kimmom

I am pro-choice because they say that you cannot judge until you are in the situation yourself, but I have to say that I am an adoptive mother of three beautiful children, these children are the most wonderful gift from above. Had their birthmothers not chosen to give them life the most unselfish thing they could ever do then these little beings would not be here with us. I am amazed at the strength and courage these women had. We adopted our children at birth and I could see that it was so painful for the birthmothers. Each one personally handed us the baby and left the hospital empty. We had the chance to stay with them at the hospital and they told us that a part of them knew they could avoid this pain if they had aborted but they said that they put theirselves second and thought of all the families that prayed for a baby but could not have one. You know I myself may of had an abortion as a teen if I was able to get pregnant but now that I saw first handed the most unslefish thing a woman could do I thank god I was never put into that situation. I am still pro life and do not judge anyone who finds themself in a situation of abortion but I wish there would be more education for woman who are faced in an unplanned pregnancy. I thank god every day and the birthmoms for my precious babies. Thanks so much for listening. We are wanting to adopt one more time and I think it is so sad the agencies have to charge so much , we paid at least 25 thousand for each adoption and have had to finance every penny. If there was a place that families could meet birthmoms and connect they could help the birthmom financially maybe more than an agency does legally of course. Just for the heck of it please all who reads this if you ever hear of a situation of adoption we are interested and would love to know. We are homestudy ready for one more child. There is a saying if you look to adopt , they say to tell everyone and maybe by luck someome may know someone who knows someone else ect... Thanks so much Kim

Hello Everyone, I just had to tell someone how happy I am to get my surgery date, it is June 5 ! I have to got to two pre-op appointments on the 24 and 25 of this month. I assume they will tell me what to eat the day before surgery. I have one very important question I am wondering if any of you had trouble with vomiting after surgery or in general if you got the flu ? That is the only thing I am scared of. Is it possible to vomit and not hurt your band ? I have to tell the Dr that I have a really bad reaction to being put out . I always wake up vomiting. They told me that there are really good anti- nausia meds now. I hope so. Thanks so much for any info you can share.

I can hardly wait I feel like it will change my life ! I really need this tool. I have tried everything and always regained my weight only to weigh more each time. Any one else getting banded in June ? Kim

Hi, I am wondering how many of you are completely happy with the band and how it has changed your life ? I started the process in Nov and just had my final consultation on friday. I am getting my surgery date this week. I am so excited but a bit nervous after reading the negitive post about the band. I also feel a feeling of dissapointment in myself wondering why I am not strong enought to eat like I have a band and get the same results with no surgery. Did any of you feel that way ? Now that I am approved and am so close to surgery I get alittle down on myself to know that I have to do this and cannot do it on my own. Even as much as I love my children , You'd think that would be enought to give me the power to do it on my own and reduce any surgery risk . Anyway I appreicate you listening, it seem so bitter sweet. I am very excited on the other hand to have a chance to feel better and get this weight off. I am 36 and can not imagine what it would feel like to dress nicer, feel physically and mentally better and just be in control of my health. I am very interested in your sucess or the things that you think I should be aware of any thought are appreciated. Thanks so much Kim

I just wanted to say thank you so much for your replys, I got up this morning and read what you all had written, and I can't stress enough how much I appreciate you talking the time to respond. I am feeling very anxious for my surgery( I will get the date this week ) I am so happy for all of you who are banded and have done so well. I can't wait to be where you are. Sincerely Kim

Hello to everyone here, you all seem so nice. I feel very lucky to have found this forum. I like you all have struggled with every diet imaginable. I am so sad that my weight affects every day of my life mentally and physically. I am 5'6 and weigh 240. We have three adopted children ages 7months , 8yrs, and 10 yrs and I find myself so limited in what I can do with them, my knees and feet are so bad. I am at my wits end. I researched the lap band and went to a seminar. I have my consult app this friday the 17 of Nov. I am so nervous that the Dr will say that my BMI isnt big enough. I think it is like a 36 or 37. I am so desprate. I am on anitdepressants , I thought they would help but I understand that the depression is from how I feel and the fear that I have about my risk ( of breast cancer , my mother had it, grandmother , aunt ) from estrogen and when a woman is heavy we have more of it. Also I have never given birth which makes my risk very high. The only diet that works for me is the Atkins and with that I cannot commit my whole life to eating meat and cheese, its only temporary then even more weight comes back. My problem is everything I have tried I feel shaky and week like I am starving unless I have food. Almost like an hunger addiction. To make a long story short, you are so kind to listen. I will know on Friday the Dr feels I am a canidate. My primary care Dr I totally supportive and said he will write me a letter of recomendation, maybe that would help. I live in Maine and am going to Augusta Center. My question is what was your experience with a BMI under 40? Anything else I could do to make my chances higher of getting approved by the Dr ? I have blue Cross insurance and from what I have heard they are pretty good. I will be so heart broken if they wont do the surgery on me, I know it would only be a matter of time before my BMI would be high enough anyway and I dont want to leave there knowing I will be back bigger someday. I really need a tool to help me and I believe this is it. Thanks for anything you can tell me to make my chances higher of being able to get this done. Thank you all so much for your imput I really appreicate it more than you know:) Kim