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I couldn't possibly reveal the train wreck of a body I make great pains to disguise every moment of every day to another individual, and I can't afford reconstructive surgery either. My only hope at this point is to find a wealthy benefactor willing to pay for a million procedures like some kind of WLS Disney film or winning the lottery.

How would you measure the discomfort you experienced after you were banded? Either from the surgery itself or the gas pain and other side effects that resulted after wards.

I doubt she meant it in a literal sense. Feeling like you're starving and actually starving are obviously not one in the same. I would think it was obvious what the word implied in this case.

Well since we've discussed it in full he's come around and become very supportive of my decision, especially since he sees now how much it means to me. He's still worried about some of the after effects and the idea of such a major surgery concerns him, but he tries to stay positive. I think if people who felt like he did in the beginning would just educate themselves on the subject they would realize just how wrong they are too!

True, but a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush and I'd buy that for a dollar. :thumbup:

Our stories are pretty similar. My fiance tells me the same thing no matter what I look like he'll always love me for who I am so he'll always find me beautiful. And you know what his praise and support is the biggest motivator for me to lose the weight because I love him so much I want him to feel proud of me! I've always been chubby ever since I was a child but in my adult years I started steadily gaining more and more and i had quit smoking just before I got pregnant and gained a LOT of weight in a short period of time. I remember the first time I did my bmi and it said "morbidly obese" I was devastated. I would like to be down to about 130 but with the weight of excess skin added to the final total I'm not quite sure about the number. I think I'd love to be a size six though. That would be ideal.

I'm 28 years old 5'3" And 240 so we have about the same bmi. I too am nursing my daughter and will have to wait 6 months to get the surgery. I know how frustratingly long those six months feel! Feel free to drop me a message any time if you need to talk to someone, ok? We're going to get there!

I'm hesitant to tell people about my plans to have the surgery because of how my fiance reacted when I first discussed it with him. His opinion at the time was that weight loss surgery is a "cheat" for people who are too "lazy" to lose the weight "the right way". I know a lot of people share his views and during this process I really don't need the voices of negativity barking in my ear.

So I've taken my first step here in MA by attending an information seminar on weight loss surgery. Next I will start six months of Doctor supervised weight loss before my insurance can approve a date. When I start to feel discouraged by the long road ahead I remind myself of that thousand miles saying and I feel a little better. At least I've begun the journey, right?