Ok so for the past two weeks I've been SO TORN on what to do. I have two Sisters and they are both nurses. I was an OOPS baby...so my older siblings LOVE me. I was like an only child because when I got old enough to remember they didn't live with us.
One of my Sisters WAS over weight like me the other is a runner and watches what she eats. So the over weight sister had Gastric Bypass and the other sister didn't talk to her for a LONG time! She was so MAD that she would do this to herself! The sister that had the surgery I TOLD about my up coming surgery and she is SO SUPPORTIVE the other one I haven't told. You see when my Uncle died of Cancer the skinny sister started working with Cancer patients to learn more. When my Dad died of a heart attack she then started working with Heart patients to LEARN MORE and she DID help my Brother when he had his 5 bypasses! WELL NOW she is on a MISSION for ME. She just took a job studing and researching OBESITY! She told my Mother that she wants to HELP me! So here comes the PROBLEM! My Mother is SCARED my Skinny sister will get SO MAD at me and HER for NOT telling her what I'm doing!!! I KNOW IT IS MY LIFE but when I was 15, 17 & 22 years old and had to have surgery for my Kidney stones she DROPPED EVERYTHING and came to my bedside and TOOK care of me. I still believe she SAVED my life because she REFUSED to let the nurses do what the doctor told them to do to me. She said you will not TOUCH her until the Dr comes to see her in person and can see what is what is going on! FINALLY the Dr showed up and sure enough did NOT proceed with what he wanted to do! She did the same for my other sister when she had problems six months after her bypass...got the first airplane out and took care of her. NONE of us live close to each other....CO, FL, MN, and TX!
I know she will be MAD at me BUT I AM doing what I THINK is BEST for ME! I DON'T want her to get MAD at MOM for not saying anything since they talk to each other at least twice a day! My Mother lives by ME! I'm THINKING about emailing her the day I go for surgery because I DON'T want to get lectured before my surgery. What do you all think? AM I WRONG for not wanting to say anything right now? I REALLY don't mean to HURT her feelings. I can't tell your HOW MANY DIET books, ADDICTION books and SELF HELP books she has purchased and MAILED ME! For the last year she has REALLY PUSHED ME to lose weight to the point my oldest daughter called her and told her to leave me alone already. That she knows she means well but when I talk to her my blood pressure was going up!!! LOL
I'm venting again sorry!!! So MANY EMOTIONS during the WAITING game!!! I SURE HOPE BCBS makes up their mind FAST!!! LOL