Hey Danielle! I went to my first appt this past Monday and had my sleep study done last night (not the greatest thing to do, but it's over with). I'm still waiting to hear if I'm approved by my insurance or not.
Anywhoo, I struggled with this issue since I started considering WLS and I decided that the best choice for me was to not tell to many people. I have a large family, 3 brothers (all with significant others) and a sister (and her hubby). The only people that know that I am having the surgery is my mom, sister, her hubby (he's having it also) and my boyfriend. My dad doesn't even know, and YES my parents are still together and I live with both of them. I decided not to tell my dad because frankly he has a big mouth. He doesn't filter what he says sometimes and a lot of people (including family) we know are extremely judgmental when it comes to weight. They see me and say "oh you've gained weight" even before I get a "Hi". I'm sure my brothers would be supportive but something about their wives knowing doesn't sit right with me. Some of them are very into fitness and think that they are the ultimate gurus when it comes to that subject. I feel like they would judge me.
I talked to my brother in law and he said that he's only telling his mom (who had gastric bypass about 25 yrs ago) and his 2 brothers won't know. So both of us are keeping the info in a very tight circle. So anyway, that's where I am at right now. I don't know if it's embarrassment that keeping me from telling people or what, I guess I have to figure that out but like a previous post said, I might change my mind when people start asking me what "my secret" is.
Hope that helps!