Hello! let me start by saying.. im 22 as well! So I immediately felt the need to respond! The incisions will hurt a bit, but really not more than a week or so. and will mostly just be sore. That's how mine were. Honestly, this was the best decision I could have ever made. Yes, it makes dating interesting, and going out with friends interesting.. but it really is what you get used to. Don't get me wrong, its REALLY hard, and you'll have to make some major changes.. but personally for me.. I wouldn't have been able to do it without the surgery. Date suggestions? Go out for coffee or drinks as you get to know the person.. and then clue them in on the surgery when you feel comfortable. In the beginning for me, I didn't want ANYONE to know, in fear of being judged.. but you would be surprised at how supportive people can be. And as for going out with friends.. I know you mentioned you wanted to keep it a secret.. as did I.. but you never know.. maybe putting it out there and actually explaining what it is will help them understand. Worse comes to worse, and you REALLY dont want to tell them.. just keep it as "I'm on a very strict diet". But overall.. my suggestion is DEFINITELY do it! It's gonna be hard, and there will be times you wish you hadn't but just keep the end goal and the big picture in mind! Isn't being healtthy, and looking and feeling great so much better than a date or an outting with friends? Plus, if they're gonna be cruel and judege you.. you probably don't want them in your life anyway!
WOW that was a long responce! But I felt the same exact way when I got my surgery, and would have loved someone to share with me.. so I hope I helped a little!