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Cattoy, Thanks for the response! I can relax now that I know I'm not a perv!!! :huh2: I don't know if age has anything to do with it, but I have noticed more of an openness and awareness to sensuality in general in myself as I have reached and passed the 40 y/o mark. Hormones may have something to do with that. Who knows for sure, but like I said in an earlier post, I wouldn't want to go back!

Cattoy, I have a question for you that I am curious about. I have a good marriage of 18 years with 4 children who so far indicate they will be upstanding contributing members of society : ) My question is, How common is it for women to think about/fantasize about being with another female? I haven't so much as held hands with another human for the past 18 years, but find I am very curious about what it would be like to experience the touch and feel of another woman. I just wonder if that fantasy is very common and how many women actually act on that desire. Thanks for you willingness to answers these questions for us. If anyone else wants to contribute, please feel free!

Lil Mama, I admire your courage to post your situation. I can assure you, your not the only person experiencing this temptation. Most people wouldn't slow down enough to consider the wisdom others might share. You are very smart to have reached out for support! I agree with the advice of the others. As hard as it is, before this goes any further, you need to turn and run away as fast as you can! If you don't, it will be support you need for a different reason before long...a suffering marriage. If your husband is indeed a good man, you need to hold on to him tightly. They are a rare breed! I wouldn't suggest confessing all to him, but it might not be a bad idea to let him know you feel vunerable right now and allow him to stroke you emotionally instead of someone else. Just an idea that has helped me in the past.

Since last night was the first time I had read on this particular thread, I've thought some more about it. I appreciate a previous post about the addictive discussion in a support meeting. No doubt that most of us who are large or have been large have the tendency to be addicted to food, so it makes perfect sense that we would transfer our addiction somewhere else. We just have to make sure we stay healthy in the adjustment to new ones, away from food. Now I understand more why I went crazy riding a bicycle all the time this past summer! My husband sure appreciated this thread last night!:confused_smile:

I'm so glad to know I'm not loosing my mind or some evil person. I am feeling all the same things you ladies are discussing! I am nearly 2 years post op. I would never want to return to where I came from!

Greetings to all! It has been a while since I've been in here. I'm glad to see people are still posting on a regular basis from March 07. My weight has remained the same for some time. I have actually gained a little but purchaced a bike several weeks ago and have been riding almost daily. I'm finding bike riding easy on my joints but challenging enough to give me a good workout. I hope my weight loss will pick back up if I keep up the exercise. Summer is passing quickly and school will be starting before we know it. I hope to keep this exercise habit going! Surgery 3-23-07 Initial Weight 225 Present Weight 275 Total Lost 50 pounds

I had a complete unfill after having some major problems with reflux and I felt like a different person! It was a necessity in my case. I had gotten to where I couldn't hardly keep anything down. I go to have a refill next week. By the way it had been 6 months since my last fill. I got my stomach irritated with some reflux causing foods. I have not had any problems since the unfill, I just don't need to be able to eat so freely. I am still less than a year out of surgery.