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Hey Everyone~ I had my surgery in March 2010. I'm at a stand still with losing weight. I need to make an appt with my surgeon, but I'm frustrated with how well I'm NOT doing. (I know that's backwards, but that's how I'm feeling.) Anyway, my hair is starting to come out like CRAZY! I can't stop crying about it, and I have no idea what to do. I was taking mega doses of Biotin, but I cut back because I was growing facial hair. I made an appt with my PCP, but I can't get in until June 6. I don't know if I'll have any hair left by then. Any ideas/suggestions? Thanks!!

Hi everyone, I don't post much on the site, but I need to vent and rant for just a second. I'm devastated because I finally worked up the nerves to ask this cute guy at work if he wanted to go to lunch, and he replied that today wouldn't work because he was really busy. I know there's an upgrade going on this weekend, so he was legitimately busy, but this is what gets me. He didn't say "maybe some other time" or "I'll take a raincheck" or anything like that. Simply "Sorry, today won't work". Am I over-reacting? I should have prefaced this with we don't really work together. We used to be on the same team, but I just got moved to a different floor because my work is more suited to another team. In my mind, his reply pretty much equals flat-out rejection because if he were remotely interested he would have offered some sort of alternative. And to make it less awkward, I told him if he could feel free to invite anyone else who may have wanted to tag along. Help me with this!! I don't want to be a basket case or drama queen, but I'm 33 and SO lonely. When I finally decide to be a little more assertive in going after I want, this is what I get. I don't have a lot of friends, and I don't know where to go to even find potentials. What are your thoughts? I feel like such a high-schooler with a stupid teenage crush, and I have no idea where to go from here. Thanks for listening! PS - one small "victory" is that even though I feel like crap, I haven't turned to food for comfort!!

CONGRATULATIONS, favoredone!! I had my surgery yesterday, so I have you beat by one day. :-) I'm glad you're feeling well. I haven't had any major problems either. I'm having the same issues you're having with drinking. I discovered that I don't know how to sip. I'll learn ... hopefully sooner rather than later. Continue on your road to recovery!!

Hi Everyone! This is my first post in the forum, and I'm excited to be here. I'm leaving for Mexico tomorrow to have a LapBand-to-Sleeve revision on Tuesday. Dr. Aceves is doing my surgery. I'm going alone, so I'm a little nervous, but I can't wait to get on the other side!

Hi Everyone! I'm leaving for Mexico tomorrow morning to have a LapBand-to-Sleeve revision on Tuesday by Dr. Aceves? Will anyone else be there during the same time? It would be nice to "know" someone before I get there.

Hi everyone! I have my LapBand revision to sleeve next Tuesday. I'm starting my pre-surgery diet tomorrow. I'm starting to get more excited and nervous. Dr. Aceves will be my surgeon. For those of you who had him, can you tell me about cellular service at the hospital? I understand the hospital is very close to the border. Do you think I'll be roaming or charged for international usage if I use my cell phone there? Only one person knows I'm going to have the surgery, and I'm going alone. I don't want people getting worried if I don't answer my phone for an entire week. (I live alone, too, so my family checks on me every so often to make sure I'm okay.) Any thoughts? Closely related, I think the nurses will call someone when surgery is over to let my family know I'm okay. Is that correct? If so, I'll have them call my sister. She's the one person who knows I'm having the surgery. She's a nurse, too, and she's had the surgery, so she's been helping me about what to expect. Most of my questions now are specific to having surgery in Mexico and by Dr. Aceves. Thanks in advance!!

Hi everyone! I have my LapBand revision to sleeve next Tuesday. I'm starting my pre-surgery diet tomorrow. I'm starting to get more excited and nervous. Dr. Aceves will be my surgeon. For those of you who had him, can you tell me about cellular service at the hospital? I understand the hospital is very close to the border. Do you think I'll be roaming or charged for international usage if I use my cell phone there? Only one person knows I'm going to have the surgery, and I'm going alone. I don't want people getting worried if I don't answer my phone for an entire week. (I live alone, too, so my family checks on me every so often to make sure I'm okay.) Any thoughts? Closely related, I think the nurses will call someone when surgery is over to let my family know I'm okay. Is that correct? If so, I'll have them call my sister. She's the one person who knows I'm having the surgery. She's a nurse, too, and she's had the surgery, so she's been helping me about what to expect. Most of my questions now are specific to having surgery in Mexico and by Dr. Aceves. I'd greatly appreciate any other tips/suggestions you want to send my way. Thanks in advance!!

Dr. Aceves will be doing my lapband revision on Dec. 20. I have some questions for those who also used him. Where is his clinic located? Is it close to the border, or is it farther into Mexico? Does he operate from a hospital or clinic? Thanks in advance!

I hope everything goes/went well. I have Dr. Aceves, too!! My surgery is Dec. 20. I'd love to hear about your experience and feel free to pass along any tips you may have.

Hugs, hon!! Only one person knows I'm having the surgery. Part of mine is because it's a revision from lapband. I know ppl are going to think if lapband didn't work, what makes me think the sleeve will. Admittedly, I think I have some of those same thoughts, too. Bottom line, not everyone will understand, and not everyone will be part of your support system. As you mentioned, you are convinced that you're doing the right thing because you know your struggles, and you have done your research. You have some ppl at work to support you, and you have this forum. You'll do just fine!! :-)

Foxbins - thanks for the speedy reply!!

Hi everyone! I'm new to the site, and my surgery is scheduled for 12.20.2011 with Dr. Aceves. My surgery will be a LapBand revision. I have a few questions. Has anyone else had Dr. Aceves? Has anyone else had a LapBand revision? Has anyone else gone for the surgery alone? I'm a little afraid, but I just don't have anyone else to go with me. I'm crossing my fingers and praying that everything goes well. Thanks in advance!!

NewlySleeved (and everyone else!) - thanks SO much for taking the time to post. I'm a little nervous and anxious, but hearing your story really helps!! My sister was supposed to travel to Mexico with me, but that's changed now, and I'll be going alone. She's the only person who knows I'm going. I have no idea how, when, or if I'm going to explain the weight loss to everyone else. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I'm just eager to start a new chapter. I don't have much of a pre-surgery diet, but I am supposed to drink two shakes and have a sensible dinner, I think. I'm going to check this weekend because whatever I'm supposed to do, I have to start it Monday. I'm happy to know there will be others there that I can talk to and bond with. It'll do me good. Thanks again!!

My revision is a little higher. It's almost $11K. I'm a self-pay, but I'm happy I don't have to fight with my insurance, and once it's done I don't have to keep paying for fills, etc. With my lapband, each office visit is no less than $300, and the x-rays are close to $1000. I had a high deductible, and even after the deductible was met, not much was covered. I figured it's best to go ahead and spend the lumpsum and get it over with.

Thanks for the feedback, everyone! I feel a little better, although I'm still kinda scared. What do you all do for support back home? What do you do for checkups? Do you just go to your regular PCP if you have issues? My PCP doesn't even know I'm having it done. She knows I had LapBand, but she doesn't know I'm having the revision. I'm just so sick of doctor's visits and co-pays; I don't go to her unless absolutely necessary. Any thoughts?

My surgery is December 20, 2011 w/Dr. Aceves. Mine will be a LapBand revision. I'm a little afraid because I'll be going alone. I hope and pray everything goes well.

Thanks, Everyone for the posts!! They've been really helpful. I've been distracted, and not in a good way. I'm having a serious hair loss phase that's got me pre-occupied. I had problems finding someone when I had a full head of hair, I don't stand a chance now. Life sucks!

Hi everyone, I don't post much on the site, but I need to vent and rant for just a second. I'm devastated because I finally worked up the nerves to ask this cute guy at work if he wanted to go to lunch, and he replied that today wouldn't work because he was really busy. I know there's an upgrade going on this weekend, so he was legitimately busy, but this is what gets me. He didn't say "maybe some other time" or "I'll take a raincheck" or anything like that. Simply "Sorry, today won't work". Am I over-reacting? I feel like such an idiot for even asking. I should have prefaced this with we don't really work together. We used to be on the same team, but I just got moved to a different floor because my work is more suited to another team. In my mind, his reply pretty much equals flat-out rejection because if he were remotely interested he would have offered some sort of alternative. And to make it less awkward, I told him if he could feel free to invite anyone else who may have wanted to tag along. Help me with this!! I don't want to be a basket case or drama queen, but I'm 33 and SO lonely. When I finally decide to be a little more assertive in going after I want, this is what I get. I don't have a lot of friends, and I don't know where to go to even find potentials. What are your thoughts? I feel like such a high-schooler with a stupid teenage crush, and I have no idea where to go from here. Thanks for listening! PS - one small "victory" is that even though I feel like crap, I haven't turned to food for comfort!!

Thanks, Newbie! It's been a hard battle, but so far I've been doing pretty good.

The guy responded that this Tuesday or Wednesday of next week would work for him. We're supposed to be meeting up for drinks after work. Not wanting to sound desperate or always available, I responded that Wednesday works better with my schedule than Tuesday. (However, at the time, I had absolutely NOTHING planned for Tuesday.) So now I need to think of a place to go AND what to wear. This is more difficult than I thought. I hadn't planned this far in advance.

The guy responded that this Tuesday or Wednesday of next week would work for him. We're supposed to be meeting up for drinks after work. Not wanting to sound desperate or always available, I responded that Wednesday works better with my schedule than Tuesday. (However, at the time, I had absolutely NOTHING planned for Tuesday.) So now I need to think of a place to go AND what to wear. This is more difficult than I thought. I hadn't planned this far in advance.

Here's the Reader's Digest version of an update. I FINALLY asked Ole Boy if he wanted to go out for drinks/appetizers after work (via email because I no longer work at the company) and he said that he couldn't go because his family is celebrating Christmas tonight. He added that he's in and out of the office next week, so he'll "probably have to wait until next year". I'm feeling pretty good about that response because I'm sure he's legitimately busy, and he replied to my email right away. So maybe all is not lost after all!

So maybe I made some progress after all?! Tonight was happy hour again, and I got to sit next to him and chat him up a bit. I think it went really well. I didn't work my way up to asking him out, but I think I paved the way where I would feel comfortable doing so. My contract is ending, so my last day there is 12.03 (and I'm out all next week). So basically, I have one week -- the week of the 29th -- to ish or get off the pot. I think my leaving is the perfect opp to say "Let's keep in touch. Would you be interested in meeting up somewhere after work?" or something along those lines. I have to work out the specifics. I'm kinda happy, I think!! :-)

Hey Everyone! I promised to keep you updated, and even though the update isn't good, here it is anyway. Long story short is that there's been absolutely no movement because I'm a loser. I rarely see the guy anymore, and when I do see him there's never an opp to "bust a move". Or maybe there is an opp and I'm just too dumb to know it. So I've pretty much given up, and yeah, I'll always wonder what could have been blah blah blah. But I just CAN'T figure out a way to make anything happen. So there you go -- there's the update. I fully expect to be told that I'm spineless and I suck, and I deserve it! :-)

BTW sandworms, CONGRATULATIONS on being banded!! :-) I hope you have a swift recovery.