StephC

Cloe - when I was 16 I met the most wonderful man - yes man - he was 20, we were inseperatable for a year, when I was 17 and he was 21 we got married - we will be celebrating our 27th anniversary on Nov 2nd. Since then I've raised 2 teenagers and my 3rd is 16 - so everyone say - ugh! I was not very strict but I was very open, they all know I did the party thing, and they have thrown it in my face.. you only say no because you did this or that... and I've thrown it right back at them - yes you are absolutely right! Let her know it matters because you LOVE her - and tell her I love you every single day every single time you see her. I remember hearing Dr. Dobson .. "focus on the family" ...years ago before I had ever had my first child say that even when that child is the most unlovable child you still have to hug her and say I love you - everyday. Ok - can I preach to you all? this is how I equate God's love. When I was a child and my dad told me to do the dishes I did them because I was afraid I'd get into trouble if I didn't. But then as I matured and I would go visit my dad I would get up and do the dishes for him because I love him and wanted to do it for him. The same is with our heavenly Father. At first we serve him because we are afraid of hell and the whole sinner thing is working in us. But then as we read our bible and get to know Jesus we understand His love for us. Then we serve him because we love him and we no longer have to worry about hell because we have the understanding of grace. Sin isn't God saying don't do this or that because I said so. Sin is God saying - sweetheart please don't do this, all thats going to come of it is pain and I don't want you to have to hurt. I love you, just follow my commandments and life will be so much easier. Just love her. I'll be praying for you.

I had to LOL because I can TOTALLY relate! I even called my PA to find out if I would have to take my overlays off. I have gone from tips to overlays since my nails are long now and the overlays are soooo pretty and natural looking. My 16 y/o daughter said geesh mom you can get them back on after the surgey. LOL But in the meantime I'll feel naked. And my nails may break and I'll need tips again ... oh woe is me. Now if I would just that darn surgery date so I could take them off!

I am feeling so impatient this past two weeks. For the past 6 months I did my doctors visits and now that all my tests are done and I'm just waiting on the insurance to give the go ahead I am so irritated by it all. I had my last doctor visit Oct. 11, called my surgeon on Oct. 18th and PA said all was good, just needed the doctor to double check it before he could send it into the insurance and would call if there was anything the doctor had questions on. That was almost 2 weeks ago and I haven't heard from them so it must have all been ok. So in my right mind I know that the insurance could take up to 4 to 6 weeks but in my unrealistic mind I'm hoping it could be today. I just want to get my surgery done. I wasn't so excited or impatient until I started reading lapbandtalk. Maybe I should quit reading it until I hear from my doctor again. I know this sounds silly but my nails need done and I don't want to pay to get them done when I know I have to take them off for the surgery. And then on the other hand it could be a month until I even hear from them! Maybe I'm feeling this way because my job is about done. I work at a golf course and today is our last day of the season. I will still go in to do my office work but I don't have much work to do so ... I read posts! Ok so my whole plan was to work this all out so that when my job was done for the season I'd get the banding and be on my way to losing weight. I absolutely hate being fat! I hate to look in the mirror and when I accidently see my reflection in a window I cringe. UPMC - call me!!

your welcome amom and I'm glad you are feeling better. my problem is I feel so anxious ... I just want to get a surgery date! I want to hear from my insurance company and I want it now!

Susan - thanks for the info - NSV - thats cool! I am soooooooo impatient - good grief I had to keep myself from calling the doctors office today to see if they got any info from my insurance. I noticed everyone is different in the order of how things are taken care of. I had to have all my tests done before they submitted anything to the insurance and haven't gotten a surgery date yet and then I read where others have their band date and haven't even had the pysch eval yet - I guess its all in where you live or is it the doctor? I'm just hoping that when I do get the call that my insurance has ok'd the band that they will say can you come in tomorrow.. LOL ... ok so next week. And then I'll say ... YOU BETCHA!!!

hello fellow Pennsylvanians! I am from Somerset County and my doctor is Kim Marley from Windber - anyone else have dr. Marley?

menopause - sorry but I couldn't help but notice your age - this happened to me a couple years ago. I went in for my "yearly" and my doc says anything going on - I burst into tears and say I can't stop crying I don't know why I'm crying...sob sob ... he pats my leg and says we'll take care of that - he gave me Effexor - I used it for a few months went off and then when I needed it again I got on it again. Right now I'm not crying and feeling pretty good. But just to get you by you might want to talk to your doctor. Ok here's another one for some of you ladies in this age bracket - my sister had a tummy tuck and it threw her right in the middle of menopause. I guess our hormones are stored in our fat soooooo ... when we start loosing weight I would assume it would be like a PMS nightmare. Anyone else have this happen to them?

I didn't see this answered - whats NSV and also dh - dear husband? LOL sorry for my ignorance.

Argon - no I'm not Canadian but I was raised in Northern Minnesota LOL I've lived in PA for the past 25 years and no I'm not banded YET but Dr. Kim Marley from Windber, PA will be doing my surgery. I've met him twice and he seems very kind and compasionate (cute as a button too) I've heard and read good things about him. Most people in my area go to Pittsburgh for bariatric procedures - but I feel comfortable with Dr. Marley

Sometimes its just better to be a listner then a talker. As for me I haven't been banded and other then asking a question now and then I don't really have much to add. But I do feel encouraged when I read threads. I am just getting so impatient waiting for my insurance to respond. (UPMC - anyone else have it in Central PA) I have done the whole 6 months, pysch, etc - everything is in order so now I'm biding my time by reading your posts.

I was reading these posts and wondering how spicey foods affect your stomach. Sounds like you all eat the spicy stuff.

Sunshine I'm wondering about your shrink visit - my guy stressed the impact of how this can affect a marriage. In fact I think I'm going to start a new topic and ask how it has affected everyone. Believe me my husband is not the most open minded guy - we hardly have discussed it other then my insurance is paying for it - but I would think he's gonna catch on sooner or later.

mine was about 15-20 minutes. He asked me what I knew.. blah blah blah .. and I shared my fear... which is if I am an emotional eater now how will I deal with that after the surgery? He told me do yoga or exercise, my daughter and I got a laugh out of that one... like me and hubby are doing bills and I get stressed so I say just wait a minute I'm going to go do some yoga or take a walk. yeah right! What really works? Oh and the main thing he was concerned about was the stress on the marriage as far as a change in body can bring on new jealousy and stuff like that.

wow woodys - I just noticed your weight loss - wtg! would love to see before and after pics!

Hi everyone - I'm new to the forum, just found it today! I have finished my 6 months of dr. visits and the charts have been sent to the insurance co. for approval so I am just impatiently awaiting to hear from them. I have heard that my insurance usually ok's it. I hope to have it done before the first of the year. Its very encouraging reading everyones progress and looking at the before and after pictures. I'm so glad I found you!