GreenZairo

Hello guys, my name is Carlos and i decided to create an account on this website because my boyfriend / partner of 2 years (who is also a member of this website) is getting lapband November 18 and since he is always talking about what he talks about here in the forums i decided to educate myself more about it and try to understand everything so i can be as supportive as i can be. My boyfriend has explained certain feelings that come with being overweight, both social and emotional. He has explained that a lot of his behavior is impacted and/or a result of these feelings. For example, he is very insecure, very needy at times and he has build a huge wall around him that is extremely hard and frustrating to get in. He is very judmental and is on "attack mode" a lot of the time. I have to say that even though i understand those feelings, i cant help but to feel overwhelmed and frustrated with it; however, I love him with all my heart and i know that i want to spend my life with him and i want to be the most supportive boyfriend ever :closedeyes:! As former or soon-to be lapbanders, how did you deal with your relationships and if your partner / boyfriend / girlfriend ever felt or is feeling the way that i have? Any advice on how to handle it better for me so that he doesnt feel bad about it and it can be smooth sailing from here on? I would greatly appreciate it Thank you, guys !!!

Hey lady lap band , Im glad that you understand what i am going through, were you in a relationship while or before getting the procedure done? the reason that i am asking is that i am curious to see how the other person in the relationship handled it. I am all for my partner to get lapband, and even more, just anything that will make him happy. I have been in the verge of just ending it because sometimes i cant believe that i am with a person who is so unlike me ( just like you said, very testy, uncaring towards others, basically an extremely difficult person to be around with). I really try to have patience because i know some of that, if not all of this behavior, is a result from the emotional and social burden of his overweight, but sometimes i just snap and its becoming very hard to find patience in that you know.