Tuckersmommy10

Just had my baby about a week ago! A baby girl, 8lbs 4 oz! No problems throughout pregnancy!

I have broken all the rules... I've eaten before i should have, and i've drank pop and beer and wine.... I've lost 57 pounds in a year ( banded 6/29/11 ) and i'm also 8 months pregnant.... And i also just ate a pudding..... I'm still living, some people are just more up tight about the rules than others LOL I just watch my calories, drink my Water and try to keep busy.

WOW- Rude people- Another thought- I drank about a month after being banded for a friends birthday.... I didn't feel pain and i got drunk on like 4 beers. I'm not a big drinker but it normally would take more than four. I would just be careful not to over do it. I have heard beer and pop are bad for LB paients- however i have drank both without problems. I do however find drinking pop- Even a sip while eating- i get a little "choked" up .... like it doesn't want to go down right... GOOD LUCK!

On saturday i went to my parents house. We were all getting ready to go to the city but my dad had to finish up in the garden and walk on his treadmill ( He's a health freak !) I was making a sandwich and going to go to the restroom when my mom up and decides she is ready to leave NOW- well my son had pooped and she changed him. I guess he did not want to put pants back on and got up and started running around laughing. ( I'm in the kitchen throughout alllll of this ) She just starts screaming at him, tell him to come here now and chasing after him ... Well he started laughing when she was running after him... Then i said just give me a minute and i'll be in there. Its not like anyone was ready to leave right that moment. Long story short- she called him a little brat , a horrible kid and so on and just kept yelling at him to come here and when i said why are you acting like this? She said, because i get sick of you sticking up for your little brat because you all think he is an angel. Then made the comment, If he's going then i'm not going... ( My son is two by the way and has a hyper active disorder) I heard my dad tell her to stop , which caused them to fight because she was freakn nuts. I pick up Tucker and his pants and shoes and just left , in the back ground my dad was saying, Jen please stay... By that point i was crying. Not only because she yelled at my child for something stupid, but because it caused them to fight... and As if i don't know my son can be hard to handle and has trouble listening? I left , cried all the way home... and finally later that night my dad called and said hey, we are home... Do you want to bring Tucker by? I said no, not till Mom apologizes for what she said... ( My SO was red hot when he heard about her calling him a brat ) Got home, curt called- (SO) and he asked why i was crying and i told him. He said not to let tucker around her till she says sorry.... Which i agree with... Its been 4 days and she hasn't called at all... My son is asking for his meme.... I'm lost? Background- Over the years my mom has always said very hurtful things to many people like she just doesn't care- Growing up i can remember walking through the kitchen to get to the bathroom and he asking, "What are you eating now Jen" She's made comments about my weight , even now and as a child in front of people and its so embarrassing.... " We let her stay home one summer and she packed on 50 pounds, ate everything! " I had recently lost 57 pounds and bought myself a coach purse as a reward... and all my mom said was, God thats an ugly purse.... Why would you buy that...? Not to mention her own brother does not come around her- and doesn't answer her calls. Its pretty pathetic that he sends my son Christmas money in an envelop to avoid her... My moms sister doesn't come around much because my mom always has something negative to say about her- My aunt has had weight problems and knee issues all her life... so she is on Disability ... My mom makes comments like " Yeah, must be nice to be able to sit at home on your ass " Like to her face... Yeah- my aunt could prob find a sitting job somewhere- but i would never tell her that out of respect for her as my aunt. My aunt isn't married and my mom always has something to say about her boyfriend "Mike"- or always asks her sister susie "where do you get all this money you spend" Umm my aunt shops used or thrift shops- or the clearance rack.. Its not like she has a Coach purse and driving a BMV. My main reason for holding firm is , with my mom.... Nothing is ever a gift or favor.... Its always something she brings up or throws in your face... My SO has asked me to not let her buy my son anything because it creates problems... My mom once bought my son some shoes- they were like 20 bucks... i thought she was being nice... come to find out- she told my aunt she HAD to buy him shoes... and i said, no, why would you have to? Her response was " Well how will you guys afford them? UMMM- Well... My SO works, 40 hours a week... he's union... We aren't rich by any means but we pay the mortgage and bills.... Anyways... Would you Stand firm and wait for her to apologize? Or just let it be? Anyone else with mothers like this?

Yes and No- It will stop the hunger, because you will soon learn to be "full" and no because thats on you to control. I am pregnant and was recently unfilled, and the first day i could see a huge difference, normally i don't snack and don't eat after dinner- the night of the unfill i was so hungry i got up and ate and could hear my stomach growling. I also have eaten WAY to much since being unfilled and have felt so full i was sick - A feeling i didn't miss AT ALL! You will soon find a middle, where you are "full" and feel okay... It could take awhile, but the first 2-3 months will help drasticly with that. Best of luck!

Thanks for all the advice, I'm still upset about this, and honestly ive been upset over her "drama" for years.... My dad is a wonderful man who wants to make everyone happy... I remember he always did more things with me than my mom ever did.... I was reading up about narcissistic personality disorder and it has my mothers name written all over it...... Minus the whole " wild unreachable dreams" My mom is a very unhappy negative person... I can see why people don't go around her... She will tell people to their face that their hair looks like ****. Or How fat or ugly they look.... Its embarrassing. I'm pregnant with a little girl- and we have went to some garage sales to look for clothing ect.... and my mom will say ( Right in front of the person having the sale ) This price is too high, or thats ugly i would never buy that then toss it down on the table... I don't know about other people, but i've had garage sales to sell my sons old clothing and it pisses me off when people just "toss" things around i've spent hours sorting and pricing.. I've decided to stand firm- I'm leaving it up to her to admit she is wrong,... for years my dad has said "humor her" or you know how she is.." Well i'm not using that as an excuse anymore- she needs to learn how to treat people, she is 53 years old. All my life she has made me feel fat, ugly and worthless... She has caused family fights as long as i can remember and stirs up so much ****. I guess i am sick of it... Sick of dealing with her.. I am willing to let our relationship go if she doesn't admit her wrongs IN FULL... and mean it... And possibly seek help. She needs it and people making excuses for her actions is not helping- only putting it off... I wish people could see the way she demands my dad to do things..... She doesn't even put gas in her own car, Friday night my dad asked her to run to walmart and have the oil changed.... Her responce was " I'm not getting dressed and driving over there" Its a ten minute drive and she sits at home all day because she is off in the summer time.... She has even asked me to drop off her RX at the pharmacy because shes' not "getting" out..... Not my problem! You have a phone, they do refills over them.... Anyways- Thanks for all the advice.... I really apprecaite it, and its nice to know others have the same problem.

Yes, i eat them when i'm "busy" or lazy lol They are perfect lapband portions. I normally add a fruit to it or sugar free pudding : ) The downfall is they do have MSG ( chicken ones ) and alot of sodium. But overall the taste isn't bad. They have alot to pick from.

Yes, that is high! Were you pre approved? Because i had to wait for my insurance to send me a letter saying "yes" without it, my doc would NOT do it without it because i would be resp for the whole amount.... I paid like 1000 out of pocket, but my total doc bills were about 32,000.

I have to write a "list" of stuff for him to do because he wont do anything... and he claims "tucker" wont let him. I can clean the WHOLE house in one hour while tucker naps..... ONE HOUR!! So Tuesday Tuck went to tinas ( A local sitter ) and Today i took him to chuck e cheese... BOTH days Curt said he'd clean up the house... Sweep, Swiffer Mop Vac & dust and clean the bathroom... Oh wait.. He said he'd so this sunday while i took tuck swimming.... And He's put it off ALLLL 3 times.... I feel so overwhelmed by all the crap i still have to do, i'm tagging all of my sons old clothing to sell to make room for the new babies.... and i'm studying for a big test coming up i would just like some help... I get sick of being treated like a molly maid!

Starting to believe its real ! I've never been one to compain and i normally keep it all inside, and i think telling friends how i really am feeling would be to personal.... and i don't want thier judgements... Where to start?? I am pretty sure my relationship is crumbing to the ground.... We've been together almost 6 years and have A 2 year old son and a daughter on the way.... We own a home, a cat and dog, rabbit and hamster ( The mini farm ) I am a stay at home mother who just finished my phlembotomy... Normal basic life... But really i'm feeling miserable. The term unhappy is an understatment. I am so sick of the fighting and tension around this house... I find myself happy when its just me and my son... There is a form of peace till he gets home from work. He has no patience with me nor our son. I find myself crying a lot from the things he says to me or about me or to my son. Tucker doesn't even call him dad, he calls him Curt. I ask myself daily why i stay? Well, Money and embarrassment are a BIG part of it.. I would hate to admit my relationship failed. Living with my mom would be hell.... litterally. Curt NEVER wants to do anything as a family... No trips....... Not even to the pool. I took him with us once and 30 minutes later he wanted to leave because tuck was "running" off... UMM hello! He's TWO! He's having a good time! Its not like he's running THAT far away. Which then caused a big fight between us... curt left.. i stayed for awhile.. I just think curt will never be the loving dad i want... He is there money wise... but not THERE with us... Curt sees us maybe 2-3 hours a day... and a full day on sunday. Which ends up with curt yelling at me or tucker for something.... I spend most of my time at my parents house , or doing things with Tucker... I feel unwelcome in my own home.. Curt works nights and Tuck, being two.... can be loud during the day time causing curt to get all pissed off and take it out on me.... There are too many little fights to mention... Back to my son.... Maybe Curt and I were raised different..... I was raised where the belt was used as a threatening type item.... and i can only remember getting hit with it once... Where as i think Curts parents were physical ...... from what i'm thinking. I normally ask tucker to stop... and count... and tell him i'm going to take away _____ if you don't stop.... ECT type of punishment before i spank...... Where as Curt just says to stop... and if he doesn't..... Then curt just spanks him.... Today i watched him slam Tucker down on the bed for not going taking nap ( We had been fighting with him to lay down for about an hour ) Yes i was frustrated... but nothing like that... Curt just doesn't have any type of understanding of the two years old mind... Then he smacked the back of tuckers head tonight when we were in the bathroom after asking him to stop messing with the rabbits cage ... and it seems nightly after bathtime curt ends up spanking him because tucker fights getting outta the tub and getting lotioned and dressed..... I can just tell his parents were like that with him.... Just spanked vs verbal correction..... This is just NOT going to work.... I feel like this entry is all jumbled and mixed up with no point... I feel like my child needs two parents.... but i feel like i'm the only parent right now... like i can't even trust Curt to watch tucker meaning i have him 24/7. I love my son, but i would like to have 5 mintues to myself with worrying if curts going to fall asleep while watching Tucker... or forget to feed him lunch... or not wake up for him after a nap.... Tucker doesn't really have a relationship with Curt.... ....... Curt isnt exactly a bad guy.... he works ALOT but he uses that as an excuse to not be there, or be tired..... Well i am tired of trying... EDIT------------------------------------- This whole no patience with us thing just started... aboout 6 mos ago. Hes not wanted to have sex much.... Which makes me think... Okay he is cheating... But then again... I don't think so... Enough Ranting and Bitching for tonight.....

Douchebag is an understatement... I don't think he thinks i'm going to leave.. I actually am still 50 pounds bigger than when we met. I don't really know how to explain the **** he does... Its a HUGE reflection of his brothers & dad... For example. His mom works long random hours... She works for a catering company and also helps them with the food service part as she is a manager... She might get to work at 5 am to check a grocery order and work alllllll day till 6 or 7pm at night.... depending on whats going on, and i've even seen her stay till midnight to serve drinks ect.... So 5am to midnight is a long freakn day.... And she still comes home and does dishes and cooks dinner. Like His dad will call her at work and ask her what she's making for dinner when she gets home... KNOWing shes been at work since 5am.... She comes right home through the door and starts on the dishes that have piled up all day because they refuse to wash them... I'm not even kidding... Him and his dad will let the dishes set all day... and only wash enough for them to fix a sandwich or get a drink. It pisses me off so much to see her be treated like that... His dad and his brother work.. But just a normal 40 hour week. and are home by 4 daily. Now on to curt..... If he sees a mess, he will walk right past it and leave it for me to clean up. The other day He made himself a pizza and when i got home he had left the pizza pan on the stove with the cutter setting next to it and the pizza box & rapper on the counter along with his dirty plate and glass.... LIke it was just sitting there... and the trash can is 3 ft away. Really? Thats stuff you would see a teenager do... And i think honestly he gets that from how they treat his poor mom.. We have a rabbit that stays mainly in the bathroom due to him making a mess with the bedding, and in the mornings its on the floor. Curt will walk right past it instead of grabbing the broom and sweeping it up. I'm pregnant right now and my hip does in and out, so i have to be very careful going up and down stairs because i will fall if it slips out. Our laundry is down in the basement and the stairs are pretty steep so i try to avoid them for fear of falling and even the pain after i walk up and down them without falling. I have to ask him to go start a load of laundry... like a week ago he had NO work clothing and still was too lazy to get up and put some in...

LOL AS TMI as this was.... I laughed! I was at WalGreens once and someone stunk up the WHOLE back area by the bathrooms.... It was so bad people were gaging when they walked by!

I think alot of this has built up... Curt is working up to 60 hours a week in 100-111 degree weather... and then us fighing and just the silence isn't helping anything... Maybe i need to sit down and just talk to him. But its hard to open up ..

WOW- had to delete 3 comments... this is why i don't talk about it because i feel like people focus on negative vs postive changes.. KMT1973 thank you for the advice! I agree...

FIRST OFF- I would NOT consider Curt abusive... ect.. Its just not how i feel children should be handled. I am not above spanking because sometimes you just have to to get Tuck to realize the word no. He has a hyper active disorder and he gets in trouble if he gets bored and requires 100% Constant attention or he will get into things or get hurt. Obviously his parents spanked for everything vs a verbal correction or warning ( They had 3 boys and i was an only child hince the difference ) Second- He smacked the back back of his head.. NOT HARD, just smacked it... NOT SLAMMED IT. THIRD- I am not in fear of my sons life.... Its not even like that. Its just not my parenting style. Nor in fear for mine... Emotionally we are just not there.

This might sound silly.... But i started out at 310 pounds and am now 255 and 7 1/2 months pregnant.... The other day i crossed my legs... like Indian style.... For the first time in probably two years... Made my day! : )

YAY!!! : )

You can always re submit! I have aetna and had to do 6 months of visits and a few other things. When i first looked into WLS i got a rep that had NO idea what she was talking about, i had read online that they covered it for some policys. When i called back another time to check again i got another rep who was actually helpful and i learned they did cover it... and took the time to find a doc and hospital in my network who does it...

Thank you! I was banded on 6/29/11 It will! It helped me! )

I didn't realize how long its been since being banded.... Only one year... But if feels like FOREVER. I started out at 310 pounds and am NOW 255 and 7 1/2 months pregnant. DOWN 55 POUNDS!!!!!! NEVER GIVE UP! : )

I have read 92.... but that seems high. I will ask my OB when i go in next week.

I was wondering how much Protein i needed per day. I am currently 7 1/2 months pregnant and at 255 pounds. Today i've had about 36gs maybe a little less. THANKS!