HI Carol,
Today is 19 days after surgery and I am down 31 lbs......
Yes, your corect it a very personal decision. I hope your husband changes his mind.
Wendy (My wife) has been overweight since I know her about 25 years. She's been on every diet that as inventered. She did the best on Richard simmons. At one point she lost 50 lbs but gained it all back with more.
We have been maried now for 20 years and I had small weight gains each year. I topped out around 340lbs. I know I needed to do something. Out of the blue, I asked my wife which is the least agressive weight loss surgery and she said Lap-band. I told my wife to make an appointment with a lap band doctor that I wanted to have the surgery.
We met with the doctor and I liked what I heard. The next day, my wife said she wanted to have it too. So we schedualed them three weeks apart.
Good luck with your surgery in June and if you have any questions e-mail me. I would be glad to answer any questions.
Mark