lookingtoloose

I am a 35 year old wife with 2 children (11 year old son and a 4 year old daughter).  I started gaining my initial "overweight" weight in 1999/2000.  During that time in my life, my husband and I were going through a really rough time in our marriage and actually seperated 3/99.  During the seperation, I began eating "emotionally".  I was soo depressed and hurt that I packed on 28lbs in one year until I reached whopping 216lbs.  Once my husband and i got back together and began repairing our marriage, I had no idea how to work on ME.  I am that person who puts everyone first and myself last.  I know all the things to do and have a support system but I cant seem to get past that 21st pound.  Im just not seeing the results I want to in order to keep me motivated.  One bad week and it seems as though I have to start all the way back from the beginning and I am just simply tired of the yo yo.  Reading all of the stories online has me thinking lapband will be a good fit for me; however, I am SCARED OUT OF MY MIND!!!  Any advice?