Hi Jessica,
I just found this place too. I am in a very similar place right now. Although I am married. But I have a 6 year old son who has made comments to me about my weight. It hurts. At the time I just sort of got through it, gently told him not to be rude etc, but later the words come back and I felt like a failure as a mother. I think I will get the lap band done. I have read lots now and most of it is positive. I know there is some risk like slippage and erosion (I am not quite sure about that one yet) and some people have a hard time getting a good "fill" level, but otherwise I am reading about people who have lost weight and can move on with their lives.
I hope we can both find it in ourselves to either feel good about us the way we are or find the resourses to change it.