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I had a full abdominal lipo today after losing 80 lbs with my lapband. I looked in the mirror and I see brusing and saggy skin. I do not mind the bruising and skin BUT I am scared to death that my skin is so saggy that it will not go back. My doctor said it will but it almost seems impossible. I am 28 and although young I have battled weight up and down stretching out skin back and forth. Has anyone had lipo and had the skin go back or does anyone have advice for me on how I can get it to go back I am just freaking out and almost regretting it.....I just want a semi flat tummy!!!

Hello everyone I am about a year and a half out of surgery and after losing weight and working out I have decided a tummy tuck and possible breast lift may be in my future. I am just beginning the process to research Doctors but I have no clue where to look. So if anyone knows any good plastic surgeons in the Mass, Nh or RI area it would be much appreciated. Also, what is the going price for these type of surgeries? Are the tax deductable because its from weight loss surgery or no? Any help, advice, or thoughts would be much appreciated! Thanks

Hello all...I am about a year and a half with the lap band and after weight loss, dieting, and exercising I think it may be time to look into a tummy tuck and a breast lift. I am curious to know if anyone knows any good plastic surgeons in the mass/nh/ri area. Also, what is the typical price range for these procedures? Is this tax deductable at all? Reall I would appreciate any advice or help in this area, thanks

Okay, basically I guess I am here to vent but also seek some support because I dont know what the heck to do. I was banded on 11/20/06 and at first was doing great then was having a really difficult time due to no restriction and then I went and got a fill just over a week and a half ago...I have now gained 3 lbs, I still have noooo restriction and my doctore told me I wouldnt need to come back for 3 to 4 months. Is this normal? He told me he normally gives people 0.5 cc for a fill and he gave me 1 cc and he told me it would be great.....Well its not and I have just as large of an appetitie now as I did before my band...Now I know it is my fault the food choices I have been making, which have been horrible but I am believeing its been mainly out of stress.....I know this is just a tool and I have to use it but I did shell out $15,000 cash so this would help me control my intake portions right or wrong? I just want to be thin, and I need help, at this point I dont know what to do....Just stop eating bad and deal with having no resstriction, call my doctor even though he said not to call for 3 or 4 months, anyone have any advice for mee please.........

I am needing some advice from everyone here....I just had my first fill last week and I have absolutely no restriction and have the same appetite i did before the band. Now i know it is up to me to make the right food choices but isnt the band supposed to help control my portion intake? Should I call my doctor? Has anyone experience no restriction after their first fill, I need some advice I am seriously bummed out here....Especially since I cleared out my savings to pay for this surgery....Thanks

Okay everyone I havent posted in a couple weeks because I have been so down and discouraged...I had my surgery on 11/20 and did great the first few weeks but as the days went on and I got hungrier and hungrier I have been testing the waters....I have eated food very bad for me and a lot of it...I have no restriction, which I know is normal until first fill....But mentally I have been making the wrong choices....So I just want to know did anyone else go through this but were able to come out successful and jump back on? Please, any advice to get me back on track will help.....Many thanks

Thanks everyone for you support...I have called my doctor and have a fill scheduled for next week....So hopefully that will do the trick....I am feeling much better today, more motivated and have made great choices in eating today....Gotta start somewhere right...Thanks everyone P.S. ABOUT MY DATE....Yes, he liked me alot actually just wasnt the guy for me...But, I went and got over my fears and it was nice to have someone with some interested for me..I will find the right one eventually just need to take care of me first!

Hello everyone, I just want to say I love this website, it's very informative, and thanks to all of you for your support and honesty so far....It's nice to know that I am not alone in all of this....Anyways, my health insurance company will not cover any weight loss surgery, it's completely excluded from my plan, which is fine...My life is worth a million dollars to me but I am not sure of financing options so I dont end up paying an arm and a leg in the end on interest...Does anyone have any suggestions for me, and also I am not even sure how much it costs, some people say 15,000 some say 25,000 help me please, thanks

Ok everyone, I finally bit the bullet and put myself back in the online dating world....I chose to date here because I am a nanny, so not in the career to meet people and also not interested in picking up drunk slobs at bars so I date online...I used to do it all the time but totally took myself out of the dating world for a long time because I was just so depressed and hated myself....I got to the point now where I am feeling lonely and why should I let my weight stop me from having a relationship right? Well, I have a date on thursday night, with a seemingly nice guy and I am soooo nervous...I am never worried that someone isnt going to like me for who I am because I am a great person with a great personality and even a pretty face....But, I base it all on weight...He isnt gonna like me cause I am heavy I always say....I just want to get over this, that people should care for me because of who i am not how much the scale says right, but how do I do this...Any help, advice, or support would be greatly appreciated....And I cant freakin believe I have a date, ughhhhh

OKAY HERE IT IS.....I am letting all of you know how the date went...First, I wanted to cancel I got so nervous yesterday I almost threw up, hahah...It is just me and in my head cause i havent gone on a date in so long...Well, we met at a restaurant to originally have a drink but we ended up having dinner...One of the first things he said to me when we sat down was you look so much better in person than you in your pics....The night went great, we had fun....He was complimenting me all night long and totally into me...Even tried to kiss me at the end of the night and i just gave a little peck cause i am not like that, hahah...We have a second date planned and we will see...I am looking back like wow no reason to be nervous....So my advice to all you single gals with no cofidence to get back out there and date...Its not that bad....It was nice to have a guy pay attention to me....And NOT ALL GUYS LIKE SKINNY WOMEN...And this guy explained to me he has dated thin and heavy and it just has to click with the person and that was the nicest thing to hear to know that there are still guys out there like that....Woo hoo

I sent mine to AZ...But I think I forgot to put who it was from...Anyone from AZ get a gift without knowing who it is from?

Love you guys.....Thanks, I am going to get all decked out and try my hardest to leave the self doubt at home, you guys rock.... I will keep you posted

Hahah, I only wanted support for being nervous about going on my first date in a long time, how did it turn into this....Thanks for everyone who supported me I really do appreciate it.... And Marjon as far as people being shallow...There are a lot of people who are not attracted to heavy people and that is ok, I have my likes and dislikes too...BUT there are a lot of people who are just plain shallow and think people should look the way society says, etc...and those are the ones I dont want...I have met a couple of great guys off the internet who ended up loving me the way I am....So, I intend to find that again and I am confident that I will...Yes, it will take time as everything does but they are out there.... So everyone wish me luck and we will see what happens I guess..

Hey Nathalie, thanks girl for your kind words...I needed that...I am just so damn nervous to go on the date even though he does know what I look like....But thanks for the support I will let you know how it goes...

I am not angry at all....I just said in the first post I need support cause I am nervous...My weight is more my issue than anyone elses, it always has been....but I just wanted support from people who understood what it is like getting back out there, it is very nerve wrecking...Then getting a response like yours doesnt help cause you dont speak for every man....It actually made me more nervous, so thanks...

Ok Marjon, if you read above you wouldvee read that he does know that I am heavier and I am only honest up front...I have sent him like 10 pics of me and I am very honest...I am not a decietful person at all so yes he does know what I look like....And your comment about waiting six months until I am thinner, right? That is ridiculous....I understand not everyone is attracted to overweight people but I dont want the totally shallow assholes that are only gonna love me thinner...I have met great guys online and have had great relationships that loved me for me and that is what I am looking for again...It is jjust nerve wrecking to get back out there....And I use the internet not cause I am afraid to go out and meet peoplee cause I am a beautiful girl but it isnt my choice to meet drunk guys at bars....So I appreciate your support but that wasnt what I was looking for you shouldve read my post totally before responding...

Thanks terri, yes I have told him I was heavy...He said he likes chunky girls just not obese....But I looked at his profile and under his match it says he likes slim/average girls and I asked him about it...I just said that I am not slim or average that I am overweight and he said average and chunky are the same thing and I said oh no they are not...He said well I love y our personality, cause we have talked on the phone, so he still wants to meet....Ugh I am just so nervous I cannot believe it

Hello all, I just wanted to post on here cause I understand how hard it is dating in general let alone dating as an overweight female...I have had some very good experiences and very bad experiences....I cannot wait to find the love of my life and stop all this dating crap and dealing with the BS that comes along with it....But being heavy I have issues when dating I am very insecure, jealous at times, and just push men away...Because truly I am not happy with myself....I have put myself back out there although havent gone on any dates yes but I wonder to myself if they ask me out to dinner what do I do...I am still on mushies...Do you tell someone you never met that you had this surgery or not....I am just as confused as anyone I guess....But it is true that people should genuilely like us for who wee are on the inside and the outside is just a bonus....But we all know we dont live in a perfect world and the outside counts a lot more that it should....But hey wee shouldnt be dating those jerks while wee are heavy or thinner....So good luck to all us sinlge ladies out there in that jungle of a dating world...

Hey Wendyjoy, I had mine done the Monday before thanksgiving (11/20) at Winchester hospital. Who is your surgeon? Mine was Darius Ameri....THe hospital is great, they were all so nice and caringl...I had a great experience there....If you ever wanna chat send me a pm....

I just wanted to let you all know that I have been having terrible constipation and what really helps is milk of magnesia....There is a cherry flavor so it doesnt taste that bad and I take it before i go to bed and I wake up and guaranteed to empty...hahaha and it doesnt give you stomach cramps at all like some of those things do...Just wanted to let you all know...

Ok I have been having a terrible last two days, just terrible...I was banded on 11/20 and am on a liquid diet until this coming wednesday when I see my surgeon again....The problem is....I ate a huge piece of eggplant parm today, WHY? I have been struggling so much and I am so happy I am banded and just want to do what I can to lose weight.......Why am I doing this to myself...How did you guys stay on track until a fill cause I have no restriction at all....Please help me, absolutely any words of encouragement would be helpful I feel so bad right now...thanks

just giving you my opinion....when i started my journey or thinnking about it i had a boyfriend for a year and he flipped out...he said to me just stop eating and go to the gym and stop looking for a way out...well i flipped out back and was so upset...but after talking with him about it I just realized he hated thinner women and also was insecure of losing me...which he did anyways cause he was lazy, hahah but i understand...just try to talk to him...

I am sorry but I am just having a bad day....I am sure every single person on here has had a bad day....I come to this site for support, not really to be lectured....I feel this is the only support I have in my life and I cannot vent here then where? I am very thankful for a lot of things in my life...Just a bad day..........

Hello everyone, I was in such high spirits last week but unfortunately they have dimishined....I am struggling so bad on this liquid diet, I am starving....And I cannot possibly drink anything else....And I gained 2 lbs, how does that happen....I just dont understand I know you go up and down and you dont lose everyday but this has been for almost a week now up and down these 2 lbs, how??????????? I am so upset and so frustrated I cannot even tell you, sorry I just had to vent.....

OKAY I am totally venting here....I have been doing great out of surgery, feeling better, back to work, back to the gym, etc...So today I decided to post a personal ad on a dating site....People are supposed to respond if they are interested right? Well this guy emails me saying that I should be ashamed and disgusted of my weight...I have a beautiful face and smile but I am so unhealthy it is disgusting...I am not his type (who the hell asked him?)...I should hang out with people that diet and excercise...I am truly beside myself....No wonder why I am fucking insecure, sorry about the language...Why are people so mean I just dont get it....