Hi... Valerie, I know how how you feel my family totally has supported me including mom except for my dad. When i first brought the material to show her my dad said "I'm not going to have that done" & I said not for you it's about me. He tried to tell me every way he could think of to discourage the lap band. I decided I need support only- no negative! I've purposely kept my dad out of this loop. It's not a conversation we will be having anytime in the near future,