I'm in a similar situation. I had my surgery on October 6 and went last Tuesday for my first fill but the Dr. could not find the port so I didn't get it. He sent me for an xray to make sure the band hadn't flipped, which it didn't, but even with the pictures he could find it - which meant a lot of needle sticks! I am going to the hospital next Wednesday and he will give me a fill using a floruscope (sp?). For the past 4 days I have been very hungry, especially yesterday, and find myself thinking about ways to cheat, which had not been happening. Even so, I've been able to keep it together, although last night I ate two granola bars. I feel no restriction at all and realize that my lack of hungry after surgery was probably because I was sore and swollen inside rather than restricted.
Even though I am somewhat nervous about having a fill and the possible difficulties eating after it, I am relieved that I will have one soon.
Be gentle with yourself - which is what I'm trying to do for myself as well.