I am feeling some of this as well. I was banded Thursday 9/30. I pretty much told anyone I needed to that I was having the surgery and mostly people were supportive but some acted like I am crazy. I have a lower BMI, 35 but I am also only 5' tall. I hate hearing oh your not big enough for that or you could do it by yourself. Then I feel obligated to tell people my starting weight was 197 before pre op diet. I also have sleep apnea and high blood pressure. I HATE feeling like I have to justify it to others. My mother in law actually told my husband "that doesn't work for most people, I hope it works out for her" I just don't get why people can't support you and see the reasons I am doing this. I have four kids ages 17,9,6, and 3 I want to be around for them!, they deserve a happy healthy role model.