jenibeni

I was approved and scheduled for surgery on Friday, November 27, with Dr. Aceves. I AM SO EXCITED!!!! :biggrin: I have a 7 day pre-op diet that is low fat and high Protein, which I can do easily. Thanksgiving will be spent gnawing on turkey and talking with my family, maybe a little salad... but no bread, yams, stuffing, or potatoes! Those are so not worth not being ready for surgery the next day. Sooo I'm excited Anyone else going to Dr. Aceves that weekend?

Hey PamPam, Thanks for your help! I've already decided to do this with Dr. Aceves in Mexico. I'm hoping to get my day in this month!

Hi everybody! I'm 22, work full time, and go to school part time. I've been overweight since 3rd grade. In 2nd grade I was skinny as can be, then all of a sudden...BAM! Overweight. In middle school I remember buying a pair of size 13 shorts at age 11. They didn't fit the next summer. Freshman year of high school I weighed about 170 pounds, but during softball season I lose about 30 pounds exercising 4 hours a day 5 times a week. That ended, and the next season I was out with a broken wrist. After that I was too out of shape to go out for varsity softball, so I didn't. I didn't feel like I could get back into softball shape. Freshman year of college was different for me; I moved into the dorms and actually lost my freshman 15, and weighed about 187 pounds. This was probably a combination of sleepless nights and going out dancing with my roommates, as well as having a meal plan that only let me eat twice a day. My second year of college I became depressed and gained about 30 pounds, weighing in at 220 or so. In 2007 I went on Atkins for about 2 months and got down to 191 pounds. Sadly, I was not able to keep up that diet and ballooned back up. I've steadily gained until now I'm at 249, one pound away from 250. I've always told myself I wouldn't let myself weigh this much, ever, that I could control it. I've thought about weight loss surgery in the past, and my mom, dad, and sister have all had the roux-n-y gastric bypass. My sister first had a lap band, and it didn't work for her... but I know that I am more focused than she is in terms of following the correct procedures. Today I was just casually browsing, and as I read more and more I started crying. I didn't realize how much this was affecting me. Last night I was out at the bar with my roommate and her friend from out of town. They are both really pretty and skinny, and immediately had about 7 guys surrounding them. Me? I was introduced, but after that I was pushed to the outside of the circle. Try as I might, even if I was standing in the circle, no one would really talk to me. Then of course my friends use me as a way to get out of awkward situations, like if they don't like a guy...they push him off on me, and move on to a cuter guy. They also expect me to say things like "Oh, it's time to go home!" so I'm not only the fat friend, but the lame fat friend who wants to go home instead of go to an after party. The sad part is I do want to go home, because it's pretty much no fun at all being ignored by both your friends and everyone else while out and about. Anyways, I have insurance through my work, but no PCP. I just got a new job and the insurance network is based on the east coast, but I live in California. I have the money saved up to pay out-of-pocket, because I've also read up on my insurance company and found that they have a big history of denying coverage. I was looking at Dr. Aceves in Mexicali, he seems to have really good reviews. I haven't read a bad thing about him and I've been researching for about six hours. Sorry this is so long, but I want to give a good description of what I'm going through to see if anyone else has any good tips or words of encouragement.

I'm a size 20/22 right now and even when I was a 16, I could never cross my legs! When I was younger, I couldn't wait until I got older so I could cross my legs when I sat, but when I got older I just got fatter and was never able to do it. I can't wait until the day I can cross my legs!

Forgive me if I sound like I'm in denial; maybe I should explain my friends a little more. Friend 1 is my best friend and roommate, and she is one of those lovely people who doesn't see fat or thin people; she just sees them for who they are. I don't think she understands why guys at the bars won't hit on me, because she doesn't see me as fat. She just sees me as a funny gal who deserves to be treated normally. When she gets attention, however, she goes off in her own little flirting world. Friend 2 is actually a friend of friend 1, but we are acquaintances. She was actually hanging out with me more all night, and tried to include me in conversation. I think it was mostly pushing off the creepy guy to me, but I didn't feel bad because he was creepy and I didn't talk to him either. Thanks for putting it into perspective for me, Linda. I think I need to find some new friends who understand what I'm going through, which is why I decided to join this forum.

Thanks, somedayslim. That was something I needed to hear. I have great difficulties with always feeling hungry, even if I just ate. I know there is something broken in me that I need to fix.