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Yah, she is probably over it. And why do people call their animals "furbabies?" I have cats but I would never refer to them as furbabies even though I don't have children. My pets are animals, specifically cats, who live with me and my husband. They are not my children. I love animals and find them very interesting but not at all childlike.

John McCain - Lost in Space

Yah, the link didn't work for me, either.

Ebony, you raise good points which I had never thought of before. Thanks for your reply.

I would never get implants. My breasts are small and I prefer them this way. I like the European look in clothing styles, I think that it is more elegant, and those women are smaller breasted. Women look more petite, more delicate, more chic with small breasts. Also smaller breasts are easier on the back and shoulders. I have a friend who had hers reduced and loves being smaller.

Having your head adjust to your new smaller body is a common problem. I have gone from 200 lbs to 116 and I was recently 108.8 but I still like to wear baggy, "floaty" clothes, however, even though this drives my maw-in-law nuts. She is a big chesty woman who used to be a sexpot and who still likes to wear her clothes sprayed on. I guess we like to stick with what we know, eh. I guess my biggest change is that I now wear great big wide belts around my (baggy) outfits. I still find it amazing that I can wear a belt and that, moreover, the belt looks really, really great. I guess that this is my NSV. But back to the subject: even at an emaciated 108.8, and I looked like an insect, there was a little part of me that still felt tubby. I guess we never really lose completely that sense of being mama's little fatty. Or maybe this takes many years to lose.......

We Greens are a mix of fatties and skinnies. My kid brother and I were the blonde chunky ones (we took after an aunt) who had to watch ourselves while the middle brother took after both of my parents, brunette and naturally slender. In my 20s I lost the beef and did not gain weight again until menopause. My mum went into menopause at the age of 39 and I was 41. She and I gained weight in exactly the same way even though I have never had a kid and she had had three; our arms and legs, hands and feet remained slim but our torsos bloated up hugely. She used to joke that she looked like a pregnant spider. Before I got the band, I did, too. This was definitely an apple-type weight gain pattern. Long after I went into menopause people used to ask me if I was pregnant. I definitely do believe that genetics can play a role in one's weight issues. Some folks get more miles to the gallon and there once was a time (in prehistory) when this was an excellent survival mechanism. Along with genetics there are those issues of portion control, level of physical activity, and the type of foods that we are eating. All of these factors play their parts in this problem of weight control.

I think that you might be more conservative than you think. Twelve year old girls who have access to television and the internet and media savvy friends are pretty sophisticated and the outfit which you described sounds more like what teenage private school girls do once they are off school property; they like to roll up their skirts, tie their shirt tails, etc. Don't worry so much about what your daughter sees when she is out with you, would be my advice. It is better that she experience the variety of life while under your guidance, don't you think, than later on when she is out with friends or on her own. It sounds as though you are giving her a grounded home life - you are, afterall, out doing things together as a family - and this will result in her growing up to be a solid individual, one who can look at an outfit like that and figure out that it is not appropriate dress and why it is not.

I have gone from a C to an A cup. I have gone from 200 lbs to 108.8 lbs. This is underweight and I am hoping to stabilize at around 120 lbs.

I was only able to climax by penetration but I could do this super easily. Now that I am on anti-depressants I don't climax at all. On the other hand, I am pretty cheerful even though I no longer have a sex drive. I fake it now for the husband's sake. I figure that it is the least I can do.

I went into menopause when I was 41. My mum went into menopause when she was 39. She had her last period 6 weeks after my kid brother was born and that was the end of it for her. She took no HRT and lived to be 87. I am not on HRT. I tried it briefly about 3 years after my periods stopped but I didn't enjoy getting my periods again; I am one of those women who always had bad periods. I did have a lot of hot flashes for a number of years after I stopped getting my period. The hot flashes were a real drag but then so was getting my period.

Tapeworm is good.... Do you have a name for the little fella?

BBK - The impression that I received from reading your mother's letter was that she sounds like quite the manipulative drama queen. This letter was, and make no mistake, all about her and her feelings and the maintenance of her self-image of herself as your mother; it really has little or nothing to do with you except, of course, that it says very hurtful and destructive things. It has been both my personal experience and my observation from looking at the relationships of my friends that the parent-child relationship is the most psychologically loaded relationship one will ever have. I know that I have fully recovered from bad marriages and romances but that I still at my advanced age will dwell on the damage done to me as a child by my incompetent yet loving parents. Indeed, this is why I still see a therapist. My parents are now dead. I have found this to be surprisingly relaxing. That sense of guilt they gave me is gone.

If you don't want to tell folks about the band, just tell them that you are practising portion control. In point of fact the band helps us with really only that one thing: it is a barrier against gluttony. What we choose to continue to eat, protein and vitamin rich heathy foods or junk, is up to us. I have always preferred real food to junk but I was a real piggy at the table. After being banded, I did, however, overhaul my eating habits. This and finding myself physically blocked from eating the amounts I used to eat made the band a very positive experience for me.

Actually I have just finished up with the chemo. It is likely that I am cancer free. Certainly my tumor is gone and it was a biggie. I will be getting a full body scan next month just to ensure that it hasn't spread anywhere else but this is unlikely since there was no sign of spreading when I first began my treatments. Now I just have to recover from the cancer cure - the radiation and the chemotherapy. Both types of treatment are extremely hard on the body as they are extremely toxic; of course they have to be in order to kill off the cancerous cells. I am gaining an appetite and weight, though. I never thought that that would be a good thing. LOL

Thanks, Jack. Those are nice words to hear.

Same here. I treated it like any other surgery. Smoked, ate, and drank liquids the night before. Went in and had an easy surgery and a fun recovery thanks to the terrific pain meds.

Hi, Wheets. I haven't been posting much since I was diagnosed with cancer of the right larynx. The treatments have really been knocking me out. I am now, they believe, (there is one scan still pending) cancer free but the chemo and the radiation have left me exhausted and bald. I will say one thing, cancer is very slimming. I now weigh an anorexic 109.8 lbs and that is with a defilled band. I have enough spare skin that I could repave a whole family of burn victims. In fact, undressed I kinda look like a Sharpei. This is very weird for me. I have never ever been skinny! Of course, I have never been bald, either. BJean is still around but the rest of the old gang seem to have dropped off the site. I miss 'em. I have missed you. How is the pregnancy coming along? Feel free to give me a PM if you like.

I spent the final couple of weeks eating. I called this my Blonde Ambition Food Court Tour.

Your ma sounds like she doesn't have much of a sense of fun. This is really a drag. What you are doing doesn't seem to be taking up much of your time and yet it is done with a sense of fun. I would be very proud of you if you were my daughter. Your 7 year old daughter sounds less spoiled than my 9 y/o great niece. That kid doesn't do anything for herself except whine. She doesn't help with chores, that is for sure. I feel for you and for your Gramm. I am just getting out the other side of cancer and the treatments are devastating to one's body. I have been getting sicker and sicker for months now thanks to the chemo and the radiation treatments. Fortunately, all of this has killed the cancer. Now I just have to recover from the cure. LOL Gramm is in for a rough ride. Make sure she eats a lot. I weigh less than 109 at the moment. I sure don't use my band anymore.

PS. I think that the pin-up is a fun hobby. Don't let your ma get to you.

Sounds like your mum is quite the passive-aggressive bitch. Try to ignore her if possible. She is a one-way trip and she is a downer. As for your husband's grandma, do make sure that he shoulders his share of her care while she is staying at your house. Otherwise you may be better off finding another place for her to stay. How old is your daughter?

This is interesting for me as a Canadian to hear. You see, our Prime Minister is both law maker and executive. We follow the British parliamentary system. If the President is not a law maker then does his/her opinions on legal matters such as abortion really matter much? What does matter in a good Presidency? I ask these questions as a foreigner.

An Englishman recently referred to Bush on a musicial video awards show as that "funny little cowboy chap" which goes to show you that much of the rest of the world doesn't get Yankee politics.

Congratulations to you, Indio! Wear a sexy little black or white or green dress. You will look great.