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My mother doesnt support me. Just this weekend she sent me a long message about how i should do it and how i wont be able to have kids and how im going to have some many complications. For my mother to be a educator for over 45 years she still wont allow me to educate her on the surgery. I told her i do not want her to come to the hospital i told her to just pray from me from home. She has been hurting my feeling this past month! She is the ONLY person i regret telling

That makes sense then, hope you start feeling more yourself in the next few days. Glad the nurse was able to reassure you about it all. I don't blame you for pulling out as I almost did, my husband was terrified of something bad happening and was convinced I was going to die lol interestingly pretty much the same reasons, planning to have a baby in the next year or so and I was reading about all the potential complications being overweight can cause myself and the baby and less likely to conceive so it was a 'now or never' moment! The other reason was I started having issues with my knees and back which freaked me out abit and made me think of all the other health issues as I get older and wanting to have a better quality of life. The fear of airplane and train seats.... all the anxiety! 😂

Thank you. My husband is supportive thank God. It took him a long time to come around, and he still has doubts, but wants to see me have a life again. It's really hard to lead a normal life when you have a BMI of 48! Every single thing is a challenge. My mom is overweight but not nearly as heavy as I am. People always say to me "what if something goes terribly wrong?" And I just can't help but wonder, what if something goes incredibly right? What if this is the tool I need to finally succeed? What if I don't have any complications and go on to enjoy life again? It just seems worth the risk.

To me it means your golden year is your best time frame for weight loss. Weight loss surgery restriction is fantastic in your first months. Your surgery restriction will become less over time and weight loss slows down. “Taking advantage” means don’t waste this time frame. Follow your surgeons’ plan/instructions. Log your food, hit your calories and macro goals for the day, hydrate, exercise/activity and make behavior changes for the long term. We cannot control the “luck factor” Sex, age, medical issues, medications, complications, hormones and body physiology. What you can control is “working your plan” Decide how lax or strict you want to work this. Decide what you want out of your first year.

Any body in UK had bypass I'm pre op would love to hear experiences from op onwards how's it been for you ? Im very nervous never had an op and worry about long term life about malabsorption ,complications ect

Okay so the snacks are pretty carb-laden, and I bet there’s tons of sodium also. Maybe try a snack of 1 ounce cheese, 8 ounces fairlife plain milk or 6 olives or 2 tablespoons hummus with some carrot sticks? I’m seeing a lot of processed foods in there and quite frankly I just don’t trust anything processed anymore. Eating primarily processed foods is what got me in the place I was. Also, maybe try upping water 20% from whatever it currently is. I know it’s gotta be difficult with all of the nausea and other complications, but we will figure out a solution

Had my surgery 4 1/2 months ago, no complications, no pain, no nausea, no problems.

I got breast implants 700ccs (its a large implant most women stay in the 300-500 range) and 3 months later I found out I was pregnant. This was 9 years ago and instead of them having the fake look (when you can totally tell a women had them done) they now have a natural look which after having children that's what I prefer. They never got saggy like a lot of women who don't have implants after pregnancy. Then 5 years later I had another child and still no complications. They still look great and I can still wear a tshirt with no bra and people still think I have a bra on lol. My sister waited to have all her children then got implants and then decided 8 years later to have one last child. She breastfed and hers still stayed perky and no sagging either. So I would say if you want them really bad and you don't want to wait then go for it. But if it was something like a tummy tuck then I would tell you to wait for after kids.

Hi Everyone, I am 30 years old and new to this forum. What an amazing discovery it was for me! About a year ago I decided to have WLS. I met with my surgeon, and did all the pre surgical requirements. Due to lack of support and my own fears, I backed out in December and decided not to go through with it. I spent a lot of time convincing myself that I made the right decision, that I didn't want to become malnourished on the other end, or develop any of the other potential complications. My mom was strongly against the surgery, constantly telling me I would just eat through the sickness and gain it all back. Fast forward 5 months, I have gained all my losses back PLUS 10lbs and am at my heaviest. I am 5 foot 2 and 430lbs. This is not an easy pill to swallow. My joints are effected greatly by all of the weight I'm carrying. I have decided that I am going to start a new program, one that will give me better tools for how to live life after surgery, and take my time with the process. I have some emotional eating to overcome while I train my brain to live a new life. Does anyone have any advice? How did you mentally prepare for such a big life change? And did anyone do it without much support? I refuse to let anyone tell me what's best for me anymore. I know what I need to do. So happy to be here and hopefully make some friends and a nice support system along the way. Happy Saturday - Jen

I got my RNY surgery on April 1st. Im very heavy and I'm short so thats what I needed for optimum weight loss. My bariatric surgeon told me that they do tons of sleeve to bypass surgeries because the sleeves fail for multiple reasons. My sister in law got the sleeve 2 years ago and had major complications with strictures. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G890A using BariatricPal mobile app

Frustr8, thank you so much for your share! I dont know why "it" makes sense, maybe I do. IDK. I so deeply believed I could be compliant. With WLS I wanted to be an all or nothing girl. Seems I defied myself and went "nothing". Im mad at myself because I know very well WLS as well as reality is full of greys. I wanted to be the Conqueror of food addiction, wls, etc. Whrn I couldn't be perfect I got mad and gave up. I still battle with that thinking. I imagine many of us do. I've been and and am still in a VERY intense, long time "relationship " with the best therapist on Earth. Unfortunately I've had to focus on other iminant issues and had little time and/or desire to truly attack the food addiction and other traumas related to it. I'm very, very complicated, 🤣🤣 lol. But I've overcome A LOT so that is why I chose now to "go there". So....I'm there, in the here and now. My husband is newly diabetic so he has to eat properly/well now to so were doing it together. I feel for you when you mentioned feeding Tomkitten! It was SO hard when hubby, who used to be a chef, would make s@#t food all the time. I cant cook for squat, and currently cant stand or walk, so he does the cooking. Luckily hes a good boy with his food choices and cooking techniques. ❤ So were doing it Together! I know I am very blessed in this regard, many are not. Frustr8, when was your surgery, and how well are you doing now? It certainly sounds like you are doing your best. Are you having a hard time keeping food down? A soup you could try is homemade egg drop. Easy peasy! I do know that soups, when eaten in certain patterns, is a slider food. I tend to stay away from those unless I balance it with the rest of my food. See? I'm trying. Just not enough for my taste. Get it? Taste? LOL. One last thing in this novel. I cannot find, hard as I may try, seem to find anyone who got WLS and failed to follow the rules and lost very little weight. Especially years out. I've seen people who slid backwards and gained some weight, but they all lost most of their weight and got close to or at their target weight. It would make me feel a whole lot better if I knew I wasn't the only one. Not better for that person, just better knowing I'm not alone in my specific situation. I need to hear more stories like mine, it would help me not to punish myself so much knowing I'm not alone. Thank you very, very much for conversing with me, you've made me feel that much better. Really. ❤

Most likely you will have to pinch your pennies, as the usual practice is that you need to meet the same BMI requirements (35 or 40 depending upon comorbidities) as the original WLS, unless there is some complication that needs to be corrected (in which case it is no longer considered weight loss surgery but corrective surgery) that can't be addressed by some cheaper means (such as medication). The other twist is that many policies have a lifetime restriction for a single WLS procedure.

Don’t know if it is considered a true complication but my only real complaint is constipation. I think I finally have things moving again. Miralax is my new best friend.

No complications here either. Sleeved February 28, 2019. I had day surgery was released within 2 hours of surgery, walked a lot right after. Had no nausea, took minimum pain meds for a few days. I've had no stalls yet. Lost 11 lbs first week and 2 to 5 lbs every week since. Down 63 lbs since the two week pre-op diet. I follow my plan, log my food, take my Vitamins, weigh and measure my food, weigh myself only once a week, drink Water only, get my Protein in most days. One thing I don't do on plan is hit my calorie goal of 600-800 calories, I find that difficult at this point as I can't eat much and don't snack because I'm never hungry. I think I had a great surgeon and support staff. I couldn't be happier with my results. Sent from my Pixel 3 XL using BariatricPal mobile app

Thank you very much for your feedback as well. I didn't know about the potential fo plugged milk ducts...I don't want any unnecessary complications because I was vein 😕 I do want to try and nurse as well, I've heard the same thing. I hope I get that opportunity some day and soon. I think I just have to live with my "lava" boobs as I lovingly refer to them as for a few more years.

I've spoken to many people who had complications with VSG GERD reflux and slow weight loss.. Curious if anybody wish they choose RNY but for some reason insurance won't cover? Have a friend in that position! Why are doctors pushing VSG?

I’m just sharing info in case there are people who aren’t aware of this option. I know some people get very bad GERD after the sleeve that can’t be controlled by medications. I was told the only other option would be to convert to bypass (which is why I ended up choosing RNY). Turns out another option is out there. I’m a nurse practitioner and went to a meeting last week that included dinner and an educational presentation. The presentation was done by both a GI doctor and bariatric surgeon. They were talking about the Lynx procedure. The simplest way I can explain it is to imagine a beaded bracelet that goes around the esophagus. It applies enough pressure to stop the regurg. Complication rates are low. The bariatric surgeon said he has had excellent results for his sleeve patients. He said right now the procedure is still off label for bariatric but the literature on it will be published later this year. Just something to think about or to ask your physician about if you are having GERD issues. If your physician wants more info he can contact a LYNX rep or I can share the name of the surgeon who presented.

I got the word today!!! That little word that I have been praying to hear... APPROVED!!! It came just in time too because surgery is on Thursday, the 25th! I plan on running out tomorrow to grab more “liquid diet” stuff so it’s ready for when I get home. I’m hoping I can beg my Dr to let me go home that day (assuming there are no complications) but I’m going to assume I’ll be there until Friday. I know I am not going to get much sleep tonight and especially tomorrow night. I’m so excited!

I was never formally diagnosed because I never openly discussed my issues with food and didn't disclose that issue to the surgical psychologist. But when I had the surgery, it basically immediately resolved... because you vomit your brains out and physically can't binge eat anymore. The desire was there for a short time, but then I had unrelated complications and dumping from other things and knew if I binge ate I would be in so much horrific pain that the desire to do so was suppressed.

I went back after the third (3) day. I didn't have any complications whatsoever and I'm a teacher.

I got checked at 3 months and 6 months. Then at 12 months, and then annually after that. I did have a two week and one month visit, though. I actually had a lot more visits because I had complications, but the two week and one month was regularly scheduled to check incision sites, etc.

I think it’s very normal to feel fear. Before surgery I would fear of dying on the table or from a leak, infection, or complication. But I kept telling myself that it’s more pron for me to die from obesity than the surgery itself. The day of surgery I was nervous but extremely excited.. don’t worry you will do great! Best decision I have ever made for myself and I’m so happy with it all 😁

Sleeve diet guide: Avoid sugar AFTER GASTRIC SLEEVE SURGERY DIET You’ve made it past surgery and you’re on your way to a healthier life. You may think it’s clear sailing from here. Unfortunately, the hard part is just beginning. Now is not the time to cheat. While the two week diet was important reduce your risk of surgical (intraoperative) complication, the week 1 to 4 post-op diet will help prevent post-op complications. The first few weeks after surgery, you will experience frequent irritability and it’s not uncommon to second guess your decision to have surgery. The very extreme diet after your sleeve gastrectomy may seem like your surgeon is being overly cautious. It is utterly important that you follow his or her instructions to the ‘T.’ Cheating on your post-op diet can cause diarrhea, dehydration, constipation, bowel obstruction, or a very serious gastric leak. If you need more motivation to follow your post-op diet, this article will help. Below is a typical diet after gastric sleeve surgery for weeks 1 to 4. WEEK 1 – CLEAR LIQUIDS ONLY In week one you are limited to clear liquids only. This sounds tough. And it is tough. However, most patients have very little desire to eat. The hunger hormone ghrelin is almost non-existent after surgery. The part of the stomach that produces the majority of ghrelin is removed during surgery. Make sure all items listed below are sugar free. Water Broth Jell-O Decaf tea Decaf coffee Sugar free Popsicles Sugar free drinks that are not carbonated You should avoid: Carbonated beverages Very sweet beverages Sugar Caffeine WEEK 2 – FULL LIQUID DIET WITH PROTEIN During week two you may start to feel some hunger pains. Continue to stick to your surgeon’s recommended diet. Your diet may include all items from week 1 plus: Protein powder mixed with a sugar free non-carbonated clear liquid. Sugar free pudding. Soup with soft noodles. Non fat yogurt. Carnation instant breakfast. Look for the sugar free option. Very thin creamed soups. No chunks. Sugar free sorbet. Very watery hot oatmeal. Check the sugar content. Diluted no-sugar added juice. Sugar free, nonfat ice cream Thinned applesauce. Check sugar content. WEEK 3 – SOFT PUREED FOODS Week three after gastric sleeve surgery is tough. But the good news is that you can start adding some real food into your diet, albeit pureed. You still need to be careful to limit sugars and fats. The goals for week 3 include: Get your 60 grams of protein per day Eat slowly Introduce new foods one by one. Food may taste differently and will be tolerated differently than they were before surgery. You may find that dairy is harder to digest. It’s recommended that you introduce new foods slowly. Give your body some time to react to each new food. By doing this you’ll be able to identify foods that are causing gas, stomach upset, and/or diarrhea. The foods listed below are typically acceptable for week three after surgery. 1 protein shake per day. You can now blend them with yogurt or non-fat milk. Almond milk or coconut milk makes a great protein shake. Hummus Cottage cheese (low fat) Soft cereals – Let your cereal sit in the non-fat milk until it’s soft. Soft vegetables – steam or boil them until they are soft. Soft cheeses – limit these, they are typically high in fat. Ground chicken or beef. Add some beef or chicken stock to keep the meat soft. Soups Scrambled eggs – these are a great source of protein. Soft (steamed) fish. Remember to chew well. Canned tuna and salmon (you can add low fat mayo). Great source of protein. Mashed fruit. Bananas, avocados, and canned fruit (watch sugar content). You should avoid the following foods: While smoothies are ok, limit their sugar content. Sugar Starchy foods like pasta, rice and bread. Fibrous vegetables like celery, broccoli, asparagus, raw leafy greens. WEEK 4 – INTRODUCING FOODS! You’ve followed your diet up to week four. Now it’s time to start introducing real foods. Your sleeve and stomach are still sensitive, so go slow and remember to chew each bite thoroughly. You’re done with pureed foods, but you should continue to look for softer versions of food during this week. Continue your daily protein shakes Introduce chicken and beef very slowly. Ensure you chew thoroughly. Any type of fish. Fruits Vegetables (it’s still recommended that you cook these to soften them a bit). Sweet Potatoes Mashed and baked potatoes. Cereal Caffeine can be introduced. It’s recommended that you limit this. You should avoid the following foods in week four: Sodas Fried foods Fibrous vegetables (i.e. celery and asparagus) Sugary drinks Candy Dessert Pastas and other high carbohydrate, low nutrient foods (pizza). Whole milk and other whole milk dairy foods. Nuts WEEK 4 HEALTHY SNACKS While it is recommended that you only eat 3 small meals each day and hydrate in-between meals, you may need a small healthy snack. If your surgeon approves this, the items below make healthy snacks. Hummus with rice crackers or softened (boiled and cooled) baby carrots. Hard boiled egg. Quarter cup of oatmeal. Quarter of a baked sweet potato (or microwaved) Banana Strawberries or fresh fruit. WEEK 5 AND BEYOND Continue to introduce foods one by one to see how well they are tolerated. Watch out for constipation, diarrhea, and upset stomach. Eat three small meals every day. Hydrate throughout the day. Stop drinking fluids 30 minutes before each meal. Avoid snacking. If you do, choose a nutrient-dense food (fruit, vegetable, nuts). Take your recommended daily vitamins. Ensure you get 60 grams of protein. Supplement daily with a protein shake. Incorporate exercise into your daily routine. Make it a habit. Avoid sodas. Prepare for bad days. How will you cope when you are in a difficult situation? Find an accountability partner. Go to a support group and make friends that you can call. 6 TIPS – HEALTHY EATING AFTER GASTRIC SLEEVE SURGERY Choose foods that are nutrient dense. Bread is not nutrient dense. An apple, banana, fish, etc. are nutrient dense foods. Do not drink your calories. It won’t fill you up and most caloric drinks are filled with sugar. Expect an emotional roller-coaster. Don’t let food be your comfort. Create a plan. Chew your food thoroughly and take your time eating. Plan what you will eat if you’re going out. Ask for half the portion size at restaurants. You may get a discount and you won’t be tempted to overeat. Make water your new best friend. Drink it regularly throughout the day. Buy a reusable 64 oz bottle that you can carry to work with you. Make sure you finish the entire bottle each day. But remember not to drink with meals (this helps prevent stretching your pouch).

AFTER GASTRIC SLEEVE SURGERY DIET You’ve made it past surgery and you’re on your way to a healthier life. You may think it’s clear sailing from here. Unfortunately, the hard part is just beginning. Now is not the time to cheat. While the two week diet was important reduce your risk of surgical (intraoperative) complication, the week 1 to 4 post-op diet will help prevent post-op complications. The first few weeks after surgery, you will experience frequent irritability and it’s not uncommon to second guess your decision to have surgery. The very extreme diet after your sleeve gastrectomy may seem like your surgeon is being overly cautious. It is utterly important that you follow his or her instructions to the ‘T.’ Cheating on your post-op diet can cause diarrhea, dehydration, constipation, bowel obstruction, or a very serious gastric leak. If you need more motivation to follow your post-op diet, this article will help. Below is a typical diet after gastric sleeve surgery for weeks 1 to 4. WEEK 1 – CLEAR LIQUIDS ONLY In week one you are limited to clear liquids only. This sounds tough. And it is tough. However, most patients have very little desire to eat. The hunger hormone ghrelin is almost non-existent after surgery. The part of the stomach that produces the majority of ghrelin is removed during surgery. Make sure all items listed below are sugar free. Water Broth Jell-O Decaf tea Decaf coffee Sugar free Popsicles Sugar free drinks that are not carbonated You should avoid: Carbonated beverages Very sweet beverages Sugar Caffeine WEEK 2 – FULL LIQUID DIET WITH PROTEIN During week two you may start to feel some hunger pains. Continue to stick to your surgeon’s recommended diet. Your diet may include all items from week 1 plus: Protein powder mixed with a sugar free non-carbonated clear liquid. Sugar free pudding. Soup with soft noodles. Non fat yogurt. Carnation instant breakfast. Look for the sugar free option. Very thin creamed soups. No chunks. Sugar free sorbet. Very watery hot oatmeal. Check the sugar content. Diluted no-sugar added juice. Sugar free, nonfat ice cream Thinned applesauce. Check sugar content. WEEK 3 – SOFT PUREED FOODS Week three after gastric sleeve surgery is tough. But the good news is that you can start adding some real food into your diet, albeit pureed. You still need to be careful to limit sugars and fats. The goals for week 3 include: Get your 60 grams of protein per day Eat slowly Introduce new foods one by one. Food may taste differently and will be tolerated differently than they were before surgery. You may find that dairy is harder to digest. It’s recommended that you introduce new foods slowly. Give your body some time to react to each new food. By doing this you’ll be able to identify foods that are causing gas, stomach upset, and/or diarrhea. The foods listed below are typically acceptable for week three after surgery. 1 protein shake per day. You can now blend them with yogurt or non-fat milk. Almond milk or coconut milk makes a great protein shake. Hummus Cottage cheese (low fat) Soft cereals – Let your cereal sit in the non-fat milk until it’s soft. Soft vegetables – steam or boil them until they are soft. Soft cheeses – limit these, they are typically high in fat. Ground chicken or beef. Add some beef or chicken stock to keep the meat soft. Soups Scrambled eggs – these are a great source of protein. Soft (steamed) fish. Remember to chew well. Canned tuna and salmon (you can add low fat mayo). Great source of protein. Mashed fruit. Bananas, avocados, and canned fruit (watch sugar content). You should avoid the following foods: While smoothies are ok, limit their sugar content. Sugar Starchy foods like pasta, rice and bread. Fibrous vegetables like celery, broccoli, asparagus, raw leafy greens. WEEK 4 – INTRODUCING FOODS! You’ve followed your diet up to week four. Now it’s time to start introducing real foods. Your sleeve and stomach are still sensitive, so go slow and remember to chew each bite thoroughly. You’re done with pureed foods, but you should continue to look for softer versions of food during this week. Continue your daily protein shakes Introduce chicken and beef very slowly. Ensure you chew thoroughly. Any type of fish. Fruits Vegetables (it’s still recommended that you cook these to soften them a bit). Sweet Potatoes Mashed and baked potatoes. Cereal Caffeine can be introduced. It’s recommended that you limit this. You should avoid the following foods in week four: Sodas Fried foods Fibrous vegetables (i.e. celery and asparagus) Sugary drinks Candy Dessert Pastas and other high carbohydrate, low nutrient foods (pizza). Whole milk and other whole milk dairy foods. Nuts WEEK 4 HEALTHY SNACKS While it is recommended that you only eat 3 small meals each day and hydrate in-between meals, you may need a small healthy snack. If your surgeon approves this, the items below make healthy snacks. Hummus with rice crackers or softened (boiled and cooled) baby carrots. Hard boiled egg. Quarter cup of oatmeal. Quarter of a baked sweet potato (or microwaved) Banana Strawberries or fresh fruit. WEEK 5 AND BEYOND Continue to introduce foods one by one to see how well they are tolerated. Watch out for constipation, diarrhea, and upset stomach. Eat three small meals every day. Hydrate throughout the day. Stop drinking fluids 30 minutes before each meal. Avoid snacking. If you do, choose a nutrient-dense food (fruit, vegetable, nuts). Take your recommended daily vitamins. Ensure you get 60 grams of protein. Supplement daily with a protein shake. Incorporate exercise into your daily routine. Make it a habit. Avoid sodas. Prepare for bad days. How will you cope when you are in a difficult situation? Find an accountability partner. Go to a support group and make friends that you can call. 6 TIPS – HEALTHY EATING AFTER GASTRIC SLEEVE SURGERY Choose foods that are nutrient dense. Bread is not nutrient dense. An apple, banana, fish, etc. are nutrient dense foods. Do not drink your calories. It won’t fill you up and most caloric drinks are filled with sugar. Expect an emotional roller-coaster. Don’t let food be your comfort. Create a plan. Chew your food thoroughly and take your time eating. Plan what you will eat if you’re going out. Ask for half the portion size at restaurants. You may get a discount and you won’t be tempted to overeat. Make water your new best friend. Drink it regularly throughout the day. Buy a reusable 64 oz bottle that you can carry to work with you. Make sure you finish the entire bottle each day. But remember not to drink with meals (this helps prevent stretching your pouch).

That's the fear that I have because of my babies. I guess you don't really realize how much you really live for your kids until you're faced with something like this. My kids are my world but I know if I dont do this, I'm more than likely going to die young anyway from some obesity related complications.