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Id go with the pasta. It is softer. Carbs are not some kind of enemy. Everything is fine in moderation unless it is hard to digest like steak. Eat lightly during the day as you know there will be a lot of food and then after the mains are served concentrate on dancing.

I think the key is to eat slowly even when it is the wrong stuff. I know how hard shift work can be on he diet. Usually you are so exhausted and miserable you "reward" yourself with takeaway. Can you possibly get a job with better hours?

A few days before the actual surgery I got really scared of the pain and complications that Id read about. The surgery went really pretty well and I am loosing about 2 pounds a week. My doctor said that the more you "follow the rules" the less the chance of complications. So i am sure you will do great. You needed to be motivated and ready yourself.

there is a lady with a blog called sandy who used to be that big and now is normal weight. She looks fab and had kept the weight off for like 5 years (I am not sure if i can post her site without permission) I think the key is whether you are ready to make the commitment required for this.

I am not much one for 12 step philosophy but I think the day by day approach is the best. I had a bad day yesterday and felt pretty depressed about it. But today had a walk to clear my head and have resumed. One thing about snacking i read was dont eat standing up. This means everytime you go to put a snack in your mouth stop what you are doing and go sit down and chew it really thoroughly. This means you have to stop what you are doing and really focus. With hungry kids this practice will soon become a pain. Good luck 40 pounds is still 40 pounds less than before.

I should add i struggle with the exercise thing. Just go 1 step at a time. Like every day do 1 thing. Even a 10 minute walk is more than nothing. Also maybe hop off the scales for a bit. Concentrate on how many calories you are having and try and make sensible choices on a dad to day basis. afterall we all know a ham salad sadwitch is much healthier than a burger. When you do slip up move on it is not the end of the world! It honestly sounds like being down on yourself is thebiggest thing. I know i ve been there!

yeah overall I am loosing weight. I am eating less overall and eating better, but can still fit a fair bit in and am hungry between meals

I have thus far avoided pizza becuase I am a real guts when it comes to it. I am not sure i would exercise that kind of control

dinner was chichen cacciatore-2 small skinless chicken thighs with lots of veg (no potato) and a piece of multigrain bread to mop up the sauce. I thought that 1 thigh would be more than enough

I just had my first fill. It has been pretty smooth sailing in terms of no pain/vomiting etc but it has not had a dramti effect on my hunger. I ate a relatively large (not excessive but plenty) dinner on sunday night and an hour later felt hungry. i had a cup of tea but did not eat again but is this normal? i see my doc in 2 weeks should i immediately get another fill?

I agree wrap it up and throw it in the bin

Ive been thinking about this a bit as I had one "helpful" friend behave similarly. I think it is fear too. i did not tell everyone I knew I guess because I felt like i would look a bit of a goose if I failed. I have come to the conclusion that I will just ignore it and keep going. I have a very sweet elderly nana who is still alive who just insists "just 1 lamington wont hurt" i dont bother arguing becasue I love her. But i do say "youre right it wont, but I dont feel like it today". It is the same at parties etc. I dont talk about why i just say no thanks or not today. This may be something you adopt at workplace birthdays. Not today. That way maybe on the day it is your birthday you will say yes because it is a once a year treat. or maybe you will say no because the treat is a new dress that you used to be too fat for. But not today has become my diplomatic way out and my own internal dialogue for temptation. This way when i fall it is easier to get up. Good luck with it.

My view is to block out the negative things you read. I have a "friend" who called me the day i was out of hospital and preceeded to tell me of all the people she knew that had regained it all. I did not need to hear this. So i just put it down to her own issues and ignored it.