cakey123

hi, im looking for a buddy as i have just joined after making the decision to have a LAP-BAND® fitted and im so scared. i know less than nothing and im terrified of getting a surgeon who will mess me up some way for life. i ve been a big girl most of my life but over the last 11 years i just cant go out, im to ashamed to socialise, i feel disgusting. i would be so grateful for someone to guide me a bit and give me the benefit of thier knowledge and i could use a friend to get me through this. it might sound over the top, but i ve reached the point that i dont have a life outside of food which i hate! but cant give up and have said to my hubby that i dont care if there is complications and i die during the operation as i have no life anyway. im sure i sound like a miserable mare but im not, im usually really upbeat and positive but i think that im just at the end of my rope of being the big girl who hides away or who people say " sure havent you a lovley face anyway". im in the uk but would welcome help from anyone kind enough to take the time to give it. thank you so much. :tongue2::thumbup:

hi, i dont know if i have an ulcer but im scared about it because i had "helibactor pylori" in 2007 which is a parasite which is a corkscrew shape and burrows into the wall of the stomach and weakens it, ( pls dont freak as although over 90% of all of us have it fat or small it only affects a few people in any way). also i read that you can have an ulcer and not know it. id be so very grateful to hear from anyone who has had an ulcer or any other type of acid reflux or gastric problem but was still able to get thier band. i would just want to curl up and die if i couldnt go ahead and get my band, i want it so much and am so ready . if you do have any info or experience please please come back and share it with me. all the very best cakey x

hi midossey, thanks so much for your email. also thanks as i was giving up hope a bit about being a good candidate for a lapband. your a very nice lady and i hope everything is going good for you. if you would like you could email me every now and again and let me know how you are doing. kindest regards cakey x

hi shixa, im not sure yet but may be in the same boat as you. did you mean that you went for the gastric sleeve instead and is it reversible, not like the stapled bypass. i would never consider it. hope you will let me know and also how you are doing now. thanks so much cakey x

hi, has anyone ever had any complications with thier lapband op with dr de bruyne. ive also read that if he's performing a lapband operation and finds an ulcer or a haitus hernis "apparently we can have them because of our weight" thanks for listening cakey x

hi, has anyone ever gone to be banded by dr de bruyne and he has found an ulcer or a haitus hernia "apparently we get them because we are so fat" so if he found a complication like that could he deal with it then and there many thanks cakey x

hi wanna beslinky, would you recommend dr de bruyne, because all i keep hearing is great things about him. but what would he do if he went to do the op and found an ulcer or something. can he deal with any complications. thanks so much for listening

hi mummiesbb, i really like everything i hear about this doctor. could i ask or would you know that if he goes into perform the op and finds an ulcer or one of these haitus hernia ive been hearing about, would he just go ahead and fix it there and then. i dont mind if it costs more i just want a lapband so bad it hurts. i hope everything is all good with you and would love to hear how your doing now and again. thanks so much cakey x

hi dini, id love to hear from you, whether you went ahead with that surgeon or someone else or at all. id also love to hear how your weightloss is going. i really hope its gone great for you. would you tell me what surgeon you used and if it all went well. all the very best cakey x

hi lunesa, would you mind telling me what the price was with the irish clinic. also id love to know who you eventually went with. i hope everything is still going great for you and would love to know how much youve now lost. also do you know of surgeons who wont perform the surgery if you have had ulcer problems in the past. i dont want much do i!. im irish too, so thats at least 3 of us anyway. many thanks for listening i appreciate it

hi guys, would someone who has had problems with either having the h-pyloi bacteria or other ulcer type problems please please please tell me if it means i cant get my band. im all ready to go and paying for it myself and have read that this could mean i wont get my band. im so very sad. i really feel there's just no point in me or in going on. hopeless j

hi, im trying to decide which surgeon and clinic to go with and would love to hear from uk citizens which surgeon they eventually went with and for what reasons did they choose that surgeon and off course how it all went (any problems/or went great) and how you are keeping now. would love to hear your story and how well you are doing. many thanks cakey

hi, ive asked before if someone in the uk could contact me and let me have the benefit if their knowledge and no-one replyied. i thought if you joined you would be able to get help help, advice and people would talk to youl so please is there anyone in the uk that would speak/help me, please j

hi cwm812, id really appreciate if you would let me know what meds they used so you could get your lapband. cause all i seem to keep reading is that if you have an ulcer you cant get a lapband and i was so happy to be getting one, to then think this could mean i cant. im devestated. hope u are doing well j

hi nylamo, would you be good enough to let me know what happens. i hope you wont have ulcers but would be grateful if you would tell me how they are going to treat them so you can get banded and what the time line and process is. in case you havent guessed im in the same boat. would be so grateful for your help kind regards j

hi, would you tell me who you went with, which surgeon. id be so grateful to you

can you not get a lapband if you could have an ulcer

hi, would anyone out there be good enough to share their experience or knowledge of whether i can get a band as i had h-pylori about 3 years ago and dont know if i have an ulcer or not(idont have symptoms)., but apparently i wont be able to get my band if i have a suspected ulcer. i will be devastated as i so want to go ahead. i dont want to talk to clinics until i know whether they will turn me away. im paying for it myself and dont want to mess up my chances. help!:confused: thanks so much

hi lillou, thankyou so much for your email. i would be really grateful if you could email me the surgeon and team you went ahead with, id really appreciate it. cant thank you enough and its great to hear how well you have done you must be over the moon, congrats im very happy for you. kindest regards jacqui x

hi everyone, can anyone who is post op recommend a good surgeon or know of a good surgeon either at home or abroad. would be grateful to know as im just starting out. thanks guys

hi everyone, id love to hear from anyone who knows or has experience of the question of whether having an ulcer disqualifies you from getting a lapband. i would be gutted after finally making the decision to go ahead to learn that if you have had any ulcer type thing wrong with you it meant you couldnt get a lapband. i have been on such a high thinking im getting a band yeah! and imagining myself slim and staying slim without the heartache of thinking im just going to put it all on again. im not even sure i had an ulcer for sure. it was about 3 years ago and my doctor said i tested positive for "h - pylori" and he gave me anti-biotics and that was it, ive had no obvious problems since. but im so scared that this will scupper my getting the op, i ll be devastated. if anyone has info that can help id be so grateful to them. all the best jacqui x

hi i would love to hear from anyone in the uk either pre or post op. im a newbie and terrified to even bring it up with my gp, so im trying to just go ahead and get a loan and pay for it myself. my main problem is that i have bad joint problems and think if i could lose the weight it would help my joints. i am terrified that i will die during the op or how to find the best surgeon?. i just dont know what to do all i know is im so unhappy living this way, not going out because im ashamed to be seen and very very lonley. id really love to hear from someone. thanks guys

hi, im new and will gratefully accept all the help i can get. if anyone was kind enough to be a buddy/mentor that would be fab! could anyone let me know of a good surgeon or clinic that they would recommend, i dont mind if its here or abroad aslong as its safe and you felt and were safe. also has anyone used the uk s whygoabroad for their op and did it go well. i cant even get them to return my phonecalls which seems strange. any info/advice would be gratefully recieved as i ve made the decision to go ahead and the sooner the better for me and now just want to get the knowledge to go to the best place and be safe. i could really use all the advice and the benefit of peoples experiences so i go to the best place. thanks guys x jacqui

hi scottishnellie, first thanks so much for contacting me, it was very kind. i havent heard of surgical obesity solutions and wondered who your doc is and why you finally felt safe enough to go with them, they could be an option for me maybe. i hope your not to worried about hubby and spending the money, as i did feel guilty about that but dont now because its your health and u cant put a price on that. anyway i think you are determined and i hope it will come together just fine. from the stories i ve been reading most people just regret not getting the band sooner, so i know you ll work it out with hubby ok. just tell him to think about you slim in a tight pair of jeans and i bet he ll think about it. you seem like a smart lady and will get there and i really hope you do. wishing u the best of luck with it all. kindest regards jacqui x