rej1977

My wife is scheduled for the lapband surgery. She is on this website a lot and talks about how great the information and support is. I guess I just have a general question...I want to know how i can make this easier for her. She is so excited to start this process and I AM happy for her. But being the husband, I am concerned for her health...it is surgery afterall, I am concerned that there will be problems later on down the road, and I am concerned that it will be just like the last times. ( she loses and then she gains) I am also overweight so I totally understand the rollercoaster she is dealing with. That said, I want to be able to support her in this. So, my question is to those that have been through it, what has been the most helpful of your spouses/friends and what has hurt or hendered you. I want to do everything I can to be the support system that she needs. Also, she isnt wanting to tell anyone and I will totally go along with what she decides...but I honestly dont get it. She says that she doesnt want people judging her or her methods of losing weight...but are people really that vocal about it? I figured everyone would think it was wonderful no matter how she does it. Any feedback will be great. Thanks in advance.