SoccerMomma73

33 days and counting!!!! Excited beyond words, dreading starting the liquid diet in 2 weeks. Who else is looking to change their lives in February?????

So I've had date 3 with the really sweet guy and things are going well. And starting to get a little frisky. And, well, it may not be date 4 or 5 but if it continues to go this well I'm eventually going to have to get naked. And I'm ugly naked. I look like I'm half sharpei puppy. Saggy wrinkles everywhere!!! How am I EVER going to be able to do this?!?!?!? (He knows I've had the surgery, he knows how much I used to weigh, he knows I'm insecure and he's not pushing at all) I'm finally getting to where I like the me I see in the mirror with clothes on! That's huge! But man it gotta get over the naked insecurities.

So we had this long discussion at work yesterday about age and and the joys of being in our forties. The 20 and 30 something's (all sweet young whipper snappers that I adore) just couldn't believe that 40 is a good thing. Out of curiosity, what do YOU like about your current age and if you could, would you change it? I'm 40. I'm happier and more confident with myself than I've ever been (this starts happening pre-op but the surgery has helped). I no longer have drama...If there is drama I let it roll on past me. I think maybe I've figured out what really matters, what does, and what is just icing. Other then the lines starting to show on my face, I wouldn't change 40 at all.

Cabot

brilliant idea. Truly. There are so many emotions at play. I've seen countless marriages fail post op because of the attention paid after weight loss....and it's definitely something the surgeons don't prep ya for.

The Latino gentlemen I know are constantly flaunting their Latin lover-ness. If I told them they were acting like a white guy they'd be pissed.

Marry me. I love you.

Really thinking we've jumped the shark on this one.....

Everybody say jump, jump (insert rap Music here)

I guess maybe if you don't have the space to actually swing the rope?? Seems crazy but they'll probably be doing jumpless jump rope classes at the gym soon

Lordy people....again, common cause??? We're here for each other...support? Growth??? Companionship on this jacked up journey called life??? Go to him, don't go to him, but at least you're aware that maybe there is a problem. Be safe.

Turns out, I'm a dumper ;P I now know I can steal a bite or two of my son's cereal but no more! Yet another lesson learned the hard way!!!

Weeks out, on soft foods, I totally wanted crunch berries, so I let em soak and get soggy and ate every bite....they were delightful. They my reactive hypoglycemia kicked in and I ended up laying on the bathroom floor shaking with a horrible headache, feeling like I was gonna puke,

Huge... Like I can't lift my hand up...that kind of big.

I don't wanna be a staple pooper!!!!!!! Nooooooooo!!!!!!!

only if I get a ring dammit!!!!

Actually, , Lippy, you're me. Welcome to crazy cat lady hell. Watch for hairballs when you get up at night to pee.

I'm not excusing the behavior of a married woman. Ultimately she is married and responsible for her actions. But as an obese, insecure women going through an extremely stressful time, we are vulnerable. It does not excuse her behavior, but it sure as hell doesn't justify his. The surgeon is responsible for EVERY aspect of test practice. Even if he doesn't know about it, if it involves his practice, he is responsible. His primary duty is to keep his patient safe from harm. This includes emotional harm.

After reading all this drama, my concern is not for those of you arguing tooth and nail about who is right and who is wrong. My concern is that somewhere out there we have members who are suffering, embarrassed, feeling taken advantage of, yet feel that they can't speak of it here for fear of being judged. Ultimately we are all here for the same reason, to reclaim our lives and our health, and for support while we do this. This should be a place to come for support, knowing that we've all screwed up at some point, and we should be able to voice our fears, frustrations, etc. Bariatric surgery is HARD emotionally. We may be grown adults but many of us are at a time of turmoil when we do have surgery. We're up, we're down, I personally was freaking nuts for about 6 weeks post op. I could have easily been taken advantage of at that point. Your surgeon's office isn't a place you should have to be on guard. It, like here, should be a safe zone. For anyone in a physician's office to have such a relationship with a patient, willing or otherwise, is inappropriate. I cannot fathom trying to recover post-op from a life hanging surgery and then having to deal with this type of emotional turmoil as well. Ultimately, though I think it could have been presented in a better manner, as a consumer, I would want to know if there are any concerns with my surgeon or his office pre-op. Even if I chose to stay with the surgeon, knowing ahead of time that Omar could possibly be a bit too friendly could keep me from possibly being 'influenced' at a vulnerable time. For those of you that used this surgeon and had no problems, congratulations on your smooth journey. For those of you that used this surgeon and feel taken advantage of, I am really sorry you had to go through this. As a medical professional, if someone in my office exhibited such behavior, I don't care how good they are at what they do, they'd be gone. Can't we all just get along????

I can give you a few: anesthetic risk of complications with a smoker is much higher than a non smoker. Healing time is delayed for a smoker vs non-smoker. Smokers have a higher incidence of ulcer and stomach cancers for which treatment would greatly be complicated by having bariatric surgery....post op pneumonia rates are higher. Plus I think my surgeon just looks at it as 'well if she can't change her life enough to stop smoking, she can't change her life enough to be healthy post op' but that's just how I think he views it

Curious what the final straw was for you all? What finally pushed you over the edge and got you looking at bariatric surgery as an option? For me, it was chest pain. I was 36 years old, a single mom of a 5 year old, with a deceased ex-husband. I started having chest pain and had the frantic realization that if something happened to me, my son would be parentless (my parents would take him in a heartbeat...but still...). Soon after that I started my journey to a lap-band and eventually RNY. So, I'd love to hear your stories, how did you get here? (PS, my heart was fine, I think it was just God slapping my upside the head trying to get my attention)

Curious what the answer to this is! I've never heard of anyone getting a PICC line for this!!!

why no decaf???

I've stopped using anything but real butter....I don't use it much, but when I do, I go for the good stuff!!!

I had no sensation of full, at all, for about 6 weeks...nothing, nada, it was dead. My hunger signal was nausea, which was a pain in the butt.