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Okay friends..........PROGRESSION PHOTOS April 16, 2007 the day before surgery Today, August 17, 2007

make myself happy I have 3 boys and a husband and I have spent 32 years making everyone else happy now is my time I have a really tight fill and have had for about a year I like it that way because I love to eat and I like everything and this way it makes me think before I put it in my mouth and I probably don't make the best choices but I do think and i didn't before! I try harder now and I am happy so keep it going girl the only thing that makes me mad is I DO LOVE TO EAT and I can't and I get to feeling like it's not fair then I get over it when I go put on that size 10 shorts!! never been there before got to learn to love it though keep it up! __________________ Go Kathy!!!!!!!!! I just called my insurance company and my breast reduction is 100% covered minus $200 if I qualify as medically necessary. Gee, ya think the back aches, shoulder aches, headaches, etc.,...

I read the part about having a breast reduction before all the weight is off to qualify for the surgery. I have huge hooters. They are 46DDD and that is smaller than they use to be (48DDDD) So what's the criteria?

Hello FriendsSending you all warm greetings this morning. I am back to work so that's why I have been away for several days. I love being back here. I missed my comrades here and am looking forward to the kids being back. School begins for them on Monday.Will share an OA thought for the day. I have my next session with my therapist this afternoon.Step One: We admitted we were powerless over food --- that our lives had become unmanagable.It may be that you have been denying your problem with food for years. It may be that you have been denying your problem with food for years. Do you eat alone, when no one can see how much you consume? Do you hide stashes of goodies where only you can find them? Have you ever finished a complete dinner and headed for the kitchen or the nearest food store to gulp down the quivalent of several more dinners? To admit that we are powerless over food is difficult for most of us. What our instincts seem to demand is more power of every kind, not less. And food--the source of physical nourishment-- seems such a good and necessary part of our existence. How can something so basic and so indispensable lead us astray?There is nothing wrong with food but there is something wrong with us when we cannot stop eating once we get started. The first STEP to the recovery OA promises is to recognize that we are indeed incapable of managing our behavior when it comes to food. Further, we admit that the disorder created by our compulsive overeating has spilled over into other areas of our lives, making them generally unmanageable. How can you manage your life if you don't know when you will be laid low by the next binge?From: Twelve Steps for Overeaters: An Interpretation of the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous. By Elisabeth L.

Wow, awesome ladies!!! The ringing of hands is a tactile thing (touch ). Is like a mini burst of energy release and squeezing her hands is a way of easing it. ( I would bet she would go crazy with a nerf ball or stretch Armstrong doll ). That journey with him will be a long one. Become educated and ask the questions. That is the best thing you can do for him and for his daughter. Typically younger siblings don't really know their older sibling as being anybody different than who they are and how they act. You can't really go wrong by treating the younger one as you would under any other circumstance. I would wager the older child would not identify with the concept of jealousy. Best of luck to you.

Thank you for this! You can't force parents to want to quiz their kids the night before a big test or make sure the homework is done, the papers are signed, etc., before they go out with friends. I once worked with a teacher (who was fired), who wrote the assignments on the board a week in advance, made sure the students wrote it in their planners (which the school provides), would give a countdown to when the assignment is due ( "tomorrow your paper is due on..." ) and would even call home and leave a voicemail for the parents as a reminder and STILL he would have students come in unprepared. He finally resorted to doing what he use to do when he was a kid, wrote it on the palm of his hand and he did this to one kid (why he was fired) after TWO calls home, a personal note for the family not to mention the reminders in the classroom. We even allow class time to work, after school tutoring in every core subject area and still you have a frightening amount of families who do not take advantage of these opportunities for their children. We even use the U.S. postal service rather than relying on the student to take the note home to family members and also flag bilingual/non-native speakers of English so something can go home translated. BUT then we have the others that come prepared, or rise with a little encouragement or shine with some extra polishing. They make it all worth it.

Great idea!

GREAT movie. I also recommend "Lean on Me" (1989) Starring Morgan Freeman the true story of Joe Clark, principal at a school with a high number of at-risk students. "The Ron Clark Story" starring Matthew Perry (2006) made for TV. "Music of the Heart" starring Meryl Streep "Stand and Deliver" starring Edward James Olmos From inside the education trenches where the glass is half full, Lap Dancer

Aw. I love austic children as well as Asperger's children (I'm an educator). They are typically very loving when there is lots of love at home. You have my heart right now because I'm thinking of a student years ago who did not talk or make eye contact but would provide a burst of hugs spontaneously. (smiling) Each child is different. I can offer you some education sites on the disorder. There are a range of manifestations so his daughter could be anywhere in that range. Your boyfriend will be your teacher there. There are meetings, classes, typically all are free. CARD is a great source. Center for Autism and Related Disorders, Inc. card-usf.fmhi.usf.edu/

Hi Zannie: There are some things the others said I'd like to point to first. This from Kat: " his depression, and your uncertainty over yourself, quite possibly her bold go get 'em attitude, and upbeat, come ons to him, were as likely what truly attracted him as opposed to what her body type or hair color or anything else are" and then this golden nugget of thought... "The problems in you marriage may have been brought to light with your banding, him knowing that you would be changing, may have scared him...but we all know there are better ways to handle that!" and from BJean: "I guess I'm suggesting that you just not make life-changing decisions when the pain is so fresh. Please just remember that your husband is having a major crisis in his life and it could be that he needs you, and your support, more than ever." These are some great thoughts. I have been cheated on. And it was my own cousin who banged my husband in my bed, on my washing machine, on our boat, all the while I was nursing my 6 month old first born child. I was clueless, had no idea my cousin ( who I took in as a favor to my aunt and uncle ) was boinking my husband! I didn't find out until two years after the fact when she had moved out, was long gone, and my husband was born again as a Christian. He decided part of his repentance was to make remedy this dark secret that would risk the distruction of his marriage. It didn't. If this were me, here would be my thoughts about this situation. My husband thought that having a younger, fit, slender, blonde haired blue eyed opposite of me person would put more hair on his chest but the truth was, sex with my cousin had no emotional connection that he had developed with me through years of life history together, memories, and sharing the creation of two lives together...our son and daughter. You have to balance what you have with your spouse to breaking it off. Do you believe your two children would be better off exposed to the direction and guidance of their father? Is he otherwise a good man? ( I mean before this broad came along?) Right now your husband is only seeing life as he knew it when he was single. Girlfriend, no kids, less responsibilities la la la la. That's well and good but once that becomes a full time situation and he LIVES with this person day in and day out that is when the warts and fangs start coming out. Trust me. Women can be vicious. Some women see men as a cash cow to offer a stipend to their rent and bills. They will put up with crap so they don't have to be responsible for a household 100% by themselves. I have always held that if my husband thinks it is better on the other side of the fence, go for it but be sure and leave me the house to raise our children in, I will need lawn service because I don't mow grass, I'm busy with my children, and I also need a stipend to pay the bills ($dollar figure) plus gas money, insurance, and so forth. This is strictly a business arrangement when it comes to the children and raising them. If he thinks SEX is that important that he is willing to abandon his family, I can't say I would want him around. My response to my husband was that at the time he fooled around, it was the worse time in our marriage and frankly, if not him then it could have been me. I forgave and moved on. This is 2007. If he has had unprotected sex with this woman, you need to go to the doctor and have yourself tested for all Sexually tranmitted diseases and specifically HIV and HPV. It's not like it use to be where we could just play around. There is some nasty shite floating around there so number one is your health. He is a grown man and his life decisions are what they are. I would suggest that you find another counselor since it didn't sound like the one you saw clicked with you. I've gone through five. Counseling is a long process that takes sometimes going through a few or switching out therapists because you don't click or you outgrow your current therapist. Take things slow. You have two wonderful children. It's summer. go to the park with them and start thinking of things you can do together as a family. The dynamics may change. **and sister I would not beg a man to stay with me for love or money. Grow some steel ovaries, take some of my female pride I'm blowing your way for you and know that no man is worth living with when they don't want to be there. You and your children deserve a better life than that.** Keep us posted!

SIGN! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Hello friends! Great time last night? Pictures? Stories? Do tell. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Anita best to you with your band leak. Awesome that you will not have to go full under like the first time when we had the band installed. ............................................................... Today for myself I went to Dillards and bought a fragrance I have never owned before...Kenneth Cole's BLACK. Wow. It smells divine. I rented two movies and watched them, end to end, I think the Ritalin is starting to work because I find I am finishing tasks. That sounds odd but it is not like me to get it all done. Also drinking all of my water. Woo Hoo. Love to you all.

Yup. I determined that when I get real nervous or excited, there is an increase in stomach acids and that has an impact on my stomach swelling. Having said that, I was probably puffy for about a month and it gradually went down. I have days where it's really flat and days where I have a muffin top.

An OA thought for the day I will share with you all: BEFORE YOU TAKE THAT FIRST COMPULSIVE……. REMEMBER Your commitment to abstinence from compulsive overeating is the most important thing in your life without exception! You may believe other things may come first, but if you do not abstain from compulsive overeating and practice moderation at meals, you may destroy your chances of finding health, happiness, self understanding and peace of mind. If you are convinced that everything in life depends upon your practice of abstinence, you almost certainly will achieve these goals. If you are confronted with the urge to eat, consider the following points before you take that first compulsive bite. <LI class=body>Cultivate continued acceptance of the fact that your choice is between unhappy eating binges and doing without just one small compulsive bite. <LI class=body>Remember, each time you face a situation without compulsively over eating will make it easier for you the next time. <LI class=body>Don't permit yourself to think a bite or two would make a bad situation better. Remind yourself “one bite will make it worse-one bite may lead to a binge.” Read the OA flyer “BEFORE YOU TAKE THAT FIRST COMPULSIVE BITE, REMEMBER…” for more good information on staying away from that first bite.

Hello Friends and happy Thursday. Mal thank you for remembering the goal of doing something special for myself today. Thanks also for asking. I have already done my special thing for the day. Yesterday's treat was shopping for 3X clothes at Lane Bryant. I was into a 4X and 5X. I bought a periwinkle colored bra and a cafe mocha colored one. Today I went back and bought the lovely tunic I saw and fell in love with yesterday. I bought a pair of hoop earrings and a scarf (a new look this season). Right now I am wearing the headband/silk scarf with my hoop earrings, a fetching style I have admired since the 70's. I wrote in my journal, I got up extra early to enjoy talking with my son and drinking my BOOST. I took time to read positive affirmations that I am thinner, I am beautiful, I am big but I still am worthy of being loved and respected!

It's THURSDAY!!! Everyone enjoy Red Robin and take LOADS OF PICTURES!!!!

update: I HAVE JOINED OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS. I GOT TO THE HOME PAGE FOR MY ZONE AND READ THIS: (DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR OR WHAT!!) Knowing and Connecting Here is a story worth repeating! When I went to my first OA meeting in February 1989, I was a broken man - emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I knew I had a problem with food, but I was unable (or unwilling?) to make the connection between my problems with food and the unmanageability of my life. What I knew then was that I gained and lost huge amounts of weight through binge eating that would last weeks and months, followed by weeks and months of exercising to exhaustion and controlled starvation regimens (sometimes under medical supervision). A 50 pound weight gain for me was easy and frequent, as was the 50 pound weight loss, albeit a little less easy. Over time, the gains got bigger and the losses got smaller and I settled into a 240 pound level on my small frame (I had been as low as 130 pounds!). So I was fat and desperate. I had heard about OA from a therapist who I did not like (probably because he was telling me the truth, truth I was an addict). I went to a meeting, eventually recognized that although my addiction was to food and the physical manifestation of this was rapid weight gain and weight loss, there were many more serious consequences than weight gain and weight loss. I was an addict and an addicts life is always out of control and unmanageable. This was the beginning of a profound awareness and with abstinence has come many years of physical, emotional, and spiritual recovery. -- Anonymous

Red Robin this thursday!! thought I would do some promoting here for the event. Well gang I am now into therapy. Right now she opened some sores so I'm feeling pained. I can tell you five things: Each day I must do something solely for myself. Each day I must journal what I did for myself in my "Recovery Journal". I must join OA and can do so online now. So shortly I will go to their place and join up for Overeatings Anonymous. I will begin working their program and starting the 12 steps. I will begin THINKING that I am already at my goal weight. I will tell my mother "When you do XXX... It makes me feel XXXX and I need you to stop." ........................................................................................... So that is my work for this next week and then I followup next Thursday. And so it begins. I've dropped a full size now and bought new clothes for school. Feeling very optimistic now. Love to you all and hugs your way. Patty

Hello Friends. Doctor's visit today, it's official, 38 pounds down. This was my first visit to my M.D. since my surgery. He is in Russia but the staff I know very well as well as the other doctor. Very proud of my progress and came into the exam room to hear my story. They said I am "glowing" with enthusiasm. About the butt. I will shamelessly tell you all that losing weight for me has come at the price of getting a few more "tags" down there. I have a TAIL now coming out my arse. This was a problem exasserbated by detoxing and the foods, weight loss and diabetes. I have a rule... *** If it makes the pain go away, I don't care where I have to shove it, I'm there*** I keep lovely pump bottles of moisturizing soap with anti-bacterial cleansing agent in them at each wash station in my house. I keep another bottle next to the toilet and I keep the Hand Gel with Vitamin E and B5 Anti-Bacterial at my keyboard, by the telephone, at each wash station and in my bedroom. You wouldn't know by looking at my house but I am a germ freak. The brand I use is Bath & Body Works and the fragrance is Coconut Lime Verbena. It smells fresh, clean and is very gentle on the skin. I do use that moisturizing soap in my Grand Canyon for "a little extra fresh" after going potty. We must do for ourselves what we would do if we were are own mothers and in my case I do for myself what mother did not. (it is what it is) In OTHER NEWS: Speaking of mothers...I start therapy tomorrow!! All kidding aside, I have my 1 PM with my new therapist who specializes in addictions. **I have figured out that there is no giant leap between drinking alcohol to numb and eating food to numb** so addiction counseling it is. MORE NEWS: Because I can't seem to finish a sentence without thinking of four more and I can't complete a task without beginning another and all the other BECAUSE things I discovered, my doctor put me on Ritalin. I took a test online by CHADD and bombed, I mean poster child for A.D.D. here. My son is on Adderall, my daughter should be so figuring genetics is at play along with the new responsibilities at work, time to grow up and address the problem. And so it is. I'll let you all know how it goes. Love to everyone!~ You all mean so very much to me!!!

The Fill Center in St. Petersburg, FL has a nurse practitioner doing the fills. Great gal, knowledgable and not in a rush. I had no complaints about her. In contrast, Dr. Kirshenbaum, the surgeon I went to in Colorado, had a seamless touch. Hit my port first go, frankly I couldn't see what all the big hullabaloo was about....then I went to the Fill Center. I think it all depends and wouldn't compare the one doing the fill by degree. My surgeon is skillful and made the fill completely carefree. My other experiences was more intense so I went from being calm to being in pain. It depends and experience is the best teacher.

Shesha you started a great thread here. The gathering at Red Robin is a meet and eat thing. We talk, getting to know eachother better, bring PICTURES of spouses, kids, pets type thing. I wish I could go every month but I live in Florida. I'm hoping to make it in October or November.

<p>I think people just want to be helpful but don't count on others taking them REALLY SEEERIOUS. </p> <p> </p> <p>The first solids I went to were Toddler meals. I ate real slow, one bite at a time and chewed my food well. I imagined my food would get stuck and someone would have to do the Himlech on me. Truth is, the first time I had a JAM in my pipes it was on Pasta, very little sauch and I actually gobbled it a bit faster than I should have. When I ate meat, it was chicken, small bites, chew slowly, no liquids, no cold liquids at meal to be sure.</p> Adding this edit to myself: Thanks for emailing me for clarification. I expanded my letters to exaggerate meaning OVERLY took a caution WAY too seriously. Sometimes people really go far....take my mother for example...you can say to her "Mom, when you are on that medicine, you should watch how much alcohol you consume". The next day at dinner, when asked if she wants wine she'll say "OH NO. I can't drink because of my medication." Big difference between not drinking four Jack & Cokes and drinking one glass of wine to NO I CAN'T DRINK. That's what I meant...over responding.

I can recommend the Holiday Inn Select to you all. Lovely accomidations, small business center with one computer and printer to check emails, dining room (for family who may be coming to catch breakfast or dinner). This one is located in Parker and is right next door to several restaurants (the one with the mural on the front has great food for a "last supper"). I think the other one is a Crabby Bills or Crab Shack. Coming back for your fills I recommend the Best Western in Aurora. It's one half block from Mississippi Ave. and about one mile from Dr. K's office. They have a pool (albeit small) which is indoors and also free breakfast which is not shabby at all. They also offer the medical discount so be sure and mention it when you make reservations. Tell them you are a patient of Dr. Kirshenbaum coming in for surgery and at the Best Western tell them you are in town for medical follow-up with Dr. Kirshenbaum. There is a shopping center behind the Best Western and up the street from it. Discount stores, good shopping! Hope this helps, Patty

My cheerleader if not our cheerleader. I normally am a water drinker but since I'm out of my routine of working, I'm out of the water habit. That will change shortly. Protein ...sometimes yes, BUT sometimes no. Excercise, I just bought my Carmen Elecktra stripper DVD for working out. Walking for me is next to pulling teeth, in fact, I'd probably arm up to go to a dentist because it's an immediate productive result. Walking seems redundent to me (where am I going?) at the end of the block (to see what?) nothing. The joint discomfort is still there so that would put a stop for me on it. Plus it's Florida so the sun is a beast. I hate to sweat and be sticky. Pools are my dream. Working out? Really? Could have fooled me. Today is a good day. I am in full makeup, dressed and going out of the house this afternoon and evening. That's an A Plus for me for a good day. Need more protein though. I'm working on a trip to Colorado in October/November. When do the leaves change there? Patty

That's a plan! I'm stuck around 30 pounds. I know because it is summer and I'm less active it has had an impact on me. I'm thinking of having one more fill adjustment before I go back to work. I've already got 7cc's in my 10 cc band and with around 200 pounds to go, I need to do something else besides rely on the band. Head work.

Less invasive. No cutting of my organs. Short recovery. 20 years of poor success and continued weight gain on my part.