Let me tell you. I am on the end that your friend is and it is VERY hard. My best friend and I went into this together-seminar, appts, etc and she was approved in 3 mths and my insurance requires 6 mths of the diet and exercise program..while I am happy for her, I am so disappointed and feel that she is moving on without me, which is hard. I went into this with her for us to be able to support each other and we still will, just not in the same way at the same time. So, give her a break-hers is the hard part of it all. You have been able to focus on the surgery and she can't. At least I know (hopefully) that I will have the surgery, just later.