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Denise, You can look at my profile on plenty of fish to if you would like to. PM me and i will give you my name on there. I have had some good results as far as meeting people, but no keepers yet. The guy I'm supposed to meet this weekend I found on Largefriends.com. However, I'm a little more assertive than Chrispy, because if I see someone I think I might like, I send them a message first. I think it's ok to do that, because some of the men are very shy to and are reluctant to contact you. So, I guess it just depends on how brave you are. If they don't answer me back, I haven't lost anything. The stupid guy that beat me up messaged me today on Yahoo Messenger about5 or 6 times. I told him I had decided not to press charges, but the police had told me not to talk to him, so the 1st message was the only 1 I responded to. If he continues to message me, I'm calling the detective and tell her what's going on. He's a nut case and I'm sooooooooooooooo glad he doesn't know where I live! ~Joan~

You know Chrispy, I think that's a great idea! I hadn't even thought to do that, but I'm sure they will block him from the site. Too bad I can't keep him from getting on other sites to. Kristi, I'm glad you are having luck with the Plentoffish site. Actually, now that I think about it, all of the men I've actually met I met on that site. So, they aren't all bad. Good news though. I'm meeting the guy from the little town close to here Sunday evening. He's out of town on business right now and won't be home until Saturday, so Sunday is the first chance he will have. I'm very excited to meet him in a way, and very frightened at the same time. He's well aware of what happened to me, so he said we would just take it slow. You guys wish me luck, because I'm gonna need it! ~Joan~

I have been giving this some very serious thought, and I have decided I'm going to at least file a report on this guy. Whether or not he goes to jail is up to the authorities. One of the major reasons I've decided to go ahead and contact the authorities is because he told me he would take his profile off of Plentyoffish.com, which he did for a day, but now it's back with a small change in his name. I am terrified that he is going to do this again to someone else, and he may hurt them much worse than he did me, or maybe even kill them. I am also afraid he may start stalking me. He knows where my daughter works and that also frightens me. So, I'm going to call the police department today and find out what I need to do. I've also told the other men that this did happen to me and I'm very afraid of men in general right now. So, at least they know I'm not going to put up with anything like this ever again. Ladies, be VERY CAREFUL when you go out with someone. As I said, I had been out with him several times before this happened. ~Joan~

Denise, I have my profile on 5 sites. Mate1 and Plentyoffish are free, but BBWDatefinder and BBpeopleMeet aren't. I can't honestly remember if the other site Largefriends.com was free or if I had to pay. Lots of people on here are using Plentyoffish with some luck. I haven't met a keeper on there, but then again, I haven't met a keeper yet. If you read back a few pages, lots of people said Match.com and eHarmony weren't that good. I've never belonged to them, so I sure can't tell you on those. Just my 2 cents worth. ~Joan~

Denise, Don't be so concerned about not putting your profile up until you lose more weight girl. I'm not even banded and won't be for another year, so you can still date. I have found some nice guys and as you all have read, some bad ones, but it's fun to at least chat with them online. I think the guy who beat me up was the exception, not the rule, or at least I hope so. You can normally tell very quickly if they are sincere or not. So go for it and don't worry about your weight loss being a factor in it. ~Joan~

Karla, You will be happy to know that I haven't talked to the Houston guy again. I met him on BBWDatefinder.com. I keep getting flirts and smiles from people, but I don't chat with many of them. Who wants to talk to someone in the UK for gods sakes! I mean they are fun to talk to, but you know you will never meet them. So Karla, I'm taking your advice and trying to stay mainly with Texas boys. OK, now I have some bad news for you guys. I told you about the guy in McKinney I went out with the other day. Well, night before last he asked me out again, so I went. We went to his house and things got a little hot and heavy, but I knew where to stop it. So, I spent the night because I had to pick my daughter up from work in McKinney the next morning. Anyway, the next morning when we woke up he started with the messing around again, which was ok because I had my limits, but then he just started beating the crap out of me for no reason. I won't go into great detail about where all he hit me, but I do have some major bruises from him squeezing me really hard. So, I was very quiet and just went to pick my daughter up as usual, because I was afraid if I said anything to him, he would start beating me again. He called me during the day I'm sure because he was worried about what I was going to do, but I didn't answer the phone. But I did send him an email telling him how fortunate he was that he wasn't in jail for what he did. He's terrified that I am going to file charges, but I have decided not to because of what I would personally have to go through. So, now I'm talking to a couple of new guys. One lives in Carrollton, which is a suburb of Dallas, and one lives in a small town close to here. I've asked them both if they hit and they have both assured me they don't. I'm actually afraid to meet anyone now since he did that. I will be afraid to kiss them in fear that they will start hitting me while they're doing it. Anyway, that's how things stand right now. I think I like the guy who lives close to me the best though. ~Joan~

Hey Denise, I haven't been on in several days, so I just found the new format tonight. It is a lot different, but I haven't had problems navigating yet. However, this is the only thread I've been to so far. I don't pay attention to the ads on the side, so I guess I just missed all of that. LOL ~Joan~

Well Guys, I'm not going to make any promises, but I do hope to attend the next meeting. The real reason I wasn't at the April meeting is because my daughter doesn't understand why I would want to go since I can't be banded for a year. I told her lots of people have to wait that long or longer, but she didn't want to go. So, I didn't come to avoid an argument with her. She was sitting there watching me write my last post, so I again didn't want to argue with her and avoided the real reason I wasn't coming. ~Joan~

What kind of tattoo did you get? My daughter is trying to get me to get one, but I'm still debating. I hate pain! ~Joan~

The only reason I posted anything about the penis was because Kristi did. I won't post about it again, because I gave my opinion. LOL ~Joan~

You are toooooooooo funny! That's why you are supposed to use protection when you have sex! LOL Sorry, but that's just the nurse in me talking. I to would love to have the affection, but I guess I miss sex to, so I'm a little different than you guys. I guess 25 years without makes one feel that way. ~Joan~

Oh Denise, I went through the change of life at age 28 when I had a hysterectomy. So, I guess maybe that's why I haven't dated until now. No one would put up with me. LOL I have changed my profile on plentyoffish.com, but I'm not getting much response there. I have to tell everyone that I have had the best luck on BBWdatefinder.com and bbpeoplemeet.com. However, you have to pay to be on those sites, plus there are still those on there just looking for phone or cyber sex, so you have to be very careful on all of the sites. I will update you guys a little on my men, as Chrispy says. The 26 year old is gone. He got kicked off of the website I met him on and I called him on it. Apparently I wasn't the only woman he was talking to and he must have been using some strong language or something to get booted, so good riddens to him. I made the 37 year old in Kansas angry, so he's gone to. I talked to the 37 year old in Houston the other day, but I don't expect a lot to happen there either. The most interesting thing that's happened is the guy in Nebraska. He messaged me about 3 days ago and told me he was going to Africa on business the next day and then he wanted to come to Dallas to meet me. So, the next day he messaged me and told me he had been robbed in his hotel room and his son had been shot in the let. He wanted me to send him money! Please! I was always very skeptical of him because he said he wanted to marry me the first message he sent. Huge red flag there! I'm sure I'll never here from him again since I wouldn't send the money. What a jerk! There's this other guy who lives in McKinney, the town where my daughter works, that I've been talking to for a while. I only wanted him for a friend, but he asked me out, so I went out with him last night. He took me to dinner and everything! I had a good time and will probably see him again, but there's no huge love connection there. So, I'm still looking. But hey, when some of the guys leave, I just find some new ones to talk to. Eventually, I will find the right guy for me, at least I hope so. I'm still very depressed because I can't have my surgery for a year. You guys keep me in your thoughts and prayers over that. I'm not doing well down here with my diet. :cry ~Joan

Denise, Girl you have really been through some tough times, so I think it's your turn for some happiness. Personally, I got hurt really bad in a couple of relationships back in my 20's and I just started wanting to date again. So, all in all, I don't think you are doing to bad. I know exactly how you feel about wondering if he's thinking about you and everything you see reminding you of him, but please don't do what I did and waste your life hurting over some stupid man that is not worth you wiping your shoes on. Get back out there and try to move on. I can tell you from experience that's it's not worth wasting your life over. I've wasted 25 years of my life for nothing, and that makes me very sad when I think about it. I could have been having fun dating, or even been married if I had just moved on. But, I'm having a good time now, so it's not worth worrying over spilt milk. ~Joan~

Denise, There is nothing better to get you over someone than finding someone else. I learned that very quickly about Donny, if you've read the entire thread. However, I'm still alone at this point. But, I do talk to lots of guys online, so that keeps me busy. I've also learned that Donny is the one who lost out, not me. I just learned tonight that the guy from Nebraska is coming to Dallas in about a week, and I'm very nervous about meeting him. We will just have to see how it goes. ~Joan~

Eficka, I have to agree with Susan on this one. The guy is getting what he wants from both women in this situation. His wife deserves better, and you darn sure deserve better. Leave him alone and move on with your life. He's always gonna be there as long as you let him. ~Joan~

Well Guys, I'm not going to be able to make it tonight, because my daughter is going camping over the weekend and has to work tomorrow night. She has to get her stuff ready to go tonight since she has to work tomorrow night. Hopefully I will make it to the next one. ~Joan~

Cathy, Thank you for sharing with us. I know I'm not finding the right person for a life-long relationship right now. I am just wanting to have some fun and I don't think as long as I'm just talking to these guys I'm doing anything wrong. I am just finding it very flattering that these guys are interested in me, especially since I haven't dated in so many years. But, when it comes down to finding a permanent partner, I will for sure start weeding them out quickly. Isn't it interesting what you guys have in common? I think that's a wonderful gift God has sent to you. ~Joan~

Oh Karla, You don't need to worry about me. I have no intention of leaving Texas. My entire family lives in Texas and I am a born and raised Texan through and through. I am just talking to these guys and will probably never meet but just a few of them in person. I am, however, having the time of my life. I've been divorced for 30 years and haven't dated in 25 years, so I am just having a good time chatting with these guys online. The guy in Nebraska scares me the most, because he says he wants to marry me and wants to move here. I told him I would have to know him a lot better before that would ever happen. He also has a teenaged son, so that's a definite draw back. But, I have a good head on my shoulders and I'm not going to be stupid. Just having some fun for the 1st time in years. ~Joan~

Ok Guys, I need help here. My favorite little boy toy from Georgia wants to come for a visit. I guess my problem is that he's 26 and I'm 51. My daughter is 33 and he likes the idea that he is younger than my child. lol I know I am very flattered by all of his daily attention and he is very attractive, but I'm wondering if I should go for it or not. Would you guys go for it? I will make my own decision, I just want to know what you guys think. ~Joan~

Chrispy, I haven't found anyone with tattoos yet! My little boy toy isn't angry, just very busy with his job. I also met another boy toy this morning from St Louis. What is it with these guys in their 20's liking old women like me? I just don't get it, but oh well, who care. They are fun to talk to. Oh, and I met a new guy from Phoenix last night to. He's really cute. To bad I'm not actually meeting these people in person, but I don't think I could keep up with them if i was. It sure is fun though! Welcome bluetattoo. We love to hear everyone's stories. Has anyone seen Missy or Jodie lately? ~Joan~

Wootsie hon - you are breaking hearts left and right! lol. You go girl! My opinion is any guy that wants to marry you already - RUN and run FAST. lol. I don't know, maybe it's just where I'm at in my life right now but that makes me leery. I don't know if they're looking for a sugar mama or what, but I'd be suspicious. But you know these people beetter than I do, so do what you feel comfortable with. Just know that anyone worth your time and effort will be patient with you while you make the right decision. Oh, Don't worry Chrispy. I know that type is very dangerous. I'm not about to fall for that crap. I even asked him how on earth he thought he was in love with me and he didn't even know me. So yes, I'm being very careful. I think I made my boy toy in Georgia mad and he isn't talking to me. That makes me sad because he's so cute, but I've never met him, so I guess it's his loss not mine. I'm just talking to these men at this point. The guy from Friday night is getting an email from me very shortly with the see ya' message. I am going to be very selective here. I deserve the best. I'm also very jealous of all you guys who have been banded. I so wish I could have my surgery now. Oh well, time is passing fast. ~Joan~

Kristi, You are a bad girl indeed! I have been seeing them to, but since I still haven't gotten any, I can't remember what it is I like. LOL Maybe there is a really good reason for me always dating tall men. LOL I've dated as tall as 6' 61/2", sooooooooo....... I think for some reason, men think length is the most important thing though. I would say both is important in my humble opinion. Just my 2 cents for what it's worth. ~Joan~

Well Susan, You are absolutely right about that 1. I went out with the guy from Dallas who canceled and I didn't like him to much. He spent $6 on the entire date. What a loser! There is also another guy I forgot to tell you guys about who lives in Arlington, another suburb of Dallas. I have only chatted with him once, but he was fun to talk to. Then, I met a new guy from Dallas a few minutes ago. He seems nice, but I think he may only be looking for sex, which I'm not. So, I sent him a message and told him that. I'll just have to wait and see if I hear back from him. My young boy toy would be nice to meet, but he's in Georgia, so I doubt I will ever get to meet him. Just dream, but that's ok to. ~Joan~

Well Guys, I think I'm going to get to come this time. I'm in Sherman right now and have a doctors appointment on the 5th. I'm having so much fun down here, I think I'm going to stay. I don't think that is going to make my parents very happy, but hey, I'm free and 51. Hope to see everyone there! ~Joan~

Well Guys, I've been so busy not to have been on a date, you wouldn't believe it. Let me see where to begin. I'll start with Steve, since you guys know about him. He told me he was going out of town for a week and would get back in touch with me when he got back. Well, he never did get in touch with me, so I figure I'm better off without him. He's a flake my daughter said. Now, where else to go from there. I have this 26 year old Russian guy, who's a computer software engineer, that really has the hots for me. He lives in Atlanta, GA, but he is thinking about moving to Dallas so he can be with me. If any of you belong to BBWdatefinder.com, his name is madetoolove on there. He's a real cutie, but a lot young. I'm still deciding with him. He would definitely be a great boy toy for a while. Did I just say that? LOL The next guy I have now is an electrical engineer who lives in Nebraska who owns his own business. He is wanting to sell his business and start a new one in Dallas. He's wanting to marry me, but he has a 13 old son and he's not divorced, he's widowed. Big draw back for me since I don't want any children. He's from the UK and has no other family here other than his son. The next guy lives in Littleton Colorado. I forgot what he does for work, but he has the hots for me to. He told me tonight he didn't like it that I was talking to other men. I told him I had to find the right guy for me, so he said he understands that. It's 7 am and he messaged me a few minutes ago and told me he's on his way to work and sent me kisses and hugs. Now, I was supposed to have a date with a new guy who lives down by Dallas last night, but we were having severe thunderstorms, so he called and said he thought we should do it another night since the weather was so bad. He said he would call me though, which I'm sure he will. I'm going out of town for the weekend, so I won't be able to meet him then. If he calls today, I can meet him tonight since my daughter has to work. I've talked to a few other guys, but these are the ones with the most interest in me and me in them. My problem is that I don't know who I like the most. I've never had to make these kinds of decisions before. Damn, it's giving me a headache! And, I have to add that I'm really enjoying telling Donny about my guys. It's killing him and I'm lovin' it! LOL So, you guys give me some advice. I'm soooooooooo confused! HELP ME! I'm having a great time though. My mom would just die if she knew I was meeting all these men on the internet. She thinks they are all serial killers or nutso. Kristi, good for you girl! I hope it really is a love connection. That would be so great for you. I'll keep my fingers crossed for ya' girl. So, what's going on with everyone elses love lives? ~Joan~