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Things sound rough over there Eva. I see lots of guys from Europe on the dating websites. Maybe you should try that. I sure don't know of anywhere else to tell you since I don't live there. I would also suggest church, but one of the worst guys I ever dated I met at church. Go figure. ~Joan~

Well, I posted much earlier in the thread, but I had an incident happen recently that really hurt me more than I've been hurt in a long time. I met a guy online and we decided to meet. Now before we met, I sent him photos, we talked on the phone, etc. He took me to his house to cook dinner for me and had flowers waiting there to. I felt like the night went really well. Then, when I hadn't heard from him in a couple of days I sent him an email and his response to me is what got me. He basically told me I was to old, I was to fat and not firm enough, my hair wasn't long enough, my voice was to raspy, and he didn't like women who wore glasses! Now mind you, before he cooked me dinner he pounced on me on his couch and then wanted me to go watch TV in his bedroom after we ate. Now how bad did I seem at the time? Makes ya wonder! ~Joan~

Well Becky, I haven't had any in 24 years, so you should consider yourself lucky girl! I could have with Daniel, but I'm very glad I didn't since he turned out to be such a jerk. Maybe I will with Steve, but not sure about that yet. We did discuss the things that were such a huge issue to Daniel and Steve doesn't have a problem with it, so we will just have to see. You know it's funny, because I thought Daniel was the one and was just dying to meet him. But after meeting Steve, I could care less about Daniel. Funny how those things work out sometimes. ~Joan~

Missy, What you have on your profile on plentyoffish will make a huge difference in the response you get. I didn't meet Daniel on that site, but he's on there. I don't think he's having much luck either, because he keeps changing his profile and puts a different pic up everyday now. Serves his sorry butt right! I have added some new pics and have changed up my profile some, and I've gotten 2 new messages since last night. So, if you don't get responses, just change some things around. And yes, I'm very feisty and plan to stay that way. I've worked my entire life to get this way and I don't plan to change now! LOL I think the big date with Steve is going to be Wednesday, but I'm still not sure since he's still out of town. I'll let ya'll know how it goes. ~Joan~

Well Chrispy, The only reason Steve is getting a second chance is because he took me and my daughter telling him off and he still wants to see me. In fact, I told him off twice and all he said was thank you for all your kind words and compliments, so he knew he deserved it. He is out of town right now and we are supposed to go out next week when he gets back, so we will just have to see how it goes. He only gets 1 more chance though then he will be history to if he screws up! I don't take a lot of crap from men, period. ~Joan~

Well Guys, The Dallas guy turned out to be a real jerk! I went over to his house and he cooked dinner for me, bought me flowers, then pounced on me while I was sitting on the couch while he was cooking, at his instance. Anyway, the date went well, but then he wrote me an email and told me he liked younger, trimmer, and more firm ladies with much longer hair. Then he said he didn't like my voice because it was to raspy for his liking. What a jerk! He knew all of those things about me before we met, because I talked to him on the phone several times. He had very recent pics of me, so he knew how fat I was and that I wore glasses, something else he didn't like. He didn't like that I smelled like cigarette smoke, my daughter smoked on the way for me to drop her off at work, I didn't smoke. Anyway, I basically told him where he could go and that he was a lousy kisser, which he was, and that he thought he was 1000 times cooler than he was just because he had a hot car. Don't think I will be hearing from him again, what do ya'll think? It gave me great satisfaction to tell his sorry butt off though. Now for the other guy, Steve. Thing are going a little better with him, but not much. We were supposed to meet for lunch on the same Friday I went to the other guys house for dinner, but I was late and he ended up having to go back to work. So, we met Monday at Starbuck's. Things were going very well I thought, but he told me he was going to move his truck next to mine, which we were sitting in, but he left instead. Well, me being the way I am, I sent him offline messages and emails and told him what a jerk I thought he was to. But, he replied and explained that he was very allergic to our dogs that ride in the car all the time and he was sick by the time he got to his vehicle. I told him that was no excuse for what he did. So, he asked me out again, and I've decided to go, but I told him if he ever did anything like that again I would never speak to him again. I said some pretty nasty things to him and I also told him I wouldn't say mean things to him as long as he didn't dump me in a parking lot again. He said he wouldn't, so I'm going to give him one last chance, but if he screws up again, he's history too. I don't have time nor patience for this game playing. So that's what's been going on. Some of you told me to keep you posted. I will let you know how the next date goes. ~Joan~

I think you are so right Susan. It was very nice being treated like a lady and I won't put up with less from now on. Donny's problem is that he just doesn't get it. Daniel didn't talk about another woman the entire night I was with him, while that's all Donny ever talks about. When I asked Daniel where the restroom was, he held my hand and walked me there instead of just telling me where it was. Just a couple of differences between the 2. I've also gotten a couple of offline messages from Steve, so I'm sure we will eventually meet. Hopefully sooner than later. Clarity, you could always tell a guy your port site was a benign tumor your doctor decided not to remove. Just a thought. ~Joan~

I think you are exactly right Susan. Now that I'm going out and having a good time, he's decided he wants to be with me. Like I said, it's his loss not mine, because he could have had me months ago and I wasn't good enough for him then. So, the games are over with him. I had a good time last night with my Dallas guy, but he wasn't the end all be all I thought he would be. That's ok though, he still bought me flowers, cooked me dinner, and romanced me some, well a lot lol, which is more than Donny ever did. I just hope the other guy here talks to me again since I was really wanting to meet him. ~Joan~

Ok Guys, It finally happened! I went out with my Dallas guy last night and had a great time. He took me to his house where he had flowers waiting for me, then he cooked me dinner. I was quit impressed actually. The giant TV was really cool, but we didn't watch it long. lol I don't know if I will see him again or not, but even if I don't, it was a wonderful evening. Now for the bad news. I was supposed to meet the other guy for lunch yesterday and I was late. I saw him walk right past me leaving the resturant, but I couldn't catch him. So, I don't know if he will talk to me again, but I think he probably will since I was out shopping for something cute to wear to meet him. Hopefully, I will hear from them both again. Daniel didn't say he would call me lalter or anything, but I think he probably will. So, that's my life today. Hope you all have a great weekend. ~Joan~

Ok Guys, So the fun begins! I have a lunch date with Steve tomorrow and I can't wait to meet him. We're meeting at Saltgrass Steakhouse, for those of you who live in the area. Good place to eat, but a little noisy for my liking for a first meeting, but it was his choice. I was hoping to meet Daniel first, but I guess it just wasn't meant to be. He called me Monday night and I was still in Amarillo, so he wasn't happy with my daughter at all. He had hoped I was already in Sherman resting from the long trip. Instead, I had to drive literally all night long. We left my parents house at 1:10 am and arrived in Sherman at 7:00 am. I rested for a few hours, did not sleep, and went to my doctors appointment at 3:00 pm. Anyway, Daniel told me he would call me later in the week, and it's later in the week now damnit! I'm ready to meet him now! Can ya'll tell I don't have much patience. Now the latest with the ongoing Donny saga. He called me Tuesday night in the middle of the night and talked and talked about all of his women. I hadn't heard from him in over 2 weeks before that, and I didn't realize how nice it would be not to have to hear about them. Well, he called back last night and told me he had decided he was going to be a one woman man. He asked if I knew who he might have in mind, and I said yes, Sandy. She's one of his friends. Anyway, he told me it wasn't her and he really didn't have anyone in particular in mind. Of course, this was after I told him I had met someone and told him his name was Daniel when he asked his name. What a load of crap! When I wanted him, he didn't think I was good enough, so now that he wants me, it's to late. I've moved on and found other men who do find me attractive and want to be with me. So, I guess he lost out. Oh well, his loss not mine! ~Joan~

I have purchased about 20 samples from bariatriceating.com, some of the Unjury, and some samples from somewhere else because I thought I was going to have my surgery this month, but now I'm not going to get to have it for a year. But, I'm trying to drink 2 protein drinks per day and eat one good meal. I've lost 7 lbs in the past week, so it's working very well without the band for now. My cardiologist said I could lose the weight without the surgery in a year if I worked at it. However, we all know how easy that will be, NOT! ~Joan~

Kristi, I'm sorry it didn't turn out to be a love connection, but there are plenty of fish out there like the name of the website says. You will eventually meet Mr Right. My Dallas guy is on that site to and his name is Classic Ride. Please go to the site and look him up so you can tell me what you think. In fact, everyone can go look at his pics and tell me what you think about him. I would love everyone's input. Missy, I will be in Sherman after midnight on the 5th. My daughter is driving here Monday and then we are driving back after a few hours here. Her choice, but I know she's gonna be tired. I'm really hoping we can get together while I'm there. I would have loved to have attended the Denton meeting, but I had doctors appointments here on Friday, so I just couldn't get there for it. I've also met another guy online who wants to meet me Wed of Thur of this coming week. His name is Steve and the other guys name is Daniel. Daniel is better looking, but it depends on the person, so I think I will meet them both. LOL ~Joan~

I'm not going to be able to come again, so I hope you guys have a great time. I will be back in Sherman on Sunday or Monday, so I sure wish it was the 2nd Thursday! Be sure and post the pic so we can all see it. ~Joan~

Thanks everyone for the input. I went to bariatriceating.com and ordered some of their samples. I also got some from a couple of other places, but I can't remember what sites I got them from. Since I've found out it's gonna be a year before I can gave surgery, I will have time to check all of them out. ~Joan~

Your very welcome Jessica. I know it is working for me, so I know it will work for you to! Have fun! ~Joan~

Chrispy, It is soooooooooooo fun, and these guys have seen my pics already. How cool is that? I told the guy in Dallas that I was going to have Lapband surgery, and he was all for it. Now he's wanting to know when I'm having it. Unfortunately, I had to tell him it would be a year, so he is encouraging me to try and lose weight on my own, which I think is really sweet. I don't think he really cares about my weight, just that I get healthy again. Did I tell you guys that he was hot? lol My niece told me it was because I like him, but I don't think that's all of it. This is going to sound very shallow, which I'm not, but he drives a Nissan 300ZX convertible, he has a nice house, and he has a 73" TV. lol I know guys, that's not what's important, but it's really nice to go along with the guy. We will just have to see how it goes! And, I can't believe it's me this is happening to! Whoo-Hoo! ~Joan~

Hell Kristi, If I can get this man, I may stay in Sherman for the rest of my life! Whoo-Hoo! He's just hot hot hot is all I can say! LOL ~Joan~

Jack, I think that would be a great idea. It's to bad there isn't a website for bandsters who want to meet other bandsters. If I had the smarts, I might just start one! Even though I'm not banded yet, I am still going to hang out here with my friends. I have met another guy ya'll. This one live in on lake Grapevine for those of you in the Dallas area. He's 4 years younger than me, but what the hey. We might hit it off. I'm still really into the guy in Dallas though and I think I could fall in love with him. Umm Umm Umm! Kristi, I don't mind being called woots at all. Wootsie is my nickname that I've lived with all my life. My entire family calls me that, so I don't have a problem with it at all. You are such a bad girl! I probably would have thought something like that myself though. My Dallas guy asked me if I wanted to melt in his hands. Probably a regular pick up line, but who cares! I told him absolutely, I think I could melt in your hands. lol ~Joan~

Jessica, Supergenius suggested that I sign up on PlentyofFish.com, and I've met 1 guys on there that I might meet. I have also met someone on BBWdatefinder.com who is the guy I'm really liking in Dallas. I can't wait to meet him! Wow is he good looking! Anyway, I thought you might want to check out those 2 sites. PlentyofFish is free and the BBWdatefinder is $50. Good luck girl! ~Joan~

Hi Guys, I just wanted to let you guys know that I've met a guy on one of the online sites that I am really liking. He lives in Dallas, but since my daughter lives in Sherman, that would be great! I am going to be in Dallas around the first of next month, so I think we are going to meet then. I will let you guys know if we meet and how things go. I'm excited!!!! ~Joan~

Way to go Chrispy! I think I would hang onto that guy if I were you! That is such a cool gift. I'm sorry I missed your birthday. I've been really sick the past couple of weeks. Hope you had a great day! ~Joan~

Thank you for your prayers Kristi. The have done 2 ultrasounds on my leg to be sure the artery and vein were open, but that has been over a week ago. I still have a huge, well smaller, knot on the top of my leg, but it is still very painful, especially to the touch. I don't think they are going to check for blood clots again, because I am on major blood thinners already. I go see the doctor's PA Friday, so we will see what they say and do then. I'm trying the online dating thing for the first time and I'm not having much luck. Not sure what's gonna happen, but I am not looking for a boyfriend, just people to talk to. ~Joan~

I just found this thread, so I'm going to answer both the original question and the dream question. I was a premature baby, so I was very small at birth. My mom was always having me checked by my doctor because I was so thin. I start becoming "chubby" when I hit puberty at the early age of 9. I was not really heavy until I became a freshman in high school. Between 9th and 10th grade, I lost my weight, by taking diet pills my mother got for me, and I stayed thin until I was out of high school. I gained about 40 lbs when I had my daughter, but lost it many times over. I didn't really start gaining a large amount of weight until I was involved in several bad relationships. I guess you could say my weight has always been my parka to protect me from being hurt again. I'm not banded and I won't be until at least a year from now, due to medical problems, but I do know what I looked like thin and I have to say that I was above average in looks. Not just my opinion either. LOL So, I am going to try and lose my weight without the band, or at least a large part of it, since I can't get it for a year. The dream question is interesting. I don't see myself in my dreams. It's like I'm the outsider looking in on the dream, so I never actually know which me is there. ~Joan~

KristiB, I'm so sorry you are still in so much pain. I can definitely relate. Do you still have your stitches or are the out now? I know you must be in lots of pain. I still have a huge knot at the top of my leg and the bruising goes way down below my knee and almost all the way around my leg now. Let us know how you are doing. We really do care! ~Joan~

Not sure what you are getting at here Jodie, but he sounds like a very dangerous guy to me. I might think it was flattering for someone to tell me that, but the fact that you find it "SO FLATTERING" is a bit scary to me. I know I don't know you personally, but from your recent posts on this thread, you are heading down a very dangerous road with all of these men in your life. Not sure what happened between you and your ex, but I doubt he would approve. I hope you don't get angry, but I'm getting concerned about you. ~Joan~