I too have had a loss in my family and I was constantly throwing up when I ate, even liquid stuff. My doctor told me that the band will constrict when I am upset. He suggested that I take it easy on my self and not worry about getting my fill at that time. He refused to give me a fill at that time. I am at a stand still at this time but with the holidays and family stress, I am holding off on a fill due to I still have trouble with throwing up after eating. Going to enjoy the holidays with my family.