Floridacocoon

Geez, your LITTLE diet and your SPECIAL food. I'm angry FOR you. For what it's worth, I think you're absolutely right not to go and subject yourself to that. Maybe with your absence she will eventually catch on that she'd rather have you around and maybe she'd better be a little more supportive.

bigbirney, did you take the plunge? did you get a band? I'm curious. I understand your post and feeling about the word diet. I am pre-op right now, and for the most part very much looking forward to doing this. But my feelings are complicated. For instance, a woman in front of me in a coffee shop the other day was about my age, thin and fit, wearing a baseball hat and jogging shorts and tank top, radiating jitters that I interpreted as "I can't wait to get to my workout!" and I disliked her intensely on sight. I honestly don't know why.

If it helps, I feel for you. So many people just do not understand what this is like and what it is about. I've noticed there are other times in life when people think they know exactly what you should do: chiefly, when you have a baby. Everybody has the RIGHT advice. I would politely but firmly tell them "No. Thank you for your concern, but no."

Wow, some things said in this thread really hit home to me as well. I think people like me as I am generally a positive person, but I'm sick to death of being the "safe" girl to be around because my weight makes me non-threatening to men's significant others! I don't intend to be a homewrecker ever, but I'd like to be trusted because of my good character, not because my fatness takes me completely out of the game. I run away from cameras and old friends, too! My knees and back hurt and I'm tired all the time. And I'd love to wear heels again some day and not be in severe pain and look like a pig on stilts. ENOUGH.

Hi, this may make sense to nobody but me. But I am in here looking for information as well, and in the process of qualifying, etc., and I see your post about your date being Feb. 3. That's my birthday! I know I am goofy but I think that's a good sign for you. Good luck! Dayna

Hello MeNext, I don't know if your question is still relevant as I just joined this forum and am not sure where to find the dates on posts, etc. My situation is not exactly the same as yours, but I can tell you that I was very worried about bringing this up to my pcp because I was sure he was just going to tell me some version of "Get in gear and push yourself away from the table." I think I expect everyone to say that. But I can tell you that he surprised me by being completely supportive. So maybe your fear is like mine ... based in thinking that I was just a diet buster or at least that's what the pcp would think. I think maybe that's just our own sense of shame coming back to bite us. We certainly feel the disdain of others anyway. So here's hoping your pcp surprises you, as well. Fingers crossed for you ...