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As far as I know the band did not contribute to my sons passing. It was declared a cord accident as the cord was wrapped around him very tightly. The only issue with the band and pregnancy that I was made aware of is that there is an increase in nausea due to the pressure of the baby pushing up into the stomach as it gets bigger. Thanks everyone for the support. I know there has to be a reason that my son was taken, havent figured out what it may be but there has to be a reason otherwise it would simply be a waste. I wont let him be a waste for me, he is going to always be there with me. Ive heard about the Jewel song and can totally understand the lyric. I can honestly say that with the band I had the mindset of the old fat me changing into a thinner new me. Now there is a me before my son and a me after my son. The changes of everything from old to new in both cases is a little daunting. Thanks again for letting me vent. I feel like in a way Im starting all over because I slipped into so many of my old bad habits. Gonna start this new year off with a new me continuing to change into a better me! Renee

I am alomost 2 years post band and really have had no problems with the band itself. Last Feb I found out I was pregnant, a complete surprise. Then on June 16th, at 20 weeks, I delivered my son stillborn. I have been on a downhill slope ever since. I have decided that Im going to go full steam on this weight loss train again and try to pull myself together. All of this is so hard and I didnt know where else to go. Hope everyone has a wonderful New Years Renee

Thanks for the kind words. I managed to not gain any weight during the pregnancy and after I lost my son I still have not gained any. My total weight loss is 80lbs and Im so happy about that. My goal is another 40-50lbs. I have talked to some very close friends and my husband has been a trooper. A loss like this is so unimaginable that it is hard to explain. i just feel like I need to pull myself together a little. Like my son would not want me to be unhappy and he would not want me to not live my life. I am going to do this as much for me as for him in a way. I want him to look down and be proud of a mother who was able to survive and thrive through the worst. I am going to reach my goals and show my son and my older daughter that just because things get hard, giving up completely isnt the best option. I am so glad to have a place to go where the struggles of weight loss with emotional pitfalls makes sense and doesnt have to be explained. Thanks again, Renee

ok so im 10 months post op an down 70lbs. Ive had 3 miscarriages before, all probably due to weight, and literally found out i was pregnant about an hour ago. i honestly dont remember what my dr told me before the surgery cause wasnt planning on having anymore. I have an 11 year old and was really ready to be done. what can i expect? is there issues with ports and crap? i carried the first in my back, literally, will that make a difference? Did I totally just screw this weight loss thing up? sorry to dump but im soooo scared! Renee