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SO, I am having this battle within myself... I don't want to tell anyone that I am having the band done. WHY? I don't know, well I hate that for an answer, "I don't know" that is not any sort of an answer. I am going to try and answer that WHY? I think it is because I am ashamed and concerned about how people will look at me. I at times feel this is the easy way out, which I know it isn't. I have not been over weight my entire life, in fact it has been really about 4-5 years. And even though I am overwieght, I am still very active. I remember what one of my husbands friend said to me not that long ago, "You are a big girl but I would still take you hiking/camping, you would be able to keep up." I thought how rude. But that is when I realized that I was in fact big. I wore a size 14 at the time. Now after the baby I am a size 16-18. I feel trapped and this is the only thing I can think of to fix it. Diets and the gym are not working, diet pills are not the fix, I want a long lasting healthy lifestyle. I am afraid to tell people like my Mom, who is also over weight. I know that she will judge me. I suppose it is better to be judge for being proactive than not doing anything at all. I am not one of those people that eat a lot, she says, "I can't believe how big you are you eat like a bird." Well night shift for over 10 years had something to do with it. But I finally broke down and told a close friend. She was very supportive and helpful. My husband of course knows and he is also very supportive. It is just this little thing in my head not allowing me to open up to others. Maybe it is a defence mechanism? My surgery date is coming up July 23 and I am nervous but excited as well. I can't wait to start my new life, being healthy and doing what is right for me. It is about time I start to worry about me, I don't think I have ever really done that. It has always been about helping others. I just realized that as I wrote, thank you.

Thank you so much. I thought about it more and more last night, and all of your comments help!

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It is hard, but you will be past this part soon. I look forward to hearing more about your recovery, I have my band on 7-23-10 and am very nervous! Don't wait to let the fever get too high, concerning yes, could be infection. I would call the doctor/nurse just to be on the safe side. They more than likely told you that during discharge from the hospital. Good Luck

Awesome, I am so glad that you are happy. I am worried about my husband, we like to eat together and that is going to change a lot. He is very supportive so I know it will be ok that way. Keep up the good work!

I am having my lap band on the 23 of July on August 3 (12 days post op) Some friends are coming to Chicago to see us, and they are concerned that I will not be able to walk and get around. I told them I would be fine in that regard but the eating part is different. I will not be eating like the rest of them however that is on me but I should still be able to do everything else. Can anyone tell me how realistic I am or I am not being? I know everyone is different but seriously I think this will be OK. Maybe not the weekend following the procedure but 12 days after....should be no problem. 4 1/2 months ago I had an emergency c-section and was out of bed the next day, cleaning the room...a little OCD I know. But that is major abdominal surgery this is not...

Are you drinking enough water? Sometimes if one is dehydrated they often get really dizzy and weak? Make sure to drink plenty of water Keep up the good work

I understand that you are busy, moving to a new city can be very challenging. I have a question and if you have time to answer that would be great if not totally understand. I am having my band on July 23, 2010. I have a very good friend coming to visit August 3. She is concerned that I will not be able to do anything or eat anything. I told her the risk factors and I am already active and I know everyone is different but usually 4 days or so is the down time. You seem to be doing very well, is this typical? I just had a baby 4 month ago via c section and that was pretty rough but I was up the next day and I can't imagine this procedure being any where near major abdominal surgery? Am I way off here???

Thank you! All of your comments have been so helpful. And Congratulations to all of you for all of your hard work and success, keep up the good work!

I got my day for the lap-band, it is July 23, 2010. I am a little nervous, but I know this is the first and right step for my success. We just had a little baby, she is 4 months old and I think she is the reason why I am a little more nervous than I need to be. I know the risks are low, but there are still risks. I just ask myself does the risk out-weigh the benefit? The benefit is so much greater...to be healthy! I am also concerned about the "down" time is it really just about 3-4 days? And is it difficult afterwards, or is it all in your head.