LaLu

Haha yes thats true, you've got me there. Thanks hun.

That's actually exactly what got me angry in the first place and that's why I posted this. A few people have told me the same thing as well. There's a difference between telling someone they should try harder and that we all make mistakes every now and then, and being lectured to make them feel worse which could send them in to more trouble. If that makes sense.

I don't know how I'm "stirring the pot" but I will say one last comment and leave it at that. This has gotten a big out of control and I'm not sure why everyone is so defensive about what I posted. I was simply saying that people shouldn't be so harsh with others and that everyone can loose weight their own way, there isn't one "right" way. I know I'm not the only one that thinks people are being rude because I see it in posts all the time and a lot of people have actually left this site because of it. I honestly can't believe that people are okay with talking like this to others. Especially when we have all been through so much. It just leaves me speechless.

I will assume that means you get humour out of being rude to others. Clearly worth it.

Well said floridays People do new thicker skin, especially to survive here. But it just sucks that that's the way things are. I feel sorry for the people who don't have thick skin, because they probably need more support than anyone, and they are the ones missing out or getting these harsh/judgmental comments and maybe not coping as well as the rest of us. People don't think about who's on the other end of these comments they make and what they have been through. I just wanted to make everyone think about the comments they make and how they effect others, but looks like its just made things worse.

Harsh and judgmental is exactly what I meant! That's the words I needed. That's what I mean when I said "rude". Haha thanks dfav you said it better than me (and yes you're right it's not the majority of people)

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people. As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

I got past that bit of weight that kept going up and down randomly just dropped off me lol. I'm not on a diet or anything I'm just watching what I eat and exercise when I feel I need it. Figured as long as I'm loosing weight it doesn't matter what im doing. When I first got my lapband i did all the dieting and exercise and lost heaps of weight and then it got too much for me to deal with life an all the pressure of diets and exercise an the rules of the lapband, and it didn't work and I put all the weight back on. So now I'm only doing it casually and that way its not possible to go back to old habits, because nothing has changed dramatically. And it's slow enough that my body won't put it all back on. So I got past that weight I was struggling with, and I still refuse to go outside and walk or exercise because at the moment it's summer and 105 degrees (Fahrenheit) in Australia. I started swimming but just for fun not for exercise. And today I got out the total gym and some weights, but I don't like doing that because it's never worked or me to loose weight, that's why I like my treadmill so much cause it's easy and i know it works for me. A mate is going to see of he can fix my treadmill for me, so fingers crossed!