can be social if I want to. Thanksgiving I focused on dark turkey meat, Canadian meat stuffing (more protein,) butternut squash, green bean casserole, and saved carbs for white wine. I ignored any bread, potatoes, bread stuffing, carrots, Desserts, and cheese and crackers. It was fine, which was really nice. I hope this feeling lasts, but the times I've cracked and had "bad" food, either I had diarrhea the next day (sorry, TMI,) or -- more importantly -- didn't get the same satisfaction I thought I would from before surgery. I really am looking at food differently now. It's so hard to cram in the protein and stay under 1000 calories, there's not much left for wiggle/junk room. I look at things in terms of nutritional bang for the buck and, for the most part, don't miss the old crap I used to eat. I DID let cheese and crackers back into the house, and that was a mistake. That's my go-to quick snack when pressed for time, and I can eat a ton of crackers with no issues. Trying to learn from my old triggers and plan ahead. Now, I have a Protein shake in my daily coffee every morning, so that's 30 grams in by 7 a.m. I eat eggs with the kids; more protein. Then I'm at work and MAKE myself guzzle the 3-4 cups of water with Crystal Light, so I know I'm at least halfway to water goals by midday. lunch is usually a turkey burger with a slice of cheese or avocado on top, or else deli meat and cheese, or turkey meatballs in marinara. Late afternoon I might putter for more protein or the dreaded cheese and crackers, and then have another protein shake. dinner is whatever protein dish I can get my hands on. Life has been crazy and has only started to slow down as of yesterday. I've had no time for exercise or meal prep/planning, but I changed my work schedule (and kids' daycare/home schedule) so I can cut costs having them home with me and not have to work so much, thereby, in theory, allowing for more free time to meal plan and exercise. I really need to find non slurry protein foods I can make in advance that I can just microwave and go. I like a crunch/texture to my food, so stews and chilis are getting old. My loss has not been consistent -- at all, LOL. When I have more time I'll detail it, but honestly, it's like -5, then -.2, maybe -1.3, -.3 -- it seems very slow and spotty, but the little bits add up to a lot! I'm calming down on my paranoia about wanting to be down a million pounds in X amount of time. I am now looking at this as a great opportunity to learn about my habits/triggers and work on tweaking myself with improvement as I go on this journey. Also, seeing that I'm being compliant with food, meeting my goals, and STILL having weeks of no loss -- or sometimes even a freaking GAIN, it makes me kinder with myself on failing in the past before WLS. Granted, I'm not working out, but still -- I NEVER stuck to a low carb/high protein diet at 800-1000 calories a day with just willpower, and I see now that even being "perfect" (or pretty darn close,) I still have gains and stalls and weeks where the losses are just piddly. I guess it's just my body adjusting, doing its thing. Please keep me posted how you are doing! So glad you got your surgery in 11/11. That's wonderful!

My opinion is that what you are feeling right now is pretty normal. It takes awhile. You have only been eating regular foods for a couple months. It was hard then. But hang in there, you will get to the point where it won't bother you in the least. You'll be able to eat most anything but you won't want a bunch of it and you will enjoy your food even more. I find for myself, I can eat anything but don't really want to eat a lot. I still love to eat and every once in a while I wish I could eat more but those episodes are fewer and further between. Hang in there, it does get easier. One of the motivations for me is I wake up every morning and before I get out of bed, I for lack of a better word, start feeling myself up! lol! I feel hip bones, curves, not bulges. Who knew I had hip bones? I even feel my boobies, they are getting smaller by the day! ( I want small ones) The changes in my body are enough to bound me out of bed and do my best to make good decisions! Sorry if the feeling myself up is TMI but I would bet just about anything I'm not the only sleeved who does that.

Ok. Today I started the puree phase. Now it's two weeks of blended loveliness. I went a little wild though and felt that I overindulged. My tummy took it all in well. I added pureed Turkey pastrami to the mix! It was WONDERFUL. A very refreshing change from creamy chicken broth and SF jello. The good thing is that I stopped myself from spiraling out of control and started labeling and prepping my meals in these little cups. I also created a nifty little meal planner worksheet in Excel to schedule my meals and track my calories. (I know there are apps for it, but I think mine will work better for me!). Since I'm not on full liquids, I'm going to try to focus on the meal guidelines and teaching myself how to not drink 30 mins prior to or 30 mins after my meal. Incorporate that in my new lifestyle changes and train myself to eat on the schedule. After looking for several timers, apps and watches, I finally just set my scheduled times as alarms in my Iphone to make sure I eat on schedule. I-phone let's you add several "alarms' in a day. Got a new arm band for it so that I can keep it on me in the office too. I'm fearing that as I progress to "regular" foods my old triggers will come into play and I'll sabotage my progress. The thought of failing after all this surgery bruhaha would be devastating to say the least. I don't want to contemplate a step so far backward that I actually hurt myself with food....On the other hand when I really think about it I've been hurting myself with food for the past 15 years and did a bang up job at it! Geez, see I just took a step back with that last comment alone. I'm hopeless! Also I'm having a COPIOUS amount of gas the past two days. It's embarrassing! I'm not hurting just tootin away (I know TMI...my apologies again). Very tired now...will have more to say tomorrow....BACK TO WORK DAY!

So many good lists here, and I have to agree with most of them! One thing I'd like to add, since I've seen no one else mention it, is the awkward/embarrassing way of wiping oneself after going poo (sorry, TMI).....but for the past year, that seems to be bugging me most often I'm also one of those who is reluctant to go anywhere because of my size, and I've only been to church a handful of times in the past 18 months... I really miss my church family, and look forward to spending more time with them. I feel so bad for every one of us here.... Years ago, I never gave much thought to overweight/obese people; now that I've been one for a couple years, I think differently. And I hope that, a year or more down the line after surgery, I remember exactly how I felt at this moment when I look at others around me. God will give me the compassion, understanding, and helping hands I'll need now and in the future!

So I was banded in March had a fantastic start. Dropped 20 PDS in the first two weeks. Got my first fill May 1st and did pretty good (nobody mentioned it would hurt to get your first fill lol) well now the last 3 days I've been getting sick no vomit but salty saliva and sometimes the gut reaction but no vomit. I've chewed and chewed and I've drank and drank. Fluids perfectly fine...foods not so hot. Nothing taste good I would rather just drink fluids all day. Tmi moment approaching (I'm just starting my woman time) is KT possible my band is just oober tight from the fill and my woman time (noticed it got tight last month too) I'm not sure if I'm battling an illness or if its band related. Oh and in case your wondering I'm not prego lol.

Still pretty sore, huge tmi but I want to let other know because I wasn't prepared for it. I just got a huge yeast infection Tuesday night. It is actually worse than the incision and stomach pains. Having all that on top of having a catheter, recovery has been a little rough. I still wouldn't change my decision though. I have been having a little regrets, but then I look at how happy everyone is with their sleeves and I get over it quite quickly.