The_Joker

I have a 10cc band, but I'm curious about the different sizes. I understand that it's the Dr's choice on the size that they put in patients, but is there some kind of system that they generally go by? For example, do they put the smaller bands in larger people? Or in smaller people? Does anybody know anything about this?

Hey. I may have missed it, but is there a topic already posted on the nausea bracelet that they give out after the surgery? If so, could someone tell me where it it is please? I am very curious about it and will be getting one this friday after surgery. I have heard two different stories on whether it hurts or not (because of the little shock that it gives) and I'm just curious how many other people have had one and what their experience was with it.

Thank you for your response, was definitely wondering if it hurt. Was very worried about the gas pains, didn't also want to worry about a bracelet!

I need some suggestions on how to deal with my fiancé in regards to the LAP-BAND®®. I have wanted this surgery for over 9 years, but I have never had an insurance company that would pay for it. I now have a wonderful insurance company that is going to pay everything except $1500, which I’ve almost paid off. The problem is that my fiancé does not want me to have the surgery. He has not come right out and told me that yet, but I can tell that he is very unhappy with my decision to follow through. I have just went through a 6 month waiting period (diet & nutrition, along with bariatric counseling), but he has not mentioned it the whole 6 months. I didn’t either because we would end up fighting, so I’ve kept my mouth shut. Now that I am within 2 weeks of the surgery, he is beginning to freak out. He is worried that I will die during surgery, says that I am risking my health for an elective surgery, and that I am doing this for selfish reasons. He said what bothers him most is that he sees I’m going to have the surgery regardless of whether or not he agrees. He is of the opinion that if both parties don’t agree then it should not happen. He also wonders that if I make such a huge decision now without him, will I do the same thing when we get married. I tried to explain all the basics to him about statistics, being healthier, living longer, etc…, but he is still upset. Can anyone please help me come up with something to tell him when the subject comes up again?

I want to thank you all again for responding to my post! It has taken almost a month, but he has finally come around. He made the statement last week that he had been thinking about the surgery and decided that he wanted what would make me happy, regardless of whether that included the surgery or not. I don't know what changed his mind, whether he saw my dogged determination to have it or the fact that I was no longer involving him in the process because of our fights, but he FINALLY changed his attitude. I got my approval last week, and the date is scheduled for November 19th. He actually seemed happy for me when I told him the date, so maybe he actually means it.:wink2: Good luck and God bless to all the rest of you with your process.

I really appreciate all of your responses. It has definitely given me something to think over, especially about why he doesn't want me to have the surgery. I just always thought he was concerned for my welfare because he is really convincing, but it just might be that he's a really good actor. We have been together over 8 ½ years, so he might not want to change the way we are right now because we have always been so comfortable with each other. He is not a big man, but he started dating me while I was large, so maybe he just likes a bigger woman (even though his mother said I'm the only big woman he's ever dated). Yeah, she won't be saying anything like that again.... I am now wondering if it is a jealousy issue; he might be concerned that I'll find someone else when I lose some weight. I believe that there is only so much that I can do to make him feel secure in our relationship though without constantly trying to boost his ego. He should have enough self-confidence to only want the best for me and our future. Either way, I am having the surgery. Regardless of what anybody thinks, I have always done what is best for me and I'm not going to stop now. I wish all of you the best in the world with your experience. For me, I'm so excited about this surgery that I feel like a kid again!!!!!

My surgery is supposed to be in the middle of October, not sure the exact date yet. I've got some possible names for us... Haunted Halloweensters Hallowed Hotties October Overhaulers Slimming Spiders Vampire Bandsters